Arsenate: wtf is the girl yapping about? she murdered 3 innocent beings; terminated 3 destinies, yet she expect to go scot free and have a happy fulfilled life? she deserves more than she's gotten.

yes she murdered 3 human beings but the man is also an accomplice to murder because his sperm is involved.she didnt impregnate herself so he shouldnt think he has gotten away with it.moreover no human being or an accomplice of murder gets away with it.

Even if he decided not to marry,fine,but when the lady told the guy she is pregnant,i am sure the man must have said their usual lines ' we didnt agree about having a child,i am not the father of that child or go and abort it'.if he said any of the 3 or more,he is as guilty as the abortionist or the lady that opened her vag1na for a child to be aborted,EOD!

Cykik: can't you read. Keep blaming the grl. As if,if you saw her you would open that your dirty mouth to say that nonsense to her. In her pain, you may be the one she would kill.

Anger makes us do what we didnt bergain for. Maybe if it was me, i would scatter that marriage. He cant have peace in his life o. Do you know what it means to commit your self to some one? Both of them made the abortion agreement. So why blame her alone.
Scatering that marriage would save the next grl from the fool that calls himself a man,because he is likely to do same to his wife to be and many more grls.

Bt in all, leave it for God

scattering the marriage is just an immediate solution,it is not a permanent solution.leaving it to God is the only solution as acid bath etc will only compound the problem.

The only thing about Gods judgement is that it is slow,but when God decides to visit his judgement on an individual,i have not seen the man born of a woman that will escape it.it is usually brutal,slow and painful but before the judgement comes,it might take years.infact it might be after his kids are all grown up and he is retired from all his labour,thats when his own punishment will start.many atimes,women's own comes immediately but that doesnt mean Gods slowness to judgement will not happen

kulyie: scattering the marriage is just an immediate solution,it is not a permanent solution.leaving it to God is the only solution as acid bath etc will only compound the problem.

The only thing about Gods judgement is that it is slow,but when God decides to visit his judgement on an individual,i have not seen the man born of a woman that will escape it.it is usually brutal,slow and painful but before the judgement comes,it might take years.infact it might be after his kids are all grown up and he is retired from all his labour,thats when his own punishment will start.many atimes,women's own comes immediately but that doesnt mean Gods slowness to judgement will not happen

but it can save the other grl from the hands of the fool.

Lol well i cant say about the girl because when some girls are in love,their brains and senses of reasoning is deactivated except few though

Cykik: but it can save the other grl from the hands of the fool.

kulyie:
The only thing about Gods judgement is that it is slow,but when God decides to visit his judgement on an individual,i have not seen the man born of a woman that will escape it.it is usually brutal,slow and painful but before the judgement comes,it might take years.infact it might be after his kids are all grown up and he is retired from all his labour,thats when his own punishment will start.many atimes,women's own comes immediately but that doesnt mean Gods slowness to judgement will not happen

you have said it all. Initially the culprit often felt like a winner and then slowly they start paying the price.

I know where they sell otapiapia .

lomaxx: Foolish girls will always get pregnant, abort and claim she did him a favour by aborting.

I mean what the fucq was she thinking was going to happen after she had unprotected sex with a man? That she will develop wings and fly? What happened to her knowledge of contraceptive? If the man was stupid enough not to use condoms, then she was more stupid not to have plan B.

You have unprotected sex , wake up and celebrate the feeling ....then act surprised when the doctor declares you pregnant. You must be very foolish.

There is one power you cannot take away from anybody. Even God cannot take that power from you. It's the power of choice. Anybody can choose to marry who he/she wants to without any explanation to anybody. You don't have to kill people over their choices . They didn't kill you to make yours. So why the sweat?

Straight up man!!! Hi5!!

Cykik: can't you read. Keep blaming the grl. As if,if you saw her you would open that your dirty mouth to say that nonsense to her. In her pain, you may be the one she would kill.

Anger makes us do what we didnt bergain for. Maybe if it was me, i would scatter that marriage. He cant have peace in his life o. Do you know what it means to commit your self to some one? Both of them made the abortion agreement. So why blame her alone.
Scatering that marriage would save the next grl from the fool that calls himself a man,because he is likely to do same to his wife to be and many more grls.

Bt in all, leave it for God

. abeggi..pasn force ha b4

..those helpless innocents she kill fa....is dt nt d worst betrayal...its just nature punishing ha 4 d life of those innocents..e neva strt sef....d man go face I'm own ma...turn by turn....

lomaxx: Foolish girls will always get pregnant, abort and claim she did him a favour by aborting.

I mean what the fucq was she thinking was going to happen after she had unprotected sex with a man? That she will develop wings and fly? What happened to her knowledge of contraceptive? If the man was stupid enough not to use condoms, then she was more stupid not to have plan B.

You have unprotected sex , wake up and celebrate the feeling ....then act surprised when the doctor declares you pregnant. You must be very foolish.

There is one power you cannot take away from anybody. Even God cannot take that power from you. It's the power of choice. Anybody can choose to marry who he/she wants to without any explanation to anybody. You don't have to kill people over their choices . They didn't kill you to make yours. So why the sweat?

i need ur mail box address to send down your carton of heineken. u d man!

Shit happens, sugar! And time takes it all away. Life goes on, it has to. Don't destroy yourself in the process of getting used to being alone, 'cause the truth is that everyone, no matter the attachment(s), is alone.

It's really shocking that people see it as a fault of the victim.

Na wa o. People wicked sha.

Comrade kenny: I don't really have much 2 say,cus u've actually help him achieve his motives by committing abortions....U jst have 2 let go,anytin u do from now on will definitely Hurt u more....I'll Advice u let God judge.....

And you think God will actually jugde after 3 abortions?

Here is the fact.... The most dangerous and wicked Man wants to marry the most decent lady. The guy is fed up of her coz she presented herself so cheap to him. Well, life goes on sha,let her wake up and have a better plan. Remember what does not kill you makes you strong

I've always asked myself this question. Why is it that women get surprised to hear that they are pregnant? Does Someone go into an exam hall and be surprised that he us unable to answer the questions knowing that he did not prepare for the test?

GIGO: Garbage in Garbage out. As simple as that. The op has herself to blame. Not once but five times. That I'd stupidity if you ask me.

If I was a girl I can never find myself in thus situation and that is the fact.

If I hear of any murdered groom to be I would invite the police to this site through this op. What nonsense!!!

Sorry dear,life goes on! Live your life like a giant,like d world's greatest,like nothing happened,like he never existed. Be focused in life and you will live to tell the story to the younger generation! No matter what,you are not a cheap girl!

prettyjo: @ claremont...pls, dnt be a fool.Read in between d lines.Merry xmas to u

and why is she a fool. Have you aborted a baby before?

kennygee: This is why issues like Acid baths and murders happen. How can you use a woman like that and toss her away only to marry someone else? Hell knows no fury like a woman scorned. Trust me, if the lady kills the guy, she will willingly and happily go to prison and serve what ever sentence she has to. If you have no honourable intentions for a woman, leave her the hell alone.

Spare me the drama,anybody that can't handle rejection is a sociopath and should be behind bars

Pictures or it didnt hapn.

Hmmmmmm

claremont:
She did NOT commit those alleged abortions for him, she did it out of her own freewill. She wasn't forced at gun point to commit an abortion, the blame rests squarely with her alone. She is a matured adult responsible for her own decisions, the worst kind of people are those who commit evil acts and shift the responsibility to someone else.

She deserves no pity whatsoever.

You spoke very well sir. And if she eventually kills the guy too,then she's a complete murderer killing many people either willingly or not cos those aborted pregnancies might be twins,triplet or more.

2s£xy:
Before I comment, let me first address claremont.

@Claremont, you may feel you have spoken wisely but let it be known to you that the world moves around in circle. Nobody likes to be used or fooled, except you want to tell me that you have never been fooled before. I also pray it does not happen to your sister or daughter.

It is surprising that you guys do not see the genuinty of this woman's love, something that is REALLY hard to find in the world today.

Pathetically, people do not see the need to feel any concerned and take a feather of wisdom from it. This is a monster staring us in the face; this is how they are born. A supposely loving, caring, understanding, compassionate being can become a monster within a split of seconds; we are all born devils since the days that Adam and Eve were tempted, we just learn to manage the devil within us. So, don't think you have monopoly over evil.

The evil that men do live with them on planet earth and not after.I will give 2 instances:

As kid less than 10 years-old (the brain of child is like a camera) I can still remember vividly what an uncle did. This dude came from the US and started dating a lady. She really loved him and it was written all over her such that on my little sister's birthday, she bathed a birthday card with kisses for my sister and she treated her like her daughter.

She took in for him 3 good times and it was in this case I knew that some people were their own abortionist. When she told him she is pregnant, he would look for the slightest provocative medium to beat her until she lost the child. Eventually, he didn't marry her and they went their seperate ways.

Several years later when he decided to get married, could he? He married first and then came problems with the woman in question and he divorced her with one kid in the middle in the US.

He came to Nigeria after some years to get married. The marriage was pretty nice and flamboyant. He took the new wife to the US and then came another problem as he later found out that she had lied to him about not having any child. She also caused other problems that saw her being deported and almost had my uncle go through same but for the sake of being a Naija bred nigga, he knew what to do and fled to Canada. He is there now.

He is in Canada now and I learned that he got married last year. The case isn't different from a 46 year old marrying 22-25 year old.

My own elder brother had a beautiful girlfriend that loved him to pieces but he didn't value it. He is paying the price today.

Truth be told, we can ONLY have one person that will love like mad... How we manage it when we find such people is left to us. You may get someone that loves you BUT it wouldn't be like the one who crazily loved you.

The universe is governed by laws and when you break such laws, you face the grave consequences.

I wouldn't blame the woman in the OP for feeling like that... It's is normal, very normal. Her case could only be explained to be finding a way to make the dude feel as much pains as she is feeling. I know that feeling because I have been there and felt same at one time.

But the beauty of it all is that life has a way of dealing with such people. In my case, I used to call her, smile etc. But you know what? She has tasted dicks and got cheated on too.

She visited me at school 2 years ago and on 2 occassions. She saw in my eyes the burning furnace of anger. She knew if I had my way, I would retaliate but something was holding me back and that was GOD himself.

One day(a few months ago, precisely) she told me she was scared of me. I asked her why and she said she has a feeling that I could harm her at anytime. Truth be told, she was right. Who would have thought the same person who called and smiled and laughed could still have such buried in his heart after 3 years?

She just begged and I had no reason not to forgive her because I am not God. Though she had begged in the past, I just had to finally let go.

That's why I said this is a monster staring us in the eyes and we shouldn't wave it off as something ordinary. This is mostly the reason why we read on news media or newspaper cases of acid bathing etc. Do not think that person you are dealing with can not harm you just because he or she being caring and you erroneously assume they are dumb and find the worthy of being fooled.


I will blame the woman for not deciding the direction of the relationship before hand. She should have ASK the dude what his plans were and ladies shouldn't wait for him to say it; be bold enough to ask what plans does your suppose boyfriend have for you. Is it to marry or just boyfriend ish? This is essential and paramount especially when you are already out of school and working.

Above all, she should find a place in her heart to forgive him. I know it is NOT easy, I know it is HARD to forgive, but she has to let go so she could see clearly into the future. The good thing is that she is wiser now.

Hmmm..2sexy has forgiven somebody and is preaching forgiveness ! Am happy for you bro

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[quote author=aventura]I've always asked myself this question. Why is it that women get surprised to hear that they are pregnant? Does Someone go into an exam hall and be surprised that he us unable to answer the questions knowing that he did not prepare for the test?
Mistakes DO happen. Nothing is 100% foolproof
GIGO: Garbage in Garbage out. As simple as that. The op has herself to blame. Not once but five times. That I'd stupidity if you ask me.
The OP is aware of her mistakes... Would your decision be different if the guy left her after 2kids?

If I was a girl I can never find myself in thus situation and that is the fact.
Well you're not a girl. It's convenient to judge. Maybe you should walk a mile in her shoes... But you CAN'T

If I hear of any murdered groom to be I would invite the police to this site through this op. What nonsense!!!
May there be no such occurrence.
@ OP pls tell her time heals, she should give time some time

The only thing I fear is Karma. What goes around comes around.

Wow such a touching story and a pathetic one @ that. But that guy must be 2face 2nd, everytime him hit na pikin.If he continues this way na village em go born. Lady, I understand how painful u feel but killing him won't solve your problem it would only hunt u thru the rest of your life. What u need 2do let your past go, though is not easy but is possible so u can forge ahead for a better future for your self. In life shits do happen. Life goes on !!

@ OP
"We both enjoy the moments and i
gave my all to keep us together. I
lost my decisions to him, i tried not
to wrong him, he was my total
desire for a man, and how would i
want to lose him?"
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
That is where she got it all wrong. I don't blame her, but its the problem with 'all' ladies(nigerians).
--She enjoyed the moments, yea.
#1 "Giving all to keep us together" is foolishness.
#2 "He is my total desire for a man", who said she was his desire?
#3 "how would I want to lose him?". Girls and ladies, don't make ur desires blind you from reasoning. And don't make a guy ur desire cos u tink he wld be a good husband.
Just stick to enjoying the moment, and hope it turns out well. Don't "give all to keep him," it wld only mak u miserable when he is gone.
"Giving all" doesn't guarantee he will give back, and don't expect it, and don't assume he owes u back... U gave all, remember?

Ok

D-Explorer:
********************** The INBOX *********************

I'm sorry to bother you but this will be long. This is the past 5 years of my life i'm trying so hard not to remember. I'm not new to life experiences, i've heard and seen a lot of relationship troubles.

I've counselled many ladies like me but why i fell for this still remains a misery. Please don't blame me, i'm in pain already. I've asked myself so many questions i still can't answer, i've tried to forgive and move on but i couldn't.

If for just once, i've decided to listen to my dark side. Pls, don't bother how suspicious this account may look, it's the same account i used in finding out the whole truth from the unlucky lady.

I met this guy august 2008 at the wedding of my boss and after about 6 months of trying to be difficult, i decided to date him. Before then, I've had my share of men's headache and loving him at first wasn't so easy for me that i'd to ignore him for that long. heaven knows how much i loved him. It was all over him that he loved me too, we just couldn't hide it.

We both enjoy the moments and i gave my all to keep us together. I lost my decisions to him, i tried not to wrong him, he was my total desire for a man, and how would i want to lose him? Our first year took a lot out of me. I could remember how badly i missed him when his company sent him to Kenya. He came back and it was like he never left.

That was the night i lost my virginity to him. He knew i wasn't ready for it and he also supported my decision but somehow, we couldn't control our affection though i'm not regreting in any way. I was only overpowered by my emotions, naive and inexperience. Even in the pain, i felt good because it was him i never knew one could get pregnant so fast or maybe my timing was wrong.

Few weeks later, the signs were obvious to me. I told him but to my surprise, his mood changed, he couldn't continue with his meal before he started making me see reasons why keeping the baby would affect our plans. One of the reasons was how irresponsible his father would think he is and could stop his plan of going to the U.K for his masters.

I couldn't say no since i've always wanted the best for him. He gave me 20k which i refused. In one of the sad moment of my life, i called a friend and told her, she contacted someone to help us and finally we got a doctor somewhere in (location withheld) to do the abortion. I did it but for a week, i couldn't go to work. I wasn't alright until after a month. I almost lost my job, i couldn't explain what went wrong but the good part is that i was fine again. We were doing well all along despite the distance.

In 2010 he came back shortly from the U.K and since i was holding on for that long, i've missed him so much. That night saying no to him was not in my head and we had it and many times. It was the best ever and we were cool. He was about going back when i discovered i wasn't myself. I had to call my doctor, made an appointed and i got to know i was pregnant again.

It was a mixed feeling but i called him up immediately and told him. He sounded ok before letting me know that we're not ready for it. Truly, i wasn't ready due to official reasons at work. I thought about it and had to flush it. After his masters, he came to nigeria, introduced me to his parents and we got along so well.

Though he said he wasn't going to work for his former company, he went on to set up his. Everything was cool until i started noticing certain changes in him. He wouldn't pick me from the office as usual, he was more busy that we hadly have time to talk. I thought i was asking too much so i didn't complain. I was with him on a weekend when his phone rang, he was in the bathroom then. I picked the phone to give him since i don't pick his calls.

The caller id was kinda strange, like a combination of some letters. He spoke with the person, my instinct told me it was a lady and when he gave me the phone back, i searched his phone for any sms from that number. I was able to get an email which i put through facebook and that confirmed my doubts. The bastard was engaged to another lady. He was smart not have accepted so as not to be visible on his profile. I was lost, i wanted to die right there.

I quickly opened another account and i made friend with the lady. We were so close and we talked more, within 3weeks we were like best of friends. I asked about my man and she opened up so much that my body became weak. I got to know they would be getting married from her. I never asked for a life like this. Why are men so evil? To make it worse, i was pregnant for him again. I couldn't hold it, i confronted him, my chris was right before me looking like an idiot.

I only wish i had a gun, it would have ended right there. I knew there wasn't hope of a father for the baby, i never wanted to be single mom so i ran to his parents but his mother’s reception was so cold that i suspected something was wrong. I went back home. I cried my eyes out, nothing could be more painful in the world than my feelings.

I told myself i was going to face it, i left my parents out of this mess. I badge into his house the next morning around 7am, told him i was carrying his child and that i was going to abort it. He was just looking at me and later starting apologizing. I was so mad that i had to throw his home stool at him, he was so quick to dodge it. I wish i had killed him.

I went back to his mother and she shouted at me, she said her son will never marry me. My head flew off but i never talked back, i was calm to ask her reason. I got to realise that he had told his mother about the abortions and how it was only me that took the decision. In my life i have never been this terrible knowing how well he convinced his mom to hating me. Now i have aborted the thing, it doesn't make any sense keeping it.

I'm only asking you for advice if there is a better way to end this because i already have his wedding date later this month and sincerely i had contracted his death. Please keep this to yourself as i'm only seeking a better ending but not pleading for his death. I know i look so wasted and useless right now but he’s never going to enjoy any moment of his life, that i promise.

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There's no way i would have kept this barbaric life experience and at the same time allow someone's death. I saw urgency in her story; i saw a lady who could take any decision regardless of the damage. I've spoken with her on phone and she seem alright. I made her realize how there's no better ending that she seeks in the death of the young man. What i don't know is if she has truly changed her mind. I still don't have any details but this might be a warning to someone out there that's why i couldn't hide the name. I usually don't do this! It's without permission, at least, not when a life is at stake. Please advice her and that could save a life! I will make sure i refer her to this post to read your comments.

SOURCE https://www.facebook.com/SingleDatingEngagedMarried

Original Blog http://www.coachdexplorer.com/2013/12/e-mails-after-aborting-3-times-for-him.html

What?? Please kill the nigga its allowed!!

I can't interfer 'cos when u agreed 4 him i was nt there.

@ Op,Sorry you experienced all that. Time may not heal all wounds but you'll definately feel much better as you try to move on with your life. Turn to God and ask Him for strength and guidance. Learn from your mistakes, allow your self to heal physically,psychologically and emotionally before getting into another relationship. And if you can, stay off premarital sex. It would be one of the best decisions you'll ever make. I wish you well on this journey.

It so hurts me how silly some cud be. Its quite obvious dat some are commenting for fun , yl others are seeking to reveal their foolery from their bag of Abundance. It aint a thing of d new how smooth matters turn out to be worse.. But as Irk-some as it seem, I pray God grants her relief.

Who ever blames her to have bn an Abortionist for d sake of protecting their mutual interest, Is but being a renounced fo-ol ('m sori). I think she was trying to save guard their tomorrow, thus she cudn't afford bn a barrier.

She possiby cud have made repeated misteks, dats understandabl, but God knows it aint d best of tyms to start casting blames. I'm of d thought that she had mostly done most of her deeds at d blindfold of love.

Mehnnn... Such is terribly pitiable, bt I pray she finds d gut to let go!
Vengence only grants one self-imposed satisfaction, but it aint worth d stress. She beta lets go for Good: #JustLeaveAm4God!