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Getting Married To Your Age mate by Destiny27(m): 3:27pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
I decided to post this in family section because I know there are a lot of people with mature minds and experiences especially married folks. I recently came across an old schoolmate in primary school whom I had a crush on then. I was such a good boy then so wasn't into all that. Few months ago, we started communicating. She is in another state working. Since then we have gotten so close. She came down to the town I stay enroute her village and we spent a few days together. We realised we are in love with each other. When she left, I felt an emptiness and she too has been missing me. I'm in my early 30's and ready for marriage. I will love to marry her but my only problem is that she is my age mate. Please, is there any problem in getting married to your age mate? Some people feel its not right because 1) She may not be loyal and submissive 2) By the time she drops two kids, she will look quite older than me I haven't told her anything about marriage. Would want to clear some grounds first and then take some months to know her more before letting my intentions known fully well. Please, what do you feel about this? I need mature advice on this. I'm at crossroads now and will appreciate your input. Thanks 6 Likes |
Re: Getting Married To Your Age mate by lomaxx: 3:44pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
There's no issue settling down with your age-mate, other factors being constant. Once you begin to go romantic on a lady, even if she's 10 years your junior, she don dey see you like age-mate. If you love her, wife her. 246 Likes |
Re: Getting Married To Your Age mate by Ennyhollar(f): 3:52pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
There is noting bad on it, but wat is there is that u should not let her now ur really age, So she can give more respect to ur siblings. 3 Likes |
Re: Getting Married To Your Age mate by ilibrarian(m): 4:00pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
Don't make that mistake. My reasons; - She is more experienced than you are in every area - She will look like your mother after giving birth. 10 Likes |
Re: Getting Married To Your Age mate by Destiny27(m): 4:38pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
lomaxx: There's no issue settling down with your age-mate, other factors being constant. True. Thanks 5 Likes |
Re: Getting Married To Your Age mate by Destiny27(m): 4:39pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
Ennyhollar: There is noting bad on it, but wat is there is that u should not let her now ur really age, So she can give more respect to ur siblings. I guess she is aware because we were classmates then in primary school. 6 Likes |
Re: Getting Married To Your Age mate by Destiny27(m): 4:42pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
ilibrarian: My fears 1 Like |
Re: Getting Married To Your Age mate by Nobody: 4:52pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
Marry a woman that you love and understand,she is just your age mate not older . A 20yrs old bride can look older than you if she doesn't have good genes.Some 35yrs old married women,look better than 22yrs old single virgins,don't forget that. 87 Likes |
Re: Getting Married To Your Age mate by Vallotti: 4:54pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
As a female. . . I HAVE NEVER MET ANY MALE MY AGE MATE THAT IS AS A DEVELOPMENTAL/COGNITIVE EQUAL. They tend to act 10 or 20 YEARS IN THE DEFICIENCY column emotionally and spirtually-speaking. To put it directly. . . THEY ACT LIKE IJJJIOTS! As I get older. . . THE GAP WIDENS. . . . Sooooooooooooooooo I would have to say NO! It would not work for me. I NEED A 10 YEAR GAP!!!! So, I CAN HAVE SOME TIME AND PATIENCE WITH HIS AZZZZZZZZZZZE THAT REFUSES TO GROW UP!!! I need a man. . . not a boy! SHE WILL OUTGROW YOU IN ABOUT 5 YEARS. . . .AND LOOK LIKE YOUR MOTHER IF SHE AGES LIKE MOST NIGERIAN OR NAIRALAND WOMEN!!!! Age does not usually correlate with maturity. . . BUT IN MY DEALINGS WITH NIGERIAN MAN. . . . THE BIGGER THE SHOE SIZE. . . THE SMALLER THE BRAIN! OP. . . goodluck! 18 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Getting Married To Your Age mate by Nobody: 4:56pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
Destiny27: What about developing a healthy and active lifestyle together? Instead of all this irritating fear mongering? 24 Likes |
Re: Getting Married To Your Age mate by Destiny27(m): 5:06pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
byvan: Marry a woman that you love and understand,she is just your age mate not older . A 20yrs old bride can look older than you if she doesn't have good genes.Some 35yrs old married women,look better than 22yrs old single virgins,don't forget that.OK. Thanks |
Re: Getting Married To Your Age mate by Destiny27(m): 5:09pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
ileobatojo: OK but you can be more polite. Thanks 1 Like |
Re: Getting Married To Your Age mate by Temismith(f): 5:11pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
If u guys love urself, den y not. All d best man! 3 Likes |
Re: Getting Married To Your Age mate by Chillis: 5:17pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
OP, I can't believe you are 30 Pls, don't marry this woman. Go for a younger girl. You still have growing up to do. 14 Likes |
Re: Getting Married To Your Age mate by Nobody: 5:18pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
Destiny27: Yes, but it wasn't polite of you to say she will start to look like your mother after childbirth either. 14 Likes |
Re: Getting Married To Your Age mate by dayokanu(m): 5:18pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
You know Lola Omotayo is like 5yrs older than P Square and she don get pikin Does she look like his mom? 114 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Getting Married To Your Age mate by Destiny27(m): 5:24pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
Chillis: OP, I can't believe you are 30 Still trying to get your point. Anyway thanks 1 Like |
Re: Getting Married To Your Age mate by Destiny27(m): 5:31pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
dayokanu: You know Lola Omotayo is like 5yrs older than P Square and she don get pikin Lol. I get. Thanks 1 Like |
Re: Getting Married To Your Age mate by kelly27(m): 8:14pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
i will appreciate more opinions. |
Re: Getting Married To Your Age mate by Bograd83(f): 8:47pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
kelly27: i will appreciate more opinions.there's noting wrong 4 u guys 2 marry besides bn classmate doesnt means u're of same age. It also depends on stature, uwc a woman of 35yrs looks like 25yr |
Re: Getting Married To Your Age mate by Olugbenger(m): 8:56pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
kelly27: i will appreciate more opinions. Go ahead |
Re: Getting Married To Your Age mate by Nobody: 9:31pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
@OP, It depends on her body structure. If she has a petite or smallish stature, then it'll never be obvious that she is older. If not, you may want to reconsider. 4 Likes |
Re: Getting Married To Your Age mate by usermane(m): 10:08pm On Dec 28, 2013 |
When it comes to this issue of LOVE, am kind of new, but atleast i can contribute for fellow 's benefit. To fall for an age-mate, you must be the type of guy who apart from love and support, want nothing else from a partner. You don't expect a wife of your age to worship you or submit to you like a wife of ten years younger. Mutual respect for each other is the ideal requirement for both partners. Once you desire nothing more than love, commitment and appreciation from her and she is willing to deliver, you 'll be fine. Just endeavor to reciprocate too. On the darker side, if you desire a malleable or submissive wife who will shut up and let you be the dictator like most traditional men, then stay away from her Mr. OP. It is clear you two are incompatible, as i believe only a lady who want a modern, tolerant and negotiating partner will marry her age-mate. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Getting Married To Your Age mate by Chinwem(f): 8:58am On Dec 29, 2013 |
If a thread had to be opened to debate her age and 'marriageability'......(lol, if that's a word) Then maybe you should just leave her for A man who sees what he wants and goes for it Love conquers all doesn't mean anything again I think it should be 'age conquers all' or 'money conquers all' in Naija 11 Likes |
Re: Getting Married To Your Age mate by ireneidiva(f): 2:55pm On Dec 29, 2013 |
It depends on the lady. Is she humble and polite? How does she talk to you? Does she listen to you? About looking older after childbirth, does she have a healthy lifestyle of working out and eating right? Does she wear neat clothes? Is her hair always untidy? Your answers to these will help you. 8 Likes |
Re: Getting Married To Your Age mate by ifyalways(f): 3:26pm On Dec 29, 2013 |
I would rather marry my mate as opposed to one 6 or more years older than me. Personal choice. 14 Likes |
Re: Getting Married To Your Age mate by Janeify(f): 3:26pm On Dec 29, 2013 |
ilibrarian: Don't make that mistake. My reasons;..sorry 2 say u are lieing.she will only get old if she's not taken good care of.@o.p.i think the final decision is yours.have seen couples that are sweet n the woman is older and 4 yourfears 'better soup na money kill am'take care of her and u will see changes 5 Likes |
Re: Getting Married To Your Age mate by LewsTherin: 5:54pm On Dec 29, 2013 |
Shame what people consider priority criteria for something as important as marriage. Compatibility? Unimportant Love (or at least affection)? Don't care Good behaviour (ehh...) My agemate will not respect me as a MAN- MOST IMPORTANT! Pity Age does not breed respect. Age does not create or remove respect. Respect is EARNED. Have you earned her respect? Is she of good enough character to behave respectfully? These are the questions you should ask. If you think she will not respect you because you are age mates, I fear you do not behave in a way to earn her respect. Except of course she is a b!tch, then 20 years age difference will make no nevermind. 57 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Getting Married To Your Age mate by GHANAOGA: 7:09pm On Dec 29, 2013 |
Age shouldn't be a factor!! 1 Like |
Re: Getting Married To Your Age mate by imperiouxx(m): 7:11pm On Dec 29, 2013 |
Age: 1, 2, 3...... 30+ Love: strong, stronger, strongest, stro...... Bros! Age is just a number (quantifiable), strong love tends to infinity (non quantifiable). A study found that marrying your best friend eliminates the risk of divorce by over 70%. These marriages are more likely to last a lifetime.Source: online 9 Likes |
Re: Getting Married To Your Age mate by Nobody: 7:11pm On Dec 29, 2013 |
@Thread Maker, be careful with the kind of advice you receive here, as less attention is placed on other qualities that make a good relationship. People like preaching about how age is just a number and what matters is only love. Folks, love is just the starting point, there are other things to put into consideration. Does she even has your type of mindset towards this kind of relationship? I have a question for you - do you love her enough to stay with her after 25years with no child? You see, you are in the best position to decide if she suits your definition of a good wife. 2 Likes |
Re: Getting Married To Your Age mate by venorite(m): 7:12pm On Dec 29, 2013 |
My sis is currently married to someone she is older than with some days and they love and respect each other.am currently falling for someone that is few months older than me and I intend marrying her all things being equal. Matters most in relationship is understanding,love and care.you are going to live with her in ur house and not with people. 14 Likes |
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