Hello nairalanders, please help a brother. the story is long but I'll just summarise. In 2008, I had a female friend who was always coming to my shop. She was in SS2 then while I was awaiting my admission. She is a very pretty girl and had a lot of guys asking her out of which she always tells me about and I'll advise her on what to do because she was very young. I really admired her but refused to fall for her beauty due to the role i was playing for her but never knew she had a crush on me. This continued for some months till her dad beat her up in my shop one evening. The next day she came around and promised never to com to my shop again since her dad embarrassed her because of me. For the past five years each time we were both in town and I tried talking to her she always pushed me away not until towards the ending of this year that she actually gave me a chance and we became friends again. She told me she was alone and that I made her close her heart to guys. She wouldn't agree with me that I was only protecting her then. I noticed she was still much into me just like I'm into her too. Since I believe we were both ready now cos I'm currently serving and she's in her finals, decided to ask her out.she refused and claimed not to love me yet we are close and sometimes we kissed. She kisses me so deeply yet tells me she don't love me. Please is she for real? Or she just wants to hurt me? Please friends I really need your sincere advise. Thanks

She said she doesn't love you...then she doesn't. She probably needs you to service her once in a while...more like a tool. You have been friend-zoned. Please move on.

Kissing doesn't equate to love and acceptance. You can't force it.

And in case she lied about it, you would know through her reaction when you leave her.

Caracta: She said she doesn't love you...then she doesn't. She probably needs you to service her once in a while...more like a tool. You have been friend-zoned. Please move on.

Kissing doesn't equate to love and acceptance. You can't force it.

And in case she lied about it, you would know through her reaction when you leave her.

hmmm! U be character oh, I dey gbadun ur flows.. E get wetin I wan ask you sef.

experimentist: hmmm! U be character oh, I dey gbadun ur flows.. E get wetin I wan ask you sef.

Lol...you can ask if you won't be derailing this thread.

Well, OP, I think she can't really interpret her feelings. But from what you said, you still stand a good chance of winning her. Put more effort.

Caracta: She said she doesn't love you...then she doesn't. She probably needs you to service her once in a while...more like a tool. You have been friend-zoned. Please move on.

Kissing doesn't equate to love and acceptance. You can't force it.

And in case she lied about it, you would know through her reaction when you leave her.

Hmmm I guess you're right but moving on seems to be so tough. Thanks dear.

pasqal09: Well, OP, I think she can't really interpret her feelings. But from what you said, you still stand a good chance of winning her. Put more effort.

Wow that's so true because of the way she even looks at me....but really don't knw how much longer I can hold on.

coache:
Wow that's so true because of the way she even looks at me....but really don't knw how much longer I can hold on.

She just needs more persuasion.

guys please I need more of your advise so I wouldn't make a decision that I might regret.thanks.

pasqal09:

She just needs more persuasion.

Hmmm........but in the normal sense, is a relationship supposed to be established on the ground of persuasion and not understanding and love?

Just be careful. I'm a woman and I know how these things work...to an extent. I can show you love whereas I feel nada for you...until I profess my love.

I can even stick around with you for years or a couple of months...however, giving you hints that I feel nada. It's left for you to believe me or read the handwriting on the wall. And if you decide to wallow in your fantasy, e no consign me

All the best

Caracta: Just be careful. I'm a woman and I know how these things work...to an extent. I can show you love whereas I feel nada for you...until I profess my love.

I can even stick around with you for years or a couple of months...however, giving you hints that I feel nada. It's left for you to believe me or read the handwriting on the wall. And if you decide to wallow in your fantasy, e no consign me

All the best

Lolz.......if na you be this babe, I sure say my own for don be o becos na kill you go just kill me

Caracta:

Lol...you can ask if you won't be derailing this thread.

are u married?

coache:
Lolz.......if na you be this babe, I sure say my own for don be o becos na kill you go just kill me

Lol...let me not scare you.

Keep persuading her. Pray and fast too. Nothing good comes easy (so they say)

experimentist: are u married?

No, I'm not

Caracta: Just be careful. I'm a woman and I know how these things work...to an extent. I can show you love whereas I feel nada for you...until I profess my love.

I can even stick around with you for years or a couple of months...however, giving you hints that I feel nada. It's left for you to believe me or read the handwriting on the wall. And if you decide to wallow in your fantasy, e no consign me

All the best

@caracta, u c wetin u yarn ^up there ehn, na exactly wetin dis babe dey do me and me I love dis girl die. She's always around, play with me etc but she still insist we just friends

As in eeh, idk whata do fa, walai, mek una help me na.

lymelyte: https://www.nairaland.com/1568049/new-year-resolution

Bros please I asked for advise and not a link to some new year resolutions that will not even survive the first month.........Pls I mean no offence...thanks

Caracta:

No, I'm not

in a relationship?

experimentist: are u married?

captcochrane:

yes?

experimentist: in a relationship?

Yes

Caracta:

Lol...let me not scare you.

Keep persuading her. Pray and fast too. Nothing good comes easy (so they say)

Hmmm I've prayed but dat fasting part na long thing o.... not dat I can't o

experimentist: yes?

Caracta:

Yes

experimentist

coache:
Hmmm........but in the normal sense, is a relationship supposed to be established on the ground of persuasion and not understanding and love?

Sometimes Yes, only if there's a chemistry between you and her. I've a actually been in this situation before. The attraction between me and one certain girl I used to know was overwhelming, it was very obvious that we were into each other, even people around noticed it. But when I approached her, she turned me down, but I gave up on her. I ran into her after a while and she confessed that she was actually expecting me to put more efforts, she made it clear that she was disappointed that I gave up so easily.
So sometimes, you just have to try harder.

experimentist: @caracta, u c wetin u yarn ^up there ehn, na exactly wetin dis babe dey do me and me I love dis girl die. She's always around, play with me etc but she still insist we just friends

As in eeh, idk whata do fa, walai, mek una help me na.

Keep being friends...maybe she'll consider you after seven years or invite you to her wedding

Love is a beautiful thing but when it is not reciprocated, we get hurt and feel "small". You can't force someone to love you.

I'll suggest you get your mind off her. Yes, you can do it. Sometimes, girls like this begin to run after you once they see you are no longer all over them. She would probably miss you and pick up a fight for "abandoning" her for a while. This way, you would know she likes you.

If she had no feelings for you, when you leave, she would be like, "Thank goodness! Good riddance!"

Doesn't work in all cases though.

Caracta:

Lol...let me not scare you.

Keep persuading her. Pray and fast too. Nothing good comes easy (so they say)

But from a lady's point of view according to the story of how everything happened, do you think I really hurt her to deserve this treatment or she's just trying to be hard to get?

coache:
Hmmm I've prayed but dat fasting part na long thing o.... not dat I can't o

Keep trying. You can also have a heart-to-heart talk with her.

I don't believe in playing hard-to-get for a very long time. It's childish.

pasqal09:
Sometimes Yes, only if there's a chemistry between you and her. I've a actually been in this situation before. The attraction between me and one certain girl I used to know was overwhelming, it was very obvious that we were into each other, even people around noticed it. But when I approached her, she turned me down, but I gave up on her. I ran into her after a while and she confessed that she was actually expecting me to put more efforts, she made it clear that she was disappointed that I gave up so easily.
So sometimes, you just have to try harder.

Hmmm wonder why some ladies could be so complicated!

pasqal09:
Sometimes Yes, only if there's a chemistry between you and her. I've a actually been in this situation before. The attraction between me and one certain girl I used to know was overwhelming, it was very obvious that we were into each other, even people around noticed it. But when I approached her, she turned me down, but I gave up on her. I ran into her after a while and she confessed that she was actually expecting me to put more efforts, she made it clear that she was disappointed that I gave up so easily.
So sometimes, you just have to try harder.

Hmmm wonder why some ladies could be so complicated!

Caracta:

Keep being friends...maybe she'll consider you after seven years or invite you to her wedding

Love is a beautiful thing but when it is not reciprocated, we get hurt and feel "small". You can't force someone to love you.

I'll suggest you get your mind off her. Yes, you can do it. Sometimes, girls like this begin to run after you once they see you are no longer all over them. She would probably miss you and pick up a fight for "abandoning" her for a while. This way, you would know she likes you.

If she had no feelings for you, when you leave, she would be like, "Thank goodness! Good riddance!"

Doesn't work in all cases though.

come o, how did u know all dis things? As u small like dis u don gather experience so abi na ur job? Cos u get answer to all dis kain questions.... I don dey like you oh!

@character abeg I wan sleep now, where make u hook up in d morning?