RoyalRoy:



Freecocoa, Mindfulness and Brymo, please there is a sepera e board for your discussion.

All comments should be directed to
www.nairaland.com/religion


Please ensure you keep to the rules.

Thanks.

freecocoa:
Prefect You didn't write coogar's name, he's among the noise makers.

Sorry boss, won't happen again.

RoyalRoy:





Lol....Coogar was dancing round the edge....he didn't fall inside the "ice" bucket

coogar:


why won't i laugh?
why would feminists go to[b] an islamic event [/b]to flash their b00bz?
you know how muslims take their religion seriously....if a man had done the same, they woulda probably
taken his head off. the ladies should be happy they only got punched and kicked.

freecocoa:
I see you, holy holy.

You are right, they didn't have to go there to cause trouble with their b00bz, I don't agree that flogging is the appropriate form of punishment though.

I have said it before, you are a wucked man.

5minsmadness:

I'm interested in what you would deem "appropriate punishment" for women who flashed thier melons in public.

freecocoa:
Whatever happened to jail time or being fined?.

5minsmadness:

Not strict enough. Besides have they committed any actual crime by baring thier brrreessts in public?

freecocoa:
Whatever happened to jail time or being fined?.

Timbuktou:


If they feel they have been wronged, they can sue, can't they?

freecocoa:
I don't remember saying they were wronged, do you?

Timbuktou:


So, what exactly are you complaining about?

freecocoa:
The punishment wouldn't be for baring of b00bz, it will be for causing a disturbance.

Really? Not strict enough? So corporal punishment is allowed?

5minsmadness:
Thanks oga Roy.

NashvilleTN:
Okay guys, something happened recently.

I guy got promoted in my office recently (about three weeks ago). So I bump into him and his wife last weekend; after exchanging pleasantries, I congratulated him and his wife on the big promotion. I was shocked to find out his wife did not know about it. He tried to get out of it by saying he wanted to surprise her etc, and they both tried to laugh over it, but I could see the look of anger and disgust on the wife's face as they were leaving.

I felt bad cos it seems like I caused wahala between husband and wife; but really not my fault. I haven't seen the guy since then, but I am just wondering why a man wouldn't tell his wife about such a big promotion. Was a big deal promotion.

NashvilleTN:
Okay guys, something happened recently.

I guy got promoted in my office recently (about three weeks ago). So I bump into him and his wife last weekend; after exchanging pleasantries, I congratulated him and his wife on the big promotion. I was shocked to find out his wife did not know about it. He tried to get out of it by saying he wanted to surprise her etc, and they both tried to laugh over it, but I could see the look of anger and disgust on the wife's face as they were leaving.

I felt bad cos it seems like I caused wahala between husband and wife; but really not my fault. I haven't seen the guy since then, but I am just wondering why a man wouldn't tell his wife about such a big promotion. Was a big deal promotion.

tpiander:


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RoyalRoy:

That's really crazy!!! Getting promoted and not telling your wife?

I assume maybe the man is trying to avoid some financial responsibilities.

Maybe they have a percentage of salaries they contribute to a common purse and he doesn't want to chuck in the extra that will accrue due to the promotion.

Lmao!!!

Whatever the situation.... He isn't a very honest man at all.

thorpido:
The promotion comes with an increase in salary. He probably doesn't want wifey to know there's more money.

NashvilleTN:


Lol,

That makes sense, cos I was genuinely surprised and even felt embarrased, that see wahala o. But he doesn't look like that kind of person. I just thought things like that should be shared freely between man and wife. But who knows what is really going on?



May the next thing she'll ask for is vacation abroad. But for me, I will rather refuse my wife her demands than not tell her at all. She cannot remove the money from my pocket na. Worst case, I will just explain that there are several other projects I am working on that we need the money to complete. But I think things like this should be celebrated not hidden.

NashvilleTN:
Okay guys, something happened recently.

I guy got promoted in my office recently (about three weeks ago). So I bump into him and his wife last weekend; after exchanging pleasantries, I congratulated him and his wife on the big promotion. I was shocked to find out his wife did not know about it. He tried to get out of it by saying he wanted to surprise her etc, and they both tried to laugh over it, but I could see the look of anger and disgust on the wife's face as they were leaving.

I felt bad cos it seems like I caused wahala between husband and wife; but really not my fault. I haven't seen the guy since then, but I am just wondering why a man wouldn't tell his wife about such a big promotion. Was a big deal promotion.

NashvilleTN:

May be the next thing she'll ask for is vacation abroad. But for me, I will rather refuse my wife her demands than not tell her at all. She cannot remove the money from my pocket na. Worst case, I will just explain that there are several other projects I am working on that we need the money to complete. But I think things like this should be celebrated not hidden.

raumdeuter:


Oga nashville, Na you dey talk like this? For this America wey we dey so?

Maybe the man makes times 3 or 4 of what the wife takes, By the time starts saying she is unhappy in the marriage because some expenses were denied her and she is being abused financially and emotionally, Find a like minded lawyer who would tell her how much she stands to gain etc.

raumdeuter:


Oga nashville, Na you dey talk like this? For this America wey we dey so?

Maybe the man makes times 3 or 4 of what the wife takes, By the time starts saying she is unhappy in the marriage because some expenses were denied her and she is being abused financially and emotionally, Find a like minded lawyer who would tell her how much she stands to gain etc. The guy would rather accept her demand no matter how unreasonable they are

I know a couple in their 40's who were getting a divorce. The wife in arbitration got the house, Child support for 3 kids, Half of his 401k (Even though she has hers untouched). An SUV.

The man makes like $5000 per month after tax the wife insisted that after Child support deduction she also wants 1400 every month. The man agreed to 1000 but she insisted
Until they met a judge who was kind enough and threw out her request

Imagine what that your friend stands to lose if he insists on not paying up

raumdeuter:


Ahh you don cause wahala oo. There is a rule among some men that dont allow your wife to know truly how much you earn.

Some women are very unreasonable with finances. Thats when she would realize their house is small, not in a good area, some kitchen remoddeling, vacation, Her car makes funny sounds etc

Max the guy gets a 25k raise on his annual pay but the woman would already budget a 100K change in lifestyle

Nashville you have to come up with th extra amount oo

BTW looks like someone has a mad crush on you. You need to see the way she was opening threads all over when you were away. She no know say you madam na Lawyer

ApexTitan:


Seriously though its ish like this that makes marriage a very risk prospect for men in the West. It is said that 50% of marriages over there today end in divorce, so that dream of happily ever after will remain an illusion for many guys. Aside from the pyschological trauma that a divorce generates the risk of financial ruin adds another painful dimension to it all.

NashvilleTN:


Me, come up with the amount ke?

I think these things have to be carefully managed. You do not necessarily have to tell your wife how much you earn but at least let her know your position or if you got a promotion. How can you be a general manager and your wife thinks you are just an assistant manager. You can argue that she can figure out your salary if she knows your position.

But as the man you have to be strong. If you get a 100k salary increase, you should build in at least a 30k increase in living standards. At least that will keep the house happy and you can enjoy your new status too. And if your wife was already planning a life of luxury already, then you can come up with the projects story. But be such you have some project to show her at the end of the day.