TV01:
RoyalRoy how far?

I have 8 mentions all suppressed and I see that Coco' thread has been deleted. I've also seen your "call for calm" thread, and am putting 2+2 together. What happened? Was it that bad?

There will always be beefs and wars - be they on the basis of personality or world-view differences. Not only can you not change that, to many of us it would be a poorer (read duller ) forum without it.

They always settle and if it gets too bad people typically ignore each other - with of course the occasional flare-up . I really don't think this suppression of speech/censorship is for the best.

This board is largely self-regulting - we try not to stress our moderators . And in any event you can't expect hypocrisy (not to mention, tribalism, bigotry, posturing, demagogic behaviour, attention whoring and the like) not to be called out. Just saying.

How do I know who needs advice, or who is in need of a good rinsing if mentions are blanked !

To be honest it won't settle differences, they'll just get parked.


TV

RoyalRoy:


TV....i know it won't stop the war but at least we can reduce it to the minimum.

There is too much tension "in the land".


But I assure you, a deleted thread will not have a positive mention to worry about.

Want to make sure no one opens some hate thread and spamming peoples mention while spewing their fury.

Peace will reign, it will be tough but achievable.


Cheers

TV01:

I won't question your aims or challenge your remit as moderator. We are at your mercy !

However what blanking posts/locking threads achieves is in some cases questionable. It's always good if there's a record for posterity - if we can see for ourselves what was and was not said.

And like Coogar noted above, use of blanking/deleting/locking is somewhat inconsistent. My first - and only - post on the current abuse thread (in response to a mention by coogar) was blanked. There was no violation - that I was warned about or banned for - and I did not tell any untruths.

It was done at the behest of someone that was butt-hurt/running scared. In an open forum the correct recourse is a rebuttal - put up or shut up. Pandering in that manner allows people to say what they like and run whinging to the mods when they get served. More worringly it allows them to deceitfully change the historical narrative. I never complain. I accept, rebut or ignore - as pe okunrin now !


TV

Hmmm....well noted!!!!


Oya am all ears.... I could do with some Gbenga and his Ijesha inducing "weapon"

RoyalRoy:


Hmmm....well noted!!!!


Oya am all ears.... I could do with some Gbenga and his Ijesha inducing "weapon"

pickabeau1:
United fans

Last season fellaini was a pipe alongside his manager
Now he's undroppable
He's your second striker

What happened


Coogar
RoyalRoy

RoyalRoy:


Fellaini was struggling with a nagging knee injury all of Moyes days. He had to go for a corrective surgery before this season began.

I think he has come a long way from the gangling and uncoordinated defensive midfielder to a utility man who can push forward in the absence of a sharp attacking options.

His ability in the air is something to commend and his passing accuracy is above average too.

And thank God....his hands are not too much in the air this season.....lol.


Very Impressive.

pickabeau1:


Yimu
Why spend so much money on falcao when u have fellaini

Lollz.... Fellaini as a forward was borne out of necessity.

When the preferred is not available, the available becomes the preferred.

RoyalRoy:


Lollz.... Fellaini as a forward was borne out of necessity.

When the preferred is not available, the available becomes the preferred.

pickabeau1:
United fans

Last season fellaini was a pipe alongside his manager
Now he's undroppable
He's your second striker

What happened


Coogar
RoyalRoy

coogar:


fellaini is a good player - gollum didn't have the balls to play in the hole at the expense of rooney/RVP - he played as a CM and that position isn't his best.

pickabeau1:

Hmmmm......he is a utility player

TV01:
To be clear, authority in my home rests with me - any other exercising authority over my wife underminse that. Hence my stance. DIL/MIL issues are secondary. The actions/reactions of the two women are not the starting point for me, they will be properly ordered when the correct starting point is established.

coogar:
and this is why the wife should have waited for her hubby to return before retaliating. i am not holding a brief with the MIL. she acted very wrongly to have slapped the wife......the wife was out of order to have retaliated.

coogar:
did the bible not say when one is attacked, he/she should turn the other cheek, pastor TV01? the question is what would Jesus do? i should be the one correcting my mother, that right doesn't belong to my wife.

TV01:
Yes, the wife was totally wrong to retaliate - be that out of animosity or anxiety and I noted that - and I mentioned her fumble should be treated. But what she did, did not undermine the husbands authority or the marriage like what the MIL did - who by the way started it.

coogar:
the MIL started the physical assault according to the OP. i do not believe the MIL just started distributing slaps like a rabid wolf. something horrible must have been said by wifey to provoke MIL to use her hands. are we excusing verbal abuse & demonising physical abuse?

^{oya back to footie !}

TV01:

I won't let MIL off the hook either. The elder thing comes with it's own rights and responsibilites and does not in itself answer all things. And her eldership does not superced my husbandship.
TV

^{oya back to footie !}

Timbuktou:
I hope nairaland men are seeing this open call to cuckoldry? . Why won't they call us misogynists when we nip all their rubbish in the bud!

TV01
Coogar
Pickabeau1.

Your thoughts are needed in this gem of a thread.

^{...men wil always be on the right side of the slut-shaming line}

Funny, instead of challenging women to be morally upright and place a high premium - virginity anyone? - on themselves theirs a cadre of "aunties" on this board who encourage women to slut around, "test" and use lies, deciet and manipulation to snare men and secure their marriages.

Instead of them to repent of and confess their own whorish pasts they are busy trying to ensure everyone joins them in their swill. Always trying to redraw the slut-shaming line so that they are on the right side of it ! I pity those who fall fo rit.

Men should be unstinting in their expectations, no divorcees, no babymama (not even your own sef ), no to high count dick-hoppers. Due your due dilligence and study them well. Most of all seek God for grace and discernment. Oh the stories I could tell...

Like I've said before you can sell yourself short and have a "burger" marriage or aim high and dine on chateaubriand. The choice is yours, but beware burger stalls are easily set up and purveyors are everywhere.


TV

pickabeau1:
I wonder why the solution for sluttery is more sluttery rather than curbing of wild tendencies and recognition of the treatment of sluttery by the sexes

pickabeau1:
For the male players, the state of arrangements suit them fine. they continue to have their pick and fill

pickabeau1:
promiscuity can never be equal
fact of life

TV01:

It's really an attempt to re-write their personal histories as "not slutty". Unfortunately, being a woman can be a life time of seeking validation sometimes !

Of course, on balance, women will draw the short straw, more of them wil be used and discarded. For it too work, extreme gynocentric laws -such as in Sweden - have to be enacted.

Exactly - men wil never suffer slut-shaming, the dynamic means it will remain mostly a female slur. The aim should be to press for chastity for all.

TV

TV01:
How many women have missed that opportunity and lived fearfully for most of the marriages - or ultimately seen them break - because they couldn't tell the truth. Nothing like a union built on a foundation of total honesty and openess. Bliss.

Funny, instead of challenging women to be morally upright and place a high premium - virginity anyone? - on themselves there's a cadre of "aunties" on this board who encourage women to slut around, "test" grin and use lies, deceit and manipulation to snare men and secure their marriages.

bellong:
Well, the single ladies should take the evil counsel at their own peril.

No matter the equality pushed by some folks, the female gender will always suffer some consequences that nature fortunately make men go free.

I only pity the sheepish and gullible ones.

bellong:
Well, the single ladies should take the evil counsel at their own peril.

No matter the equality pushed by some folks, the female gender will always suffer some consequences that nature fortunately make men go free.

I only pity the sheepish and gullible ones.

coogar:


i like the sheepish & gullible ones.

Kimoni:


Bellong, this is a myth

This belief is really the genesis of this messed up game

What or who is nature? God or humans?

I know God is definitely not partial, so humans must be "nature"

Men need to re-evaluate themselves and realize there are no two set of rules anywhere

No matter how long it takes, the chicken must come home to roost