She was ambitious when you first met her. She
told you everything she wanted to become. She
told you how poor her family is and her dream to make it in life. You loved her and married her
promising her heaven and earth. She believed
and trusted you. You convinced her to have a
baby first and then go back to school or pursuing her career. Now she has
given you babies but you still keep her at home.
You go out everyday and come home calling her
useless. She asks for money to buy her cream
only for you to tell her that her mates are out
there making money while all she knows is how to waste it. You don't give her money to take care of herself but you go out there and buy lovely cars and clothes for yourself.
You even have the gut to give your secretary a
market list for her to go and buy things for your
wife to cook; a big insult to any woman. Even
when you allow her to go to the market, you
make sure there is no coin left for her to buy a panty for herself. You go out there and admire all the beautiful women whose husbands have given freedom and those whose husbands love spending on. You even lift their skirts to see their panties and then you begin to feel that your own wife at home is dirty. Sir, she is not dirty; she is only wearing the rags you give her.
At every slightest thing, you remind her how poor her people are and how her father couldn't send her to school. Several times have you shattered her already broken spirit with your words. Oga, you knew that her family is
poor and yet you walked into that humble family
to pick a wife. Are you telling me your reason for
marrying her is to make her poorer? You even
stopped her from inviting her parents to your
house all because you think you are god. If after
you married that poor girl, her family does not
move to a higher level because of you, know that God is not happy with you. You may not even know if you are prospering because of her
presence in your life.
Several times has she talked to you reminding
you of your promise to her and all you do is shout at her. You call her useless and yet you don't want to give her the opportunity to prove to you that she is not useless. You stopped her from acquiring the certificate she so dreamed of. You force her, against her own wish, to be a full time housewife. You go through magazines admiring great women and wishing to have one like them forgetting that a man like you is somewhere giving them the support and strength to soar.

You love good things on women but can't stand
seeing them on your own wife.
Don't you think you are a wicked man?

She was married as a poor girl. . .BUT IT WAS HER CHOICE TO REMAIN A POOR WOMAN!
Her business!
She needs to liberate herself. . .or deal with the consequences of her PASSIVE behavior.

Small girls grow up and MATURE. . . not regress and deteriorate emotionally and professionally!

HER CHOICE!

Ballotti: She was married as a poor girl. . .BUT IT WAS HER CHOICE TO REMAIN A POOR WOMAN!
Her business!
She needs to liberate herself. . .or deal with the consequences of her PASSIVE behavior.

Small girls grow up and MATURE. . . not regress and deteriorate emotionally and professionally!

HER CHOICE!

Gbamest!!!

OP, arrange this your post na. Difficult to read.

Tenk u

Chillisauce: OP, arrange this your post na. Difficult to read.

Tenk u

I typed it on Microsoft word on my system before moving it to NL, I will modify it. Thanks

Ballotti: She was married as a poor girl. . .BUT IT WAS HER CHOICE TO REMAIN A POOR WOMAN!
Her business!
She needs to liberate herself. . .or deal with the consequences of her PASSIVE behavior.

Small girls grow up and MATURE. . . not regress and deteriorate emotionally and professionally!

HER CHOICE!

A good point

madam balloti ,good points- her choice.wats wrong in her telling d hubby to wait for her to gt a job before getting married and if he cant wait,he should move on except if she was 'uncivilised' to know dat d hubby promises can fail n marriage wont eradicate her poverty. a lesson for the singles- never rely on guys' promises,v sth doing before marriage no matter how lil d money s.wats urs is urs.

The thing is that some men are just too controlling...

And some women are just too gullible.