Is it good for an educated girl to marry uneducated man?

Things are very change nowadays, can an educated lady marry an uneducated man?

either way, no reason why not. as long as they love and understand each other and can meet each others needs. If they both decide the educational gap is immaterial, so be it. In fact, I have seen many couples in Nigeria fitting that description and they are perfectly ok.

On a certain level, your question is vague because there are different definitions of education:
- Some people believe that anybody who is not a graduate is not educated.
- Others might feel that an educated man is one who speaks English well.
- Others look beyond that at the way you comport yourself, the level of your thinking.
- Others will point at the JSCE as the minimum qualification rcommended by the ministry of education for workers.
- If the woman is a professor or medical doctor, a "common" graduate or HNd holder may seem uneducated to her.
- If you are a rich man and you speak English, everybody believes you're educated .

However, the central issue is clear. You want to know if a woman should cave in and marry a woman who hasn't recieved up to her level of education. Someone who probably knows less than she does, is less exposed, more crude, maybe doesn't even speak English well. Someone she may not be able to take to social functions because he's "not up to her standards". Someone who's friends she might despite because they are too "local".

So what's your say?

ajuma:

Is it good for an educated girl to marry uneducated man?

Things are very change nowadays, can an educated lady marry an uneducated man?

Of course it is good especially if they both love each other; but if it isn't love, it won't work n it's not recommended!

Kai! that is the original recipe for disaster!

For any woman who wants to venture on that kind of perilous journey, i wish her good luck!

Kai! that is the original recipe for disaster, i think you are more likely to win the lottery than succeed at this kind of relationship.

klex:

Kai! that is the original recipe for disaster!

For any woman who wants to venture on that kind of perilous journey, i wish her good luck!

I think this advice shud go to d men, cos some women would only b too happy to find a man they can control like that!

except the guy is a "mugu" she will definitely not be able to control him. is he/she prepared for the looks, or all those snide comments that will come from the public. How will they relate on an intellectual level? personally i dont believe that love is a cure all for all relationship ills.

It's okay if there's true Love.

No matter the strength of the love they both share, the woman will one day manipulate the man because of that issue. It's alot better for the woman to be uneducated o but now that is vice versa, it is trouble.

I know what women can always be like, they will manipulate, control, the man will be her house boy, and intimidate him at any slight mistake. Most educated women find uneducated men irritating and can't just stand him at all times.

I'ld start by asking those who believe it's okay just one question. If it were you, would you venture into such? Your answer is your true opinion on this issue.

At 1st, all might appear to be well because of that crazy emotional feeling called "LOVE" but I tell you that by the time the true test of marriage life starts to set in, then those things that never mattered would not just start to matter but will also become the BANE of the marriage.

So pls think twice b4 embarking on such a journey.

Well, the uneducated man (depending on what is being used to determine such a label) can always become educated. As long as he has air in his lungs, he is able to make steps in furthering his education.

If she is willing to take all that may accompany such a decision then I don't see why not.

I won't advise it for any reason not even the so called yeye love.................babes that do it, most of the time do it cos
1. The guy is a money-miss road  or
2. She's touching distance from menopause

So, according to you Jio, there are circumstances under which it can happen...
- the man has lorry-load of money or
- she's close to menoupause

The other reason I see is
- It could be a perfect way for a lady who has been "dealth with" by educated men. She would probably feel better appreciated.

I dont think we are here to encourage or discourage but analyze. No one is going to come to this forum to ask our point of view before making the marriage decision.

Anyway, I see this as a relationship based on a single need - Appreciation, both ways.

Communication matters a lot in any relationship. So how are you going to carry on a meaningful intellectual discussion with an illiterate guy? What are you going to talk about? The price of fish in the market?

I believe that love should form the base for this type of conjuction. If there is ample quantity of love mixed with a leberal amount of respect, trust and understanding, why not. If the so called educated man can marry an uneducated woman, what stops the reverse to happen?

Let me also add here that if the man has a teachable heart and has the zeal to improve, why not? He's not being educated earlier in life might be due to situations beyond his control. I think this should also be considered if not, I maintain that whosoever should think twice b4 embarking on such a journey.

Why is love being touted as a "cure all"?

A relationship is pretty complex thing, compatibility is so crucial, and i doubt if people from different educational backgrounds will possess this critical ingredient to make it work

Do not be suprised if wen the illiterate guy was courting her, she often times failed to stand up for him when jibes were being fired at the poor guy in her presence

True @Klex

But lets views this issue from the pespective of love. We know that love is all encompassing and it knows no bound nor boundaries and if true, love can overcome all things including illitracy or race or beauty or wealth or fame... even the atomic bomb. Love is the greatest thing there is, u can rely on it for succour and comfort and shelter when guys like IAH & De-King come calling.

well there is nothing wrong with it
As long as love is involved.
Besides the uneducated guy can still be educated if he wants to.

To marry an uneducated man is not too ideal, Cos they says let what belong to cease go to cease & what belong to God go to God. illiterate can not Mach an eluting person.it just be like soup without salt.

it's okay because the "educated" woman will run the show and that's good.

Have heard and seen few businessmen who have big business but uneducated and married to an educated woman. Infact some of these women are career women.

To answer your question, i think the marriage can work better if it's the opposite direction.

Some men may not want to attain the educational level of the woman becos:
1, they feel they're too old
2. have made enough money without the so called education according to them
My advice is, don't go into anything u'll luve to regret becos of so called love, who
wants to stay with a man that would feel intimidated by ur company (friends et al),
or man u wouldn't be proud of outside ur house, or one u dare not communicate with
becos it'll be misconstrued to mean "she knows too much".

Babes shoe get size o! a man can marry a woman educationally lower than him, becos he can
bully her into submission, but a woman trying that, u will not talk in the house without ur husband feeling challenged,
Forget love, it gets to a point when certain things won't work.
But anyone venturing into that, good for u, I hope u find happiness the next 10-20 yrs, without falling down the ladder

its hard their reasoning will be crossed.

Some educated people are so clueless it boggles the mind. I have had conversations with degree holders and I did not know if I should slap myself or slap them. What I have learned over the years though is that someone who seeks knowledge and is open to learning knew things is much better than someone who is so rigid and will not even bother to pick up a book and learn something new. Education is great but it is not everything especially when we are talking marriage

spikedcylinder:

Threads from 2005 still exist?

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Might be hard these days but could work. My grandma was educated but my grandpa was not. She taught him to read etc and they stayed married to each other till their deaths but that was then. It helped their female children further their studies more than most women of that time as my grandma pushed their dad to do even even more for them.

what does the poster refer to as Educated man, lady?

the poster knows beta