Oh Grow up

At one time in our lives those words have been flung in our faces ^{(please don't tell me I'm the only one)} but what exactly is being “grown up”? Take for instance this little true life situation from a guy’s perspective.

I am currently dating a great girl. She is gorgeous, she can cook like no one I have met, she's smart, funny, and all around a great girl. When other girls hear, or meet, my girlfriend they always get bitter and give me that angry girl look. Why? Because I am almost 30 and she is 21.

On more than one occasion they have gone into a rant about how I need to "grow up", "mature", and how I am trying to "hang on to my youth by dating younger girls." Then these conversations eventually lead into a bitter whine-fest about lack of "real men" or how too many guys refuse to be responsible and grow-up.

I am a University graduate with two degrees, and I currently work in a great career that I love. But in the minds of women, that is not "grown up" or "mature". No, to them I am still a boy because I date younger women and don't want kids.

So here's my question: In a girl's mind, why does the only definition of "growing up" or being "mature" mean getting married to a woman of equal age and popping out kids? And why is it always what the female wants? I hear all these complaints about lack of "real men" willing to settle down and raise a family, but not one of these women take into consideration what the guy wants. What if he doesn't want kids? Is that so wrong? Or what if, God forbid, he doesn't want to get married?

When women get to a certain age, they start to worry about getting married,  they want their white picket fence, their 2.5kids and a dog and if a guy doesn’t give in to these demands, he is dubbed immature, a boy, not willing to grow up.

Are they right or is it Saltiness 

Moremi, nice and refreshing to see something other than bromance, Just kidding my dear.

Hey, 30 and 21 is not far apart in my opinion. Those women are envious and had to pin their envy on something, the age gap, though balanced, was a quick and obvious one for them to pick and tear into. Its human nature! If it does not meet our approval then we tear it down with our tongue, forget idealism!

To each his own. Not everybody wants the same things out of life.

Awwww. . . . . the man really does need to grow up. I mean only a baby boy will give a damn about what folk say about his relationship. Over here whining and balling. I feel sorry for the poor 21 y.o. girl. She has to put with this on a constant basis.

@post
What the woman wants weighs a bit more than what the man wants depending on the couple.

Negro_Ntns:

Moremi, nice and refreshing to see something other than bromance, Just kidding my dear.

Hey, 30 and 21 is not far apart in my opinion. Those women are envious and had to pin their envy on something, the age gap, though balanced, was a quick and obvious one for them to pick and tear into. Its human nature! If it does not meet our approval then we tear it down with our tongue, forget idealism!

*Bows from waist down*
It pleases me that you are pleased, Sensei!


@ Topic
Yeah, it's HUMAN NATURE when it is a guy but FREAK OF NATURE when it is a woman. I told one of my friends who is a guy that I wasn't ready for kids and even when I get married, I don't plan on having 'em until at least 2 yrs into the marriage and you could have sworn I just told him I had a body in my freezer with the look he gave me. "What are you talking about? If you are not ready for kids why are you getting married then?". Imagine that!

What the woman wants weighs a bit more than what the man wants depending on the couple

Excuse me  

Negro_Ntns:

Excuse me  

You have been excused.

onyinye2:

Awwww. . . . . the man really does need to grow up. I mean only a baby boy will give a damn about what folk say about his relationship. Over here whining and balling. I feel sorry for the poor 21 y.o. girl. She has to put with this on a constant basis.

@post
What the woman wants weighs a bit more than what the man wants depending on the couple.

Rotflmao! Oyinye, I LIKE YOU!!!!!!!

@ Topic
So because she wants something, he must want it at the same time? Selfishness!!

Seriously, I think it is STUPID to measure one's grown-upness on whether or not they want kids or get married

You have a job not moooching off others.
You have a place of your own, not slumming with your parents.
You pay your Bills
But because you are not married and have kids, you are immature? Forgetaboutit!

Yeah, it's HUMAN NATURE when it is a guy but FREAK OF NATURE when it is a woman

rotflmao,  I can only respond from a male perspective, and yes you are right about the FREAKY gender.  But you know you are an exception.

When you get a minute please hit me on chat or email Sisi.

You have been excused.

You are not right!!

So because she wants something, he must want it at the same time? Selfishness!!

We are created to be waited on. Oh, Im dead meat for saying that.

Negro_Ntns:

You are not right!!

I couldn't be any more right.

Sisikill:

Seriously, I think it is STUPID to measure one's grown-upness on whether or not they want kids or get married

You have a job not moooching off others.
You have a place of your own, not slumming with your parents.
You pay your Bills
But because you are not married and have kids, you are immature? Forgetaboutit!

Blame women for the phrase "grow up".
They use it more than men.
As soon as they suspect u are not ready to propose in the forseeable future, they bawl "grow up" with that evil/sonorous voice.

Negro_Ntns:

rotflmao,   I can only respond from a male perspective, and yes you are right about the FREAKY gender.  But you know you are an exception.

When you get a minute please hit me on chat or email Sisi.

Yeah, Yeah. . . it's now about knowing from the male perspective.

Okay.

Hannibal:

Blame women for the phrase "grow up".
They use it more than men.
As soon as they suspect u are not ready to propose in the forseeable future, they bawl "grow up" with that evil/sonorous voice.

Aaaah Yes, let's blame women for all that is wrong with the world.

Seriously, you guys need to stop the blame game and grow up.

Sisikill:

Seriously, you guys need to stop the blame game and [b]MAN [/b]up.

Hannibal:

Blame women for the phrase "grow up".
They use it more than men.
As soon as they suspect u are not ready to propose in the forseeable future, they bawl "grow up" with that evil/sonorous voice.

I'm wid you on this one hommie.
Especially the frustrated parrot-like ones.


Irritants!

Sisikill:

Aaaah Yes, let's blame women for all that is wrong with the world.

Who got deceived in Eden by a mere serpent?

Seriously, you guys need to stop the blame game and grow up.

When y'all stop, we would follow ur foot-steps.

The Sly:

Especially the frustrated parrot-like ones.

I can't stand those ones.
They moan, gripe, whine, whinge, grunt, grouse, groan and grumble over every little thing.
Em kinds should BABE up.

topup:

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When a player reaches the age of 30, really it is time to grow up, to finally accept responsibility and behave like a man. To invest in things that don't only benefit you but to help others as well.

When a player reaches 30?? Why not 40?

Oh my gosh, this is a silly thread, everyone, GROW UP! hehe

Hannibal:

Who got deceived in Eden by a mere serpent?

Oh! That fable again. I'm guessing if the snow white story somehow got its way into the bible, dwarfs would be blamed for all of mankind's problems.


@topic

Sisi, I think the issue usually arises because a lot of men don't state specifically BEFORE the start of the relationship (_{or whatever}) that they would NEVER be interested in marraige, children and the whole picket fence scenario.
Smack dab in the middle of the relationship, they open the can of worms and then women become whinners because they WANT yer know. . . . . .the whole enchilada.