_Queenisha:

In what way ?
maybe the risky things like sex in cars and on mountain tops.
I don't know.
Remember I'm speaking for myself from my perspective
I don't know if he'll say the same .
but from how crazy he still is about me,I think I'm right.

Well. . . .U have a point.
From a woman's view, it is expected to enjoy it under matrimony.
Besides, ur husband could be crazier about u when u guys first met.
Men like it more at first then the novelty around it stutters a lil bit.

stillwater:

Have you ever said No, I'm not in the mood.

You are not in what mood??
After 60 tubers of yam and half a dozen Seaman schnapp??
Errrrrrrrrrrrm, can i get a refund of the brideprice?

onyinye2:
The only thing about marriage that sounds remotely beautiful is the wedding ceremony. The rest is uhhhhhh. . . . .

dont believe the hype. remember that ugly phrase " as seen on television". believe me marraige is a beautiful institution. the problem are its players. full of 100th division league amateurs, childish and selfish people.

wedding ceremonies dont last more than a day the beauty of a marraige lasts a life time and by God's providence into generations ahead.

if you are a praying person pray for such a marraige and more importantly pray to be such a person that God can use build such a relationship.

stillwater:

Have you ever said No, I'm not in the mood.

yes I have but I always add, please wake me up at blah blah o'clock
or please I promise you tomorrow early morning will be wild
and he understands but of course there are those times I can see he's really really wanting it and the poor man is about to burst,I just go along knowing that when he's that charged, it's only but a few minutes and the whole thing is over.
I can handle that.

Hannibal:

Well. . . .You have a point.
From a woman's view, it is expected to enjoy it under matrimony.
Besides, ur husband could be crazier about u when u guys first met.
Men like it more at first then the novelty around it stutters a little bit.

You are not in what mood??
After 60 tubers of yam and half a dozen Seaman schnapp??
Errrrrrrrrrrrm, can i get a refund of the brideprice?

  why do men even get tired sef.  isnt (RATED R) the same . what the hell is the difference!

_Queenisha:

Onyinye na wa for you o
perhaps if we had this conversation some years back,I'll be sounding like you too.
I had a mother who told me some hard truths and modelled it too and I'm grateful for that.

I'm just not cut out for marriage. I mean my mom told me some stuff too but I mean it just doesnt click to me. I still remember that conversation. She was all

"Onyinye, *shakes head* Onyi Bekee. . . . you and that onu of yours is nsogbu. And will always be. *laughs* You are just like your father. Headstrong. Amuta when to imecha it. A man is a man. How many times have you na nna crossed eh? Because I na think you are right. A man ego will never leave him,so you must learn to work around it. . . .

onyinye2:

I'm just not cut out for marriage. I mean my mom told me some stuff too but I mean it just doesnt click to me. I still remember that conversation. She was all

"Onyinye, *shakes head* Onyi Bekee. . . . you and that onu of yours is nsogbu. And will always be. *laughs* You are just like your father. Headstrong. Amuta when to imecha it. A man is a man. How many times have you na nna crossed eh? Because I na think you are right. A man ego will never leave him,so you must learn to work around it. . . .

Sharrap! Women are talking teenage girls too are quipping . . .

Hannibal:

Well. . . .You have a point.
From a woman's view, it is expected to enjoy it under matrimony.
Besides, ur husband could be crazier about u when u guys first met.
Men like it more at first then the novelty around it stutters a little bit.

ROFL.
Is that why he still talks of our sleeper train rides?

queenisha

how long have you been married?

Gucci_Babe:

 why do men even get tired sef.  isnt (RATED R) the same . what the hell is the difference!

Its not the same o my sister. Lai lai . . . there are women and there are women if you get my drift.  
you're going into marriage praying that she will satisfy you in that area . . . if not God help us all.

davidylan:

Sharrap! Women are talking teenage girls too are quipping . . .  

Not funny. Not laughing.

onyinye2:

Not funny. Not laughing.

i didnt expect you to. You have a lot of work to do. Good thing you're learning here.
your mom is basically saying the same thing Queenisha has said, up to you to make your choice. As you lay your bed . . . abi how oyinbo man dey talk am?

_Queenisha:

ROFL.
Is that why he still talks of our sleeper train rides?

U already KNOW!!!

Gucci_Babe:

why do men even get tired sef.  isnt (RATED R)  the same . what the hell is the difference!

U want men to get tired??

osisi and her two mouth

osiisi you know I am madam gboborun and memory is excellebt. I remember when you leaked that you "did eat the fruit before marriage".

davidylan:

i didnt expect you to. You have a lot of work to do. Good thing you're learning here.

Ka Chukwu mere m ebere. Hapu m aka.

davidylan:

Its not the same o my sister. Lai lai . . . there are women and there are women if you get my drift.  
you're going into marriage praying that she will satisfy you in that area . . . if not God help us all.

 lmao.  so explain better.  there are woman and there are woman??  explain further I don;t get you!

You are not in what mood??
After 60 tubers of yam and half a dozen Seaman schnapp??
Errrrrrrrrrrrm, can i get a refund of the brideprice?  

Are you trying to kill your wife? Take it easy oo.

yes I have but I always add, please wake me up at blah blah o'clock
or please I promise you tomorrow early morning will be wild
and he understands but of course there are those times I can see he's really really wanting it and the poor man is about to burst,I just go along knowing that when he's that charged, it's only but a few minutes and the whole thing is over.
I can handle that.

Thanks

davidylan:

na wa o. you shld teach us some tricks. I used to think it was the other way round. Better at first . . .

ROFL.
Remember I've said this several times,if I ever have a divorce (God forbid)
There's no way I'll ever get married again
what for?
I'm putting all my efforts into this one
and leaving no stoned unturned.
If it ever goes wrong (God forbid)
I would leave knowing that I did all that I was expected to do
so why woud I want to invest my efforts into another relationship?
I'll just raise the kids and wait for the grankids.
The last time I said this,almond joy agreed whole heartedly.
I'm not willingly to start afresh learning ,pleasing and loving someone else.
No way!

KarmaMod:

osisi and her two mouth

osiisi you know I am madam gboborun and memory is excellebt. I remember when you leaked that you "did eat the fruit before marriage".

did I say here that I didn't?
I chopped after engagement  but I asked God to forgive me
I was not an experienced chopper is what I said
My man was not as committed to Christ as I was when I met him and he led me astray a few times
We were overtaken by passion
but we resumed non chopping till after marriage
I was engaged prior for a couple of years earlier and never slept with the guy.
I was a good girl o

stillwater:

Are you trying to kill your wife? Take it easy oo.

Don't worry. . . . She's bound to like the marathon.

_Queenisha:

and he understands but of course there are those times I can see he's really really wanting it and the poor man is about to burst,I just go along knowing that when he's that charged, it's only but a few minutes and the whole thing is over.
I can handle that.

So much for human feelings.
Blue balls kill quicker than gunshot wounds.

onyinye2:

Ka Chukwu mere m ebere. Hapu m aka.

Someone shld pls bail me out here . . . this woman sef.

Gucci_Babe:

 lmao.  so explain better.  there are woman and there are woman??  explain further I don;t get you!

Some men like women experienced, some dont.
Some men like women who are willing to try anything in bed, some are conservative.
errmmm how do i say this one now?   All women dont "feel" exactly the same, its instinctive . . . you can always tell the subtle differences and yes men do have preferences in that area.

The rest . . . i cant really say at this point . . .  

lmaof this is serious

davidylan:

Someone shld please bail me out here . . . this woman sef.

Some men like women experienced, some don't.
Some men like women who are willing to try anything in bed, some are conservative.
errmmm how do i say this one now?   All women don't "feel" exactly the same, its instinctive . . . you can always tell the subtle differences and yes men do have preferences in that area.

The rest . . . i can't really say at this point . . .  

hmmm you are a freak so we need sex education to please our hubby, some Men tend to like Virgins, so i dont understand what can be so bad not knowing how to

Don't worry. . . . She's bound to like the marathon.

What if you end with someone frigid? You better ask Queenisha now

Gucci_Babe:

queenisha

how long have you been married?

_Queenisha:

I was engaged prior for a couple of years earlier and never slept with the guy.

well with the way you described that one's table manners I cant say Im surprised you didnt let him near you.

stillwater:

What if you end with someone frigid? You better ask Queenisha now

Frigid??
God forbid!!!!
This is why it's important to test drive before saying I DO.

Gucci_Babe:

hmmm  you are a freak so we need sex education to please our hubby,  some Men tend to like Virgins, so i don't understand what can be so bad not knowing how to  

True. . . . .Some men like virgins but after deflowering them, they still go out there to find a tigeress in bed.
No man wants a log of wood in his bed. . . . .It's very depressing.

Hannibal:

True. . . . .Some men like virgins but after deflowering them, they still go out there to find a tigeress in bed.

There lies the irony.

It's been a great thread.
I think the test of a happily married woman is to ask her if she would do itagain with the same person.
I have friends who have said that knowing what they know now,they would have married someone else
But that's not my situation.
If I went back again to that time way back in the nineties,I would marry my husband all over again.

Gucci_Babe:

hmmm  you are a freak so we need sex education to please our hubby,  some Men tend to like Virgins, so i don't understand what can be so bad not knowing how to  

What is better than being with a person who knows absolutely nothing. It is a fairytale. They have no expectations, no prior wonderful sexual experiences, no ranked "height" of good sex they have gotten. So the guy is free to do whatever, she has nothing to compare to.

Gucci_Babe:

hmmm you are a freak so we need sex education to please our hubby, some Men tend to like Virgins, so i don't understand what can be so bad not knowing how to

you don't need sex education at all . . . emm at least ask your friends, i mean the married ones for some advice on what to do.
You really don't need to study books and tapes, if the goal is to please each other and both are comfortable enough to tell each other what they like then i say go on soun and enjoy a great married life.

Virgins . . . not all men prefer them.

@ Queenisha

I like the idea of being frigid. Is there any show for me in marriage? Is there a man who would take me as I am?

Hannibal:

Frigid??
God forbid!!!!
This is why it's important to test drive before saying I DO.

You could be the person to teach her and bring her out of her shell.
Not everyone is swinging from chandeliers in their father's houses