joichi:

Thanks alot girls!
especially Ujujoan, biolabee, Gucci_Babe. You girls r d best.
Biolabee, my mum would probably kill me if she knws all tis.
She'ld insult my life. Also, my folks r not directly involved wit our rtnships so they don't knw anytin about him. u'ld all agree he's not exactly d type 2 take home 2 "dad" or mama, whatever d case might be.
Thnk u all 4 ur contributns. rily 'preciate them all.
i think my mind is made up now. Lik u said, y shortchange myself when i can hv beta in d way of affection, & all.

Ujujoan:

Hannibal
WHen I say it's evwerywhere, I don't mean everybody!! I mean its not that hard to fine. Beseides I still insist the guys's too expensive. And good sex's not enough reason to tie yourself down to an irresponsible guy.

So he has a reason to be irresponsible,  thats okay, but not in her life. He should look for someone else to be irresponsible to. I don't think a hard working girl should take that from any man. Men hate gold diggers, why should a lady tolerate that in a man.

you don't get it do you. The guy's not dome dued who's just out of job and is deperatelyv trying to meet up to his responsibility. This guy's a someone dating a girl young enough to be his baby sister and dosent think its wrong to milk her dry. He uses the 'wife' thing on her when he knows he'll probably not marry her. He thinks his needs should come first before hers. . . He dosent have any qualms about her spending extravagently on him and his family. C'mon give me a break!! The girl's better off without him.

vikiviko:

wHY ARE You EXPOSING YOUR BOY FRIEND TO US.

ANYWAYS I HAVE A JOB FOR THE GUY IF HE'S READY TO BE ADVERT EXECUTIVE.

AM SURE You LOVE HIM, HOW DO You THINK HE WILL FEEL READING THIS POST ABOUT HIS INABILITY TO SATISFY YOU.

ONE THING IS SURE IS EITHER You LOVE HIM OR NOT , HE STILL REMAINS A MAN SOME OTHER LADIES ARE WISHING TO DATE.

SO BE SURE OF YOUR FELINGS

_Queenisha:

She logged off before answering my simple question.
If the guy just recently lost his job,I don't think it's enough reason to dump him if he's a great guy.She must have benefited from his handouts too while he was working.
Women have this tendency to cry foul when the tables are turned meanwhile they'll have no problems chopping off the guy in his good times.
Hopefully you can also graciously accept it when you get dumped by the new boyfriend,should you lose your job.

!f the guy has never worked since you knew him,why complain now?
You obviously knew his financial situaton before accepting his hand of lovership
You got into the relationship with a 31 year old unemployed man,you can get out when you're no longer able to support him.
Personally I would not have dated an unemployed 31 year old man talk less of handing out money not just to him but his family also.
This guy is just a boyfriend,not even a fiancee.

Hannibal:

The poster should hang in there and stop moaning.
It's either he met this dude jobless OR the dude lost his job in the course of their relationship.
Either way, i don't think this dude has done any wrong. This babe musta enjoyed some goodies from the guy in the past.
It's payback time.

Warfy Boy:

SWIT HAT, PLS I _STAND UR STORY BUT I WILL LIKE YOU TO ANSWER SOME QUESTIONS FOR ME

ARE YOU A CHRISTIAN? IF YES THEN TALK TO GOD AND LET HIM DIRECT YOU ON WHAT TO DO, HUMAN BINS R NT GOD

IF YOU ARE MY SISTER I WOULD ADVICE FORCE You TO LEAVE HIM, OR RATHER FORCE HIM TO LEAVE You ALONE, BT GOD HAVE THE FINAL SAY

PLEASE BE PATIENT AND LET GOD HELP YOU OUT, HE MIGHT JUST BE THE MR. RITE GOD MADE FOR YOU, BUT YOU DIDN'T LET US KNO IF HE IS A GRADUATE OR MECHANIC, AT LEAST YOU HE SHUD AV HIS OWN FIELD OF SPECIALIZATION.

DON'T DO WHAT YOU WILL REGRET IN D FUTURE, I WLD NT BE HERE TO ADVICE You ON HW TO WIN HIM BACK IF HE TURNS OUT TO BE YOUR GOD MADE HUSBAND

TAKE CARE

SAM MILLA:

98 % of ladies in Nigeria there rely on boys for money.
So you girls actually believe that its our responsibility to sponsor your needs.
He has no job. Thats why he relies on you. No guy likes women to spend for him. Believe me.
Keep helping him. Meanwhile i believe you love him, you said you don't know if you love him or not because he has no money, which also makes me suspicious of your personality. You could be one of this money girls.

Encourage him to get a job, help him too if you can and don't put money ahead.

A-40:

I would have called the dude a gigolo but he is slightly older than you but gosh at 31 i would play the devil's advocate here and tell you to dump him quick fast or at least give him an ultimatum

_Queenisha:

come o
where does this unemployed lover live?
In his mother's house?
at 31?
Lord have mercy!

a 31yrs old depending on a 24yrs old is very worrying
please dump his ass and move on.
My conclusion is based on the fact that he relies on you not just because he demands money for his upkeep or thereabout.

Save the money you are spending on him for your future because, when he does eventually get a job the probability of him cheating on u is somewhat high (again an assumption based on the fact that he probably likes you for the monetary things you provide) and if it does happen you Will probably curse the whole generation of men in this world and in turn find it hard for your heart to heal.

rampagain:

if i were to be married to this guy,and then along d way he falls into d hands of financial difficulties,i will gladly help

if i were to be dating to him,and then he gets broke,i wouldnt want to leave d relationship because of d finance,but i will if and i repeat if d guy sees it as "girl its ur right to take care of me,afterall u r going to be my wife"  then im walking d hell out


watch out and see if that guy will remain wt u when he makes it