Don't dump him just because you earn a poor salary! Dump him for not loving you or for not caring, No one knows tomorrow

[size=13pt]this story na fake jare
this girl dey fool u people, how much is she making herself
If she's supporting the guy, herself, his family, how much is left to pay the bills
I don't believe this cooked up yarn jare [/size]

my dear, if u lurv him, why do u want to dump him? pls dont. my simple advice for u is that keep loving him and try as hard to talk with him and see how both of u could look for a job for him. like the said, the devil u know is beter that the angel u dont know, who knows if the giy u want to dump him for, will destroy ur heart with playing you and other girls and at the end give u hiv. please my dear, just try and work out things with him. just try and think with him on what he can do and what ur money can start for him, pls do it. dont worry dear. everything will be fine. i promise u that, even if he does not get married to u, God will reward ur kindness with a sweet and beter man, becos his parent are praying for you already and I believe their is a reason u r in his life and family life. u can talk to me on this if u need more from me 018163730 or 08027580617 am ken.

@poster

leave him alone and face yr life. if he was asking for himself alone that will be understandable but to make u also spend for his family is like he is using u. run b4 its too late. , let him get a bigger job tomorrow, thats not yr problem . think about yrself first. u have land, shares , yr own family etc to invest on, too. a man that has pride (or should I say shame)will not make u spend for his family while he is not spending on yrs,to me thats riduiculuos. this is my opinion sha.
Girl look b4 u leap. But if u feal u cant leave him like that, then stop spending on Him and watch his reaction for sometime. That will show u if he wants u for money and sex and not love.
wish u luck. The truth about relationships is that there is no straight forward answer to everything. The way it works for one may not be the way it works for another, but in this case am yet to see LOVE in it. If u find there is no true love from him , QUIT.

Gamine:

Mr Georgee

Who are you?

Got a problem, take it up with me eh.

Maybe i ignored Your Yahoo Request

e no reach to enter pesin like this na.

Send me the Request again, i will accept this time

What do u mean i shuld send u my yahoo request agian, this beef is a lot more than that.
been following most of your responses on very sensitive issues like this, and the impression i get is so damn annoying that i begin to wonder to myself "how old u really are"
it is because of replies like yours that posters of threads say somethn like ""please if u dnt av any meaningful/reasonable contribution to make, please stay away""
look u need 2 prove to me that u are up to 16yrs old, even my 3yr old niece read this post and felt for the poster not to talk of a 14yr old

If you came across as Someone with just an iota of sense

i may have given you audience.

But your case is very sad.

Pity

Gamine:

If you came across as Someone with just an iota of sense

i may have given you audience.

But your case is very sad.

Pity

listen girl, i think you've got a serious problem on your hands, and God help you, break off the relationship, buti guess you're too scared of what would happen if you break up, if the sex is so good, then you might as well pay him for the sex whenever you need it and get the hell out of there, i'm a guy and i'll tell you something definitely thatif a guy is playing these types of games with you, he's not gonna marry you as a wife, don't say you weren't warned, It's me Dimaya

my dear, for me it depends on what u want as a person. its applicable to both sexes. i guess he is pulling u backward which is  not supposed to be and bear in mind that both of u don't think alike, let me explain.

if u bring a person (male or female) that is working and also (male or female) thats not working,,,, the reasoning or thinking is not and can't be the same,

Go look for ur pedigree thats the way i do my own things, won't even tell u anytin but rather start demanding from u which will make u uncomfrotable or think twice b4 demandin from me again,

i face does that have contributed immensely ( ur parent n siblings) and if u really want anytin from me then she  must then start contributing to gain from me, apart from that u take care of urself which will attract the people of ur pedigree.

(ITS HAS BEEN WORKING FOR ME AND STILL WORKING) DON'T BE SURPRISE I DO THAT BE ITS REAL.

by doing this u r trying to get what u want, IF U WANT THE BEST , INSIST ON THE BEST AND U WILL SURELY GET IT,

I DON'T BELIEVE IN RELATIONSHIP OR MARRIAGE  WITHOUT MONEY, THATS Y WE R EDUCATED SO PRATICE WHAT U READ AND GET THE MONEY,

IT DEPENDS ON THE WAY U WISH TO LEAVE UR LIFE. I HATE SURE WITH PASSION. SIMPLE

where is the poster from? is she a white woman or something?

i think u should dump this guy cos he has nothing to offer, all he is after is the money. as it is very obvious and wen the u cant afford to give him wat he wants he treats u like shit.

i know wat am talking about cos i have been there just dump him and carry on with ur life forget about the sex thing cos this is ur life u are talking about

Leilah:

where is the poster from? is she a white woman or something?

I think she is something

Next thing will be if the guy is Igbo man!!

lol

my dear,
just take it easy, but that man does not love you, for christ sake there are million and one things he can do with hismself to earn some money, if he didnt marry you, wont he feed and care for his family. its high time u start insisting he get a job cos if you have to give again, he will get an alternative.
goodluck

Am xtremly gutted by d way u reason.Frm ur mail,I cld c d only tin u ar enjoyin wit him is the sex.Anybody can giv u a gud Bleep if thats all u care abt.Leav him b4 its too late.By d tim he gets a job,he's going to jilt u and hav u ever thot abt dis?he's actualy spending the money u ar givin him on som1 else.dnt get me wron,der is nothin bad in helpin out bt I can feel he's exploitin u and au do u intend to cope in d marriag?he is d typ that wld be using his mind to calculat au u spend ur salary.Half a word is enuf 4d wise

get in contact with me and you worry no more, will try as much as i can to satisfy you both financially and in bed, lol

its always a mistake to share finances if you're not in a committed relationship i.e. engaged/married.

why should i spend money on a girl or vice-versa that i'm not sure about yet.

its not even a gender role thing, anyone who has no respect for themselves that they just beg willy nilly needs to be told where to walk.

@ Joichi

   Hey  how r u?  Mehn take it easy on yourself,  some  People here just talk and don't feel,  so you have to ignore the not so nice comments,
Why is everyone acting like they don't have guilty pleasures? and to the people that feel is not a true story. I see a lot of sincerity and anger in her post. Why would she make up such a story. My advice to you is this.   At the end of the day you wanted opinion and advices, you got the positive and the negative. which simply is the same   feeling you had/have before coming on Nairaland. Do what is  best for you,   "The only person you should never disappoint is yourself".

D guy is only what u can call a parasite!
When u dump him, watch how quickly he will attach himself to anoda girl.

ok, this is interesting

Jeez, See People trying to hook up with you (guys dropping their numbers/email address real quick), maybe you can substitute your bf with some1 on Nairaland.

do u no wat i feel from a guy's point of view i believe he is just taking of advantage of u, if he really loves u he wud do every thing possible to better his situation and take care of u and not the other way round. deny him this your largesse and u wud see that he wud start showing u his true side. my dear pls leave him b4 it becomes to late cos this guy does not love you.

Hey Babe, the bottom line is that you are being sentimental, what i think should matter to you is your future. incase you dont know, this is the ultimate decision you will ever make, you may think you're still young, i tell you, you're not. he is not ambitious &,

i guess you should wait for him to get a job and then see how much he'll perform, then if you decede to leave him having a job already, the being 'pompous' issue would'nt be there.

Goodluck Babes!!

Too much Mills&Boom

I sincerely don't blv the fact that ladies tends to spend the money this days in any relationship, hey i don't mean they stay in for the guy's money, No! what i mean is that they tend to spend their money on buying sumthing for the guy like his perfume,socks and other lesser things, but feeding the guy's family, aba,NO, its not done anywhere in Nigeria here.

its my own kindest opinion anywhere and its based on what i see.

girl you hv to dump the man ok, he is not meant for you, and he is not ready to change

Its obvious you feel nothing for this guy.

In as much as I would have advised you walk,it would make you feel better if you actually knew how the guy feels about you.

Try to starve him of the income(I mean deprive him of any money) and watch his reaction.

In my opinion, he is just being lazy.

You dont have to have a job to survive.A responsible guy would look for means to earn whatever he can even if its to be able to 'talk' in a relationship.

My 2 cents.

Ur man depends on u financially?? And u come on the internet to say it? D'u think u're the first chick in that position? U should be happy ur not one of those 99.9% over-dependent Nigerian girls, who want a man, not for emotional or otherwise security, but for material things he culd do for them. So he doesnt have a job, nor income, was he like dat when u met him? And u must've stuck with him this long, for a reason. U must share something special, other than the good sex, no? Relationships are meant to be a two-way street, one hand compliments the other, and if ur the one doing all the scratching now, then welcome to the club, maybe u'll appreciate what guys dating nigerian girls are going thru.

If indeed it feels good being with him, then hold on to that which u have, instead of looking for a perfect guy, with riches, cos its a very hard one, finding a guy like that, plus the icing on top. stay with him, support his dream, and one day, the whole thing'll turn around. trust me luv, good men are hard to find these days. And remember, no matter how long a nite is, there must come the dawn. Make e no be say na when u dump the guy, im go wax, no follow all these girls for naija. If na them get guy at their beck-and-call, wey go depend on them, them for no mind to wear the pants. For all ladies that've never felt like the man in a relationship, try it sometime, it feels good.

A blind love is infatuation, so u know what u are doing better than i do. but i will advice u back out of such relationship cuz the end might not be pleasing.

what a man can do, woman can do better
do it and dont complain

hi, how do u want it? i'm handsome, cooooooool, luvin, caring, i know the right spot and i'm not jobless.