Please people has this happened to any of u, oh the pain. how do u deal with it?

Why do you have to let them go?

How do u do, when you love someone so much and the person doesnt love? let it go and move on to life. kill yourself? No.

nice to share with u all, and thanks for the concern, This is the girl i wanted to marry, i have to let her go cause her parents want her to marry someone from their class(rich family), she didnt mind at first but later she broke, but she said she still loves me, but it has dragged for 2 years now, and i i want to move on with my life, and i broke is up, she cried, i was sad but. as they say love is pain.

dont know?

trust me, your life comes to standstill for a while but u'll get over them.

@hibans

that was a good answer, wen u love someone too bad you don't have to kill urself at all all u have to do is to move on with your life seeking the face of God for a new love and a man after ur heart, i've been there before and i know how it feel though its not easy to handle

It hurts but time will heal you.

''Omg nooooooo not another heartbreak story'' i said to myself when i read the topic.

You guys are killing me, now i am all emotional again, i cried the other day reading eveseh's post now this, why oh why always during my period, when my frigging hormones are all over the place , all this chemical inbalance and $hit

@Demethod
Pheeew ok i have let it out, Sorry about that Demethod, you been crying for 2 yrs? Oh boy! I am sorry, please you must ,''MUST'' expel , annihilate,squash every bit of memory or thing that reminds you of her and MOVE ON please, i know love sucks sometimes. Don't get me started , I am in a healthy place now or i would have unleashed my venom on the male population on this forum, sorry(mind wanders again) Stop every contact with her, meditate, chant, do whatever it takes to remove every trace of her from your brain. When you wake up in the morning and her names is the first word you utter, begin to rebuke! it like you mistakenly signed your life away to the devil himself.

Do what ever it takes, i am serious , take heart and be strong, and pleas don't take it out on the next sister that comes your way, abeg oo.

Sometimes the best way of showing someone we love them is to let them go. -- I still don't know who made that sentence. But i agree with him/her.

Shi1t happens, move on darl.

Aw all i can say is sorry that happened to you but there so many girls out there dont worry you'll find one soon just keep that head up.

sweetie i am in that same situation now, i know we have no future but we love each other, it is like a perminant heart break.

YES!!! it really hurts, but you truely you love them, you would let them go!!!

@bolty,

yeah, i knw its not easy to handle but talkin' out of experience. wuld u kill urself? nope

Thanks guys, its really sweat to hear ur views on this and to the sister going thru the same thing, u are so special, never 4get that. But she is still coming to hunt me, i i went to visit my mum and she was there talking to her. i have gotten over her anyway,but its as if she is stalking me, lots of messages on my phone all of a sudden. also fixing lunch dates for me and her to meet. wow

Coco29:

sweetie i am in that same situation now, i know we have no future but we love each other, it is like a perminant heart break.

im in the same exact predicament. i love him so much but i know theres no future together, so im like really torn on what to do at the moment. keep living a lie or just come out and say goodbye. i want to do the latter but dont know how. would hate to hurt him. help me people!

soulpatrol:

im in the same exact predicament. i love him so much but i know theres no future together, so im like really torn on what to do at the moment. keep living a lie or just come out and say goodbye. i want to do the latter but don't know how. would hate to hurt him. help me people!

i'm going through the same thing, except i dont love him oh, i like him a lot sha. funny thing is i can never be sure that the he feels the same way even though he says that he does. being together is next to impossible. but what can i do? im just going to walk away. everyday you wake up and ask God to give you the strength to keep walking away.

@ gigitte. i feel ya girl. what to do what to do

i feel you ,sometimes we just want to pretend this issue will sort itself out,but it is really very hard to let go.you keep on holding on.i have a friend who is in love with her boyfriend ,and she loves him very much,they both love each other but they have to split but that is what i don't understand,i thot love conquers all but i guess i am wrong but i think if you are determined and take note of what is hindering the progress of the relationship,work towards solving it against all odds,i think the % of splitting while you r stil in love will reduce. but gals,it ain't easy oh

demethod:

Thanks guys, its really sweat to hear your views on this and to the sister going through the same thing, u are so special, never 4get that. But she is still coming to hunt me, i i went to visit my mum and she was there talking to her. i have gotten over her anyway,but its as if she is stalking me, lots of messages on my phone all of a sudden. also fixing lunch dates for me and her to meet. wow

So, what did u do? went for the lunch?

All i knw is that "Love is not an easy thing" if u throughly love her, pray over it ask God if she is the real woman for u, and if she is not then u wuld let go.

Good luck anyway.

Hey, did her family get to know you? Sometimes we make hasty decisions. My family didnt want me to marry a muslim guy but after they met him, the rest is history. On the other hand, sometimes its just not meant to be. So you got to do what you gat to do and trust me, God will send you your own just ask.

ahhhhhhhhhhh people,it is a very terrible thing to love someone,but can't just help the person not going,my strucked me just this last friday,i suffered a serious heart-break,my was so crazy that could u believe my cheek walked me out in the presence of her current boy friend,in her own appartment,while i was weeping and begging her 2 plzzzzz,let us talk things over,infact when i got so persistent with the begging she even threatened to tell the boy to walk me out,if i persist.This is a girl that i can not count au many times i had slept with,in my house uncountable times,in her house,at the balcony,in her friends house at the decking,in her working place on the chair,just name it,i could not believe the entire scenario while it was going on,on friday,just because this boy has a 190 benz,a nasty camera phone,and some change to go with it,initially when i suspected the whole thing btw my girl and the guy,she claimed and still claims the boy is a yahoo boy,and that she is just a tool for the boy in his modus operandi of defrauding whites,well,what even baffles me the most is the fact that,besides these material things i conceded to this boy,honestly this is not about immodesty,every other thing,i am well ahead of the boy,which my cheek knows,but 4 the material things,hmmmmm,well,simply for the mere fact that since i graduated last 3 months i have been so broke,my girl's attitude changed,but thank god,my friends have been wiping my tears 4 me,with each of them telling me his own xperience,infact i could not bear it to the xtent that i told my mum,and my grand mum,and i am still roaring to tell any body that cares to listen,because i have discovered that the more i tell people,the more i get a little bit relieved,till now i still find it hard 2 swallow the fact that she is gone,my friends have told me to stop begging her 4 now and even 4 life,that she only want 2 catch her fun,that after some time she will come back to her senses,and she will be back crawling b4 me,hmmmm,all this episode i told u that happened in her house were just the anti-climax of it all,b4 that day,enough had happened,she had frustrated me 2 the core,but what will i do now,they have told me 2 leave her alone 4 now and perhaps 4 life,so people it is very difficult to ove someone and have to watch the person slip away.more of gist to come as time goes on.

Hey, if u nsay she luvs u and wants to marry someone else no wahala just hang in there. Just b her buddy and get the cheese from her or better still the sex.They say sex is sweet but stolen ex is sweeter. Abi People. Mind u u have to 2 hav the heart of mafia.Shouldnt b a prob 4 u as u be niger 4 real.

ike4real:

This is a girl that i can not count au many times i had slept with,in my house uncountable times,in her house,at the balcony,in her friends house at the decking,in her working place on the chair,just name it,i could not believe the entire scenario while it was going on,on friday,just because this boy has a 190 benz,a nasty camera phone,and some change to go with it

emm, emm 

chick is hard core, brotha!  and so are you, telling us all your nasty bidnis! whoa!

well some times u have to let go. its more painful than catching ur partner with another or other reasons why relationships end.

i had a personal one to deal with sometime ago. i had to let this guy go, i loved him but it was better to let him go.

it hurts but its better to let go

tank u people,i feel highly honoured partaining the replies i saw,but i must be sincere with u people it has been very difficult to stay without this girl,but i know i will have to try,but u know what,when i went to her office to ask 4 my passport that she took without my consent then,yesterday,when she gave it to me,i told her that look tosin i know 4 sure one of us will regret this,hmmmm,she said ahhhhh,infact she will love to be the one to regret it,as i was talking,she called the new guy on the block,to come over and pick her,she called on phone,while i kept talking,she did not even care whether anybody was standing or talking,she kept painting her lips and looking at the mirror,when i told one of her neighbours this thing the guy told me that he knows the boy well,that the boy finished 4rom ibadan grammer skool 2 years ago,that the 190 belongs to his dad,ahhh,when i heard all this i was close 2 tears again.

Found myself in the same issue once. Met and fell in love with this girl. Darn! Was she something! We went on for a while until finally she told me she had someone else and that they had been on for like 6 years. man! that hurt! I tried to move on with my life but it was not easy. She and me had been through a lot together and it aws like having a part of you yanked off. But I had to let reason prevail. She's with the guy now but I try not to contact her. The memories come flooding back each time I do.

in such case you realy have no choice but to let go if that love is there. you'll only wish him or her happiness, because you will never be happy knowin that he or she isnt happy where ever he or she is. for some one you love, i think you will have to take such pains just not to make things had for him or her but always make him or her undersatnd why you have to do so. when u love someone you can face hell for that person's joy if he or she is worth it.

Been there, done that! but i think i'll meet her soon, gawd i love her soooooo much




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4 ALL D HEATBROKEN PEEPS, i feel u, JUST GOTTA KEEP UR HEAD UP.

been there, don dat n still hurting.

Its been 2 yrs, met 2 girls yet d memory _{neva been so happy with any girl b4} of her still haunts me. Still hoping i can love dat way again.

Everybody just dey talk say them go let go!

What the fuc.k happens to DONT LET GO and defy all odds to make it work!!!!