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She Wants Me To Lie by adahib: 10:03pm On Jun 28, 2014 |
I created this thread the day nairaland crashed. Didn't get much inputs before that happened. Now I'm recreating the thread again to get your honest opinions. Thanks in anticipation. I've been dating this great lady for some time now and we love each other dearly. We intend to take it to the next level but there is this snag. She is born-again but I really don't care about religion. Don't get me wrong,i know the difference between right and wrong, and to the best of my ability,i do try hard to do what I consider right. We both know that once I approach her parents, one of the questions they will ask will be "are you born-again?". My answer will be a simple " no". She knows this and has been trying hard to get me to say yes but I don't see myself doing that. She says if I love her as i claim,i should answer the question in the affirmative but what would that make me? I know there is more than 80% chance of not receiving her parents' blessings if I say the truth and I really don't want to lose her. Right now, my answer still remains "no". Now my dear friends, what do you think? Do I lie or stand by what I believe in?(I'll rather do the latter). |
Re: She Wants Me To Lie by Ishilove: 10:23pm On Jun 28, 2014 |
Op, I wouldn't advice you to go into something as serious as marriage on a framework of lies. What if you say yes, and when finally you both get married, you don't live the lifestyle of the born again you claimed to be? Her family will know you lied to them and that is the beginning of unnecessary drama that is very unhealthy for the peace and well being of your marriage. My advice to you is stand your ground and for God's sakes do not lie. Let your yea be your yea and your nay be your nay. It will save you a whole lot headache later on. If they don't accept it, well then, so be it. It is better to go into the marriage with a clear conscience than start something you are not sure of finishing. And your born-again girlfriend should know that lying is the same thing as committing murder. She needs to re-examine her faith and beliefs. |
Re: She Wants Me To Lie by adahib: 11:02pm On Jun 28, 2014 |
Ishilove: Op, I wouldn't advice you to go into something as serious as marriage on a framework of lies. What if you say yes, and when finally you both get married, you don't live the lifestyle of the born again you claimed to be? Her family will know you lied to them and that is the beginning of unnecessary drama that is very unhealthy for the peace and well being of your marriage. You just said my mind... I mean building a marriage based on a lie? It doesn't seem very smart to me.. Thanks a lot. 1 Like |
Re: She Wants Me To Lie by SpaceGoat: 11:26pm On Jun 28, 2014 |
pleas advice https://www.nairaland.com/1790903/see-bad-girl-o tank u |
Re: She Wants Me To Lie by ERTHAENIGMA(m): 11:29pm On Jun 28, 2014 |
adahib: I created this thread the day nairaland crashed. Didn't get much inputs before that happened. Now I'm recreating the thread again to get your honest opinions. Thanks in anticipation.don't lie |
Re: She Wants Me To Lie by Ishilove: 1:18am On Jun 29, 2014 |
adahib:Not only is it not smart, it is also not the right thing to do. Wish you the best. |
Re: She Wants Me To Lie by adahib: 7:13am On Jun 29, 2014 |
Ishilove: Thanks ma'am |
Re: She Wants Me To Lie by adahib: 7:14am On Jun 29, 2014 |
ERTHAENIGMA: Okay.... |
Re: She Wants Me To Lie by Nobody: 9:08am On Jun 29, 2014 |
Don't lie,tell them you aren't,but not ruling out the possibility of been one...religion can be a sensitive issue in marriage. |
Re: She Wants Me To Lie by adahib: 12:43pm On Jun 29, 2014 |
Yomieluv: Don't lie,tell them you aren't,but not ruling out the possibility of been one...religion can be a sensitive issue in marriage. Makes sense.....thanks |
Re: She Wants Me To Lie by adahib: 10:26pm On Jun 29, 2014 |
Come on guys.... Kindly help a brother out please. |
Re: She Wants Me To Lie by 2goodbobo(m): 9:03am On Jun 30, 2014 |
If you stand by what you believe is right and answer "no" when her folks eventually ask you, hope you wont feel bad when you eventually lose her as a result of your response to the question?. #justthinkingoutloud Is not a good sign to start a marriage when both parties are not in agreement. Their must be compromise if you want your future with her to thrive. The question is, who is ready to sacrifice and compromise? BROS YOU SEF WHY YOU NO BELIEVE IN GOD NA? ;DU DEY MISS O 2 Likes |
Re: She Wants Me To Lie by adahib: 8:52pm On Jun 30, 2014 |
2goodbobo: If you stand by what you believe is right and answer "no" when her folks eventually ask you, hope you wont feel bad when you eventually lose her as a result of your response to the question?. #justthinkingoutloud Hahahaha....you are correct bro but we all can't share the same believes na |
Re: She Wants Me To Lie by dazz661(f): 11:29am On Jul 05, 2014 |
Be born again...... what do you really have to lose? |
Re: She Wants Me To Lie by adahib: 11:45am On Jul 05, 2014 |
dazz661: Be born again...... what do you really have to lose? Thanks for the advice but that's not the issue here. |
Re: She Wants Me To Lie by Nobody: 11:49am On Jul 05, 2014 |
adahib: I created this thread the day nairaland crashed. Didn't get much inputs before that happened. Now I'm recreating the thread again to get your honest opinions. Thanks in anticipation.bros, na thunder by fire she go dey do for night ooo.she no go ever let u sleep when she dey cast and bind all those mammy water dem and spirit husbands for night.shey u go fit bear dat one? |
Re: She Wants Me To Lie by Ishilove: 11:50am On Jul 05, 2014 |
adahib:How far? Have you resolved your issues with your woman? |
Re: She Wants Me To Lie by dre11(m): 12:23pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
Just say the truth an let ur mind, soul and spirit be at rest with you |
Re: She Wants Me To Lie by BluePearls(m): 12:28pm On Jul 05, 2014 |
Before I say my piece, I wanna ask you a question. What is your religion? You didn't say if you're christian or Muslim or even an atheist. 1 Like |
Re: She Wants Me To Lie by adahib: 10:14am On Jul 06, 2014 |
lefulefu: Bros I don reason this side of the matter oo. We get understanding for that one. Hahaha |
Re: She Wants Me To Lie by adahib: 10:15am On Jul 06, 2014 |
Ishilove: Not yet, we are still on the matter. I've told her where I stand. She is unhappy with it. Still trying to convince me though. |
Re: She Wants Me To Lie by adahib: 10:17am On Jul 06, 2014 |
BluePearls: Before I say my piece, I wanna ask you a question. What is your religion? You didn't say if you're christian or Muslim or even an atheist. I'm an agnostic. You can now contribute. Thanks |
Re: She Wants Me To Lie by scribble: 10:44am On Jul 06, 2014 |
bro i like your point my own babe na church going born again and im a home dwelling born again... i honestly dont see the big deal in church attendance im also not ready to change my belief that the church of God is beyond brick and mortar business centers we have these days in fact i wont budge... shes very religious...im very industrious 2 Likes |
Re: She Wants Me To Lie by scribble: 10:45am On Jul 06, 2014 |
bro i like your point my own babe na church going born again and im a home dwelling born again... i honestly dont see the big deal in church attendance im also not ready to change my belief that the church of God is beyond brick and mortar business centers we have these days in fact i wont budge... shes very religious...im very industrious i think its like one commenter earlier said...better to hold on to what you are and what u will not forsake than worry about keeping up appearances one is not even in a position to sustain. 1 Like |
Re: She Wants Me To Lie by hadizadeezy(f): 10:55am On Jul 06, 2014 |
Do anyting for ur gal,,,if she wants you to steal, plss do cos she's your one and only |
Re: She Wants Me To Lie by peterjero(m): 11:11am On Jul 06, 2014 |
@Op in every relationship there must be compromise, so standing your ground all the time is plain foolishness (no offence taken). If you love someone as you rightly said you should be ready to shift ground sometimes, these guys who tell you don't lie are they even married to tell you anything. Aren't you even giving your future a thought whether your kids will be born confused (just like you) on what religion to take. #beguided |
Re: She Wants Me To Lie by adahib: 1:07pm On Jul 07, 2014 |
peterjero: @Op in every relationship there must be compromise, so standing your ground all the time is plain foolishness (no offence taken). If you love someone as you rightly said you should be ready to shift ground sometimes, these guys who tell you don't lie are they even married to tell you anything. Aren't you even giving your future a thought whether your kids will be born confused (just like you) on what religion to take. #beguided I was tempted to respond to your post in like manner (with insults) but I then asked myself how would people differentiate the two of us if I did. So I'll rather take the advice and leave the rest. Thanks 1 Like |
Re: She Wants Me To Lie by adahib: 1:09pm On Jul 07, 2014 |
hadizadeezy: Do anyting for ur gal,,,if she wants you to steal, plss do cos she's your one and only Hahahaha... Thanks my sister but I really can't steal for anybody. That doesn't mean I won't do my utmost for her.. |
Re: She Wants Me To Lie by Nobody: 1:12pm On Jul 07, 2014 |
Their daughter is not born again so why wil they ask. |
Re: She Wants Me To Lie by Nobody: 1:36pm On Jul 07, 2014 |
Ask her to pray for you to come in contact with the Holy spirit so you can become born again as well. With God all things are possible. But God will help US. We the so called born again who are meant to draw people closer to God are making them drift away because of our selfish interests. 1 Like |
Re: She Wants Me To Lie by adahib: 2:35pm On Jul 07, 2014 |
sholasholala: Ask her to pray for you to come in contact with the Holy spirit so you can become born again as well. With God all things are possible. Me sef tire oo.. I think I need serious prayers oo. Not sure it'll work though..hehehehe |
Re: She Wants Me To Lie by Nobody: 3:07pm On Jul 07, 2014 |
So if you will not be born again, her parents will not give their blessings what next? |
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