aluta..hi

My husband this, my boyfriend that

Why do you still call him your boyfriend? You're already cheating emotionally

We cant tell you what to do. You need to set yourself in either one direction or the other lawfully, and live the consequences. Do not deceive him (your husband) further. Smh.

Ewuro1: So I endeared OP a little like a big sister would do and Dante dey get hot under the collar??
Is she naive, gullible and stupid?, YES. So now what? Throw her into lagoon or better in fireplace and end it all, so onlookers will know how holy and perfect we are??

Whether you like it or not, she still remains the vulnerable one all of this mess.
When emotional need is deprived in any marriage, situation like this is expected. So what's all the bruhaha all about??

Again.. OP sweetheart , Sit down with your husband, you both should talk and renegotiate his work schedule.
"Faith without works is doggone dead"



Where's COOGAR?? I miss him.

This gets interesting.
Your goddam lil' sister is married to a nice caring and loving man but she ain't satisfied with that. Her husband don't cheat on her neither does he beat her up. How does lil' sister repay her husband? She repays him by fecking her jobless ex boyfriend.
Certainly lil' sister deserves words of endearment for her 'decent' and 'exemplary' behaviour which all married and intending to marry couples should emulate in order to have a sweet and successful marriage.

See them making excuses for the despicable behaviour of this 'oponu' OP because she is a woman. Juxtapose this scenario and see the comments of the females change to something else.

Marriage sef ...*Yawns and falls back to sleep*

Dantedasz:

This gets interesting.
Your goddam lil' sister is married to a nice caring and loving man but she ain't satisfied with that. Her husband don't cheat on her neither does he beat her up. How does lil' sister repay her husband? She repays him by fecking her jobless ex boyfriend.
Certainly lil' sister deserves words of endearment for her 'decent' and 'exemplary' behaviour which all married and intending to marry couples should emulate in order to have a sweet and successful marriage.

See them making excuses for the despicable behaviour of this 'oponu' OP because she is a woman. Juxtapose this scenario and see the comments of the females change to something else.

And where in my comments on this thread did I approved her disgraceful behaviour? Yes she was veeryyyyy wrong ,we don hear but are we gonna continue chastising her till kingdom come OR move on to proffer a possible solution before that opportunistic bastard execute his brainwashing tactic and eventually have his way?

By the way Dante, who is " see them" en ? .. . Go and sit your crusty bottom in the naughty corner make I hear word jare.... yenyenyen

3pages of dancing around in circles & trumpeting SAME morbid comments...typical.

Ma tenu mo'ro bi osho

Ewuro1:

And where in my comments on this thread did I approved her disgraceful behaviour? Yes she was veeryyyyy wrong ,we don hear but are we gonna continue chastising her till kingdom come OR move on to proffer a possible solution before that opportunistic bastard execute his brainwashing tactic and eventually have his way?

By the way Dante, who is " see them" en ? .. . Go and sit your crusty bottom in the naughty corner make I hear word jare.... yenyenyen

3pages of dancing around in circles & trumpeting SAME morbid comments...typical.

Ma tenu mo'ro bi osho

Pay @Dante no mind my sister,he always tries to make everything look like the 9 circles of hell, his harsh repititions have driven the OP away from her thread and who knows what she will get up to next. I just hope she picks the positives and does not fall under the influence of that evil boyfriend again.

^^
So the OP is now the victim?
WTF? The cheating OP is now a poor mindless and naive victim being manipulated by the big bad evil boyfriend to have an affair with him? Wonders will never end.
Please while you females are on your spin mission,I suggest you spare a tiny thought for the real victim here who is the HUSBAND,that is being cheated upon by OP and her boyfriend.

This OP is never a victim here,because she is the one who exchanged vows with her HUSBAND.
In my opinion,this OP is not a victim but a cold calculating serial cheat. She just loves to feck the big black Anaconda in the BF's pants,simple.

i dont get all this gist on manipulation

The BF is already phocking this woman and people here be saying they dont want him to have his way ...

Puhleezeee


Okafors Law is in control

OP pls don't lose your husband for anything.
Only a handful among men will be patient with you like this and encourage you to communicate your feelings and needs to them.
I hardly know anyone that will even endure your chatting with your ex just because you say you reduced the frequency.
Chai. See the way he's even petting you when he thought you were pregnant.
Biko,pls,abeg. Don't lose this man for anything.

That your ex is a deciever. If he loved you,he wouldn't let you go easily in the first place.
He never loved you. His pride was probably wounded when you married someone else and now he's out to get his pound of flesh.
If you fall for it.
O dear lawd, you're goner and will regret it forever.


As for those wondering why there isn't a shouting match against the OP.
I'd say if it was a guy who created this thread with the sincere appeal for help because he's realized the wrong in his action,(just like the OP did) then the reactions would still be the same.
We only get pissed at the unrepentant ones who see no wrong in their actions.
Make una dey apply small sense before making accusations.

cococandy:


As for those wondering why there isn't a shouting match against the OP.
I'd say if it was a guy who created this thread with the sincere appeal for help because he's realized the wrong in his action,(just like the OP did) then the reactions would still be the same.
We only get pissed at the unrepentant ones who see no wrong in their actions.
Make una dey apply small sense before making accusations.

The above ain't true.
and no, it's not because the op ain't male, it's more like the tsunami brought back another NL.
the kinda lashing and judgment she would have recieved here, she for don vex marry the bf

Hmm.
Well that's what I think anyway because I don't see myself lashing out a repentant guy who's sincerely looking for a solution to his weakness.

Lol@tsunami
Maybe folks be recovering from it still

alutacontinua:

The above ain't true.
and no, it's not because the op ain't male, it's more like the tsunami brought back another NL.
the kinda lashing and judgment she would have recieved here, she for don vex marry the bf

cococandy:


As for those wondering why there isn't a shouting match against the OP.
I'd say if it was a guy who created this thread with the sincere appeal for help because he's realized the wrong in his action,(just like the OP did) then the reactions would still be the same.
We only get pissed at the unrepentant ones who see no wrong in their actions.
Make una dey apply small sense before making accusations.

Lies! Lies!! Lies!!!

Not lies.
I think it will take a very different type of insane to lash out at a guy who's repentant and seeking to right the wrongs he's done/doing.which I feel is the OP's reasons for creating the thread in the first place.
If she hadn't realized she was wrong,she wouldn't be troubled enough to seek help online.

I just think you need not be on the defensive.

Dantedasz:

Lies! Lies!! Lies!!!

cococandy: Not lies.
I think it will take a very different type of insane to lash out at a guy who's repentant and seeking to right the wrongs he's done/doing.which I feel is the OP's reasons for creating the thread in the first place.
If she hadn't realized she was wrong,she wouldn't be troubled enough to seek help online.

I just think you need not be on the defensive.

Defensive?
What are we saying and what is this one saying?

You're assuming the posters don't see anything wrong with her actions because she's a woman.

you think if it was a man the reactions would be different. You think so because you're a man.

You're already getting set to DEFEND any man who might find himself in such a situation.(Never mind that no one has defended her actions)
You're on the defensive!!!

Dantedasz:

Defensive?
What are we saying and what is this one saying?

How does one judge repentance..

From posts?..
Someone who has already done the do ...

OK oooooo

Were you there?
And even if she did the do is it too late to repent?

How do you judge repentance?

Well first she hasn't blamed her innocent husband for 'pushing' her to the other guy. If she did,I'd say she's trying to excuse her actions and as such not truly repentant.

But the fact that it bothers her is enough to show that her conscience is still alive. I'm sure she has taken good advice from here(unless she choses to reamin silly) and has done away with the other guy.

pickabeau1: How does one judge repentance..

From posts?..
Someone who has already done the do ...

OK oooooo

cococandy: You're assuming the posters don't see anything wrong with her actions because she's a woman.

you think if it was a man the reactions would be different. You think so because you're a man.

You're already getting set to DEFEND any man who might find himself in such a situation.(Never mind that no one has defended her actions)
You're on the defensive!!!

Right,you are now a psychologist and a shrink all up in my head?

..

And you were there to know how repentant she is and she is the innocent one being manipulated

Some women never take responsibility..

cococandy: Were you there?
And even if she did the do is it too late to repent?
How do you judge repentance?
Well first she hasn't blamed her innocent husband for 'pushing' her to the other guy. If she did,I'd say she's trying to excuse her actions and as such not truly repentant.
But the fact that it bothers her is enough to show that her conscience is still alive. I'm sure she has taken good advice from here(unless she choses to reamin silly) and has done away with the other guy.

Well she came forwrd na.
That's taking responsibility.

What would you rather we do? Shout her down?

pickabeau1: ..

And you were there to know how repentant she is and she is the innocent one being manipulated

Some women never take responsibility..

OK oooo

OP whatever you do, DO NOT I repeat, DO NOT Leave yo husband for "a boyfriend".
Its going to take time but channel all yo concentration, affection, imagination, passion and all the positive words that end with "sion-tion" to yo husband before one tiny witch outside takes him from u and makes u start praying midnyt prayer instead of eating kpekus by that time....
The " yo so called boyfriend" dsnt wish yo well....if yo marriage ends today, he will not marry u cos he has one small chick he is saving graciously to marry n will still be the one to refer to u as a divorcee....
Don't let this guy manipulate u like u ain't got no life of yo own....Yo owe him nothing as in NOTHING...

Lessons 4 all especially our ladies :1.marriage is between a man and a woman(not boy and girl)who are mature emotionally and financially.2.Your marriage can make or mar you .3.when you marry a man just because of money you are bound to regret 4.Money may bring happiness in marriage only TRUE LOVE BRINGS JOY .4.The greatest mistake in life is to make wrong choice in marriage 5.You don't marry because all your mates are getting marry .6.The choices you make today determines your tomorrow .7it is your duty to choose whom to marry not your family's right 8.Never marry a woman just because she is beautiful but for HER good CHARATER beauty will fade away.9it is difficult to know a woman that truly loves you when you are comfortable. 10.It is better to remain single and happy than to be married and live in regret and pains....continue .....

Oh Lord! See the way people are making mockery of marriage.