Scyllapatron: senseless thread..

Anugod:
Ha ha ha. Understanding matters. My people do it to safeguard their daughter's interests. Since they are not 'bought', no man has any right to maltreat them or demean their worth by treating them as common commodities.
As for being available, I have many sisters, cousins, nieces, etc that are nice, lol.

Alexk2:


i totall disagree with the fact that in most african culture, relatives who didnt know anything about how the lady grew up are the major beneficiary..i mean, the parents are only given a little fractn from the whole lot...
we should also ensure the burden are not too much on the guy since the bride isnt a commodity to be bought... in some culture (especially in the SS), bride price are mostly beyond par.

Anugod: In my place, we don't accept bride price.
The husband to be and his people will take a covered bowl of kolanuts to the elders (with money placed on top of the kolanuts). The elders will call the bride to be and ask her if they are permitted to eat the kolanuts, because if they do, the marriage is sealed as they cannot vomit the swallowed kolanuts.
However, they return the money because they do not wish to sell their daughter.

ITbomb: Rubbish, instead let's fine a way and stop white wedding, after the traditional wedding, the priest or Pastor should pray for the couple at the reception then they go and get registered at the court.

saints_1: I quite understand your points, but I see no reason why we should abolish our way of lives, values and what makes us unique all in the name of modernalization, instead I think we should abolish the white wedding instead.

Scyllapatron: senseless thread..

phiszo: What I am only against is exorbitant bride price and white wedding.

tom29reloaded:
the binis for example charge #25 as bride price. a friend of mine who married a yoruba girl from ibadan spent roughly 500k in buying stuff dat was just a list of items for his inlaw. dem dey sell their daughter. traditional marriage still surpassed any other weddings no matter what

iam_ord: I must say africa is loosing its place as the time goes by.. You blame it on the attitude of the black people..u see one reason why we don't move forward is because we are afraid of change.. All races have passed through what we r going through.. Some modified and threw out the ones that r not needed so as to customize the tradition for this generation and beyond.. But we over here.. Just like it that way .. Africa has lost its place in time..this time a lot of family members see the bride price as a chance to amass wealth.. And can kill for that.. A lot of irregularities go unchecked..and now the irregularities have become Part of the present tradition.. This is because black leaders and majority of the people are not intelligent enough to understand that there has to be reforms in all sectors of culture and traditions. to make it conform with present day .we lack vision..and very soon.. All history will be wiped out cos we don't learn

tom29reloaded: this thread starter is an online goat.

Anugod: In my place, we don't accept bride price.
The husband to be and his people will take a covered bowl of kolanuts to the elders (with money placed on top of the kolanuts). The elders will call the bride to be and ask her if they are permitted to eat the kolanuts, because if they do, the marriage is sealed as they cannot vomit the swallowed kolanuts.
However, they return the money because they do not wish to sell their daughter.

[b]Abiagirl;
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the thing dey vex me well well.
I did my trad since may but i can't stay wit him cos i hav to attend a 3
month marriage course in my husby's church b4 white wedding.
They hav done de 1st preg. Test and still told me i'll come back for
anoda one 1 wk b4 de wedding.
If not for God,hmm

Tic4tac: This is complete Rubbish joor... Y sld we always adopt d white man's system.. I tire OOO

ITbomb
True, a girl recently told me that I need to sit up, that the bride
price and everything in their community is about N2m and since the
father is dead, it might be easy to negotiate as the heartless extended
family would capitalise on the father's absence and impose unreasonable
things.
I told her that my village people don't even like to marry from their
side and that ended the story. Utter rubbish, make I suffer for another
man wey no contribute anything to chop

shaggy007:

The smartest man on earth, do I look like someone that has the time to read a useless article? The topic says it all.

If you went to a good school, you should know that when the topic of an article starts which a question, it means you are free to answer, whether you read the article or not.

Smelly confused Aboki.

chucky234: Only clod like you would referred to the said article as a useless thread, our major problem in Africa is tribal difference and thats what the writer want us to reform in order for us to be united as a people.
The writer is also not in support of the total eradication of the traditional marriage but urging us to do away with unnecessary exubetant bride price which indirectly sold women into domestic slavery.
Finally only a discombobulated birdbrain would comment without reading through an article and to me defines your status as a certified ABOKI.