lofty900: we are complaining of scarcity of nice girls and sum guys are maltreating dia own. my dear come back to naija and fix ur lyf. let him rot in jail

MojAyo: thank u,dear,I'm already in nija,I've leave him alone for what problem he may face

lofty900: wen u get to sa, get a lawyer and file a restraining order against him. he will avoid u or go back to jail

MojAyo: tanx dear,I heard all what u said,his mum is planning on how to send money for him for his release vry soon,cos he was sentenced to 2years imprisonment,my mum and his mother want us to come back together,I knw what I went through when I was still in sa with him,even when I was 8months pregnant,he beat me black and blue,telling me he dnt want me or the baby,dats its better d baby comes out now,even the head of d baby can't pray for him ,I think dats why his life is so worthless now,and also what he did to me re now reflecting in his life now, he called me today dat I'm there enjoying in nigeria,and he is suffering inside a prison here,I told him dats what he choose to do in his life,then he said I should never call him again,what am I even calling in him,a useless irresponsible person,I thank God dat God remove me frm his problem

MojAyo: My story goes from here,my parents force me to go and look for a husband becos they can't spend on me again,I dated someone thinking he is a good person cos he showed me love and care and also make me financially balanced,while nt knwing dat d business he is doing is nt good,one day he started shouting at me,dat escalated into physical abuse ,I had a problem with where I'm staying,I move in with him bt d abuse escalated,he started beating me everyday,tearing my clothes,collecting my money(mind u,I was working then)he sold all my properties I bring into his place with all my bb phone,till I said it enough,then I moved out,one thing led to d other,he started calling me and begging me back,I went back(becos of love)I fall pregnant for him and d abuse escalated again frm there,I can't take it anymore and my parents said I should move out frm there,dat they re even d one sending me money for my upkeep,till I deliver,dis guy didn't do a cent in my life and d babys life ,becos of d frustration I came to home to my parents cos of my financial upkeep,I'm in my parents house,now I'm hearing dat he is inside prison(dat he went to rob a white man)people pls I need ur advice maybe tocontinue with dis relationship or quit for good

cococandy: Very good.
Pls don't go back to him.
Someone who beat u black and blue at 8months pregnancy can kill you.
An armed robber can kill.
Don't listen to your mother and your MIL.
I'm sorry to say African females palce too much premium on marriage. They can advice you to go die in marriage rather than be a single mom. That's how the judgemental and harsh society has conditioned most of us..
No marriage or man is worth dying in/for.
Yours is fine that you're not even married yet. So pls nothing holds you there.
When he's out of prison he can visit his child if he wants(that's if he can manage to not commit another crime that will take him back to prison)
Find something positive to do with your life,love and care for your child and before long you'll be happy you left him.
The lord is your strength.

kennyman20: With the look of things, it seems the op parents and the guys parents have a convenant of making the op and guy compulsorily marrying eachother or else something bad will happen which op parents doesn't wants to happen. Hence, the op parents enforcing the op to go back to the guy. I think that's where the problem lies.
Op, if I may ask u. Have u ever sense or experience something fishy btw both parents?

mobuch:
U r a big F L, and F LS don't get advised

Godmystrength: If I may ask, please what's between ur mummy and his mummy that they are so bent on having you guys back together at all cost. Hope there is nothing fishy?

delpee: Start something/look for a job to generate some income and move on. Don't risk your life to please anyone. I don't see any love in your relationship based on your story. Your parents have their views but no one can live your life for you.

freecocoa: My eyes must be deceiving me o, did I read that the dude's in jail for robbery and you are asking whether to go back to him?

Where will you people even continue the relationship, in jail or where? I'm confused walai.

MojAyo: he will soon come out of jail,as his mother is running around for bail money to send to his child(mind u dis child is a drug addict and a drunker also)I was thinking of going back becos of d future of my child

freecocoa: Oh! I see, just what kind of future do you think your child would have with a drunk/junkie?not forgetting he is also a thief.

My sister I find it hard to believe your story, forgive me my dear, I just find it quite shocking that a girl who knows all these about a guy, will still consider raising a child with him(well except maybe the girl is the dumbest of her kind or is mentally unstable) no offense to you.

MojAyo: mind u,they dnt knw each other frm Adams,its just becos of d baby dat made them to knw each other

ManTiger: Understand this...
You never needed a relationship, you were presurized into it.
You never thought indept about this man but you were overshadowed with his spending on you.
You age here is not a deciding factor, fact is you seek help and you need help...
My help and advice for you is to stay strong, be industrious enough to cater for your needs and that of your baby.., if you must stay with him, let him take a proper route. But... We Nigerians are known to stay-put in an abusing relationship.
In Fela's voice: if you die, you go die for nothing...

MojAyo: yes dear,I use to tell him on phone to change,dat if he can't change all his bad behaviour,then we re gone for good,when I get back to sa,we won't stay together as a couple,bt I will only let him to visit me and our child,and if he does change his ways and started working back,then we will live together for good and as a couple

Godmystrength: I was actually referring to what you said your mum and dad said. But I thot u said earlier that "I
dated someone thinking he is a good
person cos he showed me love and
care and also make me financially
balanced" when did you now become the one feeding him?