shoefreak: @Topic: no its not. What's wrong about it? But if you meant whether or not it is wrong for married women to hug married men, well, not when his wife is there (courtesy) and don't let it linger (precaution). .

why not do it when his wife was there when u believe and considered it the right thing to do

tatiana009:

Nairaland is that land of absurdities just like Nigeria

It sure looks like it from reading the posts on this thread.

Kini big deal

Mutaino7: abeg make we hear word..abi is it not d same white that nearly crucify will smith for allowing his daughter to take a photograph with a half naked twenty year old friend of hers that's even known to d family.. D outrage was so mush that social security officers had to come visiting for questioning fo 2wks or so... Dats d modern world for u even innocents gesture can land u in trouble...

common sense. How does this even connect to the topic. Can you allow a 20yr old 'friend' to enter your daughter's bedroom? For africa here? Epic fail

Acidosis:

So when civilisation demands that you walk unclad in the strreet, what will you do?

Your analogy is far from sanity. Get help!

Absolutely wrong,no more no less

Most annoying thing is that people that are saying it is wrong don't have a tangible reason or a well grounded fact to support it

This settles it.

loswhite: the annoying part is you knw to a certain degree dat your girlfriend is cheating and you accuse you her self she go come say you are insecure smh... Modern day girls

That's one reason why you should always be one step ahead of them and be on top of your game ,Let them know that they can't fucck around and expect not to pay the price.

Most of these girls are very deadly and woe betides you if you are naive and unassuming.

Have you been with a fling doing nasty things whilst she is on phone with her boy friend ,telling the fool that she has been sleeping all day?

Nowadays girls are cunning,deceitful and Jesus!!! they lie without thinking......But when they lie to crooks like us we always know.

My friend do not trust any woman ,I repeat do not trust any woman, just have a normal relationship,do your best and love her , pray for the best and always hope for the worst.

It depends on d kind of woman one's married. Marriage shd b based on trust otherwise it may cause quarelln always.

Truckpusher: That's one reason why you should always be one step ahead of them and be on top of your game ,Let them know that they can't fucck around and expect not to pay the price.

Most of these girls are very deadly and woe betides you if you are naive and unassuming.

Have you been with a fling doing nasty things whilst she is on phone with her boy friend ,telling the fool that she has been sleeping all day?

Nowadays girls are cunning,deceitful and Jesus!!! they lie without thinking......But when they lie to crooks like us we always know.

My friend do not trust any woman ,I repeat do not trust any woman, just have a normal relationship,do your best and love her , pray for the best and always hope for the worst.

you this man, na wa for you o......so, you still dey for this thread since morning going up and down.....you like arguement sha........anyway, i love your spirit sha......

greatgod2012:


you this man, na wa for you o......so, you still dey for this thread since morning going up and down.....you like arguement sha........anyway, i love your spirit sha......

Lmao.....I wasn't on this thread since morning Infact, I have actually slept for close to 7 hrs.

I do not like argument at ,but I also do not like people stuffing ideologies into my head

Oya no vex again eh, Ngwanu give me the Hug naa since oga no go mind

Honestly, I see nothing wrong with huging a man or a woman, its just that sometime u might be huging a man or woman that is sick
and start behaving abnormal or trying to get their grove on. Anyway, its advisable for a man not to hug another man wife and vice versa.

bosunjohns: Dear NL members, I need your opinion on this issue. Is it wrong for a married woman to be hugging a man? Whether or not in the presence of her husband? I observed a man today who was really angry at his wife for hugging another man in a social event. Your views are appreciated. Thanks.

Onlinebizexpert: Hugging with her hands abi with her thighs .....make i know wia to start dey comment from

Badt boy

Because not every woman can think like I do, so I will spare my friend the trouble of a nagging wife over a mere hug. I can't be married to a husband that will think a hug is more than a hug btw. But if he has issues with any of my male friends, i'm sure we'll talk about it and I will (might, maybe) stop then if the reason is good enough for me.

But if it's a wife that I'm close with, then I definitely will.

That's why.

temmym4:
why not do it when his wife was there when u believe and considered it the right thing to do

Yomieluv: well said. case closed. Thread locked.

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Lawprince:

Don't derail. The thread here is more about the morality of the act, and stop quoting some feminist theories.
From my moral perspective, Only a moral bankrupt person hugs an opposite sex who isn't a relation, Coz hugging is a form of intimacy. What happens to a respectful handshake? The world has really gone skoin skoin... Abnormalities now norms.

. Wat is so derailing abt dis her comment? Na wa wa o

just to be clear, we are talking about breasst to chest hug right?

if so, then for me, unless its a very VERY close relative, in laws, siblings etc, a married man/woman has no business hugging an opposite sex. simple. its only a perverted mind that would harbour such intentions.

And someone will later open a new topic...

"I Am Married, I Hugged Another Man Who Is Not Relative. My Husband Did Not Say Anything.Normally, He Is Supposed To Get Jealous Or Say Something But He Did Not- Is Anything Wrong With Him Or Is He Getting It Somewhere Else? "

Such a lengthy and and... topic

Which one we go do wen una no go complain?

Hug get different types O! Intimate hugs, full side hugs and half side hugs. If d person isn't a known family member and na intimate hug that is full body na red flag. I no go talk but alarm go trigger, and homework 2 follow. If I find out its her person 2 dey hug bear everywhere na im be say I go warn am seriously and educate am on hugging styles.

Whew! Y'all are just reading meaning to something that is completely harmless.

I hug my friends, male or female, married or single. Heck, I give them pecks too. Because It's a form of greeting and no rubbish is inwardly abhorred. Yes, you don't go hugging strangers regardless of his status, a nice firm handshake should do but we talking about friends, are we not? Now, you guys just wanna cause tension btw friends.

*hey, if you are reading this, don't mind them. It is when you don't hug them that they would start thinking you had other intentions and that may just cause you a good friend. Well, unless you tell them why and not just withdraw from the usual 'friendly' hug! **rolls eyes**

Well, Y'all are stuck up. Why don't we just start giving ourselves passing nods then, huh? It's more appropriate.

Get your mind outta the gutter!!!!! It's just a flipping hug!!!!!! Eeiissshhh!!!

FYI, that 'relative' may just be the one that's been frying your wife's burger.

No. It is not.

flyca:

Madam, easy o. No dey too brag. Every marriage is different. Because he hasn't told you yet, doesn't mean he is OK with it.

Lawprince:

Don't derail. The thread here is more about the morality of the act, and stop quoting some feminist theories.
From my moral perspective, Only a moral bankrupt person hugs an opposite sex who isn't a relation, Coz hugging is a form of intimacy. What happens to a respectful handshake? The world has really gone skoin skoin... Abnormalities now norms.

Thank you!

Seems she(married woman) hugs every man who comes her way.

HARDUBUY: Quranically not allowed.
Biblilcally not allowed
Traditionally allowed
civillization allows
etc
where do they belong.

What part of the Bible says that?

Giftedgreen: this is fine

Dis one no even good, eyes contact dey..anything still fit happen

Truckpusher: That's one reason why you should always be one step ahead of them and be on top of your game ,Let them know that they can't fucck around and expect not to pay the price.

Most of these boys/men are very deadly and woe betides you if you are naive and unassuming.

Have you been with a fling doing nasty things whilst he is on phone with her girl friend ,telling the fool that he has been sleeping all day?

Nowadays boys/men are cunning,deceitful and Jesus!!! they lie without thinking......But when they lie to crooks like us we always know.

My friend do not trust any man ,I repeat do not trust any man, just have a normal relationship,do your best and love him , pray for the best and always hope for the worst.

same goes for the men.Not just a woman thing. It is a human thing.

@OP- Nothing wrong with a hug and also many things wrong with it. You know your spouse. You married him/her. You know what he/she wants. So be wise.

If you know you like to hug opposite sex and can't do without it, please DO NOT get married to someone that can't allow it.

It is WRONG.That is ADULTERY in disguise.
A decent and responsible woman with the fear of God in her would not do such

@cococandy]There are different typed of hugs[/quote]
Can u expanciate?

A simple hug with arms on the broad of each others backs and Not more than a few seconds is an acceptable form of greeting.

But a lingering hug with arms resting on her waist line or hung around his shoulders for more than 30 seconds is inappropriate.

SHOCK7: @cococandy]There are different typed of hugs
Can u expanciate?

[@cococandy]A simple hug with arms on the broad of each others backs and Not more than a few seconds is an acceptable form of greeting.

But a lingering hug with arms resting on her waist line or hung around his shoulders for more than 30 seconds is inappropriate.
[/quote
C'mmon we talking of a hug here what 'ld be so dangerous even though he puts his hands on her waistline,peps who haven't seen themselves 4 years do it out of shear happyness.it's really 'ur mindset at dat moment,its no BIGGIE!

It doesn't matter how long they've not seen each other for.
The relationship between them remains what it is.
If you have intimate inclinations towards someone,it shows in how you hold them

But it's no biggie. Goodnight

SHOCK7: [@cococandy]A simple hug with arms on the broad of each others backs and Not more than a few seconds is an acceptable form of greeting.

But a lingering hug with arms resting on her waist line or hung around his shoulders for more than 30 seconds is inappropriate.
[/quote
C'mmon we talking of a hug here what 'ld be so dangerous even though he puts his hands on her waistline,peps who haven't seen themselves 4 years do it out of shear happyness.it's really 'ur mindset at dat moment,its no BIGGIE!

[@cococandy]It doesn't matter how long they've not seen each other for.
The relationship between them remains what it is.
If you have intimate inclinations towards someone,it shows in how you hold them

But it's no biggie. Goodnight[/quote]
Likewise u do 've a point,but u don't 've a pic on 'profile wanted 2 see who am arguing with.