This ur write up should make sense when properly arrange. I hope u make necessary corrections , make it concise pls.

Theses girls ain't loyal. Expect anything. l guess using your head/brain over your heart is the way forward jare.

Bringbackoursummary

Odilafta: Abeg who help me see Okoro

.on his way to Sambisa to save d Chibok gals.

Very unorganised write up

So men withdraw emotionally because they aren't emotionally mature to handle their emotions--which is in essence foreign territory to them.

Right

If you guys could only take a little time to read the post...The op made a whole lot of sense... Just read...It might look disorganised but just read it

Zedric: I never read my book finish, na dis one i go come dey read?

i tire oo

Op is right, He is Talking about a real man, not players i Guess Some of us Are shy to Accept the truth.

chymystique: Nice write up Op... I like it but sometimes it could mean the man has lost interest or he is not sure of what he wants..
Liberty24 come and complete the post u don't expect me to click on that link!

You are right but Losing Interest is not very correct, also Note, a man Knows what he Wants

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Best post on Romance thread, i still read it over again.

It will help you emensely, if you calm down and read the article and assimilate, not minding the length.

Most folks that contributed positively here are matured and real dudes/gals

Let us hear from the Horses mouth here

O boy dis ur story too long o...i no fit finish am

Haba! But I really don't believe that piece is too long o.
Back to the post, Ignorance of this things is why most ladies lose their relationship. They want to have it all from their respective man, forgetting they are imperfect themselves.

Women set the example and emotional tone that allows their partner to feel safe.

When a man faces a woman who is emotionally stable, it allows him to understand his own emotions. The depth of understanding that the woman has with herself and her own emotional nature will give him the security to express and unveil his own strengths. The woman who is emotionally secure brings a presence of emotional security to the relationship.
A well meaning man will appreciate this and do his best, and grow faster and reveal the depths of his spirit with increasing strength and confidence.
Granted, the ideal is that a man can figure out his emotional state and come into his own emotional maturity through his own self-generated willpower.

Yet the reality is that teachers, guides and mentors accelerate this process and help a person navigate the confusing and mysterious realms of emotions. There are a great many pitfalls and bewildering mirages when it comes to the shifting sands of sensitivities. And as man learns his emotional state, he is also facing the additional challenges from his friends, family, and world that challenges that awakening at every step.

The woman who is insecure with her own emotions will see a man who withdraws as a threat and denigrate him and go on the attack. This is the antithesis of supportive behavior. She may not realize that he is a man who is brave beyond measure to face his own soul and bare his spirit with vulnerable trust. When a man doesn’t respond as she needs and demands at the emotional level, lashing out will only cause harm. Gentle understanding and compassionate acceptance brings healing and deepens the relationship.

One of the best qualities women have is the ability to nurture. Nurturing is not aggressive. And with a man, directing aggression at him will generate an aggressive response. He will either fight or run. The flight or fight response is deeply ingrained into every human being. In essence, attacking a man who is opening his heart will trigger a survival level instinct.

Once that survival level power fully awakens in relationship, the dynamics in the relationship changes and may never come back to equilibrium.

Nurturing is not forceful, instead it is accepting and allows for a natural growth curve. Be patient.

Just as a tree takes time to come into its fullness and blossom, a man who is learning to embrace his deeper truths will need time to fully ripen into his potential.

Appreciate the men who take the time to stand up against society to discover, feel, live and unleash their sensitive side. It takes a lion’s heart full of courage to face down societal expectations and programmed beliefs.

Give him gratitude, honor his spirit, thank him for being available with his sensitivity in ANY way that he is able. Such a person is one of a kind, a warrior in the truest meaning of the word.

Source:elephantjournal.com

Carmall: Haba! But I really don't believe that piece is too long o.
Back to the post, Ignorance of this things is why most ladies lose their relationship. They want to have it all from their respective man, forgetting they are imperfect themselves.

Lol, that's Not the writers view, I'll find Time to summarize this write up.

Also read the last part i Posted, he also highlighted what women can do to help men.

Let's face it and tell ourselves the truth... This writeup won't win any awards!!

Cool stuff. Resonates with me although I think that the author leaned more toward making excuses like one failing at a responsibility than they should have.

Men, whether we blame it on conditioning or genes, are designed not to be overly emotional. We are designed to be a rock and a stay. We are not designed to waver and change with the weather. Men's maturity is in dependability not in "sensitivity". That latter is for the woman. The emotions that men are most conversant with are essentially appetites - anger, sexxual passion, hunger, determination. All of this make achieving the point of manhood possible. Sensitivity and a poking around inside another person's psyche negates them because when a man is unsure about anything his function as a man begins to fail.

None of that means that attempting to be understanding is wrong, unacceptable or unworthy of the energies of a man. It only means that a man's part is not to be forever attuned to the subtle changes in another person because he will be frustrated not being equipped for that. But he can choose to remain a rock no matter what mood his woman is in. She should be able to count on him to cover her no matter what. When she wants to talk, his ear should never be far. When she isn't up to talking, his shoulder should be near. When she has no idea what's going on and which way is up or down she should be able to take her bearings from him.

Emotion does not make a man. It is, in fact, apt to ruin him if he does not take it in hand and rule it.

Personally!! Personally!!!,this writeup is Habatically!,Some men o gbadunkally! You dey talk of Emotionally!!.

Women are funny beings

ihedinobi2: Cool stuff. Resonates with me although I think that the author leaned more toward making excuses like one failing at a responsibility than they should have.

Men, whether we blame it on conditioning or genes, are designed not to be overly emotional. We are designed to be a rock and a stay. We are not designed to waver and change with the weather. Men's maturity is in dependability not in "sensitivity". That latter is for the woman. The emotions that men are most conversant with are essentially appetites - anger, sexxual passion, hunger, determination. All of this make achieving the point of manhood possible. Sensitivity and a poking around inside another person's psyche negates them because when a man is unsure about anything his function as a man begins to fail.

None of that means that attempting to be understanding is wrong, unacceptable or unworthy of the energies of a man. It only means that a man's part is not to be forever attuned to the subtle changes in another person because he will be frustrated not being equipped for that. But he can choose to remain a rock no matter what mood his woman is in. She should be able to count on him to cover her no matter what. When she wants to talk, his ear should never be far. When she isn't up to talking, his shoulder should be near. When she has no idea what's going on and which way is up or down she should be able to take her bearings from him.

Emotion does not make a man. It is, in fact, apt to ruin him if he does not take it in hand and rule it.

Good Points, but i think the writer is referring to the initial stage of the relationship, when they successfully win the initial Drama, the man will be comfortable and become the "Rock" you are describing

Mrcdorv: Personally!! Personally!!!,this writeup is Habatically!,Some men o gbadunkally! You dey talk of Emotionally!!.

Psquare cousin abi

fiverrwin: Women are funny beings

Lol, but the writer is actually Revealing the roles of a woman in relationship Especially at initial stages.

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D more I read d more confused I get,so I stop reading it,its monday morning,its early 2 get confused

dagr8:
I think we should hear from the Donkeys mouth first

lolz...Abeg Horse fi mi le...Donkey cannot speak atm

Abeg I no read am finish Werrin OP dey talk?

dagr8:
lol...o serious

Copy and paste material. This stuff is nt comprehensive at all. I av better things to read than this shit!