Women are pretentious beings,they see tears as a means to invoke. Compassion

Smartsyn: Some cry because they will be limited to one man for the rest of their lives...

Funny dude! We never know tho, you may be right. Nigeria ladies are diff from all other on the planet. Hehehehe

No, I didn't cry.

MzMariah: When my sister got married she cried, she cried to the extent that my dad, mum and siblings started crying too.I was like what's going on? that was on the day of her traditional marriage. after her church wedding's reception they stated again, it was not funny to me anymore as I became scared.

I'm going to cry on my wedding day because the fear of even leaving my parent someday is already scaring me. Leaving my parent to a new house entirely were I won't be seeing my family, it won't be like the way it was before , leaving were I grew up and all

* Oh lord I'm already crying*

Dad's Baby! .You must be a conservative, and I think that's a good thing.

i did not cry oooo cos i left my parents a long time ago, from school to nysc to work in lag and all of that. buh for the first 2 wks its like i was on visit to my husbands house and hence d tot of living anytime soon. buh got used to it later

usqoh: During the gud old days, when Sex before marriage is discouraged and a taboo, Women cry tears of joy.

But not this present world when both parties have been cohabiting and fornicating in hundreds of time.

U cant c modern women crying again. U all should fear God. In Islam and Christianity, Fornication is one of the biggest sin.

For all Virgins who abstain from sex before marriage because of God. Paradise is our abode . Amen /Amin.

So virgins don't commit other sins?

salaksmana: Even those who haven't been with there parents and siblings for years cry, those who don't like there parents and have even wished them death cry, those who are already spending most of there time praying for husband cry, those who are already living with the man cry. I think there can't be a specific reason for it, but most of the time, not all, it is just a bandwagon effect.

Bandwagon effect?.you are kidding, right?

phiszo:
So virgins don't commit other sins?

no mind those virgins, they think because they don't fornicate on a natural level, they are Gods gift and treasures to the world or holier than thou , yeye dey smell,

SOME social critics believe that our social values are part of what is disturbing our society. It means that if we feel disenchanted with the economy and political plundering, we should as much be upset with the current social ills and culture. Reshaping these values may well be the hole we need to block in order to get out of the whole quandary which has wrapped us for years. Images of extravagant marriages and wedding ceremonies are common and they remind us of several of the areas our society is being screwed.

Admittedly, marriage is considered as an exceptionally significant institution which dates back centuries ago. Nevertheless, the origin of wedding is not very clear and seemingly, there was no law governing it until societies began to incorporate it in their culture.

Evidently, what was dominant during the regime of our forefathers is the traditional engagement where the prospective groom and his relations would go to their bride’s home to pay her parents some money, commonly known as the bride price. The payment is to convince the bride’s parents that the groom is capable of taking care of their daughter. And once that was done, a day would be secured for escorting the bride to the bridegroom’s house. Surely, there were associated engagement events but not on the scale we see today. Currently, the extent of wedding events is truly undefined and wide; usually dependent on cash, influence and families.

There is no gainsaying that wedding ceremonies as they now happen are one of the eggs laid and hatched by the whitemen during the colonial era. Today, one sees a different pattern which neither agrees with our culture nor the pace and content of our development.

No doubt, the hope of every man and woman is to one day come to terms with that originally ordained institution by God, nuptial. However, as young teenagers progress in life, the desire grows deeper. Once a young man has completed his university education and gains employment, the next thing is the cultural pressure to be joined to someone. So as soon as he sees a lady who can possibly pair with him for life, the contemplation and plan for the wedding begins.

By and large, every girl’s profound dream is about being a queen on her wedding day. Agreed that wedding is supposed to be an intriguing affair but should millions of naira be squandered to thrill people some of whom would come bearing expression of deprivation and grief. In many homes where much has been expended for the occasion are relatives, who despite their struggle, have not been able to cross the line of destitution.

Most commonly cited reasons for excessive weddings range from the event being one-time in life and the need to make it memorable to the fact that it is the only way would-be couples could make each other glad. Unfortunately, while many dispose part of their belongings to foot the bills or defray already borrowed money, others go entreating their close relations and friends to lend them helping hands in order to bring their desire to past. The only objective being that they would want their wedding to be the talk of the town.

Invariably, breakdown of expenditure for weddings varies but ranges from dowry, drinks, food, dresses, decoration to rings, jewelry, halls, mobility, cake and bands. Average wedding in Nigeria could cost as much as N500, 000.

Abroad, it could be up to $25,000 (N4.2 million). A wedding which took place in Australia in June 2006 (Nicle Kidman and Keith Urban) cost up to $250,000 (N42 million). The couples’ guests got take-away clocks which cost about $350 (N60,000) each. The popular footballer, David Beckham and Victoria Adams spent about $800,000 (N144 million) for their wedding and rings alone cost $200,000 (N36 million) circa. It is undreamed-of that even Elton John and David Furnish, the popular gay partners who got wedded in 2005, the first week that same-sex civil union was legalised in Britain, spent about $1.5 million (N270 million) for that provocative bash.

It is understandable when these things happen overseas but not in a land where every family is like a local government council, providing for itself accommodation, light, water, drainages, roads etc. An average person’s need for money in developed countries is less as most of the facilities for life comfort are provided by the government at affordable rates. Therefore, they can afford to spend huge sums of money on weddings and holidays.

Areas would-be couples spend most vary. To some, it is wedding gown and coat and to others it is refreshment and cake. Elsewhere, it could be security and bands. Many would want to see their wedding being fit for the sons and daughters of Kings and Queens or even a Presidential royalty. Some want their guests to be in hundreds and others a thousand plus.

While some bridegrooms favour suit directly imported from Paris or America and pairs of shoes from Italy, some brides would want to appear in a flapper-inspire full length white gown, whether or not they understand the essence of the colour, adorned with intricate beads and silver or golden encrusted flower patterned headband attached to the veil.

The real exhibition usually begins from the procession at the church entrance. Some of the wedding gowns are more than 10 feet from the foot, and the best lady must maintain the expected distance. Such brides’ steps are calculated and sluggish to ensure everyone takes cognizance of the perceived gorgeous off-the shoulder gown and possibly Jamaican hairdo. Some would-be couples would ensure that the band at the reception is top rate, with a household name. The cake is usually distinguishable by the colour, steps, decoration and height. The chefs must not be the ones patronised by every Tom, Dick and Harry.

Often, it is the prospective bride, with little or no interference from her parents, who drags the would-be bridegroom into such infinite and insane outlay. Be that as it may, the next couples should pick up a big lesson from the wedding of Liza Minnelli and David Gest which took place a few years back and is believed to be the most luxurious then and perhaps till date. At that wedding, 850 guests attended while the popular late musician, Stephen Wonder featured as one of the entertainers. Some 500 staff workers were temporarily employed to bring the event to life. Total spending hit $3.5 million (N980 million). And guess what, only a year after, the couple parted. What an indignity and waste? In Nigeria too, divorce rate within the first five years of marriage is claimed to be up to 50 per cent, so why all the hullabaloo?

Notably, the essence of marriage is to live together and procreate in fulfillment of God’s declaration. Prospective couples should focus on life after the wedding and know that the days ahead could mean nothing but thoughtful mystifying encounters and the realities of life instability.

Critics need to be convinced why Nigerians should not restrict themselves to the old traditional style of marriage whereby the bridegroom would pay the dowry and without elaborate ceremonies take his bride away. It is important that people should appear at our weddings but a few numbers to witness them should suffice. I have observed weddings overseas where there were no more than 10 in all, inclusive of relations and friends. Priorities are vital. Guests should be few and the things would-be couples already have should be used. Let us remember that there is countless number of people out there who require help and we cannot continue to lavish money in the name of weddings.

•Written by Henry C. Edebeatu
Henry C Edebeatu is a senior consultant, HnH Consulting, Lagos (Tender Management Group).

LOL@ these posts
I needed the laugh.

I highly doubt I would cry...

herald9: To me,
They cry cause they've scored the winning goal of their life...

pls marriage is not every woman's winning goal in life.it is only like that for those that have no ambition

I will cry like there is no tomorrow oh....

Make my Chief bridesmaid beta buy 2packs of hankerchief

Homguy: Dad's Baby! .You must be a conservative, and I think that's a good thing.

Lol. I love my family.

...d thought of dat day already makes ma eyes misty. Na popsy go cry pass...I know dt. It breaks my heart dt I'd have to leave them some day

I cried wella with my mum even when they were escorting me to my hubby's side I was still crying in the car

So I heard later that night she wanted to send someone to get her something from her room and she called my name only for someone to tell her that I'm no longer here now. Then she started crying all over again

Now I am a mother I totally understand and I sure say na me go cry pass for my daughter wedding

ifyalways: I no cry oo.

how u go cry wei ur heart na KPOMO.

BananaBender: Won't you cry too if you were being sold into slavery??


Abeg, let them cry.

hahahahahahaha abeg no kill me with laff ooo

Smartsyn: Some cry because they will be limited to one man for the rest of their lives...

no more ARISTO

My thought
It is because, they feel that they have been exposed publicly
and now, their private runs has been blocked and if they now try to mess around like they have been doing before, the society will call them names like unfaithful adulteress etc and the thing they pepper them for body so, they cant help but to cry it out.
No ofiyensis o

.

Yes! But l think its just emotional something, especially when they are praying for you, but l've started crying before the D day becuase l'm the 1st born, thank God now so far so good

Its not that easy after spending over 25 years with their parents and siblings...Now they're moving into another strange home and strange family members with different orientation and beliefs.Seeing their parents and siblings then becomes once in a while/Months,most especially relocating to other States.They have to shed tears....

BananaBender: Won't you cry too if you were being sold into slavery??


Abeg, let them cry.

like....seriously.. Who's being enslaved in a marriage, the guy or the lady?

MAYOWAAK: SOME social critics believe that our social values are part of what is disturbing our society. It means that if we feel disenchanted with the economy and political plundering, we should as much be upset with the current social ills and culture. Reshaping these values may well be the hole we need to block in order to get out of the whole quandary which has wrapped us for years. Images of extravagant marriages and wedding ceremonies are common and they remind us of several of the areas our society is being screwed.

Admittedly, marriage is considered as an exceptionally significant institution which dates back centuries ago. Nevertheless, the origin of wedding is not very clear and seemingly, there was no law governing it until societies began to incorporate it in their culture.

Evidently, what was dominant during the regime of our forefathers is the traditional engagement where the prospective groom and his relations would go to their bride’s home to pay her parents some money, commonly known as the bride price. The payment is to convince the bride’s parents that the groom is capable of taking care of their daughter. And once that was done, a day would be secured for escorting the bride to the bridegroom’s house. Surely, there were associated engagement events but not on the scale we see today. Currently, the extent of wedding events is truly undefined and wide; usually dependent on cash, influence and families.

There is no gainsaying that wedding ceremonies as they now happen are one of the eggs laid and hatched by the whitemen during the colonial era. Today, one sees a different pattern which neither agrees with our culture nor the pace and content of our development.

No doubt, the hope of every man and woman is to one day come to terms with that originally ordained institution by God, nuptial. However, as young teenagers progress in life, the desire grows deeper. Once a young man has completed his university education and gains employment, the next thing is the cultural pressure to be joined to someone. So as soon as he sees a lady who can possibly pair with him for life, the contemplation and plan for the wedding begins.

By and large, every girl’s profound dream is about being a queen on her wedding day. Agreed that wedding is supposed to be an intriguing affair but should millions of naira be squandered to thrill people some of whom would come bearing expression of deprivation and grief. In many homes where much has been expended for the occasion are relatives, who despite their struggle, have not been able to cross the line of destitution.

Most commonly cited reasons for excessive weddings range from the event being one-time in life and the need to make it memorable to the fact that it is the only way would-be couples could make each other glad. Unfortunately, while many dispose part of their belongings to foot the bills or defray already borrowed money, others go entreating their close relations and friends to lend them helping hands in order to bring their desire to past. The only objective being that they would want their wedding to be the talk of the town.

Invariably, breakdown of expenditure for weddings varies but ranges from dowry, drinks, food, dresses, decoration to rings, jewelry, halls, mobility, cake and bands. Average wedding in Nigeria could cost as much as N500, 000.

Abroad, it could be up to $25,000 (N4.2 million). A wedding which took place in Australia in June 2006 (Nicle Kidman and Keith Urban) cost up to $250,000 (N42 million). The couples’ guests got take-away clocks which cost about $350 (N60,000) each. The popular footballer, David Beckham and Victoria Adams spent about $800,000 (N144 million) for their wedding and rings alone cost $200,000 (N36 million) circa. It is undreamed-of that even Elton John and David Furnish, the popular gay partners who got wedded in 2005, the first week that same-sex civil union was legalised in Britain, spent about $1.5 million (N270 million) for that provocative bash.

It is understandable when these things happen overseas but not in a land where every family is like a local government council, providing for itself accommodation, light, water, drainages, roads etc. An average person’s need for money in developed countries is less as most of the facilities for life comfort are provided by the government at affordable rates. Therefore, they can afford to spend huge sums of money on weddings and holidays.

Areas would-be couples spend most vary. To some, it is wedding gown and coat and to others it is refreshment and cake. Elsewhere, it could be security and bands. Many would want to see their wedding being fit for the sons and daughters of Kings and Queens or even a Presidential royalty. Some want their guests to be in hundreds and others a thousand plus.

While some bridegrooms favour suit directly imported from Paris or America and pairs of shoes from Italy, some brides would want to appear in a flapper-inspire full length white gown, whether or not they understand the essence of the colour, adorned with intricate beads and silver or golden encrusted flower patterned headband attached to the veil.

The real exhibition usually begins from the procession at the church entrance. Some of the wedding gowns are more than 10 feet from the foot, and the best lady must maintain the expected distance. Such brides’ steps are calculated and sluggish to ensure everyone takes cognizance of the perceived gorgeous off-the shoulder gown and possibly Jamaican hairdo. Some would-be couples would ensure that the band at the reception is top rate, with a household name. The cake is usually distinguishable by the colour, steps, decoration and height. The chefs must not be the ones patronised by every Tom, Dick and Harry.

Often, it is the prospective bride, with little or no interference from her parents, who drags the would-be bridegroom into such infinite and insane outlay. Be that as it may, the next couples should pick up a big lesson from the wedding of Liza Minnelli and David Gest which took place a few years back and is believed to be the most luxurious then and perhaps till date. At that wedding, 850 guests attended while the popular late musician, Stephen Wonder featured as one of the entertainers. Some 500 staff workers were temporarily employed to bring the event to life. Total spending hit $3.5 million (N980 million). And guess what, only a year after, the couple parted. What an indignity and waste? In Nigeria too, divorce rate within the first five years of marriage is claimed to be up to 50 per cent, so why all the hullabaloo?

Notably, the essence of marriage is to live together and procreate in fulfillment of God’s declaration. Prospective couples should focus on life after the wedding and know that the days ahead could mean nothing but thoughtful mystifying encounters and the realities of life instability.

Critics need to be convinced why Nigerians should not restrict themselves to the old traditional style of marriage whereby the bridegroom would pay the dowry and without elaborate ceremonies take his bride away. It is important that people should appear at our weddings but a few numbers to witness them should suffice. I have observed weddings overseas where there were no more than 10 in all, inclusive of relations and friends. Priorities are vital. Guests should be few and the things would-be couples already have should be used. Let us remember that there is countless number of people out there who require help and we cannot continue to lavish money in the name of weddings.

•Written by Henry C. Edebeatu
Henry C Edebeatu is a senior consultant, HnH Consulting, Lagos (Tender Management Group).

Haha, damn tooooooo long, u could av just summarize it.

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Lols! Me I do wonder what makes them cry o!
When my elder sis got married last 2years, she and my other siblings were just crying!
Omo, come see cry o!
I was like, ''what make these people cry this way?
Because I know this my very sister left the country since 2003 and only comes back once in few years. When she went back in 2009, they didn't cry but now that she will be going with her hubby for just a while, they are crying.
Me, I didn't want to be left out in the crying so, I forced myself and started crying with them.
Not untill the whole drama ended, I asked my siblings what really made them cry and they said nothing. They said,
''The bride was crying and we didn't want her to feel she didn't mean much, so, we had to force tears out''. LOL!

MAYOWAAK: SOME social critics believe that our social values are part of what is disturbing our society. It means that if we feel disenchanted with the economy and political plundering, we should as much be upset with the current social ills and culture. Reshaping these values may well be the hole we need to block in order to get out of the whole quandary which has wrapped us for years. Images of extravagant marriages and wedding ceremonies are common and they remind us of several of the areas our society is being screwed.

Admittedly, marriage is considered as an exceptionally significant institution which dates back centuries ago. Nevertheless, the origin of wedding is not very clear and seemingly, there was no law governing it until societies began to incorporate it in their culture.

Evidently, what was dominant during the regime of our forefathers is the traditional engagement where the prospective groom and his relations would go to their bride’s home to pay her parents some money, commonly known as the bride price. The payment is to convince the bride’s parents that the groom is capable of taking care of their daughter. And once that was done, a day would be secured for escorting the bride to the bridegroom’s house. Surely, there were associated engagement events but not on the scale we see today. Currently, the extent of wedding events is truly undefined and wide; usually dependent on cash, influence and families.

There is no gainsaying that wedding ceremonies as they now happen are one of the eggs laid and hatched by the whitemen during the colonial era. Today, one sees a different pattern which neither agrees with our culture nor the pace and content of our development.

No doubt, the hope of every man and woman is to one day come to terms with that originally ordained institution by God, nuptial. However, as young teenagers progress in life, the desire grows deeper. Once a young man has completed his university education and gains employment, the next thing is the cultural pressure to be joined to someone. So as soon as he sees a lady who can possibly pair with him for life, the contemplation and plan for the wedding begins.

By and large, every girl’s profound dream is about being a queen on her wedding day. Agreed that wedding is supposed to be an intriguing affair but should millions of naira be squandered to thrill people some of whom would come bearing expression of deprivation and grief. In many homes where much has been expended for the occasion are relatives, who despite their struggle, have not been able to cross the line of destitution.

Most commonly cited reasons for excessive weddings range from the event being one-time in life and the need to make it memorable to the fact that it is the only way would-be couples could make each other glad. Unfortunately, while many dispose part of their belongings to foot the bills or defray already borrowed money, others go entreating their close relations and friends to lend them helping hands in order to bring their desire to past. The only objective being that they would want their wedding to be the talk of the town.

Invariably, breakdown of expenditure for weddings varies but ranges from dowry, drinks, food, dresses, decoration to rings, jewelry, halls, mobility, cake and bands. Average wedding in Nigeria could cost as much as N500, 000.

Abroad, it could be up to $25,000 (N4.2 million). A wedding which took place in Australia in June 2006 (Nicle Kidman and Keith Urban) cost up to $250,000 (N42 million). The couples’ guests got take-away clocks which cost about $350 (N60,000) each. The popular footballer, David Beckham and Victoria Adams spent about $800,000 (N144 million) for their wedding and rings alone cost $200,000 (N36 million) circa. It is undreamed-of that even Elton John and David Furnish, the popular gay partners who got wedded in 2005, the first week that same-sex civil union was legalised in Britain, spent about $1.5 million (N270 million) for that provocative bash.

It is understandable when these things happen overseas but not in a land where every family is like a local government council, providing for itself accommodation, light, water, drainages, roads etc. An average person’s need for money in developed countries is less as most of the facilities for life comfort are provided by the government at affordable rates. Therefore, they can afford to spend huge sums of money on weddings and holidays.

Areas would-be couples spend most vary. To some, it is wedding gown and coat and to others it is refreshment and cake. Elsewhere, it could be security and bands. Many would want to see their wedding being fit for the sons and daughters of Kings and Queens or even a Presidential royalty. Some want their guests to be in hundreds and others a thousand plus.

While some bridegrooms favour suit directly imported from Paris or America and pairs of shoes from Italy, some brides would want to appear in a flapper-inspire full length white gown, whether or not they understand the essence of the colour, adorned with intricate beads and silver or golden encrusted flower patterned headband attached to the veil.

The real exhibition usually begins from the procession at the church entrance. Some of the wedding gowns are more than 10 feet from the foot, and the best lady must maintain the expected distance. Such brides’ steps are calculated and sluggish to ensure everyone takes cognizance of the perceived gorgeous off-the shoulder gown and possibly Jamaican hairdo. Some would-be couples would ensure that the band at the reception is top rate, with a household name. The cake is usually distinguishable by the colour, steps, decoration and height. The chefs must not be the ones patronised by every Tom, Dick and Harry.

Often, it is the prospective bride, with little or no interference from her parents, who drags the would-be bridegroom into such infinite and insane outlay. Be that as it may, the next couples should pick up a big lesson from the wedding of Liza Minnelli and David Gest which took place a few years back and is believed to be the most luxurious then and perhaps till date. At that wedding, 850 guests attended while the popular late musician, Stephen Wonder featured as one of the entertainers. Some 500 staff workers were temporarily employed to bring the event to life. Total spending hit $3.5 million (N980 million). And guess what, only a year after, the couple parted. What an indignity and waste? In Nigeria too, divorce rate within the first five years of marriage is claimed to be up to 50 per cent, so why all the hullabaloo?

Notably, the essence of marriage is to live together and procreate in fulfillment of God’s declaration. Prospective couples should focus on life after the wedding and know that the days ahead could mean nothing but thoughtful mystifying encounters and the realities of life instability.

Critics need to be convinced why Nigerians should not restrict themselves to the old traditional style of marriage whereby the bridegroom would pay the dowry and without elaborate ceremonies take his bride away. It is important that people should appear at our weddings but a few numbers to witness them should suffice. I have observed weddings overseas where there were no more than 10 in all, inclusive of relations and friends. Priorities are vital. Guests should be few and the things would-be couples already have should be used. Let us remember that there is countless number of people out there who require help and we cannot continue to lavish money in the name of weddings.

•Written by Henry C. Edebeatu
Henry C Edebeatu is a senior consultant, HnH Consulting, Lagos (Tender Management Group).

story for the God's

justi4jesu: I will cry like there is no tomorrow oh....

Make my Chief bridesmaid beta buy 2packs of hankerchief

I'll be there to wipe ur tears baby, dats y am the right man for u

Ngseralph: [color=#000000][/color]
Lols! Me I do wonder what makes them cry o!
When my elder sis got married last 2years, she and my other siblings were just crying!
Omo, come see cry o!
I was like, ''what make these people cry this way?
Because I know this my very sister left the country since 2003 and only comes back once in few years. When she went back in 2009, they didn't cry but now that she will be going with her hubby for just a while, they are crying.
Me, I didn't want to be left out in the crying so, I forced myself and started crying with them.
Not untill the whole drama ended, I asked my siblings what really made them cry and they said nothing. They said,
''The bride was crying and we didn't want her to feel she didn't mean much, so, we had to force tears out''. LOL!

lwkmd

My senior Sister did in 1997 i can now remember that day.She was crying my Mother was also crying lol.

Bigsteveg:

I'll be there to wipe ur tears baby, dats y am the right man for u

Can i see ur ferrari?

dhammyg:
pls marriage is not every woman's winning goal in life.it is only like that for those that have no ambition

And not every woman is over ambitious to the extent that they begin to spend money on toyboys and console themselves that they don't need a husband.