Here’s a typical scenario of how the friend zone situation is for most guys.

You meet a girl. You hit it off pretty well. You start being friends. You kinda feel that she kinda has a thing for you, but you’re too scared to make a move. You get an opportunity to take the relationship to the next level, but you’re still too scared so you don’t do anything. Time passes. You’re still friends. You have a great time whenever you’re together, and you’re closer than ever with each other. When you FINALLY do get the courage to say or do something, she delivers the ultimate blow: “I just want to be friends.”

So now you’re trying to find out how to get out of the friend zone and stay out of it, for good.

Is there any hope for you? Fortunately, the answer is a resounding “YES!”

For most guys, getting out of the friend zone usually means that you had a chance at the beginning, but then somehow, some way, for some reason or the other, YOU BLEW IT. You took a wrong turn somewhere, and ended up in the dreaded friend zone.

Trust me I’ve landed in the friend A COUPLE OF TIMES ever since I started liking girls at teenage age. So what do you do now? Here, I’m going to share with you some simple steps on how to get out of the friend zone. Follow them and drop your testimony here later

1.) Accept the reality of the situation.

No begging or pleading for her to give you a chance. She made a conscious decision to not be anything more than friends with you, and no amount of convincing will change her mind. Instead, we’re going to approach the situation by working on her irrational and illogical side. Don’t withdraw yourself, but you’ll do much better if you start putting less focus on her and more focus on you at this stage of the process.

2.) Improve yourself.

There is no single person in this world who can’t use a touch of self-improvement. Start lifting weights. Start eating healthy. Learn something new. Try out some sports. Get that adrenaline pumping through your veins. Trust me, you’ll feel much better about yourself and gain more self-confidence, and you’ll look better in the process (if you decide to work out).

3.) Have fun with other people.

You cannot and should not put all your eggs in one basket, EVER. Even your mum must have told you at some time. Start meeting some people. Your friends have friends who have friends of their own — work different social circles. Meet girls and learn how to flirt well. Ironically, the more women you meet, the better you will do with the girl you’re trying to escape the friend zone with. The more jealous she gets, the better. Girls easily get jealous, take note of that.

4.) Ask her out on a Non-Date.

Now the game begins. If she’s hesitant to go out with you on one-to-one basis, start asking her out on Non-Dates. A Non-Date is basically a get-together where you ask her to accompany you doing something that you would do anyway. Something like picking up some stuff, buying some fast food, watching some movies together etc. She’s more likely to go with you than if you ask her to go to dinner.

5.) Flirt with her.

The number one reason guys can’t get out of the friend zone is because they don’t realize that it’s a matter of sexual attraction; or rather, the lack of it. So start teasing her playfully. Start with playful compliments until you can eventually move on to flirting that’s more sexual in nature. If I notice that she put on a maybe revealing wear, my favorite line is, “You cannot put that on around me any more, because I’m afraid that one of these days I won’t be able to hold control myself and do something BAD.”

6.) Emphasize your sexuality.

If you failed to make a move before, then you can’t be Mr. Touchy all of a sudden — she’ll know what your doing. Start slow with casual touches on the arm, or the small of her back. Then graduate to hugs. If she talks about other guys, then talk about other girls and be very graphic. Make sure that she knows that you are a man who doesn’t repress his sexual urges (it's okay...nothing will happen).

7.) Make your move.

If you do steps 5-7 well enough, you will find that you’ll be gradually escalating. Your flirting becomes more sexual by nature, she starts being touchier with you, and your dates become more serious. By the time that this happens, you have done well. To accomplish your mission of getting out of the friend zone, you MUST make your move. There is no way in hell that she is going to be making the first move, but she will be giving you hints that it’s okay to do something now. Do not be a fool and miss this second chance! When opportunity knocks, open the door and pounce on it.

And that’s it! I know it’s VERY simplified, but that’s the basic process that you must follow from beginning to end if you want to know how to get out of the friend zone. It took me many years and one or two heartbreaks to finally figure it out, but this very process has miraculously worked for me every single time I have tried it.

Please drop your testimonies and your own steps here lets help ourselves kick this friendzone thing out once and for all

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7 steps?

1 easy step to get out of the friendzone.

Stand in front of a mirror, look yourself in the eye and say "she's not into me" 77 times. At the end dress up, go out and meet other people/get a life and stop obsessing. Works every time.

Very well said. I blew it with my first love/crush who went on to Nollywood. I still beat myself each time I see her on the screen.
Although I never got back to unfriend-zoning myself, I have never let myself get anywhere near that dreaded zone with subsequent girls. Lesson well learnt.

watchthisposter: 7 steps? 1 easy step to get out of the friendzone. Stand in front of a mirror, look yourself in the eye and say "she's not into me" 77 times. At the end dress up, go out and meet other people/get a life and stop obsessing. Works every time.

It's not as easy as that bro''

ChildofChukwu: Very well said. I blew it with my first love/crush who went on to Nollywood. I still beat myself each time I see her on the screen.
Although I never got back to unfriend-zoning myself, I have never let myself get anywhere near that dreaded zone with subsequent girls. Lesson well learnt.

Loool...That's the spirit

watchthisposter: 7 steps?

1 easy step to get out of the friendzone.

Stand in front of a mirror, look yourself in the eye and say "she's not into me" 77 times. At the end dress up, go out and meet other people/get a life and stop obsessing. Works every time.

Hahahahahahahahahaha! Help me i can't stop lmao


On a serious note though, some friend zoned guys actually start to get more appealing when they stop obsessing. Oh wait, that only works if you were never fully friend zoned

ayukdaboss:

It's not as easy as that bro''

Actually it is. If you have any respect for yourself.

watchthisposter:

Actually it is. If you have any respect for yourself.

Have you walked down the friend zone path before?

UjSizzle:
Hahahahahahahahahaha! Help me i can't stop lmao


On a serious note though, some friend zoned guys actually start to get more appealing when they stop obsessing. Oh wait, that only works if you were never fully friend zoned

Have you been friendzoned before?

ayukdaboss:

Have you been friendzoned before?

By a guy? Yes. Sucked real bad but i liked him any way so i liked my butt and stayed his friend.
I think he likes me now though

If its not friends with benefit am not interested..........this nl lady lynpetra is ma kinda target

UjSizzle:
By a guy? Yes. Sucked real bad but i liked him any way so i liked my butt and stayed his friend.
I think he likes me now though

Of course by a guy. Or do girls friendzone girls too?

Onlinebizexpert: If its not friends with benefit am not interested..........this nl lady lynpetra is ma kinda target

Really??
Hope you don't get internet-zoned

ayukdaboss:

Have you walked down the friend zone path before?

Hmmm lemme see...

There was this one girl in school once, before I could/would ask her out, somehow we just hit if off and before I knew it I found myself in her room at night with her with me on her bed, just gisting about stuff - we were friends!... when she started asking me for advice on whether or not to date some guy who was asking her out I saw what was happening and sneakily orchestrated it so that we began to "drift" apart and stopped seeing each other so much, and the obsessing naturally eased over time.

*edit* did I mention she was wearing something really sexy? Everywhere was cool and quiet, we were alone in her room in school at night, just discussing.

If anybody thinks I'm going to bear that kind of torture just to be "friends", you are dead wrong.

ayukdaboss:

Of course by a guy. Or do girls friendzone girls too?

Uh huh
Guy there's a whole thread dedicated to friend zones on the home page.

watchthisposter:

Hmmm lemme see...

There was this one girl in school once, before I could/would ask her out, somehow we just hit if off and before I knew it I found myself in her room at night with her with me on her bed, just gisting about stuff - we were friends!... when she started asking me for advice on whether or not to date some guy who was asking her out I saw what was happening and sneakily orchestrated it so that we began to "drift" apart and stopped seeing each other so much, and the obsessing naturally eased over time.

LOL @Bolded

No am not commotin


I love the side peck she dy always gimme

You try to have a romantic relationship with a guy but you guys aren't compatible enough to make it work
You realise that you guys can be friends but a romantic relationship is out of the question
So you become good friends
I don't consider that friend zoning
I see it as being realistic

zeemoore: You try to have a romantic relationship with a guy but you guys aren't compatible enough to make it work
You realise that you guys can be friends but a romantic relationship is out of the question
So you become good friends
I don't consider that friend zoning
I see it as being realistic

Most friendzoned guys don't get the opportunity to try a Romantic relationship and later find out that it ain't gonna work thereby resorting to being "just friends". They get friendzoned from the start. No chance to try any romantic shit

Prowizy2:

Since you've decide to be there forever. . Goodluck

osheeeeeeee

ayukdaboss:

Most friendzoned guys don't get the opportunity to try a Romantic relationship and later find out that it ain't gonna work thereby resorting to being "just friends". They get friendzoned from the start. No chance to try any romantic shit

Most of them didn't get friendzoned by the girls
They decided to friendzone themselves, hoping for a miracle to happen

A girl tells you she can't date you and can only be your friend and you are like ' I won't give up on you, I'll be right here by your side when you finally get dumped by that d^ckhead
You start playing the role of a fool in love, you switch to your mumu mode
Two months...four months...eight months gone and she didn't get dumped by the d^ckhead
You wake up one day to discover you wasted eight months doing 'I fit die untop your matter eh baby o' and the babe sef no gree give you face
You start telling anyone who cares to listen how a particular girl friendzoned you when you actually friendzoned yourself

zeemoore:
Most of them didn't get friendzoned by the girls
They decided to friendzone themselves, hoping for a miracle to happen

A girl tells you she can't date you and can only be your friend and you are like ' I won't give up on you, I'll be right here by your side when you finally get dumped by that d^ckhead
You start playing the role of a fool in love, you switch to your mumu mode
Two months...four months...eight months gone and she didn't get dumped by the d^ckhead
You wake up one day to discover you wasted eight months doing 'I fit die untop your matter eh baby o' and the babe sef no gree give you face
You start telling anyone who cares to listen how a particular girl friendzoned you when you actually friendzoned yourself

lmao...I'd rather die than kill myself

chrisvilla:
lmao...I'd rather die than kill myself

Biko, don't die on me

Tip 4 all friendzoned guys...
¤GET A LIFE!!¤¤

zeemoore:
Biko, don't die on me

lols,ur igbo dey tripz me walahi

zeemoore:
Most of them didn't get friendzoned by the girls
They decided to friendzone themselves, hoping for a miracle to happen

A girl tells you she can't date you and can only be your friend and you are like ' I won't give up on you, I'll be right here by your side when you finally get dumped by that d^ckhead
You start playing the role of a fool in love, you switch to your mumu mode
Two months...four months...eight months gone and she didn't get dumped by the d^ckhead
You wake up one day to discover you wasted eight months doing 'I fit die untop your matter eh baby o' and the babe sef no gree give you face
You start telling anyone who cares to listen how a particular girl friendzoned you when you actually friendzoned yourself

True though. You cracked me up @Bolded

Seems you've been friendzoned before

chrisvilla:
lols,ur igbo dey tripz me walahi

No

ayukdaboss:
True though. You cracked me up @Bolded
Seems you've been friendzoned before

watchthisposter: 7 steps?

1 easy step to get out of the friendzone.

Stand in front of a mirror, look yourself in the eye and say "she's not into me" 77 times. At the end dress up, go out and meet other people/get a life and stop obsessing. Works every time.

Chaiiii