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Re: Why Are Some Marriages So Boring? by Nobody: 10:06am On Jul 12, 2014 |
Acidosis:you see. Chai... butterfly love go die In one year. Smh! Tufiakwa!!! Lonely Boring housewife routine go come start!!!! God forbid evil!!! He HAS to know how to be crazy ooo! I'm shy and my weird traits are suppressed cos of it, and no way I'm doing shy again fa. Bring out the inner serial cuckkoo in me, I say! 3 Likes |
Re: Why Are Some Marriages So Boring? by princesschloe: 10:07am On Jul 12, 2014 |
gunners160: Huh it all depend on the both couples.thisdays,most people go into marriages with the sole aim of jst getting a child and that's all.sori to say, religion to also has a role in this boringness they tel couples dnt do this, dnt do dat, dnt date a guy/lady jst pray and your partner wil fall 4rm heaven.to make matter worst some religion tels you how to Bleep your wife and hw she wil dress anythng outside pastor style is a sin. gosh! 2rndly, some men are just so egocentric they misinterpret the meaning of a "weaker vessel".they see it has some1 who has no say,who is weak and has nuthng to offer and this is wrong.3rdly,lack of initiative.the man continues doing dsame thng everyday. the woman too continues doing dsame thng everyday the both couples dnt try to bring in new ideas,new initiative etc go to work cum bck and thats all.no new things to introduce to the marriage or make the other partner eager to see.lastly,people see dating as jst 4 kids and after marriage dating is over.hel no,dating is a continous process and thats why most couples today prefer when they are dating than when they are married.couples should continue dating and this wil reduce the high rate of divorce. this points above are the main causes of boredom in marriages until this issues are addressed it wil continueYou have said it all. i really like your point if view. |
Re: Why Are Some Marriages So Boring? by Nobody: 10:08am On Jul 12, 2014 |
obongproff: Yes!Excitement adventure spontaneity etc. Obviously you are still a child . Marriage like life is hard . very very hard . As you become acquainted with the facts of life you will realise that. The first fact is DEATH we all die and that is the one thing we refuse to acknowledge and acquaint ourselves with. Then there is suffering. The suffering of disease, disability of self loved ones and even children. Looking after children with blindness, or even more severe conditions. Looking after aged parents daily. Living with addictions etc. Young people are only interested in "enjoyment" but that is not why we are here and whilst there is nothing wrong with enjoyment. Suffering too is very useful.Even if we are not suffering there are many who are. He who reflects on the suffering of others and seeks to ease their suffering can never be bored. He who seeks enjoyment will always be bored The evolved human is he who is not detached from the suffering of others. So looking for excitement and all those things is just searching for what is not lost. If you are complete inside you can never be bored and you cannot be complete if you only understand pleasure and shun suffering whether directly or vicariously. First of all learn to love yourself and then share your love. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Are Some Marriages So Boring? by Nobody: 10:11am On Jul 12, 2014 |
shoefreak: you see. Chai... butterfly love go die In one year. Smh! Tufiakwa!!! Lonely Boring housewife routine go come start!!!! God forbid evil!!! He HAS to know how to be crazy ooo! I'm shy and my weird traits are suppressed cos of it, and no way I'm doing shy again fa. Coughs |
Re: Why Are Some Marriages So Boring? by Nobody: 10:16am On Jul 12, 2014 |
Marrying for the wrong reason is arguably the reason for monotonous marriage. Rich, handsome, pretty, endowed, family name, profession, etc should not define marriage rather compatibility should be the yardstick to choosing one life partner so that when the euphoria of being in love wears down, the things you share in common can come handy to invigorate the feelings. |
Re: Why Are Some Marriages So Boring? by Nobody: 10:16am On Jul 12, 2014 |
daryoor: listen! listeeeen! if being in a peaceful and nurturing coexistence where u both care and look out for one another is boring to you, you'll never ever be happy. U are so wrong. Am young and single, but am not stupid. I go to church and its not boring. Der are two people dat prove my claim dat claim dat it is not wot u do or how u do it dat makes it fun. 1. Pst. David Ibiyeomie. He is a pastor and he makes pastoring so much fun. 2. Richard Branson. He is a businessman and work is fun to him. Der are many odas who are having wit wot day do. Back to our argument. If u wd tell urself d truth and just onserve most marriages today, u wd agree with me dat marriage is more like a 'chore' to many people, and I believe dats d truth. 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Some Marriages So Boring? by Chrisx1x(m): 10:16am On Jul 12, 2014 |
Ok,make i yarn u why. The guy dey always dey vex come bk frm outside,the girlee never arranged somtin wey the guy go wack, just dey nag anyhow them never do sexing since 3months,why the marriage nor go dey boring |
Re: Why Are Some Marriages So Boring? by bee444: 10:22am On Jul 12, 2014 |
I've known my wife for 9 years now, and she still behave as if we just met. You could see the genuineness in the love we have for each other. We always have one activity or another to do each day. My wife and I complement each other and always looking forward to seeing each other after work. We go out a lot and have targets to meet. We have vision and dreams as to the future of our kids and always planning and doing something positive to actualize those dreams. To God be the glory..its Christmas everyday in our house..Whilst we still maintain a chaste life full of gratitude to God. FYI... We not rich ( but rich by faith) but still enjoy the little that we have. NOTE: It all boils down to vision and love. Communication is also vital. Spicing up marriage is also key. Marriage couple need to go out and see exciting places... go to cinema, celebrate anniversary, attend shows, appreciate each other by small present, allow God in your union, play with each other around the house, travel if you can afford it... and last but not the list.. LIMIT OR DON'T ALLOW OUTSIDE INTERFERENCE IN YOUR MARRIAGE. 3 IS A CROWD INCLUDING IN-LAWS. NOTE.. Marriage is difficult, and sometimes, even most times it takes God not to lose it completely. There's no perfect marriage anywhere.. but we got to work with what we have. Thank you 12 Likes |
Re: Why Are Some Marriages So Boring? by Huzzie: 10:25am On Jul 12, 2014 |
It is quite easy to criticize other people action while justifying our own actions for the same offence....When you get married OP, tryna work it out in the way you program in your head and see if it works out....Sincerely, it is quite preposterous when we think there is a perfect way to do things rather than study our situations and act according, instead we stick to unnecessary doctrines from Novels, Movies etc, when the story writers themselves do not enjoy such benefits written or portrayed in their stories. I wouldn't say my marriage is boring or otherwise, but the only thing I can authoritatively say is that communication isn't lagging and that does it for us....It doesn't matter what anybody thinks.I have seen too many ridiculous questions on the FrontPage of nairaland, and most of these questions shows our level of reasoning....Nothing personal to the OP of this piece but please rather than think why some marriages are boring, I would suggest you get married and proof this topic wrong. Wish you the best. |
Re: Why Are Some Marriages So Boring? by Nobody: 10:26am On Jul 12, 2014 |
Any marriage build on genuine Love and blessed by GOD can never be boring. 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Some Marriages So Boring? by Nobody: 10:27am On Jul 12, 2014 |
**hands him chilled water and ice with coconut** teeo: MzMariah. Noted dear# |
Re: Why Are Some Marriages So Boring? by bee444: 10:27am On Jul 12, 2014 |
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Re: Why Are Some Marriages So Boring? by zurine(f): 10:31am On Jul 12, 2014 |
interesting |
Re: Why Are Some Marriages So Boring? by Nicepoker(m): 10:42am On Jul 12, 2014 |
jeffizy: Many people have a wrong perception of the reality of marriage.the day u get married u will certainly come back and edit this post of yours. Its a promise |
Re: Why Are Some Marriages So Boring? by egopersonified(f): 10:45am On Jul 12, 2014 |
Op, pls if u can help it, could you list what you feel marriage shd be like so I can ve a clearer understandin of what u require from these couples u visited. Do u expect them to b kissin and touchin in front of u 4 u to know they love each other? And what is this thing abt fun, fun,fun? Is yr job fun? Y havent u quit? Is your parents' house fun? Y havent u moved out? We dont do anything any more becos its not fun. When last did u read a book that was not fun or interesting just so u could learn something new or important? And all this talk about marry yr best friend, my best male friends are short and I cant even think of them sexually, r/ships can grow in marriage, as long as u see d potential. Op, nothing is fun 24/7, infact too much fun becomes boring, try hosting a party for 2 days straight and come and testify about it. *abeg dont quote me ohh,becos I don work taya dis morning, I never even chop,just pity me, I just had to state my opinion, thanks* 3 Likes |
Re: Why Are Some Marriages So Boring? by Nicepoker(m): 10:46am On Jul 12, 2014 |
Love is blind. Marriage is a an institution. Am not ready. I repeat am not ready to enrol in an INSTITUTION OF THE BLIND. |
Re: Why Are Some Marriages So Boring? by emidragon: 10:47am On Jul 12, 2014 |
https://www.nairaland.com/1809667/neatly-used-galaxy-s2-sale#24631423quote author=Tattooboy]Well i have noticed dat too. Dat's y im not gonna marry because im in love with someone but because we have alot of tins in common.[/quote] Having alot in common is different from everything in common. The qualities ya both don't share may break the relationship. |
Re: Why Are Some Marriages So Boring? by deletrue: 10:49am On Jul 12, 2014 |
Eidosky: Bro it's alarming, am also scared of it.Doris God hoooo. If den do you the wat you dey talk, you go like am? In other words, you go in and out for the rest of your live? |
Re: Why Are Some Marriages So Boring? by Alabsworld(m): 10:54am On Jul 12, 2014 |
obongproff: Yes!I guess u dnt knw wat u r saying coz u r not married.....wat u considered as boredom is fun to us in marriage. |
Re: Why Are Some Marriages So Boring? by adorable29(f): 10:56am On Jul 12, 2014 |
Who says not being married will make you less bored? Let me tell you, once you get married, and the kids start coming in, you ll crave for that "boring -alone-me" time... And you may not get it. Anyhow, if you were a boring person before marriage, the tendency is that you ll still be boring in the course of ur marriage. |
Re: Why Are Some Marriages So Boring? by Mhomies: 10:56am On Jul 12, 2014 |
jeffizy: Many people have a wrong perception of the reality of marriage.. I subscribe. |
Re: Why Are Some Marriages So Boring? by Ade345(m): 10:59am On Jul 12, 2014 |
A happy, fun filled, spontaneous and fulfilled marriage does not come as a result of marrying ur friend, sending raunchy pictures to ur mate, sending exciting text messages, having sex in weird and funny positions etc. Just pause and ask urself, who instituted marriage? And in the bible, how many eventual marriage mates knew themselves b4 marriage? The truth of the matter is that success in marriage comes as a result of applying principles found in the bible. Husbands are told to show honour to their wives as weaker vessels, wives are admonished to respect their husbands, and children are told to obey their parents. The principle of headship also places the husband as the head of the family. The only draw back is that their is the risk of becoming too zealous when modelling our family lives to suit bible requirements. We should watch out for this so that applying bible principles does not become a burden to us and our families. The bottom line is that having a successful married life comes with applying bible principles. |
Re: Why Are Some Marriages So Boring? by Jambsupport(f): 11:07am On Jul 12, 2014 |
banega: Relationships end/gets boring because once the person has you,. They stop doing the things it took to get you in the first place...#Lobatan 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Some Marriages So Boring? by Ishilove: 11:10am On Jul 12, 2014 |
Isn't it odd that people who are commenting on this topic are singles who have never been married?? 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Some Marriages So Boring? by Irritant: 11:13am On Jul 12, 2014 |
Hmmm,n I intend to get married in a week...I hope I find my bride before then |
Re: Why Are Some Marriages So Boring? by IamforGod: 11:16am On Jul 12, 2014 |
Yungwizzzy: If he has money it won't be boring at all!!bro.the peeps that av seven digits don't shout gues u barely av four digits. 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Some Marriages So Boring? by myspnigeria: 11:17am On Jul 12, 2014 |
Simply because the people in it are boring too 2 Likes |
Re: Why Are Some Marriages So Boring? by Nobody: 11:18am On Jul 12, 2014 |
egopersonified: Op, pls if u can help it, could you list what you feel marriage shd be like so I can ve a clearer understandin of what u require from these couples u visited. Everytin we do must not be fun all d time. We work becos we hav to even doe 99% we dont enjoy our jobs. Now just imagine if u hav a job dat is not fun and den u hav to go back home everyday to a house dat is not fun, hav u not subscribed to a life-long experience of boredom and unhappiness. Tink abt dat for a second. Howeva, if dats d kind of life u desire(as some ppl do enjoy boredom), I wish u luck. 1 Like |
Re: Why Are Some Marriages So Boring? by Nobody: 11:22am On Jul 12, 2014 |
Ishilove: Isn't it odd that people who are commenting on this topic are singles who have never been married?? No sir. Its not odd. Its actually wise cos we dont want to live d life of dose who married. We want to hav a more fulfilled, fun-filled, and exciting marriage in d midst of all d challenges of life, family responsibilties, kids, grandparents, extended family, etc. Dats wot we are doing here. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Are Some Marriages So Boring? by snowytee(m): 11:35am On Jul 12, 2014 |
Bigcake: Op, ntokeyen ema etonghor ukung itid at a very tender age, afor akere abo ke itid abi badie ke ema edor ndor? Ana itid asiagha mmong nangha. But the best way out is to take ur wife as ur friend.Kai!only if d mods understood this thing.Your ban for thick.Song idem dah awo |
Re: Why Are Some Marriages So Boring? by tintingz(m): 11:43am On Jul 12, 2014 |
Why won't some marriage be boring when two lovers courted for five years lived together for five years, see everything finish about each other for five years without getting married. And when they get married what is left for them to enjoy in the marriage. This reminds me of a movie by Tyler perry "Temptation". |
Re: Why Are Some Marriages So Boring? by jeffizy(m): 11:51am On Jul 12, 2014 |
Nicepoker: the day u get married u will certainly come back and edit this post of yours. Its a promiseLol. I talk from a married man's angle. |
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