lrguru: sir, I'm not against anybody looking good or u buyin blazers or agbada for urself, what I'm saying is that you should dress decently and not by showin ur almost half nakid body to the whole world all in the name of fashion or "looking good"

Blockus:


OP!!

Spare the rod, spoil the child.

One day, take her by surprise, looosen your belt and whip her like a child that she is. And when you are done, give her an ultimatum; Return to factory default setting or move out.

Dont let any pastor become the head of your family. If your biitch isnt acting right, whip her or cut the biitch off.

And its okay if you cheat now, God would understand. If Virgin Mary looked like that, she would not had been God's babymama.

Blockus:


Biicth.. Is not negative when used as a term of endearment like calling a guy 'my Nigga'.

Wislet: do not teach what you do not understans, Mr man. Those things are not 'gods' as you say. When the things of this world mean more to you than God Himself that's when they become 'gods' to you. When you covet them as you shouldn't....when your heart is on them..that is the evil thereof.

Readone35L:

What is this mumu saying

Blockus:


Who in her right mind would marry me?

I am still sowing my wild oaths.

ammyluv2002: I understand your point....I sugguest you find a way to still love her like that cause if that's the way she has chosen to worship her God, it won't be fair for you to start cheating on her. I know guys have areas that gets them attracted to ladies but you don't really have a choice here rather you should support her and makke her feel loved.

Btw, thatz why is always good to fall in love with the someone from the inside and not because of the physical apperance cause you may get married to a queen today and by tomorrow her beauty is gone. We should be able to still love those we claim we love even if the person turns out to be a skeleton tomorrow, just take a clue from a mother's love to her child or even God's love to His children. Love should be unconditional. @OP, pls don't get me wrong o...I'm not making reference to you, just saying generally

snowpe: I have been married for 4years now,recently my wife listened to a preaching on the issue of jewelries,trousers and makeup.suddenly she changed and since then she have been making her self unattractive in the name of church activities.sincerely she is making me to loose interest on her,I have spoken to her about it and she refuses to change.what should I do?l am seriously trying not to cheat on her.please I need advice on what to do to save this marriage.
please moderator move this to front page for advice

webdezzi:

Thanks, incase you care to know, i just ordered some Agbadas as prescribed.
but what is the yardstick for measurement of hald nakidness?
In some US beaches, you are allowed to run around the coastlines in some bikinis while others are restricted.
How do the coast guards know what falls within the red zone?
there is a standard well know by everyone that it has to cover the female labia

are we to just go by our intuition which may vary?
my definition of nakidness as a yoruba guy who grew up in the city may be a bit different from yours, an aboki man from the core northern village
maybe this is the sole reason we have Boko Harams in our midst.
Shekau decides to interpret his holy book to mean i (who is no way is related to him by blood or tribe ) dont deserve to go to school
if i do, i get bombed.

You decide to interpret your faith that our pretty girl dont deserve to look hawt.
why not concentrate on ensuring your offspring adhere to that and let others be.
if their cute backside distracts you, try to program your eye to look elsewhere, or better still stare at the blank sky where God resides.

You know! i still wonder why you dont nag whenever you see nakid female lunatics on the street but rather face where you are going.

MadCow1:


Mark 6:22-25New International Version (NIV)

22 When the daughter of[a] Herodias came in and danced, she pleased Herod and his dinner guests.

The king said to the girl, “Ask me for anything you want, and I’ll give it to you.” 23 And he promised her with an oath, “Whatever you ask I will give you, up to half my kingdom.”
24 She went out and said to her mother, “What shall I ask for?”

“The head of John the Baptist,” she answered.

25 At once the girl hurried in to the king with the request: “I want you to give me right now the head of John the Baptist on a platter.”


Herodias danced and pleased the King and for that she was able to make him kill and behead John the Baptist.. Does that make any Woman who dances a Bad woman?!





Jezeebel used her make-up to enhance her beauty to attract Samson for neferious plan to work. Its like a Man using his Range Rover to attract a Woman for sex. Does that now make range Rovers Bad?!

The Make-up was not what made Jezeebel bad.

Dont get that twisted. The make-up was a means to an end.

ammyluv2002: I understand your point....I sugguest you find a way to still love her like that cause if that's the way she has chosen to worship her God, it won't be fair for you to start cheating on her. I know guys have areas that gets them attracted to ladies but you don't really have a choice here rather you should support her and makke her feel loved.

Btw, thatz why is always good to fall in love with the someone from the inside and not because of the physical apperance cause you may get married to a queen today and by tomorrow her beauty is gone. We should be able to still love those we claim we love even if the person turns out to be a skeleton tomorrow, just take a clue from a mother's love to her child or even God's love to His children. Love should be unconditional. @OP, pls don't get me wrong o...I'm not making reference to you, just saying generally

unmask: divorce her a.s.s.s..... why will a woman go from looking like rihanna to moving like pork.....divorce her

prettyboi1989: This is what happens when a man marries a woman jst because of ha pretty looks and wen d looks start failing or she stops looking attractive, she becomes a sour taste in d guy's mouth

Blockus:


OP!!

Spare the rod, spoil the child.

One day, take her by surprise, looosen your belt and whip her like a child that she is. And when you are done, give her an ultimatum; Return to factory default setting or move out.

Dont let any pastor become the head of your family. If your biitch isnt acting right, whip her or cut the biitch off.

And its okay if you cheat now, God would understand. If Virgin Mary looked like that, she would not had been God's babymama.

lrguru: women wear high heels to boost confidence or to be sexy. Women who wear high heel with the sole purpose to obtain sexual attention are being tempted by
celebrities in the media. BUT, they are only being tempted because of lust that is already inside of them that makes them want to walk and be sexy anyway. Trying to be sexy is lust. All lust is sin. Therefore, trying to be sexy is a sin. Are you wondering, how do you attract a man (your hubby) if you’re not going to be walking or trying to be sexy? Your solution is changing how you think to our Book of truth which cannot lie.
The Bible says, “And I want women to be modest in their appearance. They should wear decent and appropriate clothing and not draw attention to themselves by the way they fix their hair or by wearing gold or pearls or expensive clothing. For women who claim to be devoted to God should
make themselves attractive by living righteously. Dressing in modest apparel is a state of mind. It’s the mind-set that we will not walk or dress in anything that will draw the wrong kind of attention. As you look at the list of items spoken of, naturally this also includes the shoes we wear and how we
walk. More so, we are not to do or put anything on
trying to deliberately draw sexually alluring or conceited (vain) attention. We can still dress as nice as we want, have a confident walk and be covered appropriately.If your still getting men acknowledgin you as sexy; know this. The bible says if a man looks upon a woman and lusts in his heart then he has already committed adultery..matt 5:28
“But you trusted in and relied on your own
beauty and were unfaithful to God and played the
harlot [in idolatry] because of your renown, and
you poured out your fornications upon anyone
who passed by [as you worshiped the idols of
every nation which prevailed over you] and your
beauty was his.” Ezekiel 16:15. I'd love you to show me any lady who wears high heel shoes even on corporate wears for the so-called confidence, that the buttocks is not shaking, and men at not lookin at her lustfully, whether very old or young?

crixtex:
Bros i agree wiv all ur make up issue...its so true..buh d matter of lust...... is lusting wit intent of evil in ur heart.... know ds dea is nothing like love at first sight...

Dygeasy: I tried to bend right, left and low to view the issue from different perspectives and I still see NO CASE here.

Her change in dressing and appearance should matter not. What if it were something worse? Say incapacitation or amputation of her body parts? What would he do then?

It's hard, yeah but you signed up for all of that the moment you decided to get married.

Marriage is NOT selfish! GERRIT!!!

And @bolded, he hasn't overcome any temptation. He's still being tempted.

donmarshia:

Nigerians like to dey form James Bond. Love and attraction are two different things. OP no mind dem. Of course you should not cheat but her appearance is a red flag as men are moved by appearance when it comes to sex. A man could love his wife but if she becomes dirty and unkempt, then he would lose any form of physical attraction but wud still love her.
The OP is scared of losing the attraction he has for his wife and has laid a valid complaint. Bashing him won't help, no man wud accept this situation without raising an eye brow.
Op pls appeal to ur wife and tell her that ur attraction to her is physical and cud affect ur sexual desire for her if she continues like this but pls do this with understanding and respect.
Let her know u still love her and will always do.

King Marshia

Blockus:

True Stoyy:


#The Man is the Head of the Woman, just like Christ in the head of the Church.

FlyboyZee:
Imagine your reasoning. The wife gets old and stops wearing make-ups, abi? While the man gets younger and keeps admiring younger girls. E be for your matter, eh? For your information, they would both grow old together and their values and things they admire would keep changing as age keeps changing. Grow up!

snowpe: I have been married for 4years now,recently my wife listened to a preaching on the issue of jewelries,trousers and makeup.suddenly she changed and since then she have been making her self unattractive in the name of church activities.sincerely she is making me to loose interest on her,I have spoken to her about it and she refuses to change.what should I do?l am seriously trying not to cheat on her.please I need advice on what to do to save this marriage.
please moderator move this to front page for advice