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| Dating/marrying A Younger Man by orbis(m): 8:32am On Jul 19, 2014 |
I was chatting with some female colleagues at work the other day and the issue of having to date or marry a younger man crept up. I was really surprisd at the way they all swore they cant try such a thing. I was even more astonished at the older ladies who were supposed to be married with kids at this point in their lives. Ok, would you date or marry a younger man even when he is bigger, more matured and financially more stable than you? As for me, i wouldnt mind an older lady if she will give me the happiness i deserve in marriage. 1 Like |
| Re: Dating/marrying A Younger Man by Nobody: 9:14am On Jul 19, 2014 |
In my point of view and frm experience, I don't see anything wrong in marrying a younger guy, with reasonable gap of 1yr to at least 6yrs. Initially, d lady feels uncomfortable abt d idea, but if most her relationships wit older guys aint working, before menopause strikes in, she shud consider that younger dude who's out 2 go thru d whole length of marriage. Some younger guys are matured inwardly, and u will be surprise abt the mindset, while some can be childish and act exactly their age. Have also met older guys, that way so childish and. U begin 2 wonder, is dis guy for real? Its no biggie, if d difference is not so glaring 2 Likes |
| Re: Dating/marrying A Younger Man by okirewaju(f): 12:06pm On Jul 19, 2014 |
I don't think I can marry someone younger than me. I love my men older, like way older! 1 Like |
| Re: Dating/marrying A Younger Man by egopersonified(f): 2:21pm On Jul 19, 2014 |
Op, all those yr colleagues are deceiving themselves, some of them have dated or are still dating younger men even as they spoke. Aint nothing wrong with it, even if it is clearly obvious the lady is older, as far as they both dont mind, then what the heck. 4 Likes |
| Re: Dating/marrying A Younger Man by ifyalways(f): 2:49pm On Jul 19, 2014 |
Not for me abeg. The age thing will always be there no matter what. A one or two years age difference is understandable but "awon iya arugbo pelu young boys old enough to be their sons"? Haa, make una fear God small. |
| Re: Dating/marrying A Younger Man by Nobody: 3:11pm On Jul 19, 2014 |
You're either 5+ years older or swerve  there's nothing wrong with dating a younger guy though 1 Like |
| Re: Dating/marrying A Younger Man by luvablesam(m): 3:46pm On Jul 19, 2014 |
My First REAL GF was five Years Older than me. I loved the idea n she loved me in turn. I hated Girls i was older than back then,They sounded like broken CDs(SKIP,SKIP) ...Reasons we broke up was her family pressure ....They really wanted her to marry ASAP. So i let her go. ... Moral of the story na- Its Up to u et ur Partner to focus on ur relationship.....Older or Younger, get the best from your lives....Simple...Never mind what people say,Ignore them cos they will fade away.... 1 Like |
| Re: Dating/marrying A Younger Man by Bigsteveg(m): 5:17pm On Jul 19, 2014 |
Age should not be an excuse when it comes to relationship, though in d case of if the woman is d older one the, gap should not be more than 3 yrs. 1 Like |
| Re: Dating/marrying A Younger Man by Nobody: 5:38pm On Jul 19, 2014 |
I can date a lady older than me; but I can't be more than 4 yrs younger than her though. |
| Re: Dating/marrying A Younger Man by bellong: 7:08pm On Jul 19, 2014 |
alutacontinua: You're either 5+ years older or swerve Is the bolded an advert? What are the other criteria?    1 Like |
| Re: Dating/marrying A Younger Man by Nobody: 9:36pm On Jul 19, 2014 |
bellong: His statement of account. No naira account, please |
| Re: Dating/marrying A Younger Man by orbis(m): 11:26pm On Jul 19, 2014 |
From the comments here...I can boldly say that men are more likely to push into the risk of marrying an older woman. what are these ladies afraid of by the way? |
| Re: Dating/marrying A Younger Man by apolonius(m): 4:33am On Jul 20, 2014 |
I have dated older babes before and enjoyed it well,but never again. I can't marry an older lady;NEVER!  |
| Re: Dating/marrying A Younger Man by orbis(m): 12:40pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
apolonius: I have dated older babes before and enjoyed it well,but never again. I can't marry an older lady;NEVER!Bros do you mind on expantiating on your reasons? |
| Re: Dating/marrying A Younger Man by orbis(m): 12:41pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
alutacontinua: Well spoken like a typical naija babe...i hail una |
| Re: Dating/marrying A Younger Man by apolonius(m): 1:18pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
orbis: Merits: they are more intelligent and wiser with hindsight to add value to your life as you do theirs. Less materialistic and quite selfless and generous. They have in quantum the kind of mental connection the younger are won't to lack: can contribute to every topic of conversation, and reason more logically than emotionally. Demerits: they have this tendency to be authoritative and subtly domineering. They crave lot and lot of attention. There likely will be a man present in their lives from the past;the age difference keeps them sustaining some alternative tie with someone of their age as a plan B. They can be unforgiving and easily reactional in ways your mates or younger babes won't do. In some cases,they are very desperate and will go to unusual ends to keep you. For the average Naija man,you may not be proud of people identifying you with them. Experience tells me that it just may not work out with them for marriage and the times and choice will haunt you for awhile. Of course, some of the reasons are better left unshared for personal honour guard and charity. Caveat: mark you,these points on dating older ladies is from personal experience and may be more subjective than objective. 1 Like |
| Re: Dating/marrying A Younger Man by Nobody: 2:40pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
@Op. Not all women are like your colleagues...... It's a personal choice/decision..... personally, i have preference for older men than younger men when it comes to issues of the heart. Not as if dating an older man guarantees a perfect/faithful union.... Its just a psychological belief. Like I said, it's a personal choice/decision. |
| Re: Dating/marrying A Younger Man by bellong: 4:18pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
alutacontinua: Sure, his account is very very huge and mind blowing. It is in Zimbabwean dollars 1 Like |
| Re: Dating/marrying A Younger Man by ogawisdom(m): 5:43pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
Age difference doesn't matter provided he is a man and nt a boy otherwise it ll look like a sugar mum rship  again both parties shld b comfortable abt it n d woman ready to submit to d man even if she is 20yrs older |
| Re: Dating/marrying A Younger Man by ogawisdom(m): 5:46pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
Age difference doesn't matter provided he is a man (25+) and nt a boy otherwise it ll look like a sugar mum rship again both parties shld b comfortable abt it n d woman ready to submit to d man even if she is 20yrs older |
| Re: Dating/marrying A Younger Man by Nobody: 6:52pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
orbis: yes oooooooooo, life is short, biko   bellong:  |
| Re: Dating/marrying A Younger Man by bellong: 7:06pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
alutacontinua: Why are you sad or shocked? |
| Re: Dating/marrying A Younger Man by Nobody: 7:06pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
bellong: I prefer pound sterling (£) |
| Re: Dating/marrying A Younger Man by shizzleStar: 7:11pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
okirewaju: I don't think I can marry someone younger than me.like 20/25yrs minimum you mean? 1 Like |
| Re: Dating/marrying A Younger Man by shizzleStar: 7:14pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
op dont mind mind those your colleagues, they are all hypocrites. Women like them would even charm a younger, well to do guy to marry them when the opportunity beckons, bunch of deluded lots |
| Re: Dating/marrying A Younger Man by bellong: 8:34pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
alutacontinua: Yes, he has Oluwole UK account.... |
| Re: Dating/marrying A Younger Man by orbis(m): 9:01pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
I dont think younger men beat their older wives, when they even cheat they are more cautious about it. |
| Re: Dating/marrying A Younger Man by okirewaju(f): 9:34pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
shizzleStar:Not bad. As long as I really like you then age is just a number! |
| Re: Dating/marrying A Younger Man by snazzylove: 9:54pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
Age like they said is just numbers. But personally I prefer my man older. #respecttinz# |
| Re: Dating/marrying A Younger Man by shizzleStar: 8:03am On Jul 21, 2014 |
okirewaju: Not bad. As long as I really like you then age is just a number!what if the bolded is younger than you, that's my point, or are you saying you cant feel something for a younger guy? cos in you first comment you made it seem almost impossible, but then again you say 'age is just a number' so where do you really stand? 1 Like |
| Re: Dating/marrying A Younger Man by okirewaju(f): 2:55pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
shizzleStar:@ the bolded, I made that statement in respect of the 20/25 age gap you gave earlier. I don't think I have ever dated someone younger except not to my knowledge. |
| Re: Dating/marrying A Younger Man by Iykenson(m): 8:34am On Jul 22, 2014 |
i do not see age difference as an issue in a relationship. what matters to me is understanding. the problems we have in africa and nigeria in particular are peer and family pressure. |
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