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Re: Pampering Of Kids; Is It True Love For Kids Or Misconception Of Love? by lummiedee: 9:39am On Jul 20, 2014 |
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Re: Pampering Of Kids; Is It True Love For Kids Or Misconception Of Love? by ndidibabe(f): 9:57am On Jul 20, 2014 |
Tallesty1: Parenting is very tough job, a full time job and many parents are not ready for it. Some Parents are confused, they have good intentions but don't see their actions as irresponsible. Some are like a friend to their kids, many working mothers or parents fall into this category. They, because they do not have time for their kids tend to compensate by giving them gifts and money unnecessarily to make up for the time they do not spend with them. Some are over possessive and protective and pamper their kids by giving all the luxuries at their disposal. Some will say "if s/he has been good and I can afford what s/he wants then why not get it for her?? Not knowing that by engaging in this behavior, they are depriving children of critical opportunities to develop into independent adults. Parenting is more about teaching than gifting. Feed them with word of God, teach them how to become responsible adults, teach them about love, kindness and giving, teach them how to manage what they have without complaining etc.Respect for this comment. 1 Like |
Re: Pampering Of Kids; Is It True Love For Kids Or Misconception Of Love? by Norajones(f): 11:20am On Jul 20, 2014 |
Spare d rod n spoil d child,,,,,,no b me talk am,na so e dey 4 bible. |
Re: Pampering Of Kids; Is It True Love For Kids Or Misconception Of Love? by Nobody: 12:23pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
Nice topic. This is very similar to the topic I posted earlier today. With my experience as a home teacher within the past 3yrs, I give kudos to parents esp mothers. Do not use the same methods to correct a child always bcs he/she will get use to it. NOW is the time u can cut off bad habits in ur child. Don't wait till tomorrow, stop saying he/shes young. The foundation is important! But pls do remember to always pray for your child/children....We shall all live to see their sucess. Read more on www.nairaland.com/1820647/kids-strengths-hopes-whats-plan |
Re: Pampering Of Kids; Is It True Love For Kids Or Misconception Of Love? by eph12(m): 12:28pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
lomaxx:First option yes but I won't go harrassing my kid teachers if they fall short of expectations. |
Re: Pampering Of Kids; Is It True Love For Kids Or Misconception Of Love? by Edwardhead(m): 12:57pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
purpinkx: Topic should have been More like "pampering kids, could this be love " ?english teacher, i understand u |
Re: Pampering Of Kids; Is It True Love For Kids Or Misconception Of Love? by rubi96(f): 1:00pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
My aunty is in the category that pampering a child is good. If I scold her children, she will pick offence. She believes her children can do no wrong so I minded my biz. until one day her teenage daughter insulted her and used her for marathon race. She even reported to me and I told her it wasn't any of my biz, she woke the girl at midnight, gave her thorough beating. me I just pretended that I was sleeping |
Re: Pampering Of Kids; Is It True Love For Kids Or Misconception Of Love? by rubi96(f): 1:01pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
My aunty is in that category of people that believes pampering a child is good. If I scold her children, she will pick offence. She believes her children can do no wrong so I minded my biz. until one day her teenage daughter insulted her and used her for marathon race. She even reported to me and I told her it wasn't any of my biz, she woke the girl at midnight, gave her thorough beating. me I just pretended that I was sleeping |
Re: Pampering Of Kids; Is It True Love For Kids Or Misconception Of Love? by Harmvirus(f): 1:30pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
It is a misconception of love. A child should be corrected when s/he does something wrong that should be in moderation though. However, a child should also be commended for good behaviour and achievements. 1 Like |
Re: Pampering Of Kids; Is It True Love For Kids Or Misconception Of Love? by dovemart(m): 2:20pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
Tallesty1: Parenting is very tough job, a full time job and many parents are not ready for it. Some Parents are confused, they have good intentions but don't see their actions as irresponsible. Some are like a friend to their kids, many working mothers or parents fall into this category. They, because they do not have time for their kids tend to compensate by giving them gifts and money unnecessarily to make up for the time they do not spend with them. Some are over possessive and protective and pamper their kids by giving all the luxuries at their disposal. Some will say "if s/he has been good and I can afford what s/he wants then why not get it for her?? Not knowing that by engaging in this behavior, they are depriving children of critical opportunities to develop into independent adults. Parenting is more about teaching than gifting. Feed them with word of God, teach them how to become responsible adults, teach them about love, kindness and giving, teach them how to manage what they have without complaining etc.Best reply so far... The rest are 'Others'. |
Re: Pampering Of Kids; Is It True Love For Kids Or Misconception Of Love? by Amhappy(f): 3:47pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
Parents should be concerned about rasing godly children not ajebutters.Some people esp women even fight their spouse for correcting/flogging their child for wrongdoing. Give a child a sense of responsibilty while showing love. 2 Likes |
Re: Pampering Of Kids; Is It True Love For Kids Or Misconception Of Love? by ogbronx(m): 4:20pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
davidif:I totally agree with you. Sparing not the rod in bringing up a child can be easily misunderstood. It doesn't necessarily mean incessant flogging. Research has shown that personality of every human being is determined between the ages of 0-6. This is when a person is moldable with positive or negative reinforcement. At early age, positively reinforcing good traits and while discouraging bad behaviours in a child instill good morals. There are kids that weren't flogged but became individuals of high morals and integrity. Pampering (excessive show of love and no correction) would most likely result to ill mannered individuals, prone to disobedience and vices. I know some adults who have come to accept that they were spoilt by parents and wish they could change. Some things they do are really stupid. Even do such things to the same parents who thought they were doing good to them(children) at their early stages of life. Striking the balance between love and discipline is the key while taking into cognizance the social and peer-group influences. 2 Likes |
Re: Pampering Of Kids; Is It True Love For Kids Or Misconception Of Love? by Bigsteveg(m): 4:26pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
eph12: Times have changed brother. Its something our generation have to deal with. Time have changed? No wonder we now have boko haram, armed robbery and 419 is on the rise, gay and lesbian fighting for recognition..etc. Spare the rod and spoil the child. |
Re: Pampering Of Kids; Is It True Love For Kids Or Misconception Of Love? by AdeniyiA(m): 5:57pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
Many parents are simply clueless in the art of parenting. They believe all you need to care for,train nd raise a child is plenty of money. You see parents putting their kids in the care of strangers for almost all their childhood due to work schedules,no time for the children. This decay has become generational,as in you cannot give what you don't have. it would have been better if intending couple could prepare for the art of parenting in marriage than they do for wedding. |
Re: Pampering Of Kids; Is It True Love For Kids Or Misconception Of Love? by AdeniyiA(m): 6:08pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
.dp |
Re: Pampering Of Kids; Is It True Love For Kids Or Misconception Of Love? by AdeniyiA(m): 6:09pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
Amhappy: Parents should be concerned about raising godly children not ajebutters.Some people esp women even fight their spouse for correcting/flogging their child for wrongdoing. Give a child a sense of responsibilty while showing love.AM HAPPY TOO . The surest way of raising a spoilt brat is to have uncooperative parents, raising or training a child requires the parents joining hands/voices to correct the child weneva he/she errs. it's however VERY WRONG for a parent to oppose or fight each other IN THE PRESENCE of the child if one of them scolds/corrects the child 1 Like |
Re: Pampering Of Kids; Is It True Love For Kids Or Misconception Of Love? by adiong: 6:46pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
Pure misconception of love |
Re: Pampering Of Kids; Is It True Love For Kids Or Misconception Of Love? by eph12(m): 7:06pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
Bigsteveg:Terrorism and robbery has always been there. Don't put it on this generation. Fight poverty and you have solved half of the world's problem. |
Re: Pampering Of Kids; Is It True Love For Kids Or Misconception Of Love? by Nobody: 9:55pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
eph12: Times have changed brother. Its something our generation have to deal with.Which time has changed? The one on your wrist watch. Okay time has changed, permit your daughter to move round the town with mere pants or stack nacked protesting for the return of chibok girls and deal with it. |
Re: Pampering Of Kids; Is It True Love For Kids Or Misconception Of Love? by Nobody: 10:00pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
bongolistik: Well, the truth of the matter is that I will say that some mothers/parents are guilty on this. In many cases I have seen kids doing things that really need cautioning, but you will see their mother/parents even protecting or siding them. For example sometimes when their kids fight with other kids, their mothers always come out in support of their kids without even bothering to know which of them is at fault. For me it is pure misconception of love. I do not believe in pampering, but training. Training your child so that when he/she grows they won't depart from that way. If it requires the guard room so be it. My 1 year old daughter slammed my Tecno F8 on my living room floor tiles and before picking the phone I ensured I beat her to cry. Since then if she sees my phone on the floor she places it on the chair or brings it to me. I do not pamper. I train. This is love because I want her to grow strong and of moral soundness |
Re: Pampering Of Kids; Is It True Love For Kids Or Misconception Of Love? by Nobody: 10:03pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
lomaxx: Wanting the best for your children is love. One should be careful on how he/she goes about doing that. The accomlishment/error of that desire is in the "how". Some parents are lazy and all they say is “let them be, they are just kids”. Mtchew 1 Like |
Re: Pampering Of Kids; Is It True Love For Kids Or Misconception Of Love? by anonymous10: 10:04pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
ITbomb: The good book says "spare the rod and spoil the child".well kill ur child nd u get a rod |
Re: Pampering Of Kids; Is It True Love For Kids Or Misconception Of Love? by revelationuche: 10:08pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
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Re: Pampering Of Kids; Is It True Love For Kids Or Misconception Of Love? by eph12(m): 10:15pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
Witty07:lol |
Re: Pampering Of Kids; Is It True Love For Kids Or Misconception Of Love? by Bigsteveg(m): 10:28pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
eph12: Ohhh, i didnt know boko haram has being on since 1960!!! Me and u belong to d same generation, and i tell u..dis is the worse generation so far( the next might even be worst). Ure talking abt fight poverty, is it not the same genration in power..or was it like this during Obafemi Awolowo, Nmadi Azikwe, Tafawa Balewa...if u dont know, ask elders in ur place/family how they enjoyed life then. |
Re: Pampering Of Kids; Is It True Love For Kids Or Misconception Of Love? by eph12(m): 10:39pm On Jul 20, 2014 |
Bigsteveg:ok |
Re: Pampering Of Kids; Is It True Love For Kids Or Misconception Of Love? by tracyfemmmm: 11:38pm On Jul 21, 2014 |
When we make kids the most important thing in marriage how would the women not want to protect them she is only protecting the assets she has in her husband house jare they are precious to her. |
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