Please is this norma?. I noticed that anytime i finished making love with my wife,i will be feeling nauseating-as if i want to vomit,the whole thing will be disgusting,turning me off even looking at her after the love making.But when i have the urge,it will be as if i need it more than food as i always disturbing her that i need it almost frequently,but immediately we finished the game,i will start feeling as above mentioned.Please is it normal.Mature advice please.

pelusi: Please is this norma?. I noticed that anytime i finished making love with my wife,i will be feeling nauseating-as if i want to vomit,the whole thing will be disgusting,turning me off even looking at her after the love making.But when i have the urge,it will be as if i need it more than food as i always disturbing her that i need it almost frequently,but immediately we finished the game,i will start feeling as above mentioned.Please is it normal.Mature advice please.

people say its normal because me neva do that kind tin(i neva marry).... bt me dnt kno about d vomit tin oooo

pelusi: Please is this norma?. I noticed that anytime i finished making love with my wife,i will be feeling nauseating-as if i want to vomit,the whole thing will be disgusting,turning me off even looking at her after the love making.But when i have the urge,it will be as if i need it more than food as i always disturbing her that i need it almost frequently,but immediately we finished the game,i will start feeling as above mentioned.Please is it normal.Mature advice please.

Yes its normal. when u cum, u av expended at least 85% of or energy, and it makes u weak immediately u done. But next time, don't tagged it as sex when u get down with or wife. U tagged it love making

So what happened when men go 3 to 4 rounds? Still disgusted and going for more?

**justcurious**

holding on to this spot until after my marrige. ps: its vision 2020 oo

mesef book this space.............. till 2018 wey i de eye for marrigae.
i will be back to modify by then.
Yours faithfully.

make me too suscribe as well... as i nvr marry so

I like this topic,i really want to know the difference between sex in marriage and sex in dating

Kanwulia: Only a NIGERIAN NIGGA will write such a debasing thing about his wife!
ALU!!!!
TuPPPPPiakaaaaa!!!!

Anyway, I am not surprised.
Na so one stoooopid Yoruba man drink finish for one party. . . .stand for center of room begin shout say im wife toto too wide!
Every body begin h-enter motor jeje go house!
No barry fit look the wife face o!

Dem don divorce tey tey ke!

Shameless excuse for men!!!!

You are part of the reasons that some of us just read some topics on Nairaland and don't make a comment. What did he write that is debasing ? Are you married at all? Or are you a man that you should know how the men would feel? He expressed what people can identify with, why don't you just admit you don't understand where he is coming from? I tire for some of you o!

Kanwulia:

So after making love to your wife, she looks a thrash can and you feel this is something to discuss in public instead of visiting the nearest BABALAWO OR RELIGIOUS SHRINE for spiritual cleansing?

Obviously, this dude is CURSED, SICK OR BOTH!
NL cannot help this kind is PSYCHOSIS!

Post-Coital Tristesse

"The man that wandereth out of the way of understanding shall remain in the congregation of the dead"
- Prov 21:16.

I seldom use religious sentiments in an argument but I lack a proper reply for you. To say I am disappointed in what people like you come here to say would be an understatement.

I hope this article will educate you more -

Many men, and some women, have been plagued by post-coital tristesse for ages. According to Aristotle, “the exhaustion consequent on the loss of even a very little of the semen is conspicuous because the body is deprived of the ultimate gain drawn from the nutriment … [so] as a general rule the result of intercourse is exhaustion and weakness rather than relief.”

The Roman poet Petronius, in the first century A.D., wrote “Doing, a filthy pleasure is, and short;/And done, we straight away repent us of the sport.”

Hence the Latin proverb, “Omne animal post coitum triste.” All animals are sad after sex.
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My favorite treatment of the idea comes from the Irish poet W.B. Yeats in “The Chambermaid’s Second Song": “From pleasure of the bed,/Dull as a worm,/His rod and its butting head/Limp as a worm,/His spirit that has fled/Blind as a worm.”

Your spirit, the drive that took you to bed in the first place, has fled with your orgasm and so you get depressed and flee, too.

There may actually be a scientific reason why this happens, though I like the poetry better. It involves the hormone prolactin. That’s the same hormone women need to make milk, but men have it, too, and it shoots sky-high immediately after orgasm. When you have intercourse, it soars even higher, up to 400 percent higher, than it does after masturbation. We know this because sex researchers have paid college men to sit in rooms, watch porn and masturbate (beats working at Chuck E. Cheese's.) They interpreted this to mean that intercourse is a much more satisfying experience than masturbation.

All well and good, but in another study they concluded that prolactin works like a thermostat to shut off our desire, our appetites, and therefore the exciting, revved-up drives that make us try to satisfy them. So you get dull as a worm and your spirit flees. The more satisfying the sex with a woman, the duller you get.....

Google the rest..

If you are as civilized as you claimed to be, you will apologize to the young man !

pelusi: Please is this norma?. I noticed that anytime i finished making love with my wife,i will be feeling nauseating-as if i want to vomit,the whole thing will be disgusting,turning me off even looking at her after the love making.But when i have the urge,it will be as if i need it more than food as i always disturbing her that i need it almost frequently,but immediately we finished the game,i will start feeling as above mentioned.Please is it normal.Mature advice please.

You people need to see a doctor. There are some women allergic to their men's semen. It makes them ill. I have not heard of men being sick from vaginal fluid, but anything could be possible

Kanwulia: Only a NIGERIAN NIGGA will write such a debasing thing about his wife!
ALU!!!!
TuPPPPPiakaaaaa!!!!

Anyway, I am not surprised.
Na so one stoooopid Yoruba man drink finish for one party. . . .stand for center of room begin shout say im wife toto too wide!
Every body begin h-enter motor jeje go house!
No barry fit look the wife face o!

Dem don divorce tey tey ke!

Shameless excuse for men!!!!

Na wa o. Some people enter marriage with the wrong people. I feel so bad for the wife.

@ goldenboy007, kanwulia is actually right, why marry someone, who will only serve as ur Bed mate.

It is debasing, from what OP wrote, his wife is just his sex mate, there is no love there.

OP, YOU DO NOT LOVE YOUR WIFE, QED.

Is it normal? HELL NO!

Unless you got some beef with the woman

Goldenboy007:
Post-Coital Tristesse

"The man that wandereth out of the way of understanding shall remain in the congregation of the dead"
- Prov 21:16.

I seldom use religious sentiments in an argument but I lack a proper reply for you. To say I am disappointed in what people like you come here to say would be an understatement.

I hope this article will educate you more -

Many men, and some women, have been plagued by post-coital tristesse for ages. According to Aristotle, “the exhaustion consequent on the loss of even a very little of the semen is conspicuous because the body is deprived of the ultimate gain drawn from the nutriment … [so] as a general rule the result of intercourse is exhaustion and weakness rather than relief.”

The Roman poet Petronius, in the first century A.D., wrote “Doing, a filthy pleasure is, and short;/And done, we straight away repent us of the sport.”

Hence the Latin proverb, “Omne animal post coitum triste.” All animals are sad after sex.
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My favorite treatment of the idea comes from the Irish poet W.B. Yeats in “The Chambermaid’s Second Song": “From pleasure of the bed,/Dull as a worm,/His rod and its butting head/Limp as a worm,/His spirit that has fled/Blind as a worm.”

Your spirit, the drive that took you to bed in the first place, has fled with your orgasm and so you get depressed and flee, too.

There may actually be a scientific reason why this happens, though I like the poetry better. It involves the hormone prolactin. That’s the same hormone women need to make milk, but men have it, too, and it shoots sky-high immediately after orgasm. When you have intercourse, it soars even higher, up to 400 percent higher, than it does after masturbation. We know this because sex researchers have paid college men to sit in rooms, watch porn and masturbate (beats working at Chuck E. Cheese's.) They interpreted this to mean that intercourse is a much more satisfying experience than masturbation.

All well and good, but in another study they concluded that prolactin works like a thermostat to shut off our desire, our appetites, and therefore the exciting, revved-up drives that make us try to satisfy them. So you get dull as a worm and your spirit flees. The more satisfying the sex with a woman, the duller you get.....

Google the rest..

If you are as civilized as you claimed to be, you will apologize to the young man !

Standing ovation for you sir!

And yet some of them still won't get it.

MARKone: @ goldenboy007, kanwulia is actually right, why marry someone, who will only serve as ur Bed mate.

It is debasing, from what OP wrote, his wife is just his sex mate, there is no love there.

OP, YOU DO NOT LOVE YOUR WIFE, QED.

What are you people talking about? it's a hormonal issue and it occurs in different degree with different individuals. Did you guys read the article I posted at all? Similar hormones that make women crave sex at some times of the month and hate it at other times of the month. This is just like criticizing women for what some people classified as "eccentric mood" during the menstrual cycles.

Why are we always eager to judge other people? I do not blame you all, I blame those that are brave enough to share their private problems with people they assumed to be reasonable.

And for you to say "kanwulia" is right simply means you have consented to also be tagged as part of the "shameless men"

Goldenboy007:

What are you people talking about? it's a hormonal issue and it occurs in different degree with different individuals. Did you guys read the article I posted at all? Similar hormones that make women crave sex at some times of the month and hate it at other times of the month. This is just like criticizing women for what some people classified as "eccentric mood" during the menstrual cycles.

Why are we always eager to judge other people? I do not blame you all, I blame those that are brave enough to share their private problems with people they assumed to be reasonable.

And for you to say "kanwulia" is right simply means you have consented to also be tagged as part of the "shameless men"

Bros calm down. Many of them are just here to insult, that's all. They are not interested in learning anything new.

First of all,I feel soooooo sorry for your wife.I cannot imagine having intercourse with someone whohas these feelings.I believe it is safe to say there is no way in hell she can be enjoying s ex with you.The poor woman is probably faking the ooohs and ahhs while you are busy humping away like a rabbit and feeling disgusted.

Weakness,diziness,even nausea I can understand cos the energy expended (especially for the types that chook like they are digging graves) can leave you feeling a bit off but off in a good way.

Your revulsion towards your partner hints at a deeper problem infact its psychological.Maybe you were taught that s ex is dirty,s ex is disgusting,s ex is a demonic act?Anyone who engages in it is evil?Possibly this may be connected to how you feel.If so,you need a therapist fast.Take your wife as well cos she will need her self esteem built up.

Just tell a guy he no de knack well,he will lose appetite for days and may accuse you of being frigid.

This life ehhhhhh

@goldenboy007
Maybe I no go school o but your article if I read correctly is saying the person may feel dull,down,sad,weak at most depressed.
The poster is repulsed and revolted and it extends to his wife,he is disgusted and cannot even look at her.

There's no way this can be classed as normal

pelusi: Please is this norma?. I noticed that anytime i finished making love with my wife,i will be feeling nauseating-as if i want to vomit,the whole thing will be disgusting,turning me off even looking at her after the love making.But when i have the urge,it will be as if i need it more than food as i always disturbing her that i need it almost frequently,but immediately we finished the game,i will start feeling as above mentioned.Please is it normal.Mature advice please.

Prescription: Do a lot of cuddling with her before and during sex. It will ease that feeling.

You probably have had too many lovers before marriage. . .Too much random pre-marital sex with multiple sexual partners. This is what it results in.

Goldenboy007:

What are you people talking about? it's a hormonal issue and it occurs in different degree with different individuals. Did you guys read the article I posted at all? Similar hormones that make women crave sex at some times of the month and hate it at other times of the month. This is just like criticizing women for what some people classified as "eccentric mood" during the menstrual cycles.

Why are we always eager to judge other people? I do not blame you all, I blame those that are brave enough to share their private problems with people they assumed to be reasonable.

And for you to say "kanwulia" is right simply means you have consented to also be tagged as part of the "shameless men"

Noted...

Jahblessme: @goldenboy007
Maybe I no go school o but your article if I read correctly is saying the person may feel dull,down,sad,weak at most depressed.
The poster is repulsed and revolted and it extends to his wife,he is disgusted and cannot even look at her.

There's no way this can be classed as normal

"dull,down,sad,weak at most depressed" all these are negative emotions triggered by the hormones, it could come with different format for different people. Take an example from women, when similar hormones are triggered in Pregnancy, they come with different emotional responses! Some crave for odd food, some will break down and cry unnecessarily, some become temperamental !!! It comes with different forms.


Some people that were brought up in very strict Christian homes and had strict guideline about premarital sex, after a while even when you are married some of them still feel an uncanny sense of guilt when they sleep with their spouses, it make take a while for them to make this feeling go away.
Another ex, when you touch women at a time in their cycle, they are irritated by the sex thing and there are sometimes, the mere sound of your voice gets them wet. I am sure some of you can identify with what I am saying. Its psychological and hormonal !

MARKone:

Noted...

Great, we all learn from each other. Miles Munroe once said " I have never learnt from people that agreed with my opinion"

pelusi: Please is this norma?. I noticed that anytime i finished making love with my wife,i will be feeling nauseating-as if i want to vomit,the whole thing will be disgusting,turning me off even looking at her after the love making.But when i have the urge,it will be as if i need it more than food as i always disturbing her that i need it almost frequently,but immediately we finished the game,i will start feeling as above mentioned.Please is it normal.Mature advice please.

@OP I understand ur plight . De tyn is I can't really judge u wit wat u feel after sex(rather love making)
To me I feel so fulfilled and satisfied after making love DAT I don't even want to get off her. Apart from being exushted its smile all day.

Goldenboy007:

"dull,down,sad,weak at most depressed" all these are negative emotions triggered by the hormones, it could come with different format for different people. Take an example from women, when similar hormones are triggered in Pregnancy, they come with different emotional responses! Some crave for odd food, some will break down and cry unnecessarily, some become temperamental !!! It comes with different forms.


Some people that were brought up in very strict Christian homes and had strict guideline about premarital sex, after a while even when you are married some of them still feel an uncanny sense of guilt when they sleep with their spouses, it make take a while for them to make this feeling go away.
Another ex, when you touch women at a time in their cycle, they are irritated by the sex thing and there are sometimes, the mere sound of your voice gets them wet. I am sure some of you can identify with what I am saying. Its psychological and hormonal !

Dull,sad,weak,down and depressed even vomitting !!!! Guy these are to much to be triggered by an hormone after making love to ones wife?

Were u feeling all dese while u guys were dating? Its psychological, yes I agree but something is losing shape seriously pls try check it fast

Now to really address the OP"s issue.

1,You and your wife can adopt some extra hygiene practice, like both of you taking a cold shower (use perfumed shower gel) before sex so that you can both have that "scented clean body" feeling.
2,You guys keep all hairy part of your body (except your head ) shaved and clean, hair traps bacteria that causes unpleasant odour that can aggravate your symptoms.
3,Then both of you should work on your body contours; flabby laps, stretch marks, protruding stomach, flappy busts etc can put even ordinary people off
4, Then, psychologically, try to clear your mind of anything you have seen your wife doing or any other woman that have irritated you, it might even be siblings or friends. Clear your mind of unresolved quarrels, hurts etc.
5, keep your bedroom deodorized, make it romantic, so even after sex there wont be that lingering sweaty body odour.
6, Then at times, what people have is transferred aggression. They were not able to to satisfy their spouse before they climaxed so they feel guilty and transfer the aggression on their spouse. So make sure you make your wife satisfied before you climax.
7, Keep your sex life exciting by having sex anywhere and everywhere ! Change locations within the house at times; it shouldn't always be on the bed or missionary style, use good hotels, try the car , play music, keep the room colorfully exciting

Try these few stuffs and any other constructive advise you may get from here.

Because she's your wife that's why you feel nauseated anytime you have sex with her. I guess you don't feel the same when you have sex with another woman.

Yeye dey oooze!!

I almost can't believe this xplanation of urs, but I will suggest u try yes against hw u feel at that point to cuddle ur wife, let ur love for her overpower ur present disgust. Hold her and keep repeating ur love for her, I believe it will help u see her in a better way.
I'm sure uve not told her all these cos she will not like it o and it won't end well if u told her.