crackhaus:
8 out of 10 times, the man does. 1 out of 10 times, the woman does...and 1 out of 10 times, no one does (it just happens).

Kachisbarbie: Which kind question be this? Is it a military marriage? For me can't remember when last I told my husband Good morning sef , bc I think he wakes earlier - he would just give me a peck (goodmorning) and I will smile, without even opening my eyes (that's my reply). Marriage aint this serious mbok, u meant to freestyle in it, it's not about some laid down rules anywhere. Sometimes my husband feels like he is my bf, d only difference is there is a ring now and ihe anyi n'aru dizi legit ...lol.

softsparkyy:
Nwa idigodi sharp.
Jisie nu ike n'oru.
I go soon enter legit.

5minsmadness:
Of course we are talking about marriage, what did you think we were talking about?

So now from what you just said, are we in an African setting or a western setting?

myads890:

We are in an African setting.

A marriage is not a place to start flaunting ego.

Don't worry, you'll understand better when you grow up and start dating

Chillisauce: Oh no. Not again.

Warrisdis.

5minsmadness: A respectful wife will greet her husband first. It won't even be a matter for argument.
A man who actively greets his wife first thing in the morning is a pvssy.

tranxo:
O gini ji nkita onwu?

softsparkyy:
Ukwa ruo oge ya.

kulyie: as in ehen I just taya for all this kain threads.we go soon see why do women have 2 brez

softsparkyy:
Ukwa ruo oge ya.

bukatyne: The wife and if hubby woke up first, he can sleep back till wifey wakes up

obayaya:

O daa

myads890:

We are in an African setting.

A marriage is not a place to start flaunting ego.

Don't worry, you'll understand better when you grow up and start dating

ferhyntorlah: bukatyne, you are one funny person. Wife must always be the one to greet oooooo. Man is head and so the head must be hallowed! SMH for some kain rules people just dey 'manufacture'.

fairheven:
Seriously? What is the meaning of good morning first of?in simple term u r affirming or wishing som1 "a good morning"so wt is the big deal on whu greets first,even an adult can say goodmornin first to a child,an it does not cost a tin.,again first ask ursef the Meaning literally.I greet my younger brother first wen I cal him on fon,its just a wish(like merrychristmas)an it can come from anyone;its haggling over issues like this that gives many people high blood pressure!

Forget all these single ladies and those married females who come online to type long epistles because they feel oppressed in their matrimonial homes due to no fault of ours and find Nairaland as a place to vent their frustrations. Many of the married ones will never admit it but they will even kneel down to greet their husbands in their homes then come here and start spreading like peacock. The single ones shouting are still single for a reason. They are either small girls or they are old babes who have no respect and no man worth his salt will go near any of them for a serious relationship-hence their singleness.

donroxy: Of course Yes !

bukatyne:

1st 8, the man does
2nd 1, the woman does
3rd 1, nobody does

beeevan: My mum will always wake me with "good morning (my name), please can you go and do bla bla...... ", 90 percent of the times, i have greeted our gate man first because I probably do see him first.


Gosh!! I really wonder how men this staunch make love to their wives, ominous sounds might have to be played in the background before the act to show that the King of the jungle is about to get on .

cococandy: Nairaland of wonders.

So someone like me now who sees all these trash as silly and types in accord must be really oppressed in my marriage because forgive me I don't understand how this is an issue.

Hubby wakes up and begins to rub your backside while murmuring 'good morning sweetheart' into your ears until your sleepy head wakes up. What an oppression
Better run for your life


Or these guys who don't see how it is disrespectful to greet their wives first must be pantie sniffers. Oh dear.


I believe when people get married,all these misinformation will stop.
I can state so many scenarios where couples wake up and get lost in the romance of the morning to even bother about greeting.

Or some scenarios where the husband greets his wife first even before she has a chance to open her mouth and greet.

Or a scenario where both of them blurt the good morning out simultaneuosly and begin to laugh about how their both greetings came at the same exact time. And that's because neither of them was waiting for the other to say it first.

How will I wake up and stare at hubby waiting for him to greet me first? I can't imagine it.
Neither can I imagine a scenario where he sees me first and keeps mute until I greet him first.
If this should ever happen to any couple,then something is wrong somewhere.
But I believe a normal marriage sees either of the party ready to start up the days romance regardless of who speaks or greets first.

Pls you guys should stop scaring single ladies into thinking that marriage is one huge rule laden ride and they can't be happy in it unless they are constantly fanning egos.

5minsmadness:

You really want to know? Ok.
Its not about ego, its about respect.
Am sure your parents don't greet you first thing in the morning, they would have taught you that greeting your elder is the curteous thing to do. Apart from indicating that you wish the person well it shows politeness, that you were well brought up. We are not in the western setting when you see your father and greet him by his first name e.g "Hi Steve". Its an insult in our setting. Even the westerners are beginning to realise that there is a missing link in setting a foundation for their kids to show respect to the elders among them.

Forget all these single ladies and those married females who come online to type long epistles because they feel oppressed in their matrimonial homes due to no fault of ours and find Nairaland as a place to vent their frustrations. Many of the married ones will never admit it but they will even kneel down to greet their husbands in their homes then come here and start spreading like peacock. The single ones shouting are still single for a reason. They are either small girls or they are old babes who have no respect and no man worth his salt will go near any of them for a serious relationship-hence their singleness.

The boys supporting these women are mainly little kids looking for likes and an opportunity to PM these single ladies later so they can "hook-up".

A responsible and respectable man approaches a woman for a relationship and when he sees she is wife material he will go ahead and propose, approach the woman's family, do introduction, pay bride price, follow all the regular procedures and then give the woman the white wedding of her dreams. The woman does not marry him under duress i.e by force, she marries him of her own free will. She marries him because she has fallen in love with him and knows that he will be able to take care of her needs for the rest of his life.. This is a huge responsibility. That is enough to accord him that respect. He has earned it. It is a little thing. to show that respect by greeting him first thing in the morning. It is just common courtesy and shows that the woman is a good woman, a woman who is proud of her husband.

Those single girls typing a thousand words and trying to encourage themselves in their false beliefs will continue to remain single if they practice this antagonistic behaviour outside the internet. Don't get carried away by their friendly exchanges and seemingly smart wit. They are lonely and looking for who to add to their club.

cococandy: Lmao @ king of the jungle.
Beeevan idi funny.

But seriously tho,I can't imagine myself (a die hard romantic) survive in such a rigid environment.

Take for example a beautiful saturday morning.
Neither of them is going to work.
Wifey sees herself waking up before hubby. She looks at him and says to herself 'wow I still can't believe this handsome,chiseled chocolately hunk of a man is all mine'
So she gently lifts her head from his chest to avoid waking him and sneaks off to the kitchen to make something awesomely delicious for him as breakfast.

But before she's done,he's awake and tiptoes into the kitchen,grabs her from behind and says 'good morning my love'
Wondering in his heart 'how did I get blessed with such a beautiful sweet woman?'

Should we tell him to withdraw his good morning because she's supposed to say it first?

I don't think romance can survive so many rules at once.

Meanwhile you owe me a plate of okro soup for this beautiful romantic scenarios I just created for you now