Early this morning my neighbour's 2 years old son kept screaming to the mother; "I want to see my daddy repeatedly". Honestly I was laden with emotion when I heard the little kid sprout out those words. The mother was so angry that she retorted: " I will spank you now, will you shut up. At this tender age of 2 you have started disturbing me. If you go on like this, I will go and drop you at your fathers gate so that when he drives out he will see you and pick you up".

The kid continue bellowing until the mom calms him down: "Very soon when you are of age, I will take you to your father so you can enjoy with the other kids, play inside the vast compound, enjoy the swimming pool and your dad will dot on you"

This neighbour of mine is a barrister, married to a very rich man but separated when she was 6 month pregnant of this young lad who has brush her emotional this morning. She has been responsible for the kid all this while and the suppose father has never shown face not even for a minute. For her, I think she have moved on since her fashion sense nowadays don't actually represent her former self.

Single mom and nairalanders, how will u handle this scenario?

One of the downsides to single motherhood, the kids at an early age will always miss and in some cases seek out a father figure.

If you're asking what I'll do, let me use an uncle of mine as an example:

When his little boy became curious and started asking questions about why he never sees his mother anymore (the kid was about 2years old when she walked out on the marriage with only her bags), my uncle would always tell him, "boy forget about your mother, she is not a good woman..she left you and didn't think twice, she does not love you, she does not want you".

Those are harsh words if you ask me, but they couldn't be further from the truth.
I never understand how a woman can turn her back on her child, the same one she carried for 9months.
Okay the marriage wasn't a good match, I knew it the first time I saw them (they're both hot-heads)..but i think It's okay to exit the marriage and still have some connection with the child at least, instead of just turning one's back completely on an innocent child who'll always ask about the missing parent no matter how many times you explain to them.
The same thing goes for men who abandon their kids as well.

This is what I would do if I were to ever be a single father (highly unlikely though); I would tell my kid(s) the truth, no sugar coating, no nothing...just the plain truth about why their mother is absent. This is what I advice any single parent to do, just tell them and get it over with.

Yes but when a single mom does that she's accused of bad mouthing the father thereby making the kids unbalanced or men-haters or whatever else.

Well each to their own.

crackhaus: One of the downsides to single motherhood, the kids at an early age will always miss and in some cases seek out a father figure.

If you're asking what I'll do, let me use an uncle of mine as an example:

When his little boy became curious and started asking questions about why he never sees his mother anymore (the kid was about 2years old when she walked out on the marriage with only her bags), my uncle would always tell him, "boy forget about your mother, she is not a good woman..she left you and didn't think twice, she does not love you, she does not want you".

Those are harsh words if you ask me, but they couldn't be further from the truth.
I never understand how a woman can turn her back on her child, the same one she carried for 9months.
Okay the marriage wasn't a good match, I knew it the first time I saw them (they're both hot-heads)..but i think It's okay to exit the marriage and still have some connection with the child at least, instead of just turning one's back completely on an innocent child who'll always ask about the missing parent no matter how many times you explain to them.
The same thing goes for men who abandon their kids as well.

This is what I would do if I were to ever be a single father (highly unlikely though); I would tell my kid(s) the truth, no sugar coating, no nothing...just the plain truth about why their mother is absent. This is what I advice any single parent to do, just tell them and get it over with.

OP if she has the man's contact,she can send him a message that his son is asking of him and wants to meet him.

It is then left for him to honor the invite or not.

cococandy: Yes but when a single mom does that she's accused of bad mouthing the father thereby making the kids unbalanced or men-haters or whatever else.

Well each to their own.

But you know you women like to add salt and pepper when you're talking about someone who wronged you and broke your heart though..

And men don't add maggi and onions?

crackhaus:
But you know you women like to add salt and pepper when you're talking about someone who wronged you and broke your heart though..

cococandy: And men don't add maggi and onions?

Not as much na, you sef know...you just want to argue

SeaGold: Early this morning my neighbour's 2 years old son kept screaming to the mother; "I want to see my daddy repeatedly". Honestly I was laden with emotion when I heard the little kid sprout out those words. The mother was so angry that she retorted: " I will spank you now, will you shut up. At this tender age of 2 you have started disturbing me. If you go on like this, I will go and drop you at your fathers gate so that when he drives out he will see you and pick you up".
The kid continue bellowing until the mom calms him down: "Very soon when you are of age, I will take you to your father so you can enjoy with the other kids, play inside the vast compound, enjoy the swimming pool and your dad will dot on you"
This neighbour of mine is a barrister, married to a very rich man but separated when she was 6 month pregnant of this young lad who has brush her emotional this morning. She has been responsible for the kid all this while and the suppose father has never shown face not even for a minute. For her, I think she have moved on since her fashion sense nowadays don't actually represent her former self.
Single mom and nairalanders, how will u handle this scenario?

As a single mom, i will tell him "daddy is gone far away for now and one day he will be back to see you"

I will never shout shout on him because he is an innocent soul just suffering for nothing

This is what i tell my 2years daughter when she say "daddy"' and she will say "'okay"'

Wonder why some could be so heartless and careless about their flesh and blood

Let me look and learn.. my baby is just 1.. d time is coming

misssPepper: Let me look and learn.. my baby is just 1.. d time is coming

How will you feel if your kid start crying and demanding to see father when you know its the kid's right and not privilege especially if your both parent had dotted on you.