coogar:

a loser!



it begs the question though - who are the women sleeping with these irresponsible men? were they räped or they are too blind to see through the irresponsibility of these useless men?

OkikiOluwa1: Purchased Space

NickiRoman: ..SMH you are still defending irresponsible fathers,You are such a chauvinist.

Nobleval: Well...I don't know what to say. Most fathers can be seen as irresponsible. Now looking at it from the Op perspective...your article is talking about poor Dads who spend the little they earn on concubines and their bastards...you see them as irresponsible because their wives are 'housewives' thereby leaving the legitimate kids at the mercy of fate.


Hmmm lets see...what will you call the rich Dads that take care of their family...and on the other hand has a second "family"? Responsible?...if yes..because they have money? {thereby giving them the right to reap where they sowed in the future?} being responsible is not about having MONEY to cater for the family {all hands are not equal} which the Op seems to be hitting on.
There are other ways a father can be a responsible personality to his family.....

oneangle: He abandoned the kids and wife for over 10years . Mother raised them all, sent them all to school. Mother passed on last year december.during burial ceremony , he saw it as an opportunity to raise funds. Which he spent on himself..now he is broke and wants the kids back.. Pleae advice..what do you call such father?

hensben: Bro you just described my home but fortunately, my mother was very strong to give us everything we wanted
As I type now,My worst enemy in this life is my father(ex-father), he made my mum went through hell, though, I have forgiven him but we can never be friends, he is my enemy, I don't even bear his name, not that him n my mum didn't tie knot, they did perfectly, I even saw their wedding pic.
I know people that haven't pass through this (which I don't pray you experience) will think what am typing now is nollywood, believe me, things like this do happen.
My mother is a down to earth woman and very hard working,then, I was wondering, what is now the problem of this man.
Thank lord me, my mother and siblings are doing good now.

wiringdpt: Opoonu

lupey: Modified...

OP has said it all, basically... I'm a good example of the above and its quite painful that some people have to go through a half-baked childhood and some don't.

I think the most painful part of having an irresponsible father is the absence of a father-figure...someone to scold you when you're wrong and to draw u back to himself. Someone to fear, cos whether we believe it or not, fathers would always carry that aura that would compel an erring child to fear them.
My mum has done an awesome job but no day passes without my wishing everything was just fine.
I have a male friend that has an extremely irresponsible father and he fears marriage like anything. He doesn't even trust himself enough to not over pamper his children because he never got love from his own father. He's a die-hard female fan and finds it hard to connect to his maaculine side. I sometimes pity him, notwithstanding that we're in the same shoes, because a lady could take advantage of his weakness for women. These are some sad effects of irresponsibility in fathers.

As I said, the op has said it all but lets still beg men to stick to the wives of their youth.
Big shout out to all the runz girls and huaband snatchers out there. Remember that God is watching u o! Also, remember that what goes around comes around. The law of karma awaits you!

A huge shout out to all the mothers out there acting as both fathers and mothers. May you live long enough to reap the fruits of your labour.

OkikiOluwa1:
Don't get me wrong, I m talking abt both rich & poor dads.
Any father that gives birth to kids that he can't raise is irresponsible. If a poor dad tried his best on a child, people ll testify. I m talking about fathers that doesn't v any impact on their kids. Morally, spiritually they are not there.

Amelian: Op, God bless u for bringing up dis thread. The rate men impregnante girls and dump them, is so alarming. The number of single mothers out there is increasing 2 a dnagerous peak. Its seems reponsible are gradually becoming extinct in our society. All we have these days, is selfishness in. Stvpid crafty way..
There are lots of men out there, but how many can we count 2 be responsible or 2 be a father figure?.. Single mothers are trying their best to take care of their kids, as their resources and energy deem fit, but their best is not enough..
It has even gotten 2 a stage that peers, even pastors, IMams, family members will advise a lady of 30s and above 2 start thinking of bn a single mum , if marriage is not visible
That's a total wrong advice, which is so rampant in the lips of most pple.. A lady who knws wat she wants, will kip faith and belive, she will still get married and start her family.. While d weak ones, will listen 2 d wind and moves any direction. D wind blows. *sighs* May God open the eyes of men and women 2 see the havoc they r causing 2 d society by not bn responsible.
God help us all.

Nobleval: please explain the moral and spiritual part. your original post didn't elaborate that nor did you mention that either.

aisha2:

Please dont be bitter with him. Bitterness will make you unconciously become him. Let it go, and be determined to be a better father than he was. It should be your driving force.

Sad thing is some times the men who hate their fathers so much become like their fathers. May God deliver us all from this type of situation

OkikiOluwa1:
Alright. The moral & spiritual aspect is about guiding the child to do the right things. By correcting the child when mistake is made, by showing the child the road to God etc. Some father's don't stay at home always. So they don't even know what's bothering their children. Some fathers already v bad orientation cos they are also a product of an irresponsible man. So, when their kids make mistake, they don't correct them. Take for instance, morally bankrupt man can't tell his son to desist from cybercrime. Instead, he ll encourage the child to transfer something to him as father's share.
I v seen fathers & even mothers that do this.

coogar:

a loser!



it begs the question though - who are the women sleeping with these irresponsible men? were they räped or they are too blind to see through the irresponsibility of these useless men?

hensben: sisy, that's my vow to God that I can never be like him in anyway, my father's experience have thought me a big lesson and my mother is very discipline and she told me many things should incase when I get married, my mother never tell me anything bad about my father but I have eyes, I saw how everything happened, the man is irresponsible,she always tell me to be responsible to my kids and wife.
The things you typed occur when the woman chose to follow the man's way and be irresponsible too like the man, thereby, their kids turn something else.