ihedinobi2:

Using your feelings to judge anything in life means that you will never be reliable because your feelings will always change depending on the current circumstances. Marriages don't succeed because feelings are great all the time, they do because two people choose each other no matter what.

holamiday: I'm currently in that situation right now. My lover in secondary school, 7 years ago, is still head over heels in love with me. She calls, tries to convince me we are meant to be, advises our other friends of the situation so they can talk to me and all that. She tells me how she's turned down myriads of proposals from other guys & that she's still a virgin all because of me. Sometimes she even cries on the phone saying i was her first love. It's obvious she still has those long forgotten feelings. She's a good girl & quite good-looking on every level.

The problem is i do not love her at all anymore. I have met people over the years, i've been to places & she's no longer my kind of girl. I feel so much pity for her & i call just so my conscience doesn't make me feel like a wicked person but i know i do not & cannot love her anymore. It's quite serious.

GodMode:

In summary...

You have self esteem issues.

lanrefront1:

I just use the above post as an example. There are many others similar to it.

The point is this: almost every commentator on this thread do not understand what the saying "when the wrong ones love you right".

Its not talking about un-reciprocated love which many are terming it to be.

If someone loves you and you don't feel like loving them back, then he/she is not loving you right because they simply are not the one for you.

"When the wrong one loves you right" means when a guy or girl comes along, exactly the type of person that you like, right type of beauty, right height, right built, right financial status, does the right thing says the right thing, considerate, kind-hearted, unselfish, cares deeply for you, but alas, he or her is the wrong person because:

Maybe he/she from OSU caste

Maybe you discover he has gone out with your elder sister some seven years ago

Maybe your parents wants you to marry an Ibo spouse and you've promised them you would and this person happens to be Yoruba or Hausa.

Maybe he is a Muslim and you happen to be a Christian girl, but you're at peace with him more than all the Christians brothers

Maybe after sometime you discover that you guys are second or third cousins


Maybe after a while, you discover that he or she is the child of Father's business rival.

Maybe after a while, you discover he is a loan shark or she is or she is a singer who sings a night clubs for a living......

Etcetera and etcetera......


So guys, understand and start commenting rightly...

Elle780: Yea u nailed it. Is 4 d cute and sexy

iamtewwy: this might b off topic tho, but i have to du ds because it has been bothering me and giving me concerns am 21 and have not dated any gal before, my reason for not going into any relationship is dat,

1.) wat would i been gisting with this my gal: i see so many guys with there gals gisting and laffing on the road and am imaging wat are this guys talking abt, ok if i toast a gal der is an 80% chance that she might say yes!! but i dnt knw how i can keep the relationship to b lively, if mayb i went to visit her, wen we stay together what are we going to b talking abt, thats just my problem naw!! pls can any of u relationship gurus help me awt? or give me gist i can b gisting with these gal to keep my relationship lively, pls help me am seriousy in need of ur help tanx pls ignore how i typed this!!

Richy4:



Sorry to quote you but did you read what the OP wrote? many comment here are in line with the OP's write up. maybe you just read the head line and did not care to understand what she wrote

adexsimply: don't ever mistake infatuation for love.

Kinkybraids: Very interesting and relevant topic. It reminds me of what my older brother said to me once.

He said love is like waiting in a long line at the bank . You are facing the one you love and would do anything for but they are facing someone else. Behind you is the one that trully loves you...they would do nothing but to have you look back at them.

So you stand in the line hoping that the one that you love turns around and gives you a chance but they dont. So you come up with a plan to get their attention by tapping them on the shoulder (a metarphor for using money, sex, desperation to secure love ect). And they turn around but only give you their attention for a little while...afterwards they turn around again, and you are left facing them, with their backs turned on you.

All this while the person that trully loves you is still facing you hoping you would turn and face them. So after sometime of waiting impatiently in the line...you finally turn and face them. You may not have wanted to but this is the second best option. You have a conversation with them to pass the time but still thinking of the one you trully love.

Sadly that is how it goes in the line of love. Iv been there too...sometimes you just have to look back because it just hurts to stick around where you arent wanted.

nickz: fu ck LOVE
these hoes aint loyal

Kinkybraids: Very interesting and relevant topic. It reminds me of what my older brother said to me once.

He said love is like waiting in a long line at the bank . You are facing the one you love and would do anything for but they are facing someone else. Behind you is the one that trully loves you...they would do nothing but to have you look back at them.

So you stand in the line hoping that the one that you love turns around and gives you a chance but they dont. So you come up with a plan to get their attention by tapping them on the shoulder (a metarphor for using money, sex, desperation to secure love ect). And they turn around but only give you their attention for a little while...afterwards they turn around again, and you are left facing them, with their backs turned on you.

All this while the person that trully loves you is still facing you hoping you would turn and face them. So after sometime of waiting impatiently in the line...you finally turn and face them. You may not have wanted to but this is the second best option. You have a conversation with them to pass the time but still thinking of the one you trully love.

Sadly that is how it goes in the line of love. Iv been there too...sometimes you just have to look back because it just hurts to stick around where you arent wanted.

novia22:

Nne eeeh God will bless u for dropping this kinda comment. All it takes is turning back and giving the other person waiting a chance..that's the problem I had. I found myself loving someone immensely when the nigga had a girlfriend, claimed he loved me and when I selfishly asked him to break up with her for us to be together, the nigga told me he couldn't cos he doesn't know what tommorow holds...Meanwhile there was this other guy who was virtually on his knees begging for a chance to prove himself to me ...I took the bold step of giving him a chance and till this moment I'm typing this, I dnt and have never regretted making that decision.

novia22:

Nne eeeh God will bless u for dropping this kinda comment. All it takes is turning back and giving the other person waiting a chance..that's the problem I had. I found myself loving someone immensely when the nigga had a girlfriend, claimed he loved me and when I selfishly asked him to break up with her for us to be together, the nigga told me he couldn't cos he doesn't know what tommorow holds...Meanwhile there was this other guy who was virtually on his knees begging for a chance to prove himself to me ...I took the bold step of giving him a chance and till this moment I'm typing this, I dnt and have never regretted making that decision.

lasheez: The one you like does not want you,the one you dont really like wants you.Its a double edge sword but you can learn to like the later wth time and your dream will finally come true.

onstelly:
Lol u got me laughing with the investment part.

Kinkybraids:
They said that a woman should always be with a man that loves her more than she loves him because he will always put her first and value her.

Krystalxxx: These days....love to a naija guy only happens with some well rounded, very pretty, cute or assy girl. So called love only exists for certain people

uzoexcel: hit d gym and all ll be well

Krystalxxx:
I don't think you know me ....I'm the one person who is as thin as a toothpick...no matter what or how much I eat(or I'm forced to eat).lol

novia22:

I always believed and still believe in that saying....because in most sincere cases, the lady has no option to fall back in love with the guy/man....and everyone is happy apart from bad belles of course!

adexsimply: not always true