simbaddsailor: My mother had us two out of wedlock. I and my sister. She left us at a tender age to got married to a man, she beared 6 children for d man, 5 boys and 1 girl. The man is now late. We grew up living wit our grand parents. I can say that my grand parents were the parents I knew. It waz after some years that I and my sister began to realize that we have a biological mother because, she never showed us love, she barely visits us, grand parents were catering for our education etc. Their first son waz supportive, making sure that we lack noting. During holidays, he wuld send his driver to pick us up for a holiday, while coming back, he would buy us cloths, give us sch fees and pocket money. All this while, our mother waz comfortable with her husband and children. I and my sister never for once visited them to spend holidays. We grew up and finished our secondary school, we knew very well that she has never shown us any care but that never bothered us as we were eager to make our grand parents and their first son happy at leat, to repay back to them what they spent on us. I waz lucky to get a job after my seconday school, my sister waz fortunate to get married. Our mother discriminated us, she never see anyting good in us, the hatred waz obvious, she succeded in causing a division among us and her other 6 children, we now see ourselves as enemies, we can't relate as brothers and sisters, to make the matter worse, after the death of her husband, she abandoned her husband place to relocate back to her late parents house where I live presently with their first son. Her brother gave me a room. My mother has made life unbearable for me, he calls me names, she repeatedly boasted that her other 6 children will be better than me, she is also not in good term with her elder brother and she wanted me to join her in fighting him, I told her that I can't bite the finger that fed me, when she abandoned us, it waz the man and her wife that assisted our grand parents to make sure that we went to school, how then do I fight a man who has not wronged me in any way. I became her enemy for refusing to join her in fighting her brother. She accused me of things I know noting about. That waz same thing my sister suffered in her hands before she finally got married, even wen she put to bed n called her to come and assist her, she went their and caused problem, she insulted my sister's husband, the man had to bring her back with annoyance and sworn that she will never come to his house again whenever his wife puts to bed. I had to rent a house and moved out of our compound. When my rent expired, our family members had to prevail on me to return, that I can't be paying rent when I have a room. My mother has consistently fraustrated every move to make her return to her husband house. I am now trying to gather money and relocate to either Enugu or Lagos since my family members are against me renting a house in our town. I don't know if other people born out of wedlock are passing through same thing I and my sister are passing through. Please your advices are welcomed.

timothy001: Sorry about what you're passing through, Why not try and get a job and make a plan for your life. Ofcourse when you dont have money to do needful for families.Issues like dis come up and shoudn't be new....How about your Father...?

simbaddsailor: I work, could you believe she once came to my working place to make trouble with me for an ordinary matter we could have resloved at home? She did this just to embarass me in the presence of my colleagues. As for my father, the mystry

sorrounding my birth and who my biological father waz, is wot I have not been able to unravel because my mother is not helping matter. I am aware that both I and my sister came from different man. My father as I waz meant to understand is a yoruba man from Ondo state while that of my sister is an Edo man, my sister been a woman and a married woman for that matter has beared her husband name, its needless for her looking for her father. In my own case, I have made efforts to locate my father, but my mother has been fraustrating me, she claims she only know my father's name and the state he comes from but does nt know his town or village. I learnt she lived with the man in the barracks after the civil war, he waz in the army. She conceived for my father, her parents threatened her to come back home if my father waz not ready to pay her bride price. After she returned home, my father later came to inform them that he waz ready for the bride price, rather than my mother accepting my father, she ran away and fraustrated my father's move to marry her. My father with annoyance left and never returned. He does nt even know wether my mother delivered me or not and if at all she delivered me, he does not know wether it waz a boy or gal. If I have a means or locating my father, I could have done that long tym ago at least to have a sense of belonging. This is the situation I v found myself.

memyselfandI: Kanwulia the kanwulia

berem: @ madam kanwulia! Beautiful and inspiring posts you got there.


@post,everything advice you need have been given to you. I wish you all the best and pray you get married soon so as to be free from your mother's wahala. God bless your hustle!