tahidi: Am new here, I beg of u, no insults or judgment.
Am married to my long term on and off boyfriend.. am in love with him don't get me wrong..
His family hates me, wouldn't give me time or day, tribal issues.. anyways, he feels I should bend over backwards and I won't.. this has caused a rift..he is cheating on me, am sure of this, he is distant, he always waits for me to initiate sex.. am tired and just stuck for the meantime.. considering a transfer to basically run away from my problem.. he doesn't listen.. and wen he does, he refuses to understand or take action....
I need a friend, someone to listen, to understand, to be there for me..I stay in kD..

ammyluv2002: Sometimes, making new friends wont solve your marti al problems cause you live with it...you can catch all the fun outside then come back home to your problem. I sugguest you find a lasting solution to your problem thatz the only way to be happy body and soul. *just saying

Galads: this is the best advice you can get. One fact is, men would cheat will cheat on the women and get away with it. you as the wife, the best thing for you to do is to try to get your man by any means. What does he see or get outside that you can't give him inside? Have you asked yourself that question? But if you decide to have fun outside on just because you think or he does really cheat on u also, have you considered the consequence when he finds out eventually. I guess you don't want a divorce. Even when a man knows he is unfaithful and wicked to his wife, he still want her faithful, mean while having fun could lead to a lot and I promise you, if a man finds out. Its over so don't give him a reason to open a case file for you
Note: prayers changes all thing. I usually tell every woman, if your husband or boyfrnd cheats on you, its your fault and I have statements to back it up. If you discover the power of a woman, you will know how powerful you are. Work on getting your family together shikena. I guess you need a lot of tips to make it work instead of new friends to influence you badly

ammyluv2002: Dude! Pls read my post very well cause I think we are saying the same thing. I said she should face her problems and not making new friends they won't solve her martial problems so wetin you come dey talk again. I don't believe in divorce and won't advice anyone to divorce her hubby so what are you saying? Pls, I'm not one of those girls who doesn't believe in marriage vows!

ammyluv2002: Dude! Pls read my post very well cause I think we are saying the same thing. I said she should face her problems and not making new friends they won't solve her martial problems so wetin you come dey talk again. I don't believe in divorce and won't advice anyone to divorce her hubby so what are you saying? Pls, I'm not one of those girls who doesn't believe in marriage vows!

Galads: did you actually see what I wrote? Why did you think I quoted you? Was it for fashion? You shoud be happy I quoted your post as the best advice she can get. So chill and understand before you spoil your morning over anothers headache. Peace.

Rocktation:

Really, what's up with you? You de carry fight for mind, before you read posts?

tahidi: I have read ur comments, critique and all-what -nots..... let me be clear... I DO NOT want to CHEAT on my husband, AM NOT HERE to play games, I wanyt LIKE minds, someone, MALE OR FEMALE who can relate with my situation and who RESIDE here in kD, so as to be friends, advise, enable me to find practical means to end my unhappiness... am sure a lot of married people belong on nairaland, am sure a lot of unhappy married people are here, am sure a lot of happy ones are here and can help me out...I don't want my family or friends involved in my marital woes as they might end up compounding the problem instead of finding a lsting solution... I repeat, MATURED MINDS, preferably married... thank u

tahidi: I have read ur comments, critique and all-what -nots..... let me be clear... I DO NOT want to CHEAT on my husband, AM NOT HERE to play games, I wanyt LIKE minds, someone, MALE OR FEMALE who can relate with my situation and who RESIDE here in kD, so as to be friends, advise, enable me to find practical means to end my unhappiness... am sure a lot of married people belong on nairaland, am sure a lot of unhappy married people are here, am sure a lot of happy ones are here and can help me out...I don't want my family or friends involved in my marital woes as they might end up compounding the problem instead of finding a lsting solution... I repeat, MATURED MINDS, preferably married... thank u

tahidi: I am 30 yrs old, no kids yet.. I want someone matured pls to understand... preferably married

lirusehn: why dont u talk to God ma?

He knowz beter than man.
Less i 4get he mkes a good friend.