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Situations You Can Remain Friends With Your Ex by Abisoyee(m): 8:19am On Aug 06, 2014
Break ups are usually hard and
most people find it hard to move
on. Seeing face to face with the
one that they once loved becomes
a herculean task as the emotions
may be too raw or may have been
too deep for them to deal with and
cutting of their exes seems to be
the best available option.

However, depending on the way
you guys broke up and why you
broke up in the first place, there
are times when being friends with
your ex does you more good than
harm. Take these scenarios below
as instances:

Same Minds and Mentality: When
your ex feels like your better half
despite their many faults and they
seem to be the only one that truly
gets you, it is good to remain
friends with them. It is very easy
to remain friends with an ex that
sex wasn’t a priority while in the
relationship. Admit it, sexual
tension is the major reason most
people find it hard remaining
friends with an ex.

A Mutual Breakup: Mutual
breakups are usually rare to find
so this might seem a bit
farfetched. One person is usually
not ready for a break up and the
person doing the break up might
begin to feel bad and promise
things like ‘let us remain
friends.’But if you happen to be
on the lucky side of having broken
up mutually, then remaining
friends is usually not a hard
choice as none of you is holding
hidden emotions.

You Are Still Single and the Sex was
Great: Like I said earlier, most
people don’t want to remain
friends because being in contact
with their ex reminds them of
what used to be. You both can
chose to remain friends and have
sex if it is a mutual decision and
more so if you are single and
lonely, then no harm done if you
both hit the sheets again. However
in doing this, don’t expect casual
sex to necessarily lead to a
reunion. Sex with your ex is
retirement benefits; it doesn’t
mean you are resuming the job.

You Share Common Friends and Keep
Running Into Each Other: It would
do you and your state of mind
much good if you remain friends
with an ex that you have a lot of
common friends with. The fact
that you share friends simply
means there are instances you
would see each other or one of you
will come up in a conversation.
Bury the hatchet and draw in your
sword, remain friends and do
away with the hard feelings. You
can’t begin to avoid all your
mutual friends, one thing to
always remember when you run
into your ex is to remain calm.

Practical Sensibility: Be practical, if
your ex is in a position to help
you later on in future, I see no
reason why you should throw
them away just because you two
didn’t work out. Don’t let emotions
override your reasoning, be calm
and act rationally. For instance, if
you just broke up with the boss, it
would be good to remain on their
good side, this may sound dirty
but hello; this is life. Most of us
hate our superiors but we still act
like we love them, so why not
remain friends with the ex as
well?

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we have on the offer. Watch out
for Reasons “ Scenarios You Can’t
Remain Friends With Your Ex.” This
coming article explores situations
where remaining friends with
your ex will be detrimental to you.

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Re: Situations You Can Remain Friends With Your Ex by Danhumprey: 8:58am On Aug 06, 2014
Remaining friend with an ex is like kidnappers asking to keep in touch with their released victims. Smh.

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Re: Situations You Can Remain Friends With Your Ex by vizkiz: 9:07am On Aug 06, 2014
the last time i tried being "friends" with one of my ex we ended up screaming and moaning on the bed undecided
Re: Situations You Can Remain Friends With Your Ex by lequatee(m): 10:41am On Aug 06, 2014
i and my ex are still very good friends and thats because we were good friends before becoming lovers. till date we still talk and help each other in actualizing our dreams.
#friends before lovers
Re: Situations You Can Remain Friends With Your Ex by 2nex(m): 12:00pm On Aug 07, 2014
nice 1
Re: Situations You Can Remain Friends With Your Ex by olumaxi(m): 3:10pm On Aug 07, 2014
I think only jah really knws d situation cos am stil friends with a lot of my ex irrespectiv of d situations responsible for our heartbreaks

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