lofty900: do u satisfy her in bed ? like it or not ladies have no respect or fear for guys with dangling ropes. Or am I lying ?

Kanwulia: Do not allow her to mistake your gentle nature for weakness!
She has poor communication skills for sure.

Do you love her?
If you do. . . you need to be patient with her.
It looks like she has a lot of 'hurt' bottled inside her and has a problem communicating.
She may have had parents who shouted all the time. Or one of those cantankerous 'polygamous homes' where quarreling is goodmorning, good afternoon and goodnight!

Explain to her that if she cannot change. . . you will have to leave the relationship.
No guarantee that she can change. . . .even after marriage.
You have 2 choices.

1. Stay and work with her. . . .
2. Leave and find someone else. . . .

The choice is yours!

brosss: She's probably a coleric....... Believe it or not, first thing u have to know about you fiancee is to understand her personality..... Read up coleric personality. 2) you have to break her bossy attitude. How?
1. Never show her your fears(even when u are afraid, keep it within)!
2.) The antidote to bossy partners, is to let act cool , calculated( as though you don't give a rats ass about their bickering)
3) Make her know, the both of you have equal stakes in the relationship.
4) Establish your authority( she'd only become a follower when she knows you are strong enough)
5) Don't feed her anger! When she flares up, don't flare up with her! Walk out... And feel good about it!
6) Pray.........
I have a coleric partner, at a point we went days without communications, I didn't bend.... I almost chickened out.... Until I stepped up my game ! Of course, "Oluwa is involved"
She still bosses other people, but to me, she becomes the meekest person..., I am loving it too

delard1285: Hello nairalanders, I will kindly respect your opinion on this major issue bordering my heart. I have a fiancee that most time I wanted to talk to her, I do have some element of fear in me. She lose to me in talking even when we have issue to discuss she quickly get angry and she will not allow me to talk and she will be saying I dont want to listen to her when she herself has dominiaring attitude. Whenever we are together, I do calculate what I will say so that she will not get angry at a point in time. Even if i tried all my best to pleas her, she will still see something. It has been a major concerns to me, please kindly advice especially ladies in the house. Thanks

MizMyColi: Insecurity! Unrepentant Insecurity! OP, Take a break already joor! its no use going through such emotional abuse, seeing as you're not mentally and/or psychologically prepared to handle her

MizMyColi: You're prolly setting yourself up for heart failure

baralatie:
it is completely irrelevant in this case.the question is what genres or topic that both find it difficult to reach a safe ground.
and if emotional relationship is an issue then she has anoda in the background.

RoyalRoy:

No no no!!!

He is not the one with issues but his girlfriend. A temperamental woman will make you tip toe Around her just because you want some peace, and she takes advantage of your by pushing to the limits.

It has nothing to do with insecurity at all. Trust me av been there.

Remembering makes me wanna rewind back and rewrite that part of me.

Op, never ever manage a woman who has anger issues. They end up giving you high blood pressure Nd keep you unhappy for a long time. Cut her lose and count your loss.

Move on!!!

Noooooo

He uses my signature font and font size!




Joke apart now, I never insinuated he had any issues. The lady in question's kinda overbearing and has all the issues which boils down to Deep Seated insecurity of sorts, which may not have emanated from Him.

Considering her family and background, I think her need to be the boss (which reeks of insecurity) might have arisen from Dad always putting Mom down and vice-versa.

MizMyColi:

Noooooo

He uses my signature font and font size!




Joke apart now, I never insinuated he had any issues. The lady in question's kinda overbearing and has all the issues which boils down to Deep Seated insecurity of sorts, which may not have emanated from Him.

Considering her family and background, I think her need to be the boss (which reeks of insecurity) might have arisen from Dad always putting Mom down and vice-versa.

RoyalRoy:

Lol, and we actually type with the same font...interesting.

delard1285: Hello nairalanders, I will kindly respect your opinion on this major issue bordering my heart. I have a fiancee that most time I wanted to talk to her, I do have some element of fear in me. She lose to me in talking even when we have issue to discuss she quickly get angry and she will not allow me to talk and she will be saying I dont want to listen to her when she herself has dominiaring attitude. Whenever we are together, I do calculate what I will say so that she will not get angry at a point in time. Even if i tried all my best to pleas her, she will still see something. It has been a major concerns to me, please kindly advice especially ladies in the house. Thanks

delard1285: /hensbar, she is 23 and I didnt not use any material to draw her attention.

crackhaus:
Everything you typed already summarizes why this relationship is not meant to be.

Case in point: You cannot be yourself around her.

aisha2: Ignore her for 2 weeks, no calls no text, nothing, go blank.
When she has finished running around, tell her you want to talk only on one condition that she stays quiet and listens to what you have to say.
If your relationship survives this, hopefully you will get stronger, if you dont survive it then it is not meant to be.
Times like this we have to come close to loosing what we have to learn to adjust and value our relationships

traeces:
This lady is good. Everybody join me let's clap for her 1-2 go

lofty900: do u satisfy her in bed ? like it or not ladies have no respect or fear for guys with dangling ropes. Or am I lying ?

Dreyl: it's How old is she? not how many years ok

BaddieKay:

lolz....english lecturer

fluffyp: Communication is one thing people never really know how to do. Everyone has a botton which can calm them. Learn to press the right one. There is a big difference between talking and communicating. Engage in keys to effective interpersonal communication

ferhyntorlah: Big Fat Lie. I shiver at the mentality of guys of nowadays.

Saraha1: Evryone with his or her relationship challenges but in your case bros you got to apply some skill as a man.

Tallesty1: And you still dey call her your fiance? You get liver gan!



When she fully becomes your wife, she will give you a speech time table, when to talk and when to just sit and listen

davno: My dear get born again and pray in tongues. It will stir the spirit of power in you. Am telling u from experience. If u activate d Holy spirit inside of u, nothing and nobody can intimidate you.
Keep praying in tongues and watch urself grow powerful and fearless. Her domineering spirit will become very much afraid of who u've become.
U love her but u can't stay with her effectively till u become more powerful than she is.