Chillisauce:
thank you
Most Nigerians like this mentality of my right to this and that even when you don't merit it.
Just like some folks saying because he is my brother, I should have this and that.
The other time, on one thread, another is asking for money to continue her studies abroad . I mentioned loan, s(he) refused. Say na free money. Bacause here in nairaland , some folks had been donated money to, so s(he) is also entitled to free money.
We should know when we deserve things abeg. He just made up with you, why not wait and see the direction you guys are going before making this a topic.

Chillisauce:
thank you
Most Nigerians like this mentality of my right to this and that even when you don't merit it.
Just like some folks saying because he is my brother, I should have this and that.
The other time, on one thread, another is asking for money to continue her studies abroad . I mentioned loan, s(he) refused. Say na free money. Bacause here in nairaland , some folks had been donated money to, so s(he) is also entitled to free money.
We should know when we deserve things abeg. He just made up with you, why not wait and see the direction you guys are going before making this a topic.

bellong: OP,

In an academic thesis, what does "ACKNOWLEDGEMENT" means?

bukatyne:

Those who helped you through your school and your friends.

bellong:

This your definition is ambiguous... .

However, the OP's definition or understanding may be different .

MizMyColi: Don't even mention it to Him, keep on working on yourself and keep loving the woman that you're becoming whether or not he validates you.[/font]

onegig: We keep saying people should communicate in their relationships. How is this different? She's obviously hurt and what's bad in mentioning it to her partner?

If they can't discuss things like this now when would they start having heart to heart discussions?

Op. You are feeling hurt about it. I believe there should be nothing you guys can't discuss. Doesn't have to be confrontational. Just joke about it. Simple sentence like "i saw your draft project. Good work and i wish you best of luck with it even though my name was missing from the roll call".

Simple. Keeping things to yourself would in the long run hurt both of you. Better you say it now, settle and forget. That's the only way you can achieve true acceptance of his action.

If you'd read on, you'd see I mentioned talking about it as the best. I also stated my reason for advising she keep the matter to herself.


That said, I maintain that she speaks her mind, in all wisdom of course

divalishis:
And he saw some good in me to have come back....

bukatyne:

I get where the OP is coming from.

In school, we acknowlegded those that did not know our project title as far they were/are our friends, boyfriends/girlfriends, roommates, reading partners etc.

The guy should just add her, she has learnt a big lesson.

I am also curious to know why he reconciled with her

freakcin: @ OP, simply try to o be the best you can and continue to support him.This is your penance for your past deeds.

Funny thing is that, dude will regret this action of his years from now. There're things we just have to overlook, not for now but for posterity!

bellong:

I understand you but the OP's boyfriend maybe sticking to those that made the thesis a success and not the everyday junk people write in acknowledgements.

onegig: We both know that's not the case here given the fact she said he added the names of his friends and roommates. Even went as far as mentioning individual names.

There's something up his sleeves and that's not how healthy couples do things. Once something is in the past you forgive and let go.

bellong: OP,

In an academic thesis, what does "ACKNOWLEDGEMENT" means?

divalishis: @aisha
I support him. I didn't know better then But I do now.
He has been talking of quitting his job which put him in interaction with scores of people everyday, where he can even meet finer girls, But I give him the encourage he needs to hold on.

I encourage him everyday, Because his work is both tasking and time consuming.
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freakcin: @ OP, simply try to o be the best you can and continue to support him.This is your penance for your past deeds.

Funny thing is that, dude will regret this action of his years from now. There're things we just have to overlook, not for now but for posterity!

divalishis: @all
Thank you all for your inputs.

It's not like I feel he has to acknowledge me just Because. Truth is that I am more worried about the motive. Is he beginning to have the mentality of what has She done for me? Or what did She do for me?

Inspite of what I wrote in my first post, things were not bad all the time. We had some pretty good times too and we loved each other.

If we could go two years in time, I'd remedy things. Not to get a mention, But to show him that what is important to him is to me too. Truth is I am proud of what he has achieved. The day he told me about his struggle to finish and the stress of squeezing time against all odds, How he almost missed his flight for the defence and How he felt when he was graded an A, I felt very proud of him.

The work is already submitted, what is done is done.

divalishis: @bukatyne

It's bound and copies have been signed by both supervisors and HOD. I think What's left is for the Dean to sign.

His second supervisor did not support him even. I don't want to talk about what happened. He was mentioned though.

It hurts sha. But I just look at it that Maybe It's cause he was virtually through when we made up. We broke up like eight months into the program.

bellong:
How and what will make him regret his justified action?

chaircover:

You are a very lucky woman to have gotten a second chance & his not mentioning you in his thesis should be the last thing on your mind right now. You have said it yourself that you didnt really do much to support him whilst he was in school, so he will be lying if he put your name on it.

The guy sounds like someone with principles and even though this principle hurts you now, you will see the advantages of this quality in the future.

What you should be doing is working hard to get him to trust you with his feelings/life again. It will take time, but if you have truly learnt from your mistakes and are genuingly making amends, then with time, he should begin to appreciate you in his life again.
Truly be his number one fan and he will acknowledge and appreciate you

If you do feel deep in you that he hasnt really forgiven you and he is being deliberatly malicious, then do have a heart to heart chat with him.

freakcin:

He omitted her name out of spite. It wasn't borne of a rationale act. It might not register in his brain now, but years from now when he matures more and become truly enlightened, he'll realise he did wrong.

I should know! I've had similar experience, not exactly like this but quite similar. I was quite vengeful back then and did something quite nasty to someone.

You wanno know the worst part. . . the person's late.

Anger/vengence is one of the greatest emotion in life, when it posses you, even the devil ain' got nothing on you that moment.

I've since learnt to let God battle for me.

bellong:
But we don't know if he did it for revenge. We can't conclude why he left her name out.

crackhaus:
Hmmmm...

Someone decided to make sense today. Indeed there is a God.

temigracie: one of d reason y i dont mention names in d acknowldgnt page......d best thing to do is to just generalise it.....makes evryone feel happy so far as u consider ursef as my friend.....back to d issue,dats just so unfair of him...for him mention his fwends name..he shud at least dedicate a line for u too....