Acidosis:
True, ma.

What do you intend to do about his lifestyle? Remember, divorce is not an option.

Am thinking seriously,maybe I will go for separation for now.

@OP

The simple answer is because they can get away with it. There is no consequences for their actions.

wear red panties. Pray, lose weight.

it is well

babygirlfl: @OP

The simple answer is because they can get away with it. There is no consequences for their actions.

There are consequences...

He loses the trust of his wife

He could get into a divorce mess

He could get infected

kreamidiva: wear red panties. Pray, lose weight.

it is well

so how come prosteetutes haven't gotten married then

babygirlfl: @OP

The simple answer is because they can get away with it. There is no consequences for their actions.

and please where did you get that idea and mentality of "getting away with it and no consequences for their actions" from

My dear, nobody gets away with any evil deed done, except you allow it.
And also, everyone gets the consequences of his/her actions, be it good or bad, stop feeding yourself with this type of BS, it aint going to do you anything good.

greatgod2012:

and please where did you get that idea and mentality of "getting away with it and no consequences for their actions" from

My dear, nobody gets away with any evil deed done, except you allow it.
And also, everyone gets the consequences of his/her actions, be it good or bad, stop feeding yourself with this type of BS, it aint going to do you anything good.

But that is their belief,that they will always get away with it. Besides when they cheat with unmarried lady,it is not a sin

SAMBARRY:


so how come prosteetutes haven't gotten married then

..
..dis is afRica bro. Abi na 4 road pple dey pick wife.


Disclaimer: depends on wt u term prostitute.#shebi u kno say diff. specs dey.

Cece23:


It is rare to see a man that keeps to that vow.I keep on hearing same issue of cheating in most marriages and someone is telling me to ignore him.My question is if I continue ignoring it,when is he going to change.

this is where the problem is, you have already accepted that, that is how all men are, it tells alot about who you keep as friends and confidants.
There is no amount of advice here that can really get to you, you have already gone with the lady who said all men are the same, which means those of us who said not all men are like that are only deceiving you. Since that is what you want to believe, it's ok.

Even, if you separate or divorce, you're still going in with the same mentality with whoever you remarry and the whole cirle starts all over again.
May God help you.

Cece23:

But that is their belief,that they will always get away with it. Besides when they cheat with unmarried lady,it is not a sin

and again, where did you get this belief from
It's time for you to examine the kind of people you keep as friends, confidants and counsellors. They are probably feeding you with BS or you're the one feeding yourself these beliefs.
Goodluck to ya!

Farouksenior: ..
..dis is afRica bro. Abi na 4 road pple dey pick wife.


Disclaimer: depends on wt u term prostitute.#shebi u kno say diff. specs dey.

true sha

All men are not and can never be the same, this mentality is why infidelity will sour even more. An unfaithful spouse is a health hazard, since you have kids,may be you should reason towards separation . I don't know how people play wife to their cheating spouse without being tempted to serve them kill and dry. The separation might be necessary for your sanity, may be when he is done raving, you both can sit and figure out the way forward.

Cece23: Not just a born again but someone who truly serve God.

That loves and fear God. If a man fears God,he will never cheat or raise his hand on you.

For d op.
..1.pray without ceasing.God can change anybody nd anytin.
..2.look at urself. #i mean wat is it ur doin rong. Or wat are u nt givin him dt his findin it in d arms of anoda woman. Eg naggin. Etc
..3.pls do not deprive d kids d benefit of having a father. I bliv e go beta


Last bomB : movin out solves notin.do not b selfish. Dont do somtin 15yrs frm naw u wil regret.

Cece23:

Am thinking seriously,maybe I will go for separation for now.

first protect yourself from intimacy. You never know what diseases and STI he is carrying. Next seek redress and move out if he is not willing to change..which i doubt he would. A leopard never changes its marks.

SAMBARRY:


so how come prosteetutes haven't gotten married then

They are not praying.

There are faithful atheists.
They don't even acknowledge the existence of God but stay true to their marriage vows.

Good thing you're doing painting men as people with no brains and thinking faculty. Who require divine assistance before they know the right thing to do.

Acidosis: Except you marry a born again man, it would be very very very difficult to meet a faithful man.
- acidosis

The only reason why a man will not cheat on you is because he fear God. Your curves, hips, lips, voice, s£.x and cooking skills cannot stop him.
- acidosis

Let's be frank here.

Moat men get married, and have the idea they will stop having relations with other women outside. (not all)

Now, it's left for the lady to really make them believe and stick to this ideology they are planing to adopt.

The reason why they do not stuck to it is mostly because of the lady, that's just the bitter truth.

It's either she becomes,
Lazy
Dirty
Fat
Acts stupid..

I have see young couples and the effort the ladies put in before marriage is not close to what dey put after.

A man is always willing to put in that effort, for him to be able to clean up and look good enough to go after a lady other than his wife speaks of how a man is willing to put in the work, but the lady mostly doesn't complement the effort.

Imagine him want to have sex and she says "I am tired" or he meets a forest down there, or she just lies like a pile of wood, while he does his thing, or she doesn't check herself, just grow fat anyhow. Messy hair, shitty makeup grannie panties, dress anyhow, wear ankara blouse with diffrnt wrapper. All this things count.

Op, check yourself I bet you fall in many of the category listed above if not all.

PS. The OP stated he didn't use to be this way. That only means one thing, you pushed him to do it.

Anyway anyone interesed in red pant and black bra,send me a pm.
I've pairs in all shapes and sizes.
Strictly Victoria's secret.

cococandy:

Anyway anyone interesed in red pant and black bra,send me a pm.
I've pairs in all shapes and sizes.
Strictly Victoria's secret.

You have to display what you are selling and offer sampling abi you don see where person buy car without test driving or at least seeing the car?

Put them on n show..

pickabeau1:


There are consequences...

He loses the trust of his wife

He could get into a divorce mess

He could get infected

You are right but when they loose their wife's trust, then what happens, how many times do women actually act on that.

Again how many times have a woman in Nigeria divorced her husband for cheating?

Infection- I agree with this that this is a consequence.

babygirlfl:

You are right but when they loose their wife's trust, then what happens, how many times do women actually act on that.

Again how many times have a woman in Nigeria divorced her husband for cheating?

Infection- I agree with this that this is a consequence.

That is the womans choice
I believe when more women put their foot down and collect spousal seetlements due to adultery led divorce.. infidelity will reduce... (of course marriage rates will also reduce as no one wants to lose his assets for something like a fling)

The women have their choice to divorce

kreamidiva: They are not praying.

..

greatgod2012:

and please where did you get that idea and mentality of "getting away with it and no consequences for their actions" from

My dear, nobody gets away with any evil deed done, except you allow it.
And also, everyone gets the consequences of his/her actions, be it good or bad, stop feeding yourself with this type of BS, it aint going to do you anything good.

Please next time be more polite with your reply please. I will ignore you harsh choice of words and reply you as nicely as possible.

Let me explain myself better.

Nigerian men have that mentality that they can get away with cheating. How many women walk away from their marriage BECAUSE their husband cheated on them. Most of them work things out with their husband and stay married to the same man. Some even keep a blind eye. That to me is getting away with it. My dear, until I actually see women who divorce their cheating husband, I will take it that they are getting away with it.

According to the bolded, I think you assumed that my post meant since they get away with it, that means we should do nothing about it and accept it or that I am trying to say all men are the same. I am sorry for not explaining myself BETTER but actually I meant the contrary. If women stopped accepting cheating and men realise that one of the consequences of cheating will be divorce, maybe they will think twice before cheating.

I am married and I have not tolerated neither will I tolerate cheating. I broke up at least two relationships before I got married because of cheating and I have never regretted it.

pickabeau1:

That is the womans choice
I believe when more women put their foot down and collect spousal seetlements due to adultery led divorce.. infidelity will reduce... (of course marriage rates will also reduce as no one wants to lose his assets for something like a fling)

The women have their choice to divorce

Agreed. We are saying the same thing

ok.... your post above is very clear

Good luck

babygirlfl:

Agreed. We are saying the same thing

[quote author=HarrveySpecter]Let's be frank here.

Moat men get married, and have the idea they will stop having relations with other women outside. (not all)

Now, it's left for the lady to really make them believe and stick to this ideology they are planing to adopt.

The reason why they do not stuck to it is mostly because of the lady, that's just the bitter truth.

It's either she becomes,
Lazy
Dirty
Fat
Acts stupid..

I have see young couples and the effort the ladies put in before marriage is not close to what dey put after.

A man is always willing to put in that effort, for him to be able to clean up and look good enough to go after a lady other than his wife speaks of how a man is willing to put in the work, but the lady mostly doesn't complement the effort.

Imagine him want to have sex and she says "I am tired" or he meets a forest down there, or she just lies like a pile of wood, while he does his thing, or she doesn't check herself, just grow fat anyhow. Messy hair, shitty makeup grannie panties, dress anyhow, wear ankara blouse with diffrnt wrapper. All this things count.

Op, check yourself I bet you fall in many of the category listed above if not all.

PS. The OP stated he didn't use to be this way. That only means one thing, you pushed him to do it.

I will not take d blame at all cos I did not push him to cheat.Am neither lazy or fat as u said neither do I nag him.Am more of a quite type.The earlier u understd that cheating is out of choice and most men are comfortable with it.And this is not time to apportion blame to anyone

pickabeau1:
That is the womans choice
I believe when more women put their foot down and collect spousal seetlements due to adultery led divorce.. infidelity will reduce... (of course marriage rates will also reduce as no one wants to lose his assets for something like a fling)
The women have their choice to divorce

..lolxx. Dts funi. Pls if i may,how cum d infidelity rate for d western hemisphere neva drop irrespective of all d divorce nd spousal settlements etc

pickabeau1: ok.... your post above is very clear

Good luck

Thanks.

kreamidiva: wear red panties. Pray, lose weight.

it is well

Now this right here is the best advice. Seriously.



@op I don't know why but I don't believe you are really married.

Farouksenior:
..lolxx. Dts funi. Pls if i may,how cum d infidelity rate for d western hemisphere neva drop irrespective of all d divorce nd spousal settlements etc

You are not far from the truth
I just stated the facts...

However this measures act as deterrents as you know if you r caught, you r on a long thing.. you could lose the home or kids etc





But most of our ladies believe that the white men dont cheat and they are angelic people so dont burst their fantasies

Cece23: .

But here you are blaming men.
A lady never admits to being fat even if they are. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying you are. Of course it's a choice, choice which is mostly influenced by the lady. There are loads of men who want to cheat but can't because of their wife. Their wife knows how to handle them well. The main thing is knowing the kind of man you have and how to give him what he wants. You stated you are quite, care to look into that, maybe you don't communicate well with him.

Besides, you have not mentioned in where you commented with him on this issue. Perhaps, thata where the problem is?