Culled From Stella Dimoko's Blog

Cheating Is Suicidal,My Ex-Hubby
Just Tested HIV Positive....Blog
Visitor Narrative
Hello Stella,
I'm writing this cos of the recent post on a
cheating spouse, I had my share of cheating with
my ex-husband and my opinion this is based on
experience and this is my story.... My fellow Blog
Visitors, PLEASE if your husband is cheating on
u,LEAVE. Don't be in denial and say you are
staying for your kids cos when the monstrous
sickness comes knocking, you won't be alive to
take care of those kids that made you stay.
My life is a testimony, even though I feel sad but
I can't help thanking God for helping me leave
when I did. My husband was cheating on me, I
woke up one morning, packed a few things and
left. I told myself I won't stick my ass there
playing wife while he goes out there to bring any
disease and hook it on me.
It was a scary decision cos I was worried about
money, I wasn't working, I was concerned about
leaving those cars behind,the posh life in VGC
and summer vacations in choice countries.But
one morning I realised that my life is worth more
than those stuffs and it didn't matter if I had
nothing.
I had to save my head and LEAVE, so I left 3yrs
ago and We've been separated ever since .I
moved into a one room apartment in almost a
slum area of Lagos and went sometimes without
food even though my supposed husband was
earning a 7 figure salary and living in a VGC
mansion. He never gave me a dime and I never
asked, sometimes, very few times, he would
send me N400 recharge card and that's it (when
I was wit him,we buy cards in packs,I never had
less that 30k airtime in my phone at a time).
I wasn't bitter, I still managed to maintain a
cordial relationship with him though we didn't
have any kid together, he had his freedom to
sleep with all the girls in Lagos state and was
even telling me of his escapades and seeking my
advice at times.
It was all OK until I got his distress call
yesterday.(On Saturday)
He sounded distraught, I wondered what has
gone wrong in his COMPLETE world. He dropped
the Bombshell....'He just tested HIV positive'.
His perfect world has started crumbling right in
his eyes, as much as it's been a long time
coming, I felt so sorry for him and I still really
do.
I encouraged him to get several opinions but he
was too nervous to go on his own so I offered to
go with him. We went to some best hospitals in
VI and ran some tests and even the confirmation
serology but sadly....He is indeed HIV positive.
As much as I hurt for him, I thank God I walked
when I did, if I had stayed back to play the
dutiful wife, Stella na another story e for be o.
I would be getting married to the love of my life
by the end of the year and I hope to still be there
for my ex-husband as much as I can
.
So Stella and my fellow Blog Visitors, I would
NEVER risk my life to a cheating spouse,no blog
visitor should!!!.

FROM STELLA......

I SENT CONTACTED HER AND ASKED HER WHEN
SHE WAS TOLD AND WHEN THE TEST WAS
CARRIED OUT AND SHE REPLIED BELOW
I asked ''he told you on Saturday and you went
to check on Sunday?Do hospitals open on
Sunday''?...My bad!

RESPONSE....
Yes I know, today is Sunday,Lagoon hospital in
VI ran the tests today. They work on Sundays. I
will attach the receipt to this mail but shield his
name column, just so you see and understand.
you will see the lagoon stamp on it too, I would
have snapped the logo side but then, his name
would show and I would not want another soul
to know his status, he wouldn't want that either,
so am just trying to respect that.
I am with the receipt, he was too nervous to
collect the receipt after payment but he has the
result print out,he said he will shred it when he
gets home cos he can't bear to look at it.
He had some tests done with one hospital in VGC
yesterday, that was before he called me, it came
out positive, I then encouraged him to try
Lagoon cos we were using Lagoon before our
break up and I am certain they are good. infact I
met him up at lagoon, immediately after service
still in my church wear.(I live in the mainland)
At first they did the normal HIV strip test and
tagged it inclusive, stating that it is the hospital
policy not to conclude the strip tests result until
he does a confirmation serology test. We had
him do the serology, it confirmed our worst
fears. He is devastated now but my prayers are
with him, at least as stupid as it sounds,I
consoled him that he is lucky it is not Ebola, just
trying to give him some hope.
Funny he called tonight trying to talk me into
moving back into the house or relocating abroad
with him or something just to be with him cos
he doesn't want to die alone according to him,
he offered to pay me whatever I want monthly
and never to even give me a handshake if I agree
to move back in with him but there is NO WAY
am going back there, it doesn't matter what he
offers.
I wouldn't be that stupid to start carrying what I
had no hand in, I won't pay for another's sins
abeg.
I will really try to support him the best I can but
that's it.
(By the am still up in shock, it's hard to sleep
with such a sad news and the shock that It
could have been me and him in this mess if I had
stayed)

At least no be Ebola.

she could easily leave because there was no child .

Houseofglam7: At least no be Ebola.

Elantracey: she could easily leave because there was no child .

your point exactly?
so if u were to be in her shoes u wld stay put and die cos of the children?

If everybody begin divorce like that then there's no need for marriage in the first place. We can as well scrap marriage and follow the style of cock and hen.

#guy wakes up in the morning, goes after any babe in sight, straffs her sharppally, unplugs and cleans piston, babe shakes of dust and goes away while expecting any other male in the mood to give chase#
Mtcheew!


#TeamFowlRuns

Lorlaahlozz:

what's funny?
na real serious matter wey every naija lady gets to battle with in her marriage

Rooneyboy:

your point exactly?
so if u were to be in her shoes u wld stay put and die cos of the children?

I never said she should have stayed , I only pointed out the ease in her leaving because there's no children , if she had children would she have just woke up one morning and leave without plans or anything ?

DickDastardly: If everybody begin divorce like that then there's no need for marriage in the first place. We can as well scrap marriage and follow the style of cock and hen.

#guy wakes up in the morning, goes after any babe in sight, straffs her sharppally, unplugs and cleans piston, babe shakes of dust and goes away while expecting any other male in the mood to give chase#
Mtcheew!


#TeamFowlRuns

Personally ain't cut out for that, marriage isn't for kids, if a guy isn't ready to settle down then he shouldn't make the mistake of dabbling into it .

Rooneyboy: what's funny?
na real serious matter wey every naija lady gets to battle with in her marriage

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she should go for test after some weeks....then she can be sure.