Please fellow Nairalanders, especially our brothers and sisters from the eastern part of Nigeria.

My older brother is about to get married to an igbo girl ( reason best known to him but still unknown to we his family members. Whether him don go robb CBN we nor know) and he went to enugu last weekend for the second time because his inlaw to sent for him.
After some deliberation between them, he said the man told him since edo state where we reside is quit far from enugu that he should convert everything on the list they gave him into RAW CASH and pay it into his account. That he shouldn't bother himself conveying his family members to the east,

HIS REASONS ARE
1. So that the expenses will not be too much for him ( my brother).
2. To also have enough money to take of his daughter after the marriage.
3. That was how he married his own wife.

The idea still sound strange to our hear cos we've never heard of something like that before.

Pls o NL is this how it is done by the igbo??

The head of whatever family your brother is marrying into has the discretionary capacity to determine how things gets done.
He gave quite good reasons why he wanted things done that way. Fact is, he made it easier for your brother. Or, do u prefer d hassles of going to purchase the myriad of items on the list?
The money sent will still be used in purchasing some of the required items to be presented to his inlaw's kindreds.
Quit bitching. Your brother has found love, and it doesn't matter what part of the country he's marrying from.

Na na na, insist all the family must be present, tell the head of the family to get pos ready for the meeting, that too will ease some stress

In recent years some educated families have taken the option of monetising those items on the list,especially when the guests are coming from a long distance or don't have much time. That way the girl's family simply use the money to buy the things that will be distributed as customs dictate.
However,it is always the option of the groom to suggest or accept. If he's not okay by him,he has the full right to reject and purchase the items himself.
The side effect of that monetised option is it takes away the razzmatazz and glamour of a full traditional wedding,but most busy couples(or abroadee couples who have limited time to spend in the country) use that option.

2gbasky22: Please fellow Nairalanders, especially our brothers and sisters from the eastern part of Nigeria.

My older brother is about to get married to an igbo girl ( reason best known to him but still unknown to we his family members. Whether him don go robb CBN we nor know) and he went to enugu last weekend for the second time because his inlaw to sent for him.
After some deliberation between them, he said the man told him since edo state where we reside is quit far from enugu that he should convert everything on the list they gave him into RAW CASH and pay it into his account. That he shouldn't bother himself conveying his family members to the east,

HIS REASONS ARE
1. So that the expenses will not be too much for him ( my brother).
2. To also have enough money to take of his daughter after the marriage.
3. That was how he married his own wife.

The idea still sound strange to our hear cos we've never heard of something like that before.

Pls o NL is this how it is done by the igbo??

Tell your brother to do as he was told and get lost!

ElFenomeno1:

Tell your brother to do as he was told and get lost!

was the insult necessary??
Some pple self