Its official most women loves sex more than men. Can't believe what I'm reading here lol

priest2u: Its official most women loves sex more than men. Can't believe what I'm reading here lol

Where did that come from?

I feel this lady is making a huge terrible mistake. If she truly desires satisfaction, she should take control and not talk about it after sex but during sex. Tell him, this is how I want it and put your mind to it. I feel maybe when the both of them are having it and possibly because it's not turning to be the same, her mind is fixed on AY. I hate lazy women on bed and fortunately, most Nigerian women are lazy on bed. Sex can be a routine, it can be experimental, it can be role play and it takes both parties to truly want to enjoy themselves. You explore your body and discover new ways of pleasuring yourselves and not just lying your lazy butt on bed, waiting to be satisfied.

FYI, most guys who give mind blowing sex are never committed because they have been with many women and they know how women, typically Naija, respond and what they like. I can tell you this vividly. So long in searching for your desires, of course you would find it but don't come here to complain about cheating issues in the future.

damselleen: We have talked together. I told him, I wanted our introduction to be postpone. He agreed reluctantly but warned me that if he takes another woman home to meet his family, I shouldn't blame him.

Going ahead with this introduction knowing what I know, knowing who I am, knowing where I came from will be...... Anyway thanks once again.

Best decision. .
If a dis stage, d sex is below 1 , den it mite continue to lag.
secondly, I don't tink its becos she's comparing she mite b comparing bcosc it is bad.

The issue here is his unwillingness to heed n take correction..Ego shld be on d backburner in relationship, n obviously, it ain't here.
Best decision jare


Love without lust is incomplete

Boss13: I feel this lady is making a huge terrible mistake. If she truly desires satisfaction, she should take control and not talk about it after sex but during sex. Tell him, this is how I want it and put your mind to it. I feel maybe when the both of them are having it and possibly because it's not turning to be the same, her mind is fixed on AY. I hate lazy women on bed and fortunately, most Nigerian women are lazy on bed. Sex can be a routine, it can be experimental, it can be role play and it takes both parties to truly want to enjoy themselves. You explore your body and discover new ways of pleasuring yourselves and not just lying your lazy butt on bed, waiting to be satisfied.

FYI, most guys who give mind blowing sex are never committed because they have been with many women and they know how women, typically Naija, respond and what they like. I can tell you this vividly. So long in searching for your desires, of course you would find it but don't come here to complain about cheating issues in the future.

Are you saying those that don't give mind blowing sex don't cheat?

The thing about sex is that both of you can't be 'on' the same time except in extreme cases. If a woman is on, it's more easy to seduce a guy by creating the atmosphere for sex. But for a woman, specifically for me, you have to pet, soothe, kiss, rub to bring me to same level with you. You just can't go straight to the point as though I'm nothing but a log of wood. When I explained this to him, he said all these just to have sex.

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[quote author=thegreatman4ww]
Those cheated in relationship and marriage do so because of two things: either because of finance (money) or the mentality of "belonging to reigning thread". If you critically research into why ppl have multiple partners or unfaithful in marriage u will find out that over 90% geniue cause were money and wanting to belong.
The latter had contributed to high moral indecency to the extend that ppl are tagged names when preserving their dignity and morality.

To be candid, economically and health wise the act of unfaithfulness and multiple partners is not adviceable. According to research having very good sex more than three times a week is not good for the body else you find ppl going against the rule taking drugs, alcohol, etc to stay in the game.
I[b]f you can try it, though established by rrsearch, for good one month eat good balanced diet and good sex every day and see if you would not fall sick and become weak.[/b]
Above no man is an island of water , you can nit find a man that will have everything u want, but a man can be everything u want in life if u work with him with ALL HUMBLINESS AND RESPECT to build a family of your dream.
The only weapon that penetrate through a man's soul and spirit by a women is respect and humbliness, even if he can not public/privately belittled his pride, down inside his soul and heart he is taking to your advice and respecting you. Then the man will be given u some free hands and be at rest that u loved him, ...,.....
Marriage is a lifetime institutions where we learn new things everyday and strong union of two individuals who fight to stay together even in face of individuals difference.

Let me stop here.

Please can I have your link to this?

damselleen:

I'm not feeling him at all.

Erase this thought! You can make it work! From my understanding,you are sexually active and shola isn't but my dear,you just have to clear ay off. Sorry to tag him this way but he's nothing but a big cheat! C'mon,since you seems the master of the trick,teach shola how to make you happy. Make him your dream man. Mind you,shola might have been having sex but must have never had the taste of a real sex. I hope you understand what I mean? Show him what real sex taste like,and bet me he will love you like u are his first. Have this @ the back of your mind: Marriage is a school,God is the principal,No perfect teacher!

damselleen: We have talked together. I told him, I wanted our introduction to be postpone. He agreed reluctantly but warned me that if he takes another woman home to meet his family, I shouldn't blame him.

Going ahead with this introduction knowing what I know, knowing who I am, knowing where I came from will be...... Anyway thanks once again.

youve made the right decision. Its always the best to know yourself and what u really want in a marriage. Because its a lifetime commitment... No sentiments, in choosing the right partner for You.. Its good , its postponed, if hes wise.. he will listen and adjust , then talk about it with you.. but if his ego is more than his reasoning? Thats his choice..
dont settle for less... Your right man will come, simply be patient, warm and pray about it.
Go girl!

damselleen: Please can I have your link to this?

Unfortunately, the current internet access I using do block many site not for professional education according the current policy but I was able to lay hand on a link who uses some of the researches info.

I am never against having/advocating for a good and healthy sex between couples because researches show that having a good, healthy and satisfying sex improve ones health and make many woman more happier, thus concluding that one should regularly have sex. In reality, mostly between married responsible and committed couples whose focus were to build a good family and nuturing their children for positive impact and greatness, sex becomes less frequent among them while romance such as kissed, hugging, etc occurrs more frequently than can be imagine to enhance their affections towards each other.

An extract from the website: "Let’s break down the deets between the sheets. According to the Kinsey Institute, 18- to 29-year-olds have sex an average of 112 times per year, while 30 to 39-year-olds do the deed (on average) 69 times per year (what a relevant number). So if that’s average, what’s healthy?

Kerner says most couples in a relationship should be having sex at least once per week. Couples therapist Dr. Barry McCarthy agrees that once or twice a week makes for a healthy sex life. During the infatuation stage (also known as the honeymoon stage, when two people can’t stop thinking about each other) couples often have sex every time they’re together, Kerner says. And when couples first move in together, the frequency of sex increases (but only temporarily) [2].

From the above, 112times / 52weeks = appr. 2/3times a week and for older ppl 69times / 52weeks = appr. 1/2times per week. And advice from a Couple Therapist says 1/2 times a week for HEALTHY SEX LIFE, note that this suggest if we care much for our life than pleasure and also it does not indicate that more of sex is not good. So if you care more for your life and body, don't........ also remember that same goes for smoking and drinking of alcohols...


check this link http://greatist.com/health/too-much-sex-advice
and you can also check this link for comments of ppl on how regular they have sex and see for urself how often in reality responsible married couples have sex http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/1233627-How-often-do-married-couples-really-have-sex/AllOnOnePage

#YOU DECIDE WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU....GOOD LUCK

apolonius:

Tell him again in clear and serious terms. Many women convey serious messages in unserious ways,this many men do not always get.

If you love him,telling him again and again will not be bad. Of course,if he is unserious and the sex is so bad for you,then go for an AY with commitment.

Telling him again and again might be seen as nagging and the guy will get this "I am not appreciated or seen as good enough feeling" at the end of the day, he may end up cheating or leaving the OP.

Another is this teach him how to do it advice is quite tricky... Girl, u know your guy o (from what you said so far he's got some ego) if he is d kind that hates it when their woman tends to know more than them sexually then you shouldn't try that. And what's with the talks about telling you to manage etc, you are not married yet, so go for what you want. Don't decide to go along because peeps are telling you too.

mcdreeezy: Ok oh, but I don't think sex should be an issue between couples. There are way more important things in life and marriage than the aforementioned IMO

You are joking right?

bukatyne:

You are joking right?

Nope

I think the dude lacks intensity and coital swags, let go if sex is that important to you.

beeevan: I think the dude lacks intensity and coital swags, let go if sex is that important to you.

beeevan: I think the dude lacks intensity and coital swags, let go if sex is that important to you.

I understand where this lady is coming from. Sex is very important in marriage infact,it is the major reason couples seek extramarital affairs.

You need to be on the same page with your partner,pour out your mind to him,you can even introduce soft porn and tell him this is what you want,you don't have to be shy about it,be blunt and raw. He is your man.

@mcdreeezy I think you have a s3xual issue. You are the same guy who finds it disgusting after sleeping with a member of the opposite sex. You need to look into this. Goodness, I hope that didn't sound rude, no offence man.
[b][/b]https://www.nairaland.com/1536987/it-normal-see-woman-disgusting

@thegreatman4ww, dude same for you. And I actually wasted my mb and checked the links you gave, most of the people who commented were married women above 45years! Half of them said thier husbands were complaining that the sex wasnt enough! That's where you want this young strapping full-of-energy woman to take advise from?

damselleen:

You don't know how much I value marriage. The reason why I brought this here is to know if truly sexual compatibility matters. I do love him but is this not going to affect our marriage in the long run?

it is going to affect your marriage in the long run, you can talk to him, and tell him what you want him to do to satisfy you sekually,no man likes not being able to please his woman.

damselleen:

I will never cheat on him physically but I will always be comparing. I've noted your advice.

don't say you will never cheat on him sexually,you can't be sure till the opportunity presents itself, and you already have a motive to cheat.

mcdreeezy: Well I guess it's a matter of preference then, they chose to make it important. That's somethin I wouldn't do if I'm married tho

wait till you get married, and see if sex isn't important.

5minsmadness: @mcdreeezy I think you have a s3xual issue. You are the same guy who finds it disgusting after sleeping with a member of the opposite sex. You need to look into this. Goodness, I hope that didn't sound rude, no offence man.
[b][/b]https://www.nairaland.com/1536987/it-normal-see-woman-disgusting

None taken bro

damselleen:

Are you saying those that don't give mind blowing sex don't cheat?

The thing about sex is that both of you can't be 'on' the same time except in extreme cases. If a woman is on, it's more easy to seduce a guy by creating the atmosphere for sex. But for a woman, specifically for me, you have to pet, soothe, kiss, rub to bring me to same level with you. You just can't go straight to the point as though I'm nothing but a log of wood. When I explained this to him, he said all these just to have sex .

I finally get the gist. Your guy doesn't think pre-intimacy is necessary before sexx, all he wants is to do the do and leave while you as a lady want to feel his hands on you, cuddle, have that intense pre-intimacy before the do-do. *nods*...

I would have urged you to keep talking but he seem like those kinda guys who believe a lady's opinion shouldn't matter during intimacy and definitely not willing to change to bend to satisfy you. Some women are not vocal when it comes to sexx, their priority Is for their men to be satisfied, they don't mind suffering in silence. I think those are the kind of women your guy has been with. Having you 'challenge' him and telling him how you want it done is new to him.

A man who truly cares about you will drop his ego and try his best to at least respond to your intimate needs.

You seem to care much about intimacy, I can't fault you for that, so do take your time and know IF you can compromise on that. Goodluck iyawo shola.

Godmystrength:

E dey get swag nah

5minsmadness: @mcdreeezy
@thegreatman4ww, dude same for you. And I actually wasted my mb and checked the links you gave, most of the people who commented were married women above 45years! Half of them said thier husbands were complaining that the sex wasnt enough! That's where you want this young strapping full-of-energy woman to take advise from?

And those ppl over 45yrs had nothing less than 8yrs as a married women, are they not best litmus test...
"And half of them said their husbands complained that sex is not enough" remember women of substance have a lots of responsibilities to husband, children, in laws, work, religion activities, etc all these measure up tends to lower sex drives in RESPONSIBLE WOMEN couples with lower sex urge compare to men as established by research....next u re to read, read out the period of your moniker......
moreover do my post meant for you? And why taking panadol for another man's headache?

thegreatman4ww:
Sorry dude did u experience ur moniker more than 10x a day or u read tru during one of those period? Maybe is high time u seek help....moreover do my post meant for you and why take panadol for another man's headache?

All this cos I called u out? And at 5:17am in the morning?? Na so d thing do you so tey you no fit sleep? Oya no vex abeg

5minsmadness:
All this cos I called u out? And at 5:17am in the morning?? Na so d thing do you so tey you no fit sleep? Oya no vex abeg

Only fools and idle men sleep over five hrs a day. Check the modified post above u.

thegreatman4ww:
And those ppl over 45yrs had nothing less than 8yrs as a married women, are they not best litmus test...
"And half of them said their husbands complained that sex is not enough" remember women of substance have a lots of responsibilities to husband, children, in laws, work, religion activities, etc all these measure up tends to lower sex drives in RESPONSIBLE WOMEN couples with lower sex urge compare to men as established by research....next u re to read, read out the period of your moniker......
moreover do my post meant for you? And why taking panadol for another man's headache?

The OP is a young girl, I dunno- maybe in her 20s, and you send her to a geriatric/ old people's thread where most of them seemed bored/tired with their marriages, so as to teach her about sex? Really?
Its either:
1. You are an old man yourself. In which case 'domo sir.'
2. You are a virgin. When you start enjoying sex a few years from now you will seek me out and apologise. Apology accepted in advance.


You think ladies of nowadays do EVERYTHING in the house? Are you hoping to marry a woman who will work, cook, clean, carry the kids, carry you, polish your shoes, wash your car while you sit and watch TV? If you dont help in any of these of course your wife is going to be too tired or too frustrated to have sex!

We young people value sex a lot in relationships! It is important! Just because she appreciates good sex does not make her IRRESPONSIBLE! Sexu4l incompatibility that early in marriage can lead to frustration and a greater chance of her cheating! Its two weeks to her introduction and she cant get Ay the anaconda out of her mind, what do you think will happen when the challenges of marrage sets in and she starts thinking 'what if'?
And God forbid we go into marriage with the kind of depressing picture you have painted about sex for our young friend here! Sex does not have to be at its peak all through marriage but by Jove we will enjoy it when its hot and heavy and keep the tempo up as much as possible even when we grow old which hopefully will be decades from now!

thegreatman4ww: .

Just looked thru your profile and surmised that you are an elderly elder. Sorry sir. Still, IMHO your advice was a little outdated somehow. Once again abeg no vex

Biolagurl: I tink wat she's tryn to say is dat Shola is nt gud @ it.He no fit press am reach ground

Funny comment, by the way I PMed U...

Reason why one should not have sex before marriage. I am sure if you meet another man,he too will not satisfy you!

The marriage don dey fail before e start sef. If she gets to marry any guy n dey later av issues wif sex, she will be d cause of the problem in the marriage which at d end may fall apart. Ppl jst fink getn married is jst lyk normal process of go to scul n get a job.