Their is this girl that we have been dating for almost five years in fact i met her parents three years ago and she also met my parents. Also her pastor had interviewed me on several occasion and we have started courtship according to the doctrine of her church. she has twice told me she is no longer interested in the relationship but i was able to convince her and she agreed. Around middle of last year she finally broke the relationship and she said no going back. Around middle of this year she sent her family member to start begging me that she want to come back to my life.

Prior to when we broke-up i noticed that she was using style to woo a guy and hoping the guy will agree but the guy neva give her consent, dont ask me how i know because well has ear...
when i asked her whey did she broke the relationship last year she said it is because of my action and reaction during courtship...i also asked why did she wants to come back she said because she discover that she loves me

i was able to discover that after she broke the relationship she met a guy and her mum when to pray about the guy and she was told that she should not marry the guy and that i am more preferable to the guy, dont ask my how i got this info walls has ear

i observed that she is desperate to marry, her siblings are getting married.........can this be also a reason she wants to come back?
MATURE MINDS KINDLY ADVICE, DOES SHE WORTH TAKING BACK??

my observation

Thank God she broke ur hearth and not heart.
Well she's only desperate all for the sake of marriage, cos d clock is ticking, don't be surprised if u find out that she doesn't really love. Well the ball is in ur court

what were your actions and reactions according to her that made her break up last year?

If you want to save yourself alot of stress, dont give her any chance.. tell her this

"We run to the best things not knowing we are running away from the best things....you had your chance"..

Sign out like a boss my brother.

So, if I ask you to take her back you will do as I say?

You can never have a simpler situation to make a decision my friend.

She only want to come to complete her unfinished job...
Shebi she only brk ur heart b4, this tym around, na ur lyf she wan break.!
So, you can give her another chance..
What am i even saying.. I need help ooo..i am confused

Story that touches. . .

To forgive is divine. However, you should always have it at the back of your mind that you are to her, 'the available that becomes desirable' due to the unavailabilty of the desirable. If you can live with that second class status, best of luck!

tboy11: what were your actions and reactions according to her that made her break up last year?

i told her that she is not doing the assignment that we were given very well.......we were told to repeat the an assignment twice just because of her nonchalant attitute

my friend ..if u take her back she will repeat what she did last year in a refined form....you have already moved on... she is only desperate to be in a man's house not a true union in the real sense of it

guy no take her back

Don't allow her o! She get mission.

She's a naughty lady...drop her unless u are good with having Grade C material as wifey

Wait...Lemme ask the wall.

Honestly, I think u shouldn't take her back...Mtshwee

500samuel:
, dont ask me how i know because well has ear...

500samuel:
dont ask my how i got this info walls has ear

hahahaha, love this guy, he communicates with Wells and Walls











On serious note, brother run far away from this girl, you can never marry her and be safe

for that one year she did not sent me.....

ladies in the house kindly advice

Do you still love her?? Do you see a better future with her?? Think twice Man. We Ladies can use emotion to get what we want.

NiniArike: Do you still love her?? Do you see a better future with her?? Think twice Man. We Ladies can use emotion to get what we want.

love? Am indifferent....emotion? Dat is why i dont want to see her

500samuel:

love? Am indifferent....emotion? Dat is why i dont want to see her

You sound as if you've made up your mind. Right?

NiniArike:

You sound as if you've made up your mind. Right?

not really, dat was why i came here to seek 4 advice

I don't think she loves you enough, if at all.
She could crush the already broken pieces of your heart into powder. Take her back at your own risk.

U luv ds gal wich is obviously y u want advice on hw 2 handle her...Talk to this girl bro..Ask her questions...@ first let her know u're nt having her bak...watch reactions...lik a tape recorder record her answers 2 ur questions as per hw she spent d past 1 year of her life...U're a man..den make ur decisions afta u might hav ran through her mind..try dat

1st, I'll say: never beg a woman to date you



When you get married she will toss you around




2nd: she's broken up with u already , why getting back to her?



You're clearly her less preferable option, not 1st choice





Go your own way and let her sod off!

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purplesummer: I don't think she loves you enough, if at all.
She could crush the already broken pieces of your heart into powder. Take her back at your own risk.

Purplesummer u're a gal....nt saying u shud take sides...bt u of all people shud know hw indecisive u gals can b..especialy wen it comes 2 mariage..as noone knows d road wit d diamond ending

Dbestmax:
Purplesummer u're a gal....nt saying u shud take sides...bt u of all people shud know hw indecisive u gals can b..especialy wen it comes 2 mariage..as noone knows d road wit d diamond ending

Lol. I'm a girl and I know the meaning of love because I've experienced it. A girl is indecisive about a guy if she doesn't truly love him. Moreso, ending up with the one you love, to me is the most satisfying, I wouldn't go looking for other "diamond endings" unless I don't really love my fiance.

purplesummer:
Lol. I'm a girl and I know the meaning of love because I've experienced it. A girl is indecisive about a guy if she doesn't truly love him. Moreso, ending up with the one you love, to me is the most satisfying, I wouldn't go looking for other "diamond endings" unless I don't really love my fiance.

so u're tellin me u'l marry d one u luv even though he's financially unstable

That girl loves you not.
I don't see where a relationship where love is one-sided is going.
As a matter of fact, I won't even ask if you want to take her back or not. DO NOT!!!
The problems and more heartbreaks inherent in your taking her back are too much.

Donfamous: Thank God she broke ur hearth and not heart.
Well she's only desperate all for the sake of marriage, cos d clock is ticking, don't be surprised if u find out that she doesn't really love. Well the ball is in ur court

She is a typical Nigerian girl to whom relationships is all about what she stands to gain.

Maybe she saw a more handsome or richer guy and wanted to dump poster for him. They are never satisfied with what they have.

Do you know that my Ex which we consentedly broke up siince 2011 still sees me and cry that she hasn't seen another man like me. When they have you, they don't value you. They disrespect you, insult you, trample you, compare you with riff raffs, pick calls in your presence from non-entities who mean nothing for them.

Poster, the ball is in your court, if you just want to marry go for her. But if you still have time on your calendar like one year, ignore the mumu and search for another girl.

One open mouth the other day, " A man cannot dump me, if a man is about to dump me, I will dump him first ". I just dey laugh. Dem no sabi say spare parts get grade..

500samuel: for that one year she did not sent me.....

Her relationship just failed so she prefers you now. That's how they keep running back to their exes of even 3 years ago.

She is in a perpetual circle of comparison. Comparing one man with the other and always threatening the present man with Exes and competitors. I have been in it before.

Guy, for the sake of peace and to avoid heart attack, just forget that lady. She can dump you tomorrow if bad comes to worse financially.

500samuel:

love? Am indifferent....emotion? Dat is why i dont want to see her

The fact say she don compromise your property,(her honey pot) is enuf reason for you to refuse.

That doesn't mean you can't lend her a shoulder when she is crying or service her to wipe her tears..

okparaugo:

She is a typical Nigerian girl to whom relationships is all about what she stands to gain.

Maybe she saw a more handsome or richer guy and wanted to dump poster for him. They are never satisfied with what they have.

Do you know that my Ex which we consentedly broke up siince 2011 still sees me and cry that she hasn't seen another man like me. When they have you, they don't value you. They disrespect you, insult you, trample you, compare you with riff raffs, pick calls in your presence from non-entities who mean nothing for them.

Poster, the ball is in your court, if you just want to marry go for her. But if you still have time on your calendar like one year, ignore the mumu and search for another girl.

One open mouth the other day, " A man cannot dump me, if a man is about to dump me, I will dump him first ". I just dey laugh. Dem no sabi say spare parts get grade..

lolz, so true dose guys shouting dey'll dump d guy first by the time they clock 30 they'll even be begging