Hello my familylanders,

whenever i come across topics concerning cheating on nairaland, be it a husband cheating on his wife or a girlfriend cheating on her boyfriend,
this question most times pop into my head ''WHO DO WE REALLY BLAME FOR CHEATING'.

Do we blame the men cheating on their spouses as we've seen in most cases or do we blame the women whom from day one knows the man is married or in a relationship but still decide to go ahead with the relationship?

there are some women whom all their lives dated married men but when they finally get married, they sometimes fall into the hands of a cheat.

women in such scenario, do we say karma has come to play or the husband it just one of the numerous cheats?

i'll like to throw this to the house and please lets make it a healthy discussion.

Pointing fingers and stigmatizing genders wouldn't stop the faithful cheaters from cheating. So I prefer we discuss about ‘cons and pros’ or something ‘else’ to educate ourselves. No offense intended Hun.

D devil ojare

Blaming won't solve nothing. An elderly man once said to a newly married couple,"once your partner starts behaving,check yourself to see whatever you are doing wrong that is making him/her to look the other way".

Blame! Blame!! Who is to Blame!!! did I actually hear that correctly? Well, if you've ever cheated, you are responsible for your actions. Don't you dare go trying to shift the blame to someone else.

You are responsible for your 'cheat'actions,no reason to shift blames cos(cheat) is usually done with a calculated mindset.

[quote
author=Ceasar1]Pointing fingers and stigmatizing genders wouldn't stop
the faithful cheaters from cheating. So I prefer we discuss about ‘cons
and pros’ or something ‘else’ to educate ourselves. No offense intended
Hun. [/quote]

Nice oxymoron there...

@ Op
I'd put the blame on the Freudian Id. It's not like it'll change anything though.

...Depends on the situation on ground....

The cheat!

Mintayo: Blaming won't solve nothing. An elderly man once said to a newly married couple,"once your partner starts behaving,check yourself to see whatever you are doing wrong that is making him/her to look the other way".

Will you remember it when your wife cheats on you?

Ceasar1: Pointing fingers and stigmatizing genders wouldn't stop the faithful cheaters from cheating. So I prefer we discuss about ‘cons and pros’ or something ‘else’ to educate ourselves. No offense intended Hun.

Then start with the pros and cons.

Ceasar1: Pointing fingers and stigmatizing genders wouldn't stop the faithful cheaters from cheating. So I prefer we discuss about ‘cons and pros’ or something ‘else’ to educate ourselves. No offense intended Hun.

Non of the above was actually the reason for creating the thread.
Anyways, can you start with the cons and pros?

carefreewannabe:

Will you remember it when your wife cheats on you?

before it get to the point of cheating,a "sensitive" spouse would have read between the lines, a "sensitive" spouse would have seen it.
For the record,my wife CANNOT cheat on me!

Awon oni rada rada tun ti de.won wa followers

Mintayo:
before it get to the point of cheating,a "sensitive" spouse would have read between the lines, a "sensitive" spouse would have seen it.
For the record,my wife CANNOT cheat on me!

Ok, then theoretically speaking, let's just assume your wife cheats on you, would you remember what you have said here ?

The cheat is solely on his own here, the blame is his and his alone.

carefreewannabe:

Ok, then theoretically speaking, let's just assume your wife cheats on you, would you remember what you have said here ?

Yes,but it may not be immediately.

Mintayo:
Yes,but it may not be immediately.

Cool.