We have exhausted everything we have in our arsenal to advise her...my niece is happily married with two lovely kids to a Mobile Police Officer...some weeks back,her husband was amongst the officers selected for a special training course at the police training ground at gwoza in Borno state..The camp was attacked on the 7th of August but the NPF were able to repel the attackers..The camp was attacked again on the 20th of August claiming the lives of some officers while some are at large still missing...my niece tried reaching her hubby on phone and the reciever at the other end spoke in Hausa language identifying himself as a boko haram member...As i type dix,my niece has been crying her eyes out..she hardly eat or sleep..she is restless always pacing through the whole house..she keeps sobbing day in,day out...How do we lift her up from the valley of despair...i truely feel for her...What should we do to help this troubled soul of hers...How do we cheer her up...Candid advice needed immediately..tnx in anticipation...

In a proper miltary set up, there would be support groups for spouses of personnel sent to danger zones

She has to prepare for the worst as BH takes no prisoners for exchange as hostage

Does she have a source of livelihood independent of her husband

Have you/she contacted the police command for information on her hubby

pickabeau1: In a proper miltary set up, there would be support groups for spouses of personnel sent to danger zones

She has to prepare for the worst as BH takes no prisoners for exchange as hostage

Does she have a source of livelihood independent of her husband

Have you/she contacted the police command for information on her hubby

she is a serving corper...should we contact the state PRO for help??..tnx for your advice

She should contact the police command and get information about her hubby.By now they should know who is dead and who is missing.
She ought to move in with someone in your family so you all can rally round her.
You all should keep hope alive but if the worst happens,you have to help her overcome this period.

In a proper setting by now the guy suppose to have been picked with that phone he is using but this is Nigeria.

The best you can do is to keep all dangerous tools away from her and keep on encouraging her, their is no way she wont think of her husband even the enviroment will make her think of him.

With words of encouragement and love she will overcome it.

Thank you all for your advices..we wud take pragmatic steps to ascertain the realities of fynx..remain blessed...

Seriously,i have been thinking hard...the NPF knowing fully well dat they are incapacitated to fight the BH boix,why should day endanger the lives of their comradesis it fair??...even the military are finding it an herculean task to dislodge dix terrorists...why??why should the NPF do dix??..sobbing....