Durst: Hello, I'm a regular nairalander but I had to use this my dormant account to make this post for some personal reasons.

I met this girl in school and we've been very close friends for months. I never actually had plans to date her or suchlikes. I just wanted us to be friends, Nothing more. Nevertheless, the unexpected happened! We started catching feelings for each other. I didn't see that coming until now.
We got very close that we share and discuss everything bothering each other, we are always seen together, notwithstanding we're in different departments. She makes it so obvious that she likes me and some of her other male friends have wrongly assumed we're already in a relationship. We spend so much time together that it's rarely difficult to see me when there is free period without her with me or nearby.
I haven't been in a relationship for a long time cos I don't just date any girl. There used to be a lot of female folks in my life until I got quite close with her. She's blinded me from noticing other girls and I'm kinda glad about it - I'm now more focused and I don't look out to impress other girls now, we're free with each other so no need for such.
The heartbreaker is that, while we were conversing, I talked about her she makes me feel and she said she feels the same "but" we can't date. She said she's afraid it would destroy our friendship! That her attitude would drastically change and we wouldn't enjoy the relationship. I never actually asked her out but I guess she felt that would come sooner, not later.
How do I convince her? How do I make her understand that nothing would change when we become exclusive? I'm dispirited cos I don't feel this way with any other girl I've met. She stands out, She's the embodiment of the kind of woman I would wanna be with.

Thanks for reading, it's quite long but I need all the help I can get, hence, the explicit narration.

Sanchez01:
Unfortunately, you might not be able to change her mind. As it is, she values your friendship beyond every other thing and as it stands, it might truly destroy a lot. Some will come here and claim you have been friendzoned, this is not true. She sees you only as a friend and not beyond that. You might be zoned eventually if you insist. I suggest you respect her wish, stay as a friend and if you believe you cannot cope, keep an arm length from her. Que sera sera. I totally understand what you're going through.

k2039: I guess she intends to date a stranger.

How old is she?

urhoboman: Why don't you just tell her point blank to be your woman?? She might refused at first, but itz normal for ladies to think they can't date a close friend. Just confess what's in your hrt to her. Let her know u can't take it if eventually she hooks up with another guy later. Tell her to be ur woman and make her understand your reasons.
NOTE: if she accept, do not let the relationship lack the flavours it has for now, else, it will shrink in no time. For me, itz kinda hard to keep a relationship from a girl that was once my bestie.
I must say this, I foresee you heading to the friendzone department with a white shining teeth. Lol

patrickdarlins: no mater how far a bird flies...it must surely come back to its nest in due time...let her be...she will totally let u in wen d time comes...dont rush it please..calm down

deneris: i think she actually likes you.. like really likes you and she is sincerely scared that things would change. cause most times things actually do change.. u begin to get overly jealous and get angry over petty things... then ure not so.close anymore... i know u really like her.. ur post actually feels sincere but dear i think u should just give her time.. dont act funny or anyth.. in time it'll happen..

Tymax: Guy you need to look elsewhere. Don't stop improving on your eligibility. She wants to customize you for herself and still be free of any commitment to you.

If you keep loving her, you will be friendzoned. Beware!

I'm sorry to break it to you bro. You cannot have her anymore. If you stick around, you will only see her date other guys who are wrong for her. She will make mistakes and date jerks but will not consider you even for a second.

Run sheep, RUN!!!!

Durst:

The more I wait, the stronger we bond and the harder it gets for me to pull away. This is the climax of the whole thing. Just hoping/waiting for the best would be ill-advised.

Durst:

I wasn't actually looking for a girlfriend before I got caught in this net. So, it's not really about finding someone else. I wish that was the case, this is spontaneous and feels perfect for me. Totally avoiding her would make me a child.

Durst:

Would just telling her be a wise decision judging from the way things stand right now? I think she's confused just like I am but you can't be sure you know.

Durst:

I haven't really asked her out (formally) How do I Wait in this case?

urhoboman: that is why u need to break the ice. She already knows what shez into. She might be in denial. U need to make the move and nuture her to express the feelings inside her hrt. I knw u don't want to complicate ur frndship with her, but believe me, if eventually she decides to settle down with anoda man, you will blame urself and make her ur enemy. U won't b able to take it.

deneris:
dont push any further just carry on with being friends..

Sanchez01:
Unfortunately, you might not be able to change her mind. As it is, she values your friendship beyond every other thing and as it stands, it might truly destroy a lot. Some will come here and claim you have been friendzoned, this is not true. She sees you only as a friend and not beyond that. You might be zoned eventually if you insist. I suggest you respect her wish, stay as a friend and if you believe you cannot cope, keep an arm length from her. Que sera sera. I totally understand what you're going through.

Durst:

Friend zone is the last place I would wanna see myself in this unfolding event. I've tried pulling away from her before now but she keeps coming. She's making it more difficult for me.