cirmuell: that's what happens when younglins who don't know jack sh¡t 'bout marriage rush into it like tomorrow will never come.

Godmystrength: you mean young as in age or experience?

cirmuell: both, the lady's age is understandable but the guy is just too young at that age if you ask me.

cirmuell: both, the lady's age is understandable but the guy is just too young at that age if you ask me.

freecocoa: Madam OP, stop talking about loving this man because you don't, you have to know how to love yourself before loving someone else and you obviously don't love yourself.

I hardly feel sorry for people passing through something like this, I mean how useless does one have to be to allow themselves be treated worse than trash, it's annoying abeg, pity yourself before looking for people to pity you.

Shaakasi: so so sad...
It will be well with you and your family dearie

pheyikemi: oh yeah? Did u read where she said they are doing fine now and he has fleet of cars. Finances caused d constraint in d family, and acquiring cars aint d best, u spend more to maintain cars and eventually they depreciate. At least if d man builds a shelter for his family, it's something. It is d legacy(debt/a good future) d man leaves the children will meet. The Op shd learn to stand on her feet for d sake of her children, and sorry for all u went thru.

Adufemi:

Thank u so much! I know its unhealthy for d children at the same time I now know why people say dnt let other people determine ur happiness. Cos they know this and sometimes they manipulate. I hate it too; I want to be self sufficient and happy by myself, I want to be that woman who ignores her hubby, live her life, take care of herself and her kids etc I make a new resolution everyday sumtimes ill tell maself I will ignore hubby and just be happy! Am succesful at this until I see him or he gets bak from wok and say sumfin nasty to me or ignores me.my heart breaks all over. At a point I travelled to Ghana by road to source for goods, d trip was unecessaer but I needed a break, I promised myself that ill have fun and not think about hubby or home. I dint last 24 hrs, I started calling him , he piked and told me he is busy and shld atop bothering him, he even set his phone to rejectamy calls permanently. I left Ghana the following day, I was supposed to spend 1 week.[b][/b]

Thanks for the advices and suggestions

thorpido: You probably didn't read her whole story.This thread is actually half of it.The other part is in another thread.

Like i said,cars or properties are the least of the situation now.She's dealing with a man who doesn't love her and does not respect her or her family.He also assaults her and he's seeing an ex.

magictouch:


I wasnt going to comment until i read the bolded part. Anyways just know that with your lovey dovey behaviour, he is going to hate u more.
you dont love urself and u are VERY weak and he knows this, so he is taking advantage of this.
Babes u are too young to be putting yourself through this stress, if u drop dead today, he wouldnt even think twice about remarrying within a year.

Oh girl no time for dolling oooh, let me tell u wot works for me.... when my hubby begins acting funny, I just distant myself completely. If he like make e use e head waka, if he refuses the eat, no problem, I and my kids eats the food in his very presence, if he ask questions I give straight answers, I tell you he cant carry on for more than 3-4 days he will be on his kneels begging unlike before I use to cry and beg at his kneels. he now knows that Kaki no be leather and he wonders where I get my strength from cos he know I also do not have friends.

I got this tip from Nairaland and it's been working for me. Please stop licking his ass and live ur life.

pickabeau1: Another testimony from the Nairaland school

I hope you are happy

Godmystrength: Who are you talking to now??our principal?

pickabeau1:

I reject am....

Godmystrength: reject wetin? you no be student from the school ni?

my new moniker may confuse you for a while yet

Shaakasi: so so sad...
It will be well with you and your family dearie

pickabeau1:

i no dey..

pickabeau1: Another testimony from the Nairaland school

I hope you are happy

magictouch:

Well I cant completely say that I am happy cos I dont like the fact that I have to ignore my husband sometimes but since that is the only language he understands and respond to, I got to apply it. I use to weep at his feet each time we had issues, he walks over me and let me cry till my eyes are swollen. but these days, he is the one doing the begging. though am very careful how I apply it sha.

Godmystrength: tah!! you full every classroom o......

pickabeau1: who sai..u sef tah!.. i will never advocate mind games or divorce as some are wont to do

Godmystrength: I say.
Na you sabi....
Anything you like advocate o. OPs go still do wetin they like

cococandy: Who am I seeing?
How are you?
Been a while.

_{my new moniker may confuse you for a while yet}

Shaakasi:



Awwwwww sweetheart where have u been??
Its rili been a while tho