For or Against. - I'm like so done with this topic already! Jeez!

@ OP, dont ever waste my time on rubbish like this again or else I would force you to school in Somalia.

All dese friendzoning etc ,guys complaining are pained because of d kitten, n d chiq doin d zoning is keepn d guy shud incase her dream guy messes up,she will have sumtin to fall bak on(she no wan lose) smart way to invest....the annoyn tin is dat dese girls always feel sooooo important zoning the mumu-s . Well like a friend use to say never under-estimate d power of PuZZY

MzNelly:

I replied, but i'm not quite sure it went through. Hm. Confirm this.

you replied? mikeomo my guy. get ready to be friendzoned. church babes don't really fancy fellow church guys. dunno why. I doubt if that line works. but Nelly might want to prove us wrong. Maybe Nelly can shed some light on why church babes don't trust fellow brothers. just my experience. Mikeomo might be an exception to the unwrtten rule. i am not really into church but my success rate is pretty high with them. sometimes i wonder y. i no even sabi quote bible like that. *eating my shawarma*

Kilode! Why is the OP so bitter or angry? abeg leave guys that believe in friendzoning alone o let them enjoy the self pity joor

mikeomo11:

Sometimes, we just need to bé optimistic. Btw, tnx.

but in the process don't let dem feel too important,I got angry wen she told u she didn't see it,she's sounding like she has a million mail n u r one of dose guys dat disturbs her....yucckkkk my guy dnt mind dem dey aint worth a paper work ....all na wash

LORETA:
@MzNelly(f) please am confused what are the attribute of just a nice guy..i just wanna know..pls

Ok dear. In my opinion, a nice guy is an amateur in the aspect of relationships. He is insecure and has no clue on how to get a girlfiend. He will always be nice to the girl he admires but never really takes the initiative in asking her out. These are the stereotypical nice guys. And no lady wants that, except she's after his money or just wants to push him around.

tiwiex:

you replied? mikeomo my guy. get ready to be friendzoned. church babes don't really fancy fellow church guys. dunno why. I doubt if that line works. but Nelly might want to prove us wrong. Maybe Nelly can shed some light on why church babes don't trust fellow brothers. just my experience. Mikeomo might be an exception to the unwrtten rule. i am not really into church but my success rate is pretty high with them. sometimes i wonder y. i no even sabi quote bible like that. *eating my shawarma*

You're sounding like he already asked me out.

mikeomo11:

Tnx bro.

'Thanks bro?' You forgot to tell the pained brother i replied your mail. Pfft! Guys

Mynd44:
Blood of Zeus.

The number 5 is hilariously silly.

I hope the OP does not have that mentality oooo. Na from there you go marry cheat, abuser and claim he did not show the signs

What's silly about it pls?
What's wrong with a girl refusing a guy whose only legitimate appeal lies in his 'being nice'

You were the one who wrote about AND and OR gates in explaining romantic affiliations. So what if 'nice' doesn't cut it for her?
Does that still make her point moot?



Just curious.

naijaboiy:
so I cannot just have a normal friendship with a girl that does not involve any feeling of any sort

Apparently not. I blame guys for that though

jahstech:
Makes no sense at all. This girls keep over flogging this nice guy issue, let me ask who of you girls would marry an agbero cos he is not Mr Nice guy? So you girls are trying to tell me you would prefer a guy who rather mistreats you while sleeping with other girls out there? That you would prefer a not so nice guy who works in a car park to a really nice guy who is quite and decent and works in a bank? Too much reading of foreign materials is affecting you all.

This one thinks you're pretty much confused

When I am depressed, I have two ladies that make me happy at work.
No strings attached. Seriously, pucci is boring these days

UjSizzle:

This one thinks you're pretty much confused

Honestly I don't get the "girls don't like nice guys" anthem, else some one explains better the aspect most girls look at it from makes me sick

I swear this "friendzone" topic don de purge my belle.


You ppl should get over it already...

jahstech:

Honestly I don't get the "girls don't like nice guys" anthem, else some one explains better the aspect most girls look at it from makes me sick

Okay, it's a lot like virginity.
Most people believe virgins are the coolest thing in God's green earth, but if it came down to making a choice, would a girl whose only appeal lies in being a virgin make the cut?
Think about what else you'd love in a woman.....a functional brain, good sense of humor, smart decent dresser, beauty etc (very subjective to individuals). So now you can say, all these other traits attracted me to her, but then she also turns out to be chaste and that super duper cool
Ok I'll take her.

Now imagine a girls simply thought to herself, "I love him. I'm a virgin. He has to date me because of that." Wouldn't you think that really odd?

It's the same way with guys. We except you to be nice. Big deal. We want you to respect us and be gentlemen.....that's being nice. But when it comes down to making choices, what really attracts a woman to a guy to start with? Smart looks, quiet confidence, good sense of humor, a functional brain etc (again very subjective).
Now there are probably a zillion and one nice guys out there who like/love/wants her. Who do you think she'll choose: A random selection from all that 'niceness' or someone who fulfills other criteria?

That's what no. 5 means.
Being nice doesn't guarantee you THE girl. It only means you're nice. What else have you got to offer? What else is appealing about you?

dont mind this girls, these are girls that have lost all they have, values,honesty, these girls live their everyday life confused in and out, they dont even know what is it they are looking for, what they want at the first place, this terrible condition is what haunts most girls our young men fall in love with nowadays, females have lost their way and Gods precious gifts long ago due their wicked ways. most females now roam the earth aimlessly like zombies, and most have become very unstable and so dangerous that they are now beautiful death traps that lure and damage the lives of many young men, i call them the generation of jezeebels...

mikeomo11:

We see ourselves as a family anywhere we meet.

Yeah bro...... A united brotherhood

UjSizzle:

Okay, it's a lot like virginity.
Most people believe virgins are the coolest thing in God's green earth, but if it came down to making a choice, would a girl whose only appeal lies in being a virgin make the cut?
Think about what else you'd love in a woman.....a functional brain, good sense of humor, smart decent dresser, beauty etc (very subjective to individuals). So now you can say, all these other traits attracted me to her, but then she also turns out to be chaste and that super duper cool
Ok I'll take her.

Now imagine a girls simply thought to herself, "I love him. I'm a virgin. He has to date me because of that." Wouldn't you think that really odd?

It's the same way with guys. We except you to be nice. Big deal. We want you to respect us and be gentlemen.....that's being nice. But when it comes down to making choices, what really attracts a woman to a guy to start with? Smart looks, quiet confidence, good sense of humor, a functional brain etc (again very subjective).
Now there are probably a zillion and one nice guys out there who like/love/wants her. Who do you think she'll choose: A random selection from all that 'niceness' or someone who fulfills other criteria?

That's what no. 5 means.
Being nice doesn't guarantee you THE girl. It only means you're nice. What else have you got to offer? What else is appealing about you?

Not really. Dont bother asking why.

Mynd44:

Not really. Dont bother asking why.

I'm not about to. If you had something to say, you'd say it.
Otherwise you'd respond to the question I asked in an earlier quote directed at you.

@ujsizzle, The problem with the number 5 is that a lot of girls wants the "homely" guy who will snuggle and be there but their curiosity gets the better of them, they are willing to let go of the homely traits for something a lot more adventurous, then there is also the urge to change someone. The urge to turn an hopeless case into a shining light. They want the dark knight and yet expect him to also have the emotional traits of superman. Quite laughable

And dont we all love the curiosity of a lot of women? Can be cute and also fatal but hey, that's just me

UjSizzle:

Okay, it's a lot like virginity.
Most people believe virgins are the coolest thing in God's green earth, but if it came down to making a choice, would a girl whose only appeal lies in being a virgin make the cut?
Think about what else you'd love in a woman.....a functional brain, good sense of humor, smart decent dresser, beauty etc (very subjective to individuals). So now you can say, all these other traits attracted me to her, but then she also turns out to be chaste and that super duper cool
Ok I'll take her.

Now imagine a girls simply thought to herself, "I love him. I'm a virgin. He has to date me because of that." Wouldn't you think that really odd?

It's the same way with guys. We except you to be nice. Big deal. We want you to respect us and be gentlemen.....that's being nice. But when it comes down to making choices, what really attracts a woman to a guy to start with? Smart looks, quiet confidence, good sense of humor, a functional brain etc (again very subjective).
Now there are probably a zillion and one nice guys out there who like/love/wants her. Who do you think she'll choose: A random selection from all that 'niceness' or someone who fulfills other criteria?

That's what no. 5 means.
Being nice doesn't guarantee you THE girl. It only means you're nice. What else have you got to offer? What else is appealing about you?

Girlfriend, i couldn't have said it better. That's a very intelligent way to look at it. If the boys still don't get it, just let 'em be.

UjSizzle:

What's silly about it pls?
What's wrong with a girl refusing a guy whose only legitimate appeal lies in his 'being nice'

You were the one who wrote about AND and OR gates in explaining romantic affiliations. So what if 'nice' doesn't cut it for her?
Does that still make her point moot?



Just curious.

now you are introducing exclusivity. No one mentioned being exclusively nice.

Mynd44:
@ujsizzle, The problem with the number 5 is that a lot of girls wants the "homely" guy who will snuggle and be there but their curiosity gets the better of them, they are willing to let go of the homely traits for something a lot more adventurous, then there is also the urge to change someone. The urge to turn an hopeless case into a shining light. They want the dark knight and yet expect him to also have the emotional traits of superman. Quite laughable

And dont we all love the curiosity of a lot of women? Can be cute and also fatal but hey, that's just me

Why don't you let the OP explain what she meant by no.5?

You're a guy, and as such may see it from a guy's perspective.
I'm a woman and see it from a completely different angle.

I don't consider being nice the best of all virtues. It's still something I think is inherently wrong with this world. People should be nice. Naturally.
So just because I see a lot of douche doesn't make me swoon when I see nice too. I expect nice, so I treat nice and douche like what they both are: Humans. Only one is slightly more appealing than the other. Shineka..

That's why I used virginity to explain this stuff to the other guy.

People want a number of things, and well most times there's never really a complete package. Now's when you need to prioritize, set out what's most important and try achieving that first.

Dont I know how hard that is eh? Still has to be done anyway.

.........Girls don't like 'nice guys' or 'douchebags', they like guys who are real, just like guys like girls who are real. If you think a girl owes you something simply because you're a 'nice guy', then you have a warped sense of entitlement with the females, man......

This was taken from Number 5. The OP did not say you also have to be ......smart, chatty, witty etc......" the OP said "Girls dont like nice guys" which means she does not like nice guys.

She wants a taste of adventure which even though it is her opinion and choice, it is what she wants.


And we all know that there is a different between want and need

CC Ujsizzle

Mynd44:

now you are introducing exclusivity. No one mentioned being exclusively nice.

No one mentioned otherwise either.

I'm simply working with the stuff I read online, and the reaction people have regarding the whole friend zone ish.

If a guy says he was nice to her and she friendzoned him, maybe she wants a bit more excitement. It doesn't have to a party banging excitement. It could be whatever for her.

If she wants attention, then she should choose a nice guy who gives her attention.

Being nice now isn't the AND for her, it's the OR.