Toks2008:

More often the guy may not really digg her. As he chats with you he does samewith other ladies.

Honestly some ladies are fools and i mean a big time DUMB ASS.

Please tell me,what siught of a man will continue to show interest in a lady who is engaged or married but a wayward bastard from the pitts of hell who has no regard for the santity of marriage andofcourse such a man will never value his own marriage.

I have a principle that makes me distant myself from any lady who tells me she is married,engaged or in a comitted relationship. I dstance myself from you no matter how i feel towards you and i have met ladies who have been seperated from their hubby yet i still believe seperation to me is not divorce.

So honestly most ladies are so dumb and clueless that they will be in a committed relationship and just mess it up because they are infatuated to one low life who is probably just interested in screwn them and dumping them to move on to the next looosed dumb ass.

temigracie: ...Yeah, she is...

Its called cheating....cheating has no other name....

Theres every possibility she' ll fall inlove with this nigga....And if this nigga ask her out, she ll start having second thought towards her relationship....

The best thing to do is to cut any connection with the guy and face her relationship squarely.....

DestinedSharon:
U lie!

Arcasie:
My friend's point exactly!! she knows she inlove with her boyfriend but she is the type who does not believe in cutting off good friendship just because he's of the opposite sex and would still hv this connection if he were a lady ...she just is the type who does not do shallow friendship, and she admits she loves the guy but like how she loves her brothers and could never date him evn if she wad paid to

thats y im confused if she is justified to have a guy frnd like that or its only her boyfriend she can have a connection with??

Arcasie: A friend told me about a situation she is going through and that got me thinking about this emotional cheating thing.

she has a boyfriend but shares a deep connection with another guy. their relationship is not sexual or anything but she just enjoys how interesting, witty, and understanding the guy is when they talk or chat and she tells him everything that she is going through. Its gotten so bad he's the 1st person she thinks of calling when she wakes up and her boyfriend doesn't even know about him. I tell her to keep her distance from the guy cuz she may get involved and she says its just a really great friendship and nothing more because she is not attracted sexually.

is she still cheating if she is not sleeping with the guy?

MizMyColi:
You see, that's one mistake females are very prone to make.
Feeling and acting like they're married, when they're not.
We call it, "being faithful".

It becomes really irksome because, in most scenarios, these boyfriends are more likefigure heads, they bring either little or nothing to the table.

Truth is, if as a single, I start developing extreme feelings of closeness to another, and in all honesty, it isn't sexual........
Then there must be something that guy is doing right, especially emotionally.


No, I'm not advocating that she dumps her man, uhn, uhn.......that'd be plain foolish, because for all we know, she just might be infatuated with this guy. Need I also point out that the male folk are better pretenders.

She needs to ask herself questions:
What is it about this guy that trips me so?
Is my boyfriend, despite his flaws, really all that I desire in a man?
Do I have needs that I haven't been as open in communicating, with my boyfriend?


That said, she has to take a break from the new guy already, yes she must take that break, to recollect herself emotionally (of course! It requires discipline).

I also know that when you commit to get married to an individual, more oft than not, someone else shows up, who makes your partner look like a big time learner......She just might be in that phase now. It's called Emotional Infidelity

I'll leave you with this quote I shared here just recently, hope it leaves you with some form of guidance

"I'd rather be the prize you felt you deserved, than be the option you felt forced to settle for. If we BOTH don't feel blessed to have one another, then we shouldn't be together."
~Rob Hill Sr.

Good Morning.

MizMyColi:
You see, that's one mistake females are very prone to make.
Feeling and acting like they're married, when they're not.
We call it, "being faithful".

It becomes really irksome because, in most scenarios, these boyfriends are more like figure heads, they bring either little or nothing to the table.

Truth is, if as a single, I start developing extreme feelings of closeness to another, and in all honesty, it isn't sexual........
Then there must be something that guy is doing right, especially emotionally.


No, I'm not advocating that she dumps her man, uhn, uhn.......that'd be plain foolish, because for all we know, she just might be infatuated with this guy. Need I also point out that the male folk are better pretenders.

She needs to ask herself questions:
What is it about this guy that trips me so?
Is my boyfriend, despite his flaws, really all that I desire in a man?
Do I have needs that I haven't been as open in communicating, with my boyfriend?


That said, she has to take a break from the new guy already, yes she must take that break, to recollect herself emotionally (of course! It requires discipline).

I also know that when you commit to get married to an individual, more oft than not, someone else shows up, who makes your partner look like a big time learner......She just might be in that phase now. It's called Emotional Infidelity

I'll leave you with this quote I shared here just recently, hope it leaves you with some form of guidance

"I'd rather be the prize you felt you deserved, than be the option you felt forced to settle for. If we BOTH don't feel blessed to have one another, then we shouldn't be together."
~Rob Hill Sr.

Good Morning.

tjark1: She has not told everything...

She's about to break the news of her breakup and Introduction of a new honey boy...

She just gave u a tip to see ur reaction.

Her 'Boyfriend' iS a gooner!

Otunbab: She's loving him and she knows it. The risky thing is, if she leaves her man for the guy, the guy is never going to trust her cause he knows how he caught her and then every time she's on the phone, he's going to get somehow upset cause he will be thinking she has another friend that was just like him when they were friends

tjark1: She has not told everything...

She's about to break the news of her breakup and Introduction of a new honey boy...

She just gave u a tip to see ur reaction.

Her 'Boyfriend' iS a gooner!

stanboy28: Well am kinda in same shoe wit dat girl......i hav a frnd(a girl) dat will ar so very close nd we share our secreats nd we' understand each other......though she has a boyfriend,bt things she can tell me,she cnt tell ar bf.....nd we ar not in anyway intimate at all neither ar we dating......in my own side its not cheating.even though i still have a gf.

ALKARULEZ615: now wey u don show urself say u hear english...oya rest

How does a person write so point, all the time.

Where is that "altercate" moniker that accused me of trying hard to be irresponsible and having multiple standards......
Come and tell her the same thing too.

#Hater

cococandy: took the word outta my mouth.
If she were married I'd say desist.
But heck she isn't,so why cuff yourself to a boyfriend when the guy in question hasn't even indicated interest in marriage.


OP tell your friend now one says she should sleep around or dump her boyfriend(he might be the ONE)
But she's selling herself short being a wife to a boyfriend.
You only play the wife role to a husband.
And only husbands deserve the total lock up

ndcide: For me,it's foolishness for anyone to clam ownership of the other person when they are not yet married.

Who says the present guy is the right person for her.

temigracie:
Yeah, we have freedom to select any guy we want....Do you know the plans her boyfriend have for her??...Dont you think he ll be disappointed if he finds out they are very close and share somethings together??....Will you be happy if someone you love is doing this to you??...

MizMyColi:
How does a person write so point, all the time.

Where is that "altercate" moniker that accused me of trying hard to be irresponsible and having multiple standards......
Come and tell her the same thing too.

#Hater

LordRahl001: no one is claiming! But pls reverse d role and c d gals reactn! The issue is if he wants d new guy, then call it off wit d boyfriend so he can move on wot his life!!! Do u knw if the boyfriend is even in d same shoes wit another lady but cut it off coz of his gf And imagine he finds out that what he avoided coz of the gf is what d gf is actually doing!!! Put urself in his shoes!! And if she is really that innocent, y didn't she inform her boyfriend abt it

ndcide: For me,it's foolishness for anyone to clam ownership of the other person when they are not yet married.

Who says the present guy is the right person for her.

Dcaliphate:
is the boyfriend going to marry her? a lady is free to select any guy she deems fit until there ia a commitment so dont talk about facing an uncertain relationship 'squarely'. udo.