Every once in a while – on very rare occasions –
we meet the woman of our dreams. It’s always
unexpected and almost never at a convenient
point in our lives, but she appears nonetheless
and changes your life forever.
The dynamics between man and woman have
been gradually changing for the past few
decades, but the essence of the partnership
basically remains the same.
We are designed by nature in a way that allows
two such opposites to join and make a whole.
Finding your other half is a journey of its own –
usually a grueling one at that.
If you are lucky enough to find that woman, that
rare sunflower growing on a barren desert, then
do right by yourself and hold on to her as tightly
as you can – never, ever let her go.
Not all of us were so wise when we met the loves
of our lives… and believe me when I say that
we’re regretting it. If she has any combination of
these 12 qualities then you should never let her
go:

1. She’s smarter than you.
Every man needs a smarter woman to help him
get through life in one piece. They say that
behind every great man is a greater woman –
they aren’t lying. Without woman, man is little
more than an ego-trip.
Enter a smarter woman into his life and suddenly
that ego has a purpose, a direction, and the
wisdom not to screw everything up.

2. She’s beautiful.
Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder – as long
as you find her to be incredibly beautiful,
according to your definition, then she is worth
holding on to.
I feel that these days we have those that put too
much emphasis on beauty and then those that
are rebelling against the concept and giving little
to no importance to beauty.
Beauty is something that has been reveled upon
since humans had eyes; it’s not something that
we should be ashamed of, but rather something
we should learn to appreciate properly.

3. She’s kind and nurturing.
Good people are kind people. If she isn’t kind
then she isn’t worthy of taking up a part of your
life. Being a woman, being nurturing is very
important as well. Some people may not want
children.
In some relationships the man may be more
nurturing than the woman. Nevertheless, women
are born with/develop maternal instincts with
age. If you wish to one day start a family then you
want to be sure you found a woman who wants to
be, and is suited to become, a mother.

4. She’s vivacious.
Life gets difficult from time to time. It can get
boring and monotonous just as well.
Women weren’t created to entertain men – if
anything, it’s probably the other way around –
but having a woman who is lively, energetic and
hungry for adventure will add a dynamic to our
life that will only make you happier.

5. She loves you with all her heart.
This is, by far, the most important quality any
woman can have. When a woman loves you she
loves you with her entire soul. It’s not the same
sort of love that men experience – men always
were and always will be more egocentric than
women.
Women, on the other hand, have the uncanny
ability to devote themselves entirely to the person
(s) they love. If you find a woman that truly loves
you then you found the greatest gift in the
universe.

6. She’s willing to make compromises.
People are stubborn – both male and female alike.
We like things the way that we like them and
aren’t especially open to making changes we
don’t deem necessary to make. However,
relationships require making compromises.
It’s just the way things have to work if you want
them to work. Finding a woman who will make
compromises is only half the battle, however.
You’re going to have to make them just as well.

7. She feels like home.
Being in love, deeply in love, is like finding your
place in the world, your home, for the first time in
your life. It’s knowing that you are exactly where
you ought to be and that there is nowhere in the
world you’d rather be.
If you look into her eyes and see your soul
reflected in them, then you’re home. Don’t ever
leave.

8. She is more than happy to tell you
when you’re wrong.
Every man – and I mean every man – needs a
woman who will call him out on his sh*t. Guys
have an uncanny ability to make poor decisions
and do stupid things.
Finding a woman who will keep you on track and
tell you when you’re wrong can very well make or
break your life.

9. She is strong, but feminine.
All people have a slightly different taste for the
women they are attracted to – but they are all a
combination of strength and femininity. A strong
woman is a partner every man needs.
A feminine woman is… well, a woman. The two
aren’t opposites. In fact, they are often one and
the same – when found in a woman that knows
how to hold her ground and be proud of who she
is.

10. She’s passionate.
A life filled with passion is a life worth living. But
living a life of passion alone is basically impossible.
Passion exists between two living things – usually,
in some way or another, between two individuals.
The beauty of passion is that it’s rather
contagious. It’s the world’s most revered
pathogen.

11. She’s driven.
I understand that some men want women to be
stay-at-home wives. I also understand that there
are plenty of women who want the very same.
This sort of woman isn’t for me, but clearly some
people are looking for just this.
Nevertheless, you still want a woman that is
driven. If she wants to stay at home, cook, clean,
and take care of the children, then make sure
she’s the kind of woman that wants to be the
best stay-at-home mom she could possibly be.
Without drive, there is no purpose.

ftc

12. She means the world to you.
Sometimes we love a person beyond imagination
and we aren’t sure why. To be truthful, you don’t
really need a reason. If you love her and can’t
imagine your life without her, then don’t allow
yourself to lose her.
If she means that much to you, then understand
that she means that much to you. Too often
people don’t realize what the other person means
to them until they lose them. We always think
that there will be another chance, that it’s
possible that the two of you will one day
reconnect.
Maybe. But the opposite is also true. You may
have lost her forever. You may suffer for years
and years because you let go of the most
important thing in your life. Don’t take the risk.




By PAUL HUDSON

Taaah.....One can only get such a chic in heaven, but i agree with you on all,100%. I pray God win me a trophy

Waspy: Taaah.....One can only get such a chic in heaven, but i agree with you on all,100%. I pray God win me a trophy

If only our women can develop 3/12 of the above. I will gladly go to altar the next day with my fiancee if I discover that she has atleast 3 of the above esp smarter than I do, God! I can kill for that.

When a gurl discovers d conscience of her beauty it spell her DOOM, rear to find beautiful gurls with such other qualities cox d beauty would av cast the shadow of arrogance that they will end up in the hands of a player.
A man is not successful untill he is married.
Good job though, ultimate search begins immediately....Zoooooom!!!!

bakandow11: When a gurl discovers d conscience of her beauty it spell her DOOM, rear to find beautiful gurls with such other qualities cox d beauty would av cast the shadow of arrogance that they will end up in the hands of a player.
A man is not successful untill he is married.
Good job though, ultimate search begins immediately....Zoooooom!!!!

@bolded Hmmmm, copy that. Arrogance set in; next thing is looking forward to hook 'omo baba olowo'

Beauty and Brains is a good combination anytime

Number 8 and 9 do it for me most.

Can all these qualities be found in a Nigerian girl?... I think not.

hardly u could get all d xritcs in ladies of now most especially naija babes...before u know they started proving gender equality which gets away submission and respect off them ... I pray my wife maintains hers sha...she's got 80% of this

Like seriously?

Ok...next

passionate88: Can all these qualities be found in a Nigerian girl?... I think not.

Why do u tink so?...you haven't checked enough...

NaijaChild:

Why do u tink so?...you haven't checked enough...

Where should he check? Sambisa forest I think

omg i hope the op is not suggesting dt i chose wrong

I hope he finds me this good when he comes.

dnacrystal: I hope he finds me this good when he comes.

Me too,that's why we have to develop ourselves now,so dem go rush wella

NaijaChild:

Why do u tink so?...you haven't checked enough...

Flesh and blood has not revealed it to me... But I know through........ (complete it yourself)

Can any woman on earth posses hundred% of ds qualities

dnacrystal: I hope he finds me this good when he comes.

Very well said.

Wonderful post, but...

OracleMxNelson: omg i hope the op is not suggesting dt i chose wrong

i'm not suggesting anything. remember that a failed courtship is better than a broken marriage.

If a nigerian man gets dis kinda woman 100per. Like dis, m sure dey can't handle it. ......most men cant stand very strong women and the kind of woman u talking here won't condone nonsense. Most Women like des r still single

Y di u men just judge us lyk we r all bad.Most of u get a girl lyk dis n u start takin her 4 granted.Den u lose it n u staet complaining.Dia r girls lyk dat it all just depend on d way u treat us.

NaijaChild:

Why do u tink so?...you haven't checked enough...

Can you do them all?... Willingly not because someone wrote them down but just that u want to do it?.

damselabi: Y di u men just judge us lyk we r all bad.Most of u get a girl lyk dis n u start takin her 4 granted.Den u lose it n u staet complaining.Dia r girls lyk dat it all just depend on d way u treat us.

This is Super story

cutiesoglam: If a nigerian man gets dis kinda woman 100per. Like dis, m sure dey can't handle it. ......most men cant stand very strong women and the kind of woman u talking here won't condone nonsense. Most Women like des r still single

You know that's not true. I'll handle her very well.

Tymax:
You know that's not true. I'll handle her very well.

Anamanu igba!

@op I'm all of the above except 6

NaijaChild:

Why do u tink so?...you haven't checked enough...

maybe he Shud check u too.
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by d way, is dat a tattoo at ur left arm?

3cycle:
Anamanu igba!

@op I'm all of the above except 6

Come hia. Let me handle u.