Kanwulia: When a spark ceases, it can NEVER be rekindled.
You only learn to STRIKE A NEW MATCH STICK!
Enjoy it while it lasts!

youngalex: This is what most marriages/relationships suffer from yet we fail to admit it,the law states that the affection/attraction you have for your partner tends to reduce over time and gives the feeling of "there is nothin more to it than what I have been seeing/doing"..what can one do to rekindle the spark?

MizMyColi:
On this topic, I think my siggy says it all.

braine: Contact should be reduced; calls, texting, visits; prolly having separate rooms for the married guys, etc. Basically to find ways for the couple to miss each other kinda. So the few times when there are calls, visits et al, there will be a lot to talk about ie quality moments and talks.

Tallesty1: SureBut I want you to say more. Give us more advice/suggestion.

Thanks in advance.

iwakolewa:


I don't get this

Tallesty1: Sure

But I want you to say more. Give us more advice/suggestion.

Thanks in advance.

MizMyColi:
Here are some tips for established relationships/marriages.
Please use your discretion where necessary.

I can't post the source here for fear of being banned

Your erratic work schedules and rising stress levels have taken a toll on your relationship. You haven’t been able to give enough time to each other and as a result your relationship has hit rock bottom. However, there’s still a chance to revive the charm and save your relationship. Here are a few things you must do.

1. Communicate
Talk to each other as much as possible, it is the most sensible things to do in such situations. This will help sort out a lot of issues that you have had in the past and will clear several misunderstandings as well. When you talk, you let out a lot of frustration and ill-feeling that you have stored within. You have avoided this kind of communication since you didn’t want things to take a bad turn, however at this point, talking out your differences is one of the best ways to make your relationship work

2. Give time
Try to concentrate more on your relationship, invest time in nurturing it. Try to shift focus from your professional life to your personal, come back early from work so that you spend quality time with your partner, avoid social gatherings where you need to go without your partner, etc. In fact, plan things around your partner, so that you can spend more and more time with each other. Time has the power to mend cracks, but you must invest enough time for the same

3. Start dating
Couples only date until the time they are chasing each other or just before being together. Once, they know that they are secure within themselves, they stop doing anything to make their relationship interesting. Start dating again to revive the charm, plan luncheons and dinner dates at new places around the city, go on surprise long drives once in a while while enjoying the weather, gift each other small things, etc. Try to get monotony out of your relationship and make it more exciting.

4. Listen
If you think talking out is very important to mend your ties, then listening is equally important. Before putting across your point to your partner, make sure you carefully listen to everything that your partner says. Do no jump on conclusions without giving him/her a chance to explain. Patiently listening to your partner might answer many questions that haunt your relationship from time to time.

5. Get more intimate
In most couples, being less intimate is one of the most important reasons that leads to a fallout. It is our busy schedules that usually make us feel so exhausted that we do not have enough time and emotion to spare, let alone being intimate.

If you’re already having s*x, try different positions and ask each other about the experience, and this is one way you can bring back the charm in your relationship.

MizMyColi:

Sure thing!
imo, it takes commitment.
After all the romantic hullabaloo
What most of us are yet to realize is that Loving at that point in time becomes a decision.
Most times, it is the guy who falters.
Woman are very intuitive and can smell a pending breakup or change in their man's character from afar.
What I advise young people is this:
Never rush a relationship journey.
Give it time.
Let it bud.
Guys,
Don't pretend to be what you're not.
Don't call her for one hour when in reality you know you're not that kind of person.
Don't love bomb a lady only to withdraw psychologically and emotionally from her after you feel she has given body, spirit and soul to you.
In other words, do not raise her hopes, until you are very sure that the connection you share is beyond feelings.
Ladies, you have to realize that in the beginning, the guy will always think he loves you, you have to be disciplined enough not to let those advances of his get to your head, thereby leading you to make hasty decisions, which in most cases, you might regret.
For those who have already made the mistakes listed above, there is still hope.
You need to take some time to cool off.
You need to go back to the start line.
Just give each other a long space.
Within that time, you'll reach a decision, whether or not to love this person.
That's when love becomes a will, a decision.
If you decide in the positive, love ferociously, love compromisingly, love sacrificially.
If it's negative,
Move On - For Good.

ideology:



From my dear friend mizmycoli,
She has said it all
Love is choice, risk, sacrifice

Mz you read too much, I'll have to seize your phone or ask network providers to disconnect you from internet.

You inspire

MizMyColi:


You inspire

MizMyColi:


Sure thing!

imo, it takes commitment.
After all the romantic hullabaloo
What most of us are yet to realize is that Loving at that point in time becomes a decision.

Most times, it is the guy who falters.
Woman are very intuitive and can smell a pending breakup or change in their man's character from afar.

What I advise young people is this:
Never rush a relationship journey.
Give it time.
Let it bud.

Guys,
Don't pretend to be what you're not.
Don't call her for one hour when in reality you know you're not that kind of person.
Don't love bomb a lady only to withdraw psychologically and emotionally from her after you feel she has given body, spirit and soul to you.
In other words, do not raise her hopes, until you are very sure that the connection you share is beyond feelings.

Ladies, you have to realize that in the beginning, the guy will always think he loves you, you have to be disciplined enough not to let those advances of his get to your head, thereby leading you to make hasty decisions, which in most cases, you might regret.

For those who have already made the mistakes listed above, there is still hope.
You need to take some time to cool off.
You need to go back to the start line.
Just give each other a long space.
Within that time, you'll reach a decision, whether or not to love this person.
That's when love becomes a will, a decision.
If you decide in the positive, love ferociously, love compromisingly, love sacrificially.
If it's negative,
Move On - For Good.

Tallesty1: ^^^She is the reason I will never leave nland.

onegig: And when that one goes off. What do you do?

Strike another one abi? That's very good.

Dygeasy: As in MizMyColi just has to say more.

*spreads mat*

Tallesty1: ^^^She is the reason I will never leave nland.

Dygeasy: MizMyColi, may I say something?

I love you.

Anyhow all of una term it. Na una sabi. You inspire really.

temigracie: hehehehehehe...

Another Nairaland couple....

Abeg i ll be the brides-maid oooo.......

I love you too, Dygeasy.


P.S - Temi, this is not a rozay

Dygeasy: MizMyColi, may I say something?

I love you.

Anyhow all of una term it. Na una sabi. You inspire really.