nwando:

Win her back ke
What he needs is a job
A very busy one to keep him super occupied and wear him out
He seems to have too much time on his hands

yes win her back.
he already has a job. the issue is that he wants his 'WIFE' back as the good girl he used to know.

coogar:

kick the heifer out of your house!!
i dunno why you people cling on to someone that doesn't want to be with you. she's cheating on you with her ex in the UK, she's embarrassed you in public, she disrespects you in front of her mother, niece, etc.

can't you fücking see the writing on the wall?
is it until she brings a bastärd into your matrimonial home in one of her shaggïng expeditions before you do what is right? jeeez, man up & do what is right before an irresponsible wife sends you to an early grave.

You think say na gra gra?

omoyeme200:

She disrespects me infront of her niece, children and grand ma(her mother) When I really needed her most she was not there for me even embarrassed me in public when we had a function in church

This man nags a lot
What is even wrong with you?

She is cheating
She is disrespecting you
It is all about you you you
Allow this woman to drink water and keep her cup down
Haba!
Maybe your attitude is chasing her away

docsholz: Why is marriage so problematic sef, there's always depressing news on this section

We are tired of depressing news. Marriage is scary.

carefreewannabe: omoyeme200

Your wife made mistakes but I am beginning to think that you were also way too clingy.

Being clingy makes a relationship boring. Being clingy kills passion.

So u noticed that too?

Op, It really saddens my heart, that u r going thru this situation. And strangely, considerable number of dedicated men who got married 2 good girls, always av one sad or tormenting story 2 share, wit any of their close frnds. And I usually ask @ d end but when u see a so called bad babe, maybe cos of her expensive luk or kind of job..She's quickly disregarded by most men as unfit for marriage. But strangely too, a man who luckily ends up married 2 any of them, av less issues 2 complain abt them. Why? Cos she has seen it.. Nothing fazes her abt other men anymore, and she's now focusd on taking care of her home.
**sighs* op, yur wife is aving an affair. She wants 2 rock life, and she feels u r. Choking her.. She wants 2 knw how it feels 2 be free anD flirt wit guys...But dis stage will soon Pass.. Be patient and continue. Taking care of yur kids. D lord is yur strength.

nwando:
You think say na gra gra?

gra-gra is the only way out - who has time for a rubbish wifey? it's only a man with the self esteem of an elf that would persevere with a woman like this. i would drive her back to her father's house safe & sound.....without the option of reconciliation.

nwando:

So u noticed that too?

He says that this is what his wife has said, doesn't he?

The op does not nag a lot. He's simply a focused, faithful and Dedicated husband that wants his love his wife 2 reciprocate his feelings 2wards her back frm wat he stated here. If u truly love yur partner, trust me, @ any given chance u wud want 2 be wit d person. Op pls just try and focus on yur work and kid... Give less attention 2 yur wife. When she notice yur distant attitude, for a long time her brain will come baCk...
U r a good husband, any wise woman wud want 2 have..

Now the next step is insulting the op..

Ok

coogar:

gra-gra is the only way out - who has time for a rubbish? it's only a man with the self esteem of an elf that would persevere with a woman like this. i would drive her back to her father's house safe & sound.....without the option of reconciliation.

Drive her back with or without her kids
You forget that she may have more claim to that house they live in than he does
You think you can just drive anyone back like you shush a bird off

nwando:
Drive her back with or without her kids

of course, without my kids.
who would leave his kids with a woman that was caught cheating with an ex-boyfriend. they stay in nigeria, the father gets the first option.

You forget that she may have more claim to that house they live in than he does
You think you can just drive anyone back like you shush a bird off

that's exactly what i would do....a cheat is a cheat!
how can i ever trust such a woman again? forgiving her is the easy part - what about trust?
if she gets pregnant then all kinda thoughts are racing through my mind, is the kid really mine?

i'm too young to be going through such, the best option is to cut her off - completely!

coogar:

of course, without my kids.
who would leave his kids with a woman that was caught cheating with an ex-boyfriend. they stay in nigeria, the father gets the first option.



that's exactly what i would do....a cheat is a cheat!
how can i ever trust such a woman again? forgiving her is the easy part - what about trust?
if she gets pregnant then all kinda thoughts are racing through my mind, is the kid really mine?

i'm too young to be going through such, the best option is to cut her off - completely!

You think any woman in this modern age will allow you take the children she carried in her womb nine months and nursed with her personal milk.in case you don't know,Nigeria has changed

The woman is obviously not interested in the marriage anymore
It happens
She is not feeling him any longer and has made no secret of it
If he doesn't like the new state of affairs,let him file for divorce
Coming to nairaland to lament and elicit sympathy from strangers won't bring her love back
He obviously wants the marriage more than she does
There comes a time a woman has had enough

nwando:
You think any woman in this modern age will allow you take the children she carried in her womb nine months and nursed with her personal milk.in case you don't know,Nigeria has changed

i guess the child she carried in her womb for 9 months was an immaculate pregnancy. there was no input from the hubby at all. she reproduced like a komodo dragon.

The woman is obviously not interested in the marriage anymore
It happens
She is not feeling him any longer and has made no secret of it
If he doesn't like the new state of affairs,let him file for divorce
Coming to naiaraland to lament won't bring her love back

i don't think he came to NL to ask how to win her heart back. he came to ask if he has overreacted. one can tolerate a cheating hubby in so many ways - but a cheating wife?

if i have my way, i would decree cheating wives should be treated the way christian crusaders treated witches centuries ago.

coogar:

i guess the child she carried in her womb for 9 months was an immaculate pregnancy. there was no input from the hubby at all. she reproduced like a komodo dragon.



i don't think he came to NL to ask how to win her heart back. he came to ask if he has overreacted. one can tolerate a cheating hubby in so many ways - but a cheating wife?

if i have my way, i would decree cheating wives should be treated the way christian crusaders treated witches centuries ago.

Hehehehe
You see am
We should tolerate cheating husbands and you cannot tolerate cheating wives
Well women are catching up
This one now has options
Look who is crying now

What he won't tell you is the role he played in this predicament he finds himself in
I assure you there was a time this good girl he married swallowed nonsense and remained good until she found comforting shoulders to lean on
Na turn by turn
Men think it's every wife that will be meek and mild and collect rubbish till eternity
May all these trifling men meet women that will turn out like this and shatter your hearts to small small pieces the way you shattered hers

nwando:
Hehehehe
You see am
We should tolerate cheating husbands and you cannot tolerate cheating wives
Well women are catching up
This one now has options
Look who is crying now

a cheating husband would not bring a bastard from his trysts & claim the baby is yours. that's the difference.

a cheating hubby can only father a child outside the marriage - a cheating wife would bring a bastärd in & still dance at the altar in church that her God has done it for her.

nwando:
What he won't tell you is the role he played in this predicament he finds himself in
I assure you there was a time this good girl he married swallowed nonsense and remained good until she found comforting shoulders to lean on
Na turn by turn

don't just assume. if it was the wife that came here to say her hubby was cheating with an ex on facebook, you wouldn't assume the woman must have played a role in the predicament she found herself.

when wives cheat, blame the hubbies
when hubbies cheat, blame the hubbies.
at what point in this millennium would women start taking full responsibility for their lecherousness?

Men think it's every wife that will be meek and mild and collect rubbish till eternity
May all these trifling men meet women that will turn out like this and shatter your hearts to small small pieces the way you shattered hers

if this man was a trifling hubby, he wouldn't even notice his woman was on facebook chatting with an ex. cheating husbands are far too busy with their many mistresses to be bothered.

I have a friend that says that if her husband ever cheats,she must cheat back and make sure he finds out
And she will make sure the man big pass her husband in every way a man fit pass im fellow man so that he will see her taste in men and shake her hands

Height o
Build o
Pocket o
Societal standing o
"Staff of office" o
Every measurable way
After she has done her own then they can talk of reconciliation if he wants to reconcile

coogar:

a cheating husband would not bring a bastard from his trysts & claim the baby is yours. that's the difference.

a cheating hubby can only father a child outside the marriage - a cheating wife would bring a bastärd in & still dance at the altar in church that her God has done it for her.

Well too bad for you folks
Women can hide their cheating well and will take the paternity of their kids to their grave
The underlying thing there is cheating
If a man can do it,let him find a woman that can do it too
Hopefully she will be smart enough to use protection or get men that resemble her husband small

It will be foolish to cheat with a light skinned man for instance if you and hubby are very dark skinned
Or have a 6 foot husband and cheat with a short engine

nwando: I have a friend that says that if her husband ever cheats,she must cheat back and make sure he finds out
And she will make sure the man big pass her husband in every way a man fit pass im fellow man so that he will see her taste in men and shake her hands

Height o
Build o
Pocket o
Societal standing o
"Staff of office" o
Every measurable way
After she has done her own then they can talk of reconciliation if he wants to reconcile

there must be a woman more beautiful than this your friend....with luscious bòobs & killer hips. nor be that una america? one trip to california and i would find me a sexy hispanic. women are far more jealous than men - na she go quench.

coogar:

there must be a woman more beautiful than this your friend....with luscious bòobs & killer hips. nor be that una america? one trip to california and i would find me a sexy hispanic. women are far more jealous than men - na she go quench.

If my husband cheats with an ugly woman,I will feel more angry
Hehehehehe
It will look to me that his taste is ugly women so I must be ugly in his eyes

nwando:

Win her back ke
What he needs is a job
A very busy one to keep him super occupied and wear him out
He seems to have too much time on his hands

He already has a job and what if he did not for a while? She will come back begging after her wild goose chase. I just have a feeling that the is acting like he will die without her. We really need to stop putting the value of husbands on their financial success. Discussing your spouse negatively with your ex? That's betrayal. I'm sure it hit him like a ton of bricks. He needs to not give her anymore power but having 10 jobs will not solve this problem. To be honest I don't think he should have sex with her anymore. They should get professional help.

soulglo:


He already has a job and what if he did not for a while? She will come back begging after her wild goose chase. I just have a feeling that the is acting like he will die without her. We really need to stop putting the value of husbands on their financial success. Discussing your spouse negatively with your ex? That's betrayal. I'm sure it hit him like a ton of bricks. He needs to not give her anymore power but having 10 jobs will not solve this problem. To be honest I don't think he should have sex with her anymore. They should get professional help.

I saw that later

The bottom line is that she is no longer in love with him
Every other action is secondary to that premise
The woman no want again

nwando:
Well too bad for you folks
Women can hide their cheating well and will take the paternity of their kids to their grave

DNA tests are becoming cheaper - the net is closing.

The underlying thing there is cheating
If a man can do it,let him find a woman that can do it too
Hopefully she will be smart enough to use protection or get men that resemble her husband small

she's disadvantaged - a woman can only choose from the list of admirers running after her. if her luck only draws dark men - then she's toast. a man on the other hand sees what he likes & go after her.

It will be foolish to cheat with a light skinned man for instance if you and hubby are very dark skinned
Or have a 6 foot husband and cheat with a short engine

what about height, shape of head, color of lips, size, etc?

coogar:

DNA tests are becoming cheaper - the net is closing.



she's disadvantaged - a woman can only choose from the list of admirers running after her. if her luck only draws dark men - then she's toast. a man on the other hand sees what he likes & go after her.


what about height, shape of head, color of lips, size, etc?

Odiegwu
A black man is a black man
Who is checking

nwando:

If my husband cheats with an ugly woman,I will feel more angry
Hehehehehe
It will look to me that his taste is ugly women so I must be ugly in his eyes

i thought cheating with a prettier chic would make any woman angrier. so she has to be ugly? thanks for the heads up.

i would go to the core of oshodi market & find me a robust tribal-marked tomato seller.

nwando:

Odiegwu
A black man is a black man
Who is checking

so djimon honsou is the same as yobo to you?

coogar:

i thought cheating with a prettier chic would make any woman angrier. so she has to be ugly? thanks for the heads up.

i would go to the core of oshodi market & find me a robust tribal-marked tomato seller.

One woman had her husband in naija cheating with people's house girls ,hawkers selling orange ,market women etc
She said the one that pained her was the caliber of girls her husband was cheating with
Instead of him to find diezani or stella odua,women that can add monetary value to the household,the eediot was giving out the little they had to recharge card sellers.
She had a point

nwando:

One woman had her husband in naija cheating with people's house girls ,hawkers selling orange etc
She said the one that pained her was the caliber of girls her husband was cheating with
Instead of him to find diezani or stella odua,women that can add monetary value to the household,the eediot was giving out the little they had to recharge card sellers.
She had a point

sometimes, the local chicken tastes better than the agric ones.

coogar:

so djimon honsou is the same as yobo to you?

Look at yobo's kids,do any of them have red lips?
Is anyone doubting their paternity?
Those small features no dey matter

coogar:

sometimes, the local chicken tastes better than the agric ones.

Rofl

Nwando and coogar lmao

Erm meanwhile no body should call the OP a nag. We don't know that.
He seems like the type that gives his wife the attention she needs. Just that in this case she doesn't want his attention.
Me I like me very sweet and loving men.
Not the 'braggadacio feeling funky on top nothing kind of men'

nwando:
Look at yobo's kids,do any of them have red lips?
Is anyone doubting their paternity?
Those small features no dey matter

no one would doubt the paternity cos the kids actually look like yobo. the forehead & the dome is enough for me.

cococandy: Nwando and coogar lmao
Erm meanwhile no body should call the OP a nag. We don't know that.
He seems like the type that gives his wife the attention she needs. Just that in this case she doesn't want his attention.
Me I like me very sweet and loving men.
Not the 'braggadacio feeling funky on top nothing kind of men'

in the 21st century, paying attention to one's spouse = nagging!