coogar:

in the 21st century, paying attention to one's spouse = nagging!

nwando: I have a friend that says that if her husband ever cheats,she must cheat back and make sure he finds out
And she will make sure the man big pass her husband in every way a man fit pass im fellow man so that he will see her taste in men and shake her hands

Height o
Build o
Pocket o
Societal standing o
"Staff of office" o
Every measurable way
After she has done her own then they can talk of reconciliation if he wants to reconcile

crackhaus:
Utter nonsense!
Any woman that does this to me thinking she's paying me back in equal & better coin is definitely delusional.

Unlike women, men hardly compare themselves or feel bad that their spouse got a better deal after them, we don't care about such things...this attitude is the exclusive preserve of women, that is why y'all are easily distraught after finding out the new chic is a big step up OR oddly satisfied with yourselves after finding out the new chic is a step down.

I might even end up having a drink with that man somewhere down the line

omoyeme200:

She disrespects me infront of her niece, children and grand ma(her mother) When I really needed her most she was not there for me even embarrassed me in public when we had a function in church

cococandy: Nwando and coogar lmao

Erm meanwhile no body should call the OP a nag. We don't know that.
He seems like the type that gives his wife the attention she needs. Just that in this case she doesn't want his attention.
Me I like me very sweet and loving men.
Not the 'braggadacio feeling funky on top nothing kind of men'

jennykadry: Na wa ooo. A woman is busy cheating on her husband and this same husband has come to nairaland to complain about it and what some people here have to say is he is a nag?

Lord please bless me with a loving and caring husbands who worships the ground I walk on... and God decides to bless you with what you have asked him and then all of a sudden that man that showers you too much attention is now being called a nag?

I hail thee

crackhaus:
What makes you think the 'braggadocio feeling funky on top nothing kind of men' really bat an eyelid on account of you liking them or not?

nwando:

Look at the topic of the thread and the poster
Who is crying here and having sleepless nights over texts and FB messages?

armyofone: OP, it is time to let her go. I'm sure your peace of mind is important. Focus on yourself and children.
You really don't need anyone appraisal because you know where the shoe pinches and can judge your present situation.

coogar:

nwando:

Look at the topic of the thread and the poster
Who is crying here and having sleepless nights over texts and FB messages?

cococandy: I was speaking for myself jare.
I'm sure they have their type of women.
I just love sensitive men. That's all

Where do you belong?

crackhaus:

cococandy: Crackhaus' problem is that he categorizes all men into one group and all women into another group.

crackhaus:
Na wah oo...I told you this or you got it from the ever firing imaginative neurons in your brain?

Unlike women, men hardly compare themselves or feel bad that their spouse got a better deal after them, we don't care about such things...this attitude is the exclusive preserve of women,

cococandy:

Mmm maybe I interpreted your post wrongly.



But I think when one says something is the exclusive preserve of one group,means it can't be found in the other group EVER.
You can't speak for every man.
.

crackhaus:
You interpreted fine.

Comparing and contrasting the looks of an ex's new fling is the exclusive preserve of women. I'm yet to come across a man who after getting booted off by his woman, begins to rate the looks & aesthetics of the new man with respect to himself.

How does this prove that I classify all men into one group and all women into another?

You've been known on this site to speak for all women though...you know this right?

TV01: OP hi,

You are clearly having it rough and have been painfully disabused of a number of your romantic notions. For the sake of the good men reading, I will trample on a few more.

Good girl? Please, spare us and yourself. A true good girl remains a good girl under any conditions. Unfortunately hypergamous sluts are wont to form “good girl” when the situation warrants it’s and only reveal their true nature under favourable conditions.

You may well have treated her unkindly when the balance of power was different? Not that that actually matters, a female prone to hypergamy will be true to her nature, whatever yours is.

Her encouraging you to have girlfriends is really to justify her sluttery. Even the most ardent and shameless of them will contort emotionally in order to validate their behaviour.

Right now she despises you and is doing her damndest to get you to end the relationship. Don’t be fooled, it’s not out of any concern for you or the children, it’s simply to establish another layer of self- justification. And please don’t mistake this for shame, it’s mere pretension.

I actually laud your desire to restore your union, although I’d question if this is just out of weakness and a sense of wanting to restore your imaginary idyll.

You also need to be totally objective and unsentimental about the situation. She may well have flown the coop emotionally and just be trying to precipitate end-game.

Any hope you have, does not only not rest in simpering plea-bargaining, it will be totally lost by it – as it will cause her to despise you even more.

Please stop pandering to her and overlooking her wilful disrespect. Take strident and purposeful action, be fully prepared for the worst and clearly demonstrate that you don’t have an f to give about how things pan out - even if you do.

Apologies for being harsh and please forgive my language. I speak so that you don't labour under any delusions and fully apprehend what lies ahead.

Gentlemen, you are men, present as such. Your framing of your manhood should never be influenced by your feelings, no matter how deeply felt or well-intentioned. Never ever cut yourself any slack or give a woman an inch – whatever the situation. You can’t force a woman to stay, but you can remain a man.

TV

Roland17:

@TV

Nwanne, I don't know you and have never met you but, may the fountain from which such words were drawn be replenished in abundance.. You have said it all..

Do away with emotions when making critical decisions, be pragmatic and decisive...

TV01:

Gentlemen, you are men, present as such. Your framing of your manhood should never be influenced by your feelings, no matter how deeply felt or well-intentioned. Never ever cut yourself any slack or give a woman an inch – whatever the situation. You can’t force a woman to stay, but you can remain a man.

TV

Word!!!!

TV for President


Laughs In Spanish

TV01: OP hi,

You are clearly having it rough and have been painfully disabused of a number of your romantic notions. For the sake of the good men reading, I will trample on a few more.

Good girl? Please, spare us and yourself. A true good girl remains a good girl under any conditions. Unfortunately hypergamous sluts are wont to form “good girl” when the situation warrants it’s and only reveal their true nature under favourable conditions.

You may well have treated her unkindly when the balance of power was different? Not that that actually matters, a female prone to hypergamy will be true to her nature, whatever yours is.

Her encouraging you to have girlfriends is really to justify her sluttery. Even the most ardent and shameless of them will contort emotionally in order to validate their behaviour.

Right now she despises you and is doing her damndest to get you to end the relationship. Don’t be fooled, it’s not out of any concern for you or the children, it’s simply to establish another layer of self- justification. And please don’t mistake this for shame, it’s mere pretension.

I actually laud your desire to restore your union, although I’d question if this is just out of weakness and a sense of wanting to restore your imaginary idyll.

You also need to be totally objective and unsentimental about the situation. She may well have flown the coop emotionally and just be trying to precipitate end-game.

Any hope you have, does not only not rest in simpering plea-bargaining, it will be totally lost by it – as it will cause her to despise you even more.

Please stop pandering to her and overlooking her wilful disrespect. Take strident and purposeful action, be fully prepared for the worst and clearly demonstrate that you don’t have an f to give about how things pan out - even if you do.

Apologies for being harsh and please forgive my language. I speak so that you don't labour under any delusions and fully apprehend what lies ahead.

Gentlemen, you are men, present as such. Your framing of your manhood should never be influenced by your feelings, no matter how deeply felt or well-intentioned. Never ever cut yourself any slack or give a woman an inch – whatever the situation. You can’t force a woman to stay, but you can remain a man.

TV

Chillisauce:

In addition to this. Pray. Oh yes, pray. After all you are her husband. You married her.
Pls don't forget, always wear blue and white strip boxers and dont repeat same boxer the next day.

Don't allow these misogynists to break your home . Most of these men have no woman on their own and want you to tow their path .

coogar: one can tolerate a cheating hubby in so many
ways - but a cheating wife?

if i have my way, i would decree cheating wives should be treated the
way christian crusaders treated witches centuries ago.

cococandy: I think it is wrong to call someone's wife a slutt.
He may not even fancy it.

dytbabe:
Now let me even turn this all arnd

Did u care abt her feelings when u were cheating too?
Am sure she cried and begged for ur attention
Am not sayin what she's doin is right o, bt now u know how it feels
Pele, it will get better