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Caring- Is It All About Guys? by Nkenim(m): 12:32am On Nov 02, 2008 |
Hi dears, is caring all about taking a girl oüt? Gifts? Calling her every second? Giving her money 4 upkeep? Please is there more 2 caring than de above listed. Because every girl seem 2 say am not caring when i've done everything that i've listed above. Must it be de guy alone 2 do de caring? Your opinions please. |
Re: Caring- Is It All About Guys? by MrCrackles(m): 12:34am On Nov 02, 2008 |
you don't seem to include FUCKING in your list above so i take it that you don't do that amongst many other things and as long as you don't do that amongst many other things, you are useless and not caring!! |
Re: Caring- Is It All About Guys? by Morenike3(f): 2:15am On Nov 02, 2008 |
Nkenim:If they're telling you you're not caring, then obviously, there's more to caring than gifts, taking a girl out etc. |
Re: Caring- Is It All About Guys? by A40(m): 2:22am On Nov 02, 2008 |
Nkenim:You are being too caring sef trust Naija girls to take that for granted i would advice you stop doing at least two of the above @Morenike Hi |
Re: Caring- Is It All About Guys? by Morenike3(f): 2:26am On Nov 02, 2008 |
A-40:excuse me? Is it their fault that Naija men dnt know what "caring" is? A-40:Hey sweetie, how was your weekend? |
Re: Caring- Is It All About Guys? by A40(m): 2:41am On Nov 02, 2008 |
*Morenike:We do know what caring is but when a guy is too nice sometimes he gets taken for granted My weekend was cool and yours? |
Re: Caring- Is It All About Guys? by Morenike3(f): 2:50am On Nov 02, 2008 |
A-40: ohh plzzz, give us a break. Being nice does not necessarily mean caring. Caring is when you're falling and a guy holds your hips to break your fall, not watch you fall then lend a hand. If Naija men don't know what love is, then what do they know about caring? Anybody can buy her gifts, anybody can take her out, can give her money, but not every man can care for her like her man. If her man can't jump over the bridge for her, mehnnn, that one no be caring o. Trust me, if you have someone to care for you, all those material items and luxuries won't really matter. My weekend was fab, thank you. |
Re: Caring- Is It All About Guys? by HRhotness(f): 2:57am On Nov 02, 2008 |
Nkenim: If u really did care, u wld think nothing of these things. . . to care means u feel sumthin, it cant be quantified! |
Re: Caring- Is It All About Guys? by A40(m): 3:04am On Nov 02, 2008 |
*Morenike:Giving her money for her upkeep,Buying Gifts,Calling her often? Taking a girl out it doesn't get any more caring than that.I think the mistake guys make is doing all this things without finding out if the girl really likes you because if she does you wouldn't have to go through all this stress The typical Naija girl is materialistic so how else do you care for her? Can you give me other examples because the ones you listed here are outlandish Jumping over the bridge? yeah so when i do that she runs to the next available boy! No way Lol but you know i would walk the Atacama for you boo |
Re: Caring- Is It All About Guys? by Morenike3(f): 3:19am On Nov 02, 2008 |
A-40:You, most most times b/c you abuse naija girls too much [/b]times, do make sense. I have to agree with this line; [b]I think the mistake guys make is doing all this things without finding out if the girl really likes you because if she does you wouldn't have to go through all this stress. So true. Lol! Those examples were meant as a hyperbole. Exaggerated Another example? sure. A girl would like a guy to cook for her, her favorite meal, instead of taking her out to a chef who doesn't even know what she likes to eat or [b]how [/b]she likes to eat it. Another one? Call her to ask her about her well being, instead of what you want for dinner. And calling her 20x a day is not caring her, plz. It's stalking. Let her breath. And it gets boring if you keep calling her constantly I'd love to give more examples, but it'd just be "ridiculous" to you naija men Lol, I know. That's why you're such a sweetie. But I prefer you jump off the bridge for me |
Re: Caring- Is It All About Guys? by A40(m): 11:00pm On Nov 02, 2008 |
@Morenike Why should i cook for a chic? Its not like i can't do it but mehn she has to be something special besides most girls don't even know how to cook these days so why should i cook for them I agree on the calling every day thingy i can't do it i try giving people their space as much as possible The Atacama desert is the perfect test ooh.Its the driest desert in the world it rains there once or twice every 200 years.That is the perfect way for me to show my love for you |
Re: Caring- Is It All About Guys? by Morenike3(f): 11:15pm On Nov 02, 2008 |
A-40: Lol!! You naija men are so so unromantic. So it's now a taboo to cook for your woman? Ole ni gbogbo yin!!! Must you do sth special for her too cook for you? I know it's a woman's thing, *roll eyes* but a girl wants to feel special and cared for once in a while by her man cooking for her. Is that too hard? lmao!! you're so not serious. I already gave you my test, jump over the bridge or you do not loff me. Which one na. |
Re: Caring- Is It All About Guys? by A40(m): 12:06am On Nov 03, 2008 |
*Morenike:Ohh stop it already this romantic thingy is so cliche.Its not a taboo but she has to be worth the trouble thats all i am saying That's the issue most girls would rather like you to take them out! most of them can't even boil rice nowadays its so sad and some of them be serious Aje-Pako so they didn't and can't claim to have the luxury of having a maid as an excuse for their culinary ineptitude I can't jump over no bridge boo.If the Atacama walk is not enough for you then too bad.What would you do for me sef? This our love e be like say na one-way traffic |
Re: Caring- Is It All About Guys? by Morenike3(f): 12:20am On Nov 03, 2008 |
A-40:What kind of girls have you been hanging out with? I'm not into restaurants because the food are so tasteless. Most of them. No spice, no Maggi, not enough salt etc. I'd rather he cook for me on valentine Ok, maybe I'm being too selfish. Or am I? I mean, cooking for me does not even ave to be romantic. Just do it as a "caring" b/f, husband, etc. Oh babe, but if you go to the desert, I'll miss you too much! You think I'd let you jump over the bridge without a parachute? Then you do not know me |
Re: Caring- Is It All About Guys? by milknhoney(f): 12:21am On Nov 03, 2008 |
*Morenike:I use to think that a man should cook for his woman just for the sake of loving her. But now. . . . . I noticed that the woman has to pretty much bend over backwards for the guy just to take her out to eat. But not to talk down on those men who are actually caring. I just wish all guys held this criteria within themselves but I guess that is just wishful thinking. |
Re: Caring- Is It All About Guys? by Morenike3(f): 12:28am On Nov 03, 2008 |
milknhoney:Abi o, seriously. Scratch romance out, scratch special treatment out. A man should be willing to cook for his wife, atleast once in a while. It's just plain outrageous that she has to do sth to get special treatment. Can't a man just tell his wife, atleast once a week or month or once in a well that she "shouldn't worry. I'd deal with the cooking tonight. You need the rest". That's caring. or am I wrong? Men, we're not saying it has to be the man's job, all we're saying is, show her that you care. |
Re: Caring- Is It All About Guys? by A40(m): 12:31am On Nov 03, 2008 |
*Morenike:E be like say na Oyinbo you go marry ok i can cook once a month lol if you are ready to have some gastro-intestinal problems |
Re: Caring- Is It All About Guys? by Morenike3(f): 12:34am On Nov 03, 2008 |
A-40:Oyinbo ke? lai lai!! emi ko!! hehhe, so you can't cook? |
Re: Caring- Is It All About Guys? by A40(m): 12:39am On Nov 03, 2008 |
*Morenike:Of course i can cook!! was just winding you up i can cook better than 60% scratch that 70% of you girls nowadays |
Re: Caring- Is It All About Guys? by Nobody: 12:40am On Nov 03, 2008 |
*Morenike:Sister mi, you know sey i don conisder you to be the most correct babe on the planet |
Re: Caring- Is It All About Guys? by Morenike3(f): 12:48am On Nov 03, 2008 |
A-40:It's ok baby. Even if you can't cook, I'd still recondiser you for Ibk. But seriously, what scares you men from caring for your woman? You know what I love the most from a guy? WHen he does sth for me, something small, yet special. Not sth bought, or sth ordered. Just that sth. An example? Getting home late but letting me know you're aiight. Dnt make me worried about your well being when you could have called or texted that you were coming home late. Or when am feeling down and sad, tell me sth to make me smile or laugh. Dnt come crying to my face that I'm a sadist. Things like that. The little thoughts and action counts more than this outings and gifts. Lol, now dnt get me wrong. am not saying, dnt take me out. But be a little creative, ya know. Put some love and caring into what you do for me. |
Re: Caring- Is It All About Guys? by Nobody: 12:51am On Nov 03, 2008 |
*Morenike:wo enu e |
Re: Caring- Is It All About Guys? by Morenike3(f): 12:51am On Nov 03, 2008 |
ibkaye:lolol, thanks baby |
Re: Caring- Is It All About Guys? by A40(m): 12:56am On Nov 03, 2008 |
@Morenike Naah i don't share ooh its you or no one else We do care its just sometimes you girls don't know what you want and as a guy we also like to see our gestures reciprocated there are some girls that even have the fortune of meeting nice boys that are willing to do anything and more and what do they do they take them for granted so what do you expect? Are you telling me you don't know any home that the husband cooks sometimes takes care of the wife or do stuff that ordinarily the wife is suppose to do? You girls have it good nowadays go and find out from the older generation if their men did half of what they are doing now? |
Re: Caring- Is It All About Guys? by Morenike3(f): 1:19am On Nov 03, 2008 |
A-40:awww, see? was it so hard? what woman wouldn't want to hear that? A-40:I dnt think so. But my S-dad cooks for himself when my mom is not home. does that count? I barely cooked for his @$$ mehn, am so awful Yes, I guess. Some girls do misuse men's nice gestures. But why should we pay for their action?\ A-40, you have this mentality about naija girls that its so painful sometimes when u post. it's not fair o. And caring is not a one-way traffic. It goes both way. If he/she can't show that he/she cares back, then one loses interest in showing care. abi? |
Re: Caring- Is It All About Guys? by A40(m): 1:45am On Nov 03, 2008 |
*Morenike:When you really like a woman it comes naturally *Morenike:Of course it counts hon, Go around and look at newly wedded couples or guys that got married say within the last 5-10 years and compare them to the guys that have been married for 15 or more you would be suprised at the number of guys that have made some compromises on the home-front Guys are cooking now,changing diapers even baby-sitting the kids when the woman is not around what we went is some appreciation and encouragement not the same old cliche Nigerian Men Are Not Romantic I don't have a bad mentality towards you girls its just a front i use it to scare the fake girls away the real ones recognize. .Are you one of them? Besides you girls do have your flaws but you tend to exaggerate ours and ignore yours *Morenike:You see what i am saying besides the fact that its the truth do you know how many boys bank account would still be in good standing if they had girls like you that where not into the whole eating out thingy How many girls even cook for their bf's these days? very few they would ask if you where there husband or something? you say Naija men are not romantic abi i no complain now i am saying Naija girls are too materialistic so its tit for tat Aww you never told me you would give me a parachute, and all this time i was thinking you didn't care will you ever forgive me |
Re: Caring- Is It All About Guys? by Morenike3(f): 2:02am On Nov 03, 2008 |
A-40:awww, lol. Naija men and their sweet tongues That's sweet lol A-40:You can't expect things to stay the same na. Times change, women have changed with it. I really don't think it's all the woman's fault. Maybe her mother was not always around to teach her how to be a woman. No no no, one does not become a woman overnight. and No, you're not a woman just because you have that female genital, you're a woman in your actions and characteristics. Mehn, the woman that wants her husband to replace her woman duty is not serious at all. But this does not automatically mean that the husband can't help one in a while lol. rotflmaooooooooo, So "Naija men are not romantic" is now a cliche? You know, some stereotype may be true Me thinks you're talking bad about naija girls b/c it's something rampant on nl, not because you had a bad experience with one Am I what? fake? lol, if I say no, some may disagree with me. If I say yes, some may still disagree with me. You know what, I'd like to say no, because I don't think I am |
Re: Caring- Is It All About Guys? by Morenike3(f): 2:11am On Nov 03, 2008 |
A-40: Lmao! So take-outs/ restaurants bankrupts bank accounts? lol, oogbadun I may not be sure if I'd still think this way later on, but right now, I wouldn't mind cooking for him his special meals. On valentine/Christmas/thanksgiving etc, he doesn't even have to worry about anything. Lmao, but seriously, naija men are not romantic. Am not saying it to get on anybody's nerves, but gosh. They suck It's not up to me to forgive you. Just to let ya know, I can't stay mad at ya |
Re: Caring- Is It All About Guys? by A40(m): 2:26am On Nov 03, 2008 |
*Morenike:Chei i must keep this in an archive somewhere this is the first time i have heard you say or see you type something sweet about Naija men Infact this is for you *Morenike:Yeah i agree and thats why y'all have to give us some credit for changing with those times Truth is it is not about the genitals sef there are some little girls in women's bodies some can hardly take care of themselves let alone another man or a baby Unfortunately that's not the case nowadays Its always been a cliche the entire concept is a mirage a lot of girls have a very warped mindset when it comes to that R word they think its the guy that has to do all the romancing Yeah it is rampant on NL of course the way some of this girls go on about us Naija guys you would think they wouldn't touch us with a 10 ft pole I didn't say you where fake boo it was just a question |
Re: Caring- Is It All About Guys? by A40(m): 2:40am On Nov 03, 2008 |
*Morenike:If only you could be a boy for one day like Beyonce you would see how hard it is for us.Girls can be harsh ooh they wouldn't just go alone they would drag their friends along so they could see how deep your pocket is lol i am just kidding but most girls would find the flimsiest reasons to empty your pocket e.g Accommodation,Tuition the list is endless jare am i her father? Sweet!! Day-dreaming about that iyan with vegetable soup and some bush meat *Morenike:Just when i thought you where improving *Morenike: Aww baby you are heaven-sent |
Re: Caring- Is It All About Guys? by Morenike3(f): 2:42am On Nov 03, 2008 |
A-40:Lol! Well, what can I say? I've had the opportunity/ pleasure and LUCK to talk to a sweet naija man. A-40:Lmao! The bolded part got me laughing. You're so sneaky! Well, I guess. People change with time, worse for the women. It's not fair that we're finally standing on our lil feet only to lose our "respect". Such a sad world, it is. Marriage marriage marriage. Every woman's dream or every man's nightmare. So how about the men on NL putting up "I want a God-fearing Naija wife" thread? It's becoming so rampant on nl its getting disgusting If not for ehrrm, I wouldn't touch a naija man with a 500ft pole |
Re: Caring- Is It All About Guys? by JJYOU: 2:44am On Nov 03, 2008 |
A-40: you cannot give what you dont have or know nothing about. i think the concept of love and caring is alien to most of our people. for the girls having a pair of child bearing ribs is all they show for being a woman. i will not go into the boys today because like many are saying here taking her out - bla bla is is equals caring. God help us with boys like these however i think many naija girls deserve some of these boys because they dont have anything to show for being a lady too. |
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